How do you say no?

If a group of people did a lot for you

and all they want is for you to come

over for dinner,how do you say no?

If you're highly introverted and

empathetic, I wish it wasn't so

hard to say this . ..

"No."

"My cat needs me."

"I'm allergic to people."

"I need to get caught up on the latest DXP drama. Maybe next time?"

Fake your death. It's the only option.

What have they done for you?

And if it’s something you grateful about just GO and shut ta fuck up!

"Sorry. I'm vegan and gluten intolerant."

Just tell them you won’t be able to make it but will catch up next time

You don’t have to do anything unless you choose to. I did that for years Aju, not now though.

@Dazed

You a trip 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

thank you lol

BRB to respond properly lol

Posted by FuckItWhatever

Posted by _Dazed

"Sorry. I'm vegan and gluten intolerant."

“I’m food intolerant”

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I drink blood...🧟‍♀️

I would suck it up and force myself to go

Posted by FuckItWhatever

Posted by _Dazed

"Sorry. I'm vegan and gluten intolerant."

“I’m food intolerant”

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“I’m people intolerant”

Why don’t you want to go?

Posted by nanobot

Go and suck it up

If they did a lot for you, going is the least you can do

Sometimes you just have to bite the bullet and some situations being empathic or an introvert is not an excuse

~_~

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Posted by Sjess

I would suck it up and force myself to go

How would you say no though?

Posted by MyStarsShine

Just tell them you won’t be able to make it but will catch up next time

You don’t have to do anything unless you choose to. I did that for years Aju, not now though.

THANK YOU

same here.

People will be sad..hurt...yes yes...well guess what...

They don't have to talk to me ever again?

Then I will be even more peaceful.

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

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Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

Why are you so uncomfortable? I get you are introverted and empathic, but is there something in particular that makes it hard. Do they say things to make you feel more uncomfortable? Are they trying to get you to be social or do they just want to see you, spend time with you.

Posted by shakedown

Posted by Aju

If a group of people did a lot for you

and all they want is for you to come

over for dinner,how do you say no?

If you're highly introverted and

empathetic, I wish it wasn't so

hard to say this . ..

Just say you have a lot to do in regards to work. Tell them you are in the process of looking for a new job, which requires constantly submitting applications and updating your résumé. All of those things are very time consuming. Tell them you just don't have time for such activities at the moment. Take a rain check.

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nnnn... lol

😄

🤗 🤗🤗

You would say this?

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

Why are you so uncomfortable? I get you are introverted and empathic, but is there something in particular that makes it hard. Do they say things to make you feel more uncomfortable? Are they trying to get you to be social or do they just want to see you, spend time with you.

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Well..

It's kind of personal but

I'll just say that the energy just influences me to feel a bit of anxiety....

And I know a lot of people on this site will see me as rude, a real piece of work,

especially when they know how I feel in this thread. Some will also probably see me

as evil, mean, rude, or someone they thought they knew but now shocked...

But I'm actually VERY caring and I communicate to help so many.

But lately, I just haven't been in the right state of mind to go out of my comfort

zone to make others happy. I've done it before but right now I just can't and I won't.

It's kind of like if you lose so much and so many people who you love..

Would you do something that kept yourself from healing from all of that?

I just don't want them to take it personal and be hurt

Posted by but_didyoudie

Honesty is the best policy. Tell them exactly why you cannot go, which is exactly what you just said on here.

And that's what's going to be.

Because one lie leads to another then another then everyone will see you as a liar...which would be bad.

Thank You

So true. More events will come only based off lies and things I actually don't want to do ...

I'll most likely just tell them the truth, that I'm trying to heal from a lot of personal hurt

and going out right now just isn't something that would be helpful for others

Posted by _Dazed

"Sorry. I'm vegan and gluten intolerant."

They want to make me something vegan too...

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

"Sorry. I'm vegan and gluten intolerant."

They want to make me something vegan too...

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"Sorry. I eat meat. Steak preferably. Rare."

Posted by TheRabbit

"Sorry, I'm an empath"

Aju: Sorry, I'm an empath

Them: But if you are an empath then that would mean

you will feel that we will hurt if you don't come so you must say yes (:

Aju:

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

"Sorry. I'm vegan and gluten intolerant."

They want to make me something vegan too...

"Sorry. I eat meat. Steak preferably. Rare."

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lol no no....I actually am vegan and gluten intolerant lol

that's why they are going to make me that lol

Posted by Gemitati

What have they done for you?

And if it’s something you grateful about just GO and shut ta fuck up!

~_~

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

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Nope.

People that are close to me know that I'm either sleeping (anytime of the day really on my days off), or just don't want to go out.

