How do you find your friend with benefits ?

Hello there my fellow lunatics of this madhouse called DXP,

Now, I do not speak of one night stands. Though, they are great as emergency measures they are not to my tastes per se. However, a woman needs to be sated and a few times a month does not cut it. Currently, I have one friend with benefits at the moment but decided perhaps another should be added to the mix, for rotational purposes. Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.



For those of you who participate in casual relationships -



- How and where do you usually find your friend with benefits ?

- Do you only have one, or do you keep multiple ones on rotation ?

- Would you let each of them know of the others ?



[Please do not say tinder, or dating apps. I tried that, the results were lacking, very lacking.] 😆

Posted by Arkansassy
*follows thread*

Do you have no advice to offer ? 😆

1-go outside

2-open your legs

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*follows thread*

Do you have no advice to offer ? click to expand

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You are not helping fellow Stinger. 😈

Friend with benefits have been busy, and could only manage a weekly or biweekly situation. Which is hardly enough as is because I believe he is fears he may catch feelings (?), and right now I cannot ravish him silly. What a disappointment.

What about you, do you have anyone currently, who you are casually entertaining ?

Posted by hydorah
1-go outside
2-open your legs

That would only get you men, who would pay for your time. I do not work on the streets. 😈

Set up a profile on dating sites stating you are looking for a FWB

You will be swamped 😆

Be clear what you want

Report back 😛

Hah, incredible how this thread attracts all my fellow Stingers. 😆

Come now, all you eleven other signs of the zodiac. Come on out of the woodwork. 😈

Posted by MyStarsShine
Set up a profile on dating sites stating you are looking for a FWB

You will be swamped

Be clear what you want

Report back

Are you certain ?

I already gave up on the dating apps, it was done out of curiosity, a social experiment. There was barely any chemistry with the men on there. The environment lends itself to be far too sterile.

My prediction, I would be swamped with dick photography, including proposals from men who are all talk and no action. I do not need quantity, I only need quality in my friend with benefits. Genuine men, who's company I enjoy. Hah, I may not want a relationship, but I still have standards. 😆

Aside from dating apps, most of my FWB’s were my neighbors. One (my fave) set me up with 10 of his friends too; can’t complain about that 😄

Yes, I had a rotation.

If they were friends they knew I was fucking them. If not I’m sure they may have known I was seeing other people; but I’d never explicitly say “guess what, I’m fucking a bunch of other dudes. Here’s my portfolio”. Lmao

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by MyStarsShine
Set up a profile on dating sites stating you are looking for a FWB

You will be swamped

Be clear what you want

Report back

Are you certain ?

I already gave up on the dating apps, it was done out of curiosity, a social experiment. There was barely any chemistry with the men on there. The environment lends itself to be far too sterile.

My prediction, I would be swamped with dick photography, including proposals from men who are all talk and no action. I do not need quantity, I only need quality in my friend with benefits. Genuine men, who's company I enjoy. Hah, I may not want a relationship, but I still have standards.

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I'm really not sure where you'd meet such a guy tbh Lady?

Posted by hydorah
1-go outside
2-open your legs

What if the dogs eat the fruit

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by MyStarsShine
Set up a profile on dating sites stating you are looking for a FWB

You will be swamped

Be clear what you want

Report back

Are you certain ?

I already gave up on the dating apps, it was done out of curiosity, a social experiment. There was barely any chemistry with the men on there. The environment lends itself to be far too sterile.

My prediction, I would be swamped with dick photography, including proposals from men who are all talk and no action. I do not need quantity, I only need quality in my friend with benefits. Genuine men, who's company I enjoy. Hah, I may not want a relationship, but I still have standards.

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I'm really not sure where you'd meet such a guy tbh Lady? click to expand

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That is precisely why I am asking, though your suggestion may work. I would try it, and report.

My current friend with benefits is the Ram gent. You know how I met him, it was all unexpected. Therefore, I do not know how to meet another besides happenstance. 😆

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by MyStarsShine
Set up a profile on dating sites stating you are looking for a FWB

You will be swamped

Be clear what you want

Report back

Are you certain ?

I already gave up on the dating apps, it was done out of curiosity, a social experiment. There was barely any chemistry with the men on there. The environment lends itself to be far too sterile.

My prediction, I would be swamped with dick photography, including proposals from men who are all talk and no action. I do not need quantity, I only need quality in my friend with benefits. Genuine men, who's company I enjoy. Hah, I may not want a relationship, but I still have standards.

