Having kids, yay or nay?

So far, Libra and I are leaning more towards nay, and the more we wait, the more we seem to find reasons not to become parents, so here a question to those of you who are already parents; in all honesty....if you could turn back time, would you still choose to become a parent? I know it's a tricky question to be truly honest about, but still I'm curious about the why's, either way.

I've never met a single person that regrets it. I've met people who regret getting married or who married the wrong person, but they still don't regret having children.

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I've never met a single person that regrets it. I've met people who regret getting married or who married the wrong person, but they still don't regret having children.

That's really interesting!!

Not so long ago I remember reading an article on a 1970's anonymous big scale survey on this same question, and 70% of the parents responded they REGRETTED it! :O

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I've never met a single person that regrets it. I've met people who regret getting married or who married the wrong person, but they still don't regret having children.

Are you sure about that? Or is it extremely taboo to admit that you'd rather not have your kids?

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IT IS still a very taboo subject to be fully open about. Childless couples are still often frowned upon.

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I've never met a single person that regrets it. I've met people who regret getting married or who married the wrong person, but they still don't regret having children.

Are you sure about that? Or is it extremely taboo to admit that you'd rather not have your kids?

I don't think most people could even imagine regretting their kids because they love them. That doesn't mean they wouldn't have enjoyed a child-free life more if they didn't have any kids to miss.

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You would be surprised at what kind of feelings people are capable of suppressing just to conform to a certain image/ideal.

My saying is if my plan a ie.pullout dosen't work plan b sure will. Even though they raised the rates on them 50 bucks is a great option for when you want a mini me.

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Posted by alexscaries
I've never met a single person that regrets it. I've met people who regret getting married or who married the wrong person, but they still don't regret having children.

That's really interesting!!

Not so long ago I remember reading an article on a 1970's anonymous big scale survey on this same question, and 70% of the parents responded they REGRETTED it! :O

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Like I say it based on the people I have met and spoken to. I don't think any of them were lying.

I don’t think I really want kids. I’m not a fan of the expenses and time I’d have to dedicate to them.
My boyfriend said if I really don’t want them when the time is right, he’ll respect that decision and still love me, but sometimes when he talks about our future he still mentions us having a kid 🤔🤔

I can’t imagine life without my kids! Has it been easy? Nope. Has it been expensive? Yep. Worth all of it. They have taught me so much. I’m very maternal though, ya know all that Cap. Also I didn’t have them until my 30’s when I was very ready.

My two cents is you don’t want them, don’t have them. Kids you need to be selfless for them. Lots of sacrifices but there is no amount of money or material objects that could make me wish I didn’t have my kiddos.

They made life so much better ❤️

I had 1 child and raised him myself. Now I have 3 male grandchildren. Yes, I would do it all over again. But I would at least ask for a female in there somewhere - but I love all 4 of my boys.

It was the most beautiful experience ever - the whole process - and actually giving birth to a baby. And I did it naturally. And I nursed him and taught him everything. No, it was never all perfect - it's not supposed to be. And when he grew up and his wife was in the hospital and giving birth to my first grandchild it was an even better experience. The whole thing -see it never ends once you increase the size of the family. The world just keeps moving on and on ...

I'm not sure I would have been happy with just a career and no kids. But that's me. I don't judge because I'm far from perfect. I do believe in the natural processes in that we are here to perpetuate the species. Procreation.

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I've never met a single person that regrets it. I've met people who regret getting married or who married the wrong person, but they still don't regret having children.

That's really interesting!!

Not so long ago I remember reading an article on a 1970's anonymous big scale survey on this same question, and 70% of the parents responded they REGRETTED it! :O

Like I say it based on the people I have met and spoken to. I don't think any of them were lying.

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I doubt they were lying

Having a child is amazing.....wouldn't have missed it for the world . There is no other love like it and it makes you grow up..........fast!

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Like I say it based on the people I have met and spoken to. I don't think any of them were lying.

I'd never dream of calling your friends liars. I meant that it is so taboo that most people refuse to even think it, let alone say it out loud. I was raised poor and know a lot of losers who drop their kids off on one parent and bail.. usually it's the men who don't give a crap but there are some women too. I do know a few single fathers where the mother doesn't come around, not even at Christmas time.

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I never read what you wrote as an insult and also I am friends with people from single parent families, but certainly most people I know with children wanted them.

I could never imagine not being a parent. I'm too nurturing and unselfish, it needs an outlet. I would be lonely in my senior years with no family. But there are plenty of people who can't have kids and I would be selfish and not adopt either, since I don't know the family history and genetics. I'm biased and arrogant with my own genetics.

If you have to ask...no!

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Like I say it based on the people I have met and spoken to. I don't think any of them were lying.

I'd never dream of calling your friends liars. I meant that it is so taboo that most people refuse to even think it, let alone say it out loud. I was raised poor and know a lot of losers who drop their kids off on one parent and bail.. usually it's the men who don't give a crap but there are some women too. I do know a few single fathers where the mother doesn't come around, not even at Christmas time.

I never read what you wrote as an insult and also I am friends with people from single parent families, but certainly most people I know with children wanted them.

My best friend is a Scorpio so I am very careful not to slight the friends or family of the people I feel fondly for (he would throw tard rages the likes of which you have never seen) Lol.

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I'm pretty open minded, but once I make up my mind it is hard to change it. I try to look at things from other perspectives and I know not all experiences are universal.

I have a Libra friend and he said he wanted children before he went into a serious relationship and if say the woman couldn't conceive it would be a deal breaker.