Those that are close to you will learn to respect that.

Just two weeks ago.. I was out at the pool of a friends. My bff sister shows up and immediately looked at me in confusion..

"Dazed?!!!—??"

Then we chilled and talked like it wasn't weird for me to be there. She knew that I don't always go out, but when I do.. it's because I want to be around people that I truly enjoy being with. They understand that I just like to be by myself most of the time.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

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Why is it rude?

If you're being nice to someone with the expectation of getting something in return.. you're being nice for the wrong reasons.

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

"Sorry. I'm vegan and gluten intolerant."

They want to make me something vegan too...

"Sorry. I eat meat. Steak preferably. Rare."

lol no no....I actually am vegan and gluten intolerant lol

that's why they are going to make me that lol

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You're not giving me a lot of room to bullshit here.

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Nope.

People that are close to me know that I'm either sleeping (anytime of the day really on my days off), or just don't want to go out.

Those that are close to you will learn to respect that.

Just two weeks ago.. I was out at the pool of a friends. My bff sister shows up and immediately looked at me in confusion..

"Dazed?!!!—??"

Then we chilled and talked like it wasn't weird for me to be there. She knew that I don't always go out, but when I do.. it's because I want to be around people that I truly enjoy being with. They understand that I just like to be by myself most of the time.

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So True...

Thank You.

So if someone you didn't feel comfortable with who always gave you

things that you didn't ask for but were very grateful for, would you just

suck it up and just go hang out with them?

especially when you just need time to yourself?

I may suggest something else, I don't know what exactly but...I just can't...

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

"Sorry. I'm vegan and gluten intolerant."

They want to make me something vegan too...

"Sorry. I eat meat. Steak preferably. Rare."

lol no no....I actually am vegan and gluten intolerant lol

that's why they are going to make me that lol

You're not giving me a lot of room to bullshit here.

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😆 😆 😆

sorrrrrry

Posted by Denali

I like what some people are saying in this thread...to be honest.

If they truly understood they won’t mind that you’re taking time for yourself.

How are you with one on one? Maybe make separate arrangements to meet with them, so you’re not overwhelmed.

Also, it doesn’t have to be dinner. It could be tea or a snack. That way you won’t have to spend a long time and can have a short meeting.

True.

And I feel like they would understand if I told them but this

would be the second time I denied hanging out with them.

Would you hang out with someone who you didn't feel

comfortable with but this person always did nice things for you?

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Nope.

People that are close to me know that I'm either sleeping (anytime of the day really on my days off), or just don't want to go out.

Those that are close to you will learn to respect that.

Just two weeks ago.. I was out at the pool of a friends. My bff sister shows up and immediately looked at me in confusion..

"Dazed?!!!—??"

Then we chilled and talked like it wasn't weird for me to be there. She knew that I don't always go out, but when I do.. it's because I want to be around people that I truly enjoy being with. They understand that I just like to be by myself most of the time.

So True...

Thank You.

So if someone you didn't feel comfortable with who always gave you

things that you didn't ask for but were very grateful for, would you just

suck it up and just go hang out with them?

especially when you just need time to yourself?

I may suggest something else, I don't know what exactly but...I just can't...

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Is it a group of people?

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Nope.

People that are close to me know that I'm either sleeping (anytime of the day really on my days off), or just don't want to go out.

Those that are close to you will learn to respect that.

Just two weeks ago.. I was out at the pool of a friends. My bff sister shows up and immediately looked at me in confusion..

"Dazed?!!!—??"

Then we chilled and talked like it wasn't weird for me to be there. She knew that I don't always go out, but when I do.. it's because I want to be around people that I truly enjoy being with. They understand that I just like to be by myself most of the time.

So True...

Thank You.

So if someone you didn't feel comfortable with who always gave you

things that you didn't ask for but were very grateful for, would you just

suck it up and just go hang out with them?

especially when you just need time to yourself?

I may suggest something else, I don't know what exactly but...I just can't...

Is it a group of people?

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yes

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Nope.

People that are close to me know that I'm either sleeping (anytime of the day really on my days off), or just don't want to go out.

Those that are close to you will learn to respect that.

Just two weeks ago.. I was out at the pool of a friends. My bff sister shows up and immediately looked at me in confusion..

"Dazed?!!!—??"

Then we chilled and talked like it wasn't weird for me to be there. She knew that I don't always go out, but when I do.. it's because I want to be around people that I truly enjoy being with. They understand that I just like to be by myself most of the time.

So True...

Thank You.

So if someone you didn't feel comfortable with who always gave you

things that you didn't ask for but were very grateful for, would you just

suck it up and just go hang out with them?

especially when you just need time to yourself?