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I'm really not sure where you'd meet such a guy tbh Lady? click to expand

That is precisely why I am asking, though your suggestion may work. I would try it, and report.

My current friend with benefits is the Ram gent. You know how I met him, it was all unexpected. Therefore, I do not know how to meet another besides happenstance. click to expand

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You still seeing him....the frightened 🐇guy?

Posted by RooSagicorn
Dating apps I find are mostly guys wanting the “one” at my age. Some want hookups. I did see a profile wanting an FWB the other day.

Jeez with all the noncommittal guys, this shouldn’t be that hard.

So what’s the difference between FWB and casual relationships? I’m mostly relationship girl, but casual I suppose when I wasn’t ready for more. Isn’t FWB hard to do, I mean sex without feelings I don’t understand lol

Sorry lots of questions, no suggestions.

Yes @RooSagicorn , most of the men of my age on the apps want 'the one' or are stuck in their bachelorhood after a divorce etc.

You would think it easy, but it is far harder than you would imagine. One night stands are abundant but they are not satisfying, because you need a bit more time to get to know someones body, likes, dislikes etc.

Oh, you still have feelings and you genuinely do care for the person. To explain the situation and to answer your question. I will copy and paste another post I made recently which addresses this.

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"By liking the person enough, but knowing their flaws thoroughly so and accepting the fact that they are not ready to be in a relationship (believe them when they say this, no delusions). It is about compatibility and how selfish you could be. You have to be a bit selfish in a friend with benefits, both parties. A bit self absorbed as well, to be so preoccupied with your own life and ambitions not to fall. I do not see it as a bad thing, however others may. Sometimes in life, you only have so much of yourself to give, to pretend otherwise and drag others along would be unfair. It does not mean you do not care for your friend with benefits, after all you both are friends. I genuinely care for him, as to a degree he does for me, but love is another story altogether."



"My friend with benefits, has good in him but I also see him exactly as he is, his glaring flaws. I know he is not ready to settle down and in a way, neither am I. Obviously, to a degree we both feel for each other. Though you must remain realistic, he still very much enjoys chasing women.

He is still enjoying variety though a part of him slowly wishes to commit, he craves love as much as any other man. Until then, I would not try to change a man that is not ready to change himself. Given the choice, he probably would want the relationship me, the one that gives my all. However, I do not give that to men who do not wish to commit to me. That depth within me, that caring compassionate side does not come free. It is only given to those who are worth my time, who will reciprocate all that I am capable of.

Therefore at the moment, he gets the limited me, that he resigned himself to and chose. So far, it is working since we are both absorbed in our own careers and ambitions."

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by MyStarsShine
Set up a profile on dating sites stating you are looking for a FWB

You will be swamped

Be clear what you want

Report back

Are you certain ?

I already gave up on the dating apps, it was done out of curiosity, a social experiment. There was barely any chemistry with the men on there. The environment lends itself to be far too sterile.

My prediction, I would be swamped with dick photography, including proposals from men who are all talk and no action. I do not need quantity, I only need quality in my friend with benefits. Genuine men, who's company I enjoy. Hah, I may not want a relationship, but I still have standards.

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I'm really not sure where you'd meet such a guy tbh Lady? click to expand

That is precisely why I am asking, though your suggestion may work. I would try it, and report.

My current friend with benefits is the Ram gent. You know how I met him, it was all unexpected. Therefore, I do not know how to meet another besides happenstance. click to expand

You still seeing him....the frightened 🐇guy? click to expand

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Occasionally, when the mood strikes.

So far, nothing more than once a week. Mostly because with his merman moon, I could never tell if he is in the mood to be able to enjoy each other, and sate me.

@MyStarsShine

I know I may be asking for something bordering impossible, but there must be a man out there that is looking for the same kind of casual connection that I currently have with the Ram.

Calling out to all you participants of casual connections with others, there must be a boat load of you lot here on DXP. 😆

Where may you be hiding ?

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Hello there my fellow lunatics of this madhouse called DXP,

Now, I do not speak of one night stands. Though, they are great as emergency measures they are not to my tastes per se. However, a woman needs to be sated and a few times a month does not cut it. Currently, I have one friend with benefits at the moment but decided perhaps another should be added to the mix, for rotational purposes. Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.