I may suggest something else, I don't know what exactly but...I just can't...

Is it a group of people?

yes

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I would recommend a quiet one on one. Coffee or small restaurant type deal.

I personally don't do well in large crowds. But I can do a more intimate atmosphere with one or two people.

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

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Nope.

Do. What. You. Want. Need. First. &. Always.

You can kindly say " no thanks."

True friends will understand and if they don't :

🤷‍♀️

As an introvert I absolutely hate people forcing social gatherings on me. Some people get me... others don't& that's really not my problem.

& I'm sorry about your mom. 😣

Take a long deep breath before you say it my friend.

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

Why is it rude?

If you're being nice to someone with the expectation of getting something in return.. you're being nice for the wrong reasons.

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It’s two different things. It’s rude because it’s not showing appreciation for things they do. But, that has nothing to do with their intent of doing nice things.

I’m not sure why it’s such an awful thing to spend time with someone who did something nice for you. Sure you don’t have to, it just is about maintaining relationships with people. If you don’t care about that, then no big deal. Being rude shouldn’t matter to you then.

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

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it's not wrong but too much time alone is not the best either - if it was spontaneous I could go but I would get too anxious if it was a planned event - thinking all eyes are going to be on me would freak me out - sometimes we have to be a little uncomfortable to experience life on the other side and then go home to our caves and sort things out - just go and have a drink and smile and breathe and then hopefully you can duck out early if it's uncomfortable - if you can find a good time when you are there you could admit you are an introvert and have trouble spending a lot of time with people even though you care about them

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Posted by Sjess

I would suck it up and force myself to go

How would you say no though?

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Well I wouldn’t say no.

But if I had too I would have to go on some long explanation about how grateful I am for all they’ve done and I would tell them I have some anxiety disorder and can’t be around people. I would have to make a pretty damn good excuse so as to not look like as aszwipe and like I don’t appreciate their help

There is nothing wrong with saying no, that at this time you have too much going on with your life, and you appreciate their effort/invite but you just aren't in the frame of mind to go.

It's not rude to think of yourself. Imo it's rude to force yourself to go to an event you won't enjoy. Others would most likely pick up on that.

I'm sorry- for those who think it's rude because others did things for him and he says no. That's placing an expectation on him to do this for that- that's not what friendship is, at least in my eyes.

Do what's best for you... just don't stay reclusive too long. Understand people may just be trying to support you during this hard time. Heck, you could even say that. "You understand and appreciate their efforts, but you just aren't ready yet."

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

Why is it rude?

If you're being nice to someone with the expectation of getting something in return.. you're being nice for the wrong reasons.

It’s two different things. It’s rude because it’s not showing appreciation for things they do. But, that has nothing to do with their intent of doing nice things.

I’m not sure why it’s such an awful thing to spend time with someone who did something nice for you. Sure you don’t have to, it just is about maintaining relationships with people. If you don’t care about that, then no big deal. Being rude shouldn’t matter to you then.

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Do you understand the concept of social anxiety at all?

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

Why is it rude?

If you're being nice to someone with the expectation of getting something in return.. you're being nice for the wrong reasons.

It’s two different things. It’s rude because it’s not showing appreciation for things they do. But, that has nothing to do with their intent of doing nice things.

I’m not sure why it’s such an awful thing to spend time with someone who did something nice for you. Sure you don’t have to, it just is about maintaining relationships with people. If you don’t care about that, then no big deal. Being rude shouldn’t matter to you then.

Do you understand the concept of social anxiety at all?

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Yes I do. I have children with chronic anxiety & one has social anxiety. The thing is always hiding out from your fears does not help you function in this world.

That is why I asked her why first. She asked me if it was wrong. So I didn’t tell her it was wrong, but that it was rude. Just because you have social anxiety does not make it any less rude. My real concern is why is she having such a hard time. Is it not a safe place for her. She mentioned they can stay out of her life if she has to go.

Seriously my son has made huge strides in his, but I get the tendency to avoid. There are places he’d rather not go, but he gets this. If it’s really bad he just doesn’t go. He’ll lie instead of disappoint you. I understand so I get to the meat of the issue with him. I try to make things more comfortable. But I don’t sugarcoat it. It’s real life here.

I did not say you have to go btw. That is her choice. Plus she mentioned introverted and empathic that is different than social anxiety.

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

Why is it rude?

If you're being nice to someone with the expectation of getting something in return.. you're being nice for the wrong reasons.

It’s two different things. It’s rude because it’s not showing appreciation for things they do. But, that has nothing to do with their intent of doing nice things.

I’m not sure why it’s such an awful thing to spend time with someone who did something nice for you. Sure you don’t have to, it just is about maintaining relationships with people. If you don’t care about that, then no big deal. Being rude shouldn’t matter to you then.

Do you understand the concept of social anxiety at all?

Yes I do. I have children with chronic anxiety & one has social anxiety. The thing is always hiding out from your fears does not help you function in this world.

That is why I asked her why first. She asked me if it was wrong. So I didn’t tell her it was wrong, but that it was rude. Just because you have social anxiety does not make it any less rude. My real concern is why is she having such a hard time. Is it not a safe place for her. She mentioned they can stay out of her life if she has to go.

Seriously my son has made huge strides in his, but I get the tendency to avoid. There are places he’d rather not go, but he gets this. If it’s really bad he just doesn’t go. He’ll lie instead of disappoint you. I understand so I get to the meat of the issue with him. I try to make things more comfortable. But I don’t sugarcoat it. It’s real life here.

I did not say you have to go btw. That is her choice. Plus she mentioned introverted and empathic that is different than social anxiety.

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1. Introversion and social anxiety are very closely linked.

2. Aju clearly mentions the anxiety brought on by these interaction, in a quote to you.

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by _Dazed

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

Why is it rude?

If you're being nice to someone with the expectation of getting something in return.. you're being nice for the wrong reasons.

It’s two different things. It’s rude because it’s not showing appreciation for things they do. But, that has nothing to do with their intent of doing nice things.

I’m not sure why it’s such an awful thing to spend time with someone who did something nice for you. Sure you don’t have to, it just is about maintaining relationships with people. If you don’t care about that, then no big deal. Being rude shouldn’t matter to you then.

Do you understand the concept of social anxiety at all?

Yes I do. I have children with chronic anxiety & one has social anxiety. The thing is always hiding out from your fears does not help you function in this world.

That is why I asked her why first. She asked me if it was wrong. So I didn’t tell her it was wrong, but that it was rude. Just because you have social anxiety does not make it any less rude. My real concern is why is she having such a hard time. Is it not a safe place for her. She mentioned they can stay out of her life if she has to go.

Seriously my son has made huge strides in his, but I get the tendency to avoid. There are places he’d rather not go, but he gets this. If it’s really bad he just doesn’t go. He’ll lie instead of disappoint you. I understand so I get to the meat of the issue with him. I try to make things more comfortable. But I don’t sugarcoat it. It’s real life here.

I did not say you have to go btw. That is her choice. Plus she mentioned introverted and empathic that is different than social anxiety.

1. Introversion and social anxiety are very closely linked.

2. Aju clearly mentions the anxiety brought on by these interaction, in a quote to you.

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I didn’t see that quote till now. Wasn’t getting all notifications from her for some of her quotes but for some reason yours.. I thought huh I didn’t see her mention that to me.

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Posted by Aju

Posted by PuzzlePieces

Why don’t you want to go?

To be honest, me just being 'self first' more lately...

I'm just tired of sacrificing my time to be uncomfortable...

I've done enough of this when I was younger and I just feel over it...

With my mother's passing and a good friend passing too...

I JUST want to be to myself. Spend time alone mostly. Is this wrong?

Tbh it’s rude if they’ve done a lot for you. It’s the way to isolate yourself more because that’s hard for people when they help someone.

Why are you so uncomfortable? I get you are introverted and empathic, but is there something in particular that makes it hard. Do they say things to make you feel more uncomfortable? Are they trying to get you to be social or do they just want to see you, spend time with you.

Well..

It's kind of personal but

I'll just say that the energy just influences me to feel a bit of anxiety....

And I know a lot of people on this site will see me as rude, a real piece of work,

especially when they know how I feel in this thread. Some will also probably see me

as evil, mean, rude, or someone they thought they knew but now shocked...

But I'm actually VERY caring and I communicate to help so many.

But lately, I just haven't been in the right state of mind to go out of my comfort

zone to make others happy. I've done it before but right now I just can't and I won't.

It's kind of like if you lose so much and so many people who you love..

Would you do something that kept yourself from healing from all of that?

I just don't want them to take it personal and be hurt

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Sorry I didn’t see your post until now. I was just responding to Dazed cuz I only got his notifications. So that went down a different road.

Ah kiddo, I don’t think you are rude, I was saying the act was rude. I was just trying to help if this was how you usually are. Because sometimes people are so anxious that they can’t see the whole picture.

If it’s a bad time, and you don’t usually do that, just tell them you’re having a hard time right now. That maybe when you are feeling better. That should help them not feel hurt. There are certainly times when we are going through things we need to be by ourselves. It’s okay. I think honesty is the best policy.