For those of you who participate in casual relationships -


- How and where do you usually find your friend with benefits ?

- Do you only have one, or do you keep multiple ones on rotation ?

- Would you let each of them know of the others ?


[Please do not say tinder, or dating apps. I tried that, the results were lacking, very lacking.]

1. I recycle exes

2. I'm a lame and a crab so I can only fux one guy at a time.. if I enter into a relationship and it beings to get physical I'll cut my FWB off

3. New guy no.. FWB yes. When I'm single I'll let the guy know that I'm single but I'm dating other ppl

Posted by peachy06
Not so hard, just find yourself an Aquarius guy.

Of the ones I know. One is now married, the other one previously proposed to me.

Honestly, both never seemed the type to be able to be friends with benefits. Only the former.

Have you had such casual connections with Water Bearers before ?

Posted by hydorah

Not as dull looking as the men, who believe they have large dicks and is a sex god with impossible standards. 😆

Hai..i'm your friend. What are my benefits?

Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by hydorah
1-go outside
2-open your legs

That would only get you men, who would pay for your time. I do not work on the streets.

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might as well - make some money on the side or on your back

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by hydorah
1-go outside
2-open your legs

That would only get you men, who would pay for your time. I do not work on the streets.

might as well - make some money on the side or on your back click to expand

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Why should I ? Simply because I enjoy being sated ?

There is no shame in liking sex, I enjoy it a lot. If I want something, why not find ways to go about getting it. Men often enjoy sex openly, women should be able to enjoy the same privileges.

Besides @tctaa, once men pay, and you accept. They believe they own you, and I will not be possessed.

1. Try a Capricorn. While they're often focused on work and long term, they go through spells where they just want to knock the jollies off the opposite sex with their impressive stamina.

2. Feel free to slide into my DMs.

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Posted by hydorah
1-go outside
2-open your legs

That would only get you men, who would pay for your time. I do not work on the streets. click to expand

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You’d rather do it for free? What if you don’t cum?

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio

Posted by hydorah
1-go outside
2-open your legs

That would only get you men, who would pay for your time. I do not work on the streets. click to expand

You’d rather do it for free? What if you don’t cum? click to expand

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He is doing it for free as well.

Why must it always be viewed as a woman giving herself up and at a loss in such a situation ?

The man would be using me for sex, as I am also using him for sex. Fair exchange. If I do not get an orgasm, I could easily not give him his as well, until he does. 😆

I figure a dating app would suffice. I sometimes treat fwb like a real relationship if I'm not careful. Not emotionally, but all the other benefits like taking her out somewhere nice. Late night talks. Care Free attitudes enjoying time spent together.

Dating site, put your status as not looking for a relationship. Worked for me...😈

Posted by Jules-ll
Dating site, put your status as not looking for a relationship. Worked for me...

What did you find?

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Hello there my fellow lunatics of this madhouse called DXP,

Now, I do not speak of one night stands. Though, they are great as emergency measures they are not to my tastes per se. However, a woman needs to be sated and a few times a month does not cut it. Currently, I have one friend with benefits at the moment but decided perhaps another should be added to the mix, for rotational purposes. Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.


For those of you who participate in casual relationships -


- How and where do you usually find your friend with benefits ?

- Do you only have one, or do you keep multiple ones on rotation ?

- Would you let each of them know of the others ?


Please do not say tinder, or dating apps. I tried that, the results were lacking, very lacking.

*not sure if I should prepare a cup of tea or a bowl of popcorn before I proceed to read thread*

Posted by Jules-ll
Dating site, put your status as not looking for a relationship. Worked for me...

What did you get?

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Hello there my fellow lunatics of this madhouse called DXP,

Now, I do not speak of one night stands. Though, they are great as emergency measures they are not to my tastes per se. However, a woman needs to be sated and a few times a month does not cut it. Currently, I have one friend with benefits at the moment but decided perhaps another should be added to the mix, for rotational purposes. Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.


For those of you who participate in casual relationships -


- How and where do you usually find your friend with benefits ?

- Do you only have one, or do you keep multiple ones on rotation ?

- Would you let each of them know of the others ?


[Please do not say tinder, or dating apps. I tried that, the results were lacking, very lacking.]

They are in your building right now

you get the magic bucket of dogs from dating sites ewwwww

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights?

Posted by MyStarsShine

Posted by Jules-ll
Dating site, put your status as not looking for a relationship. Worked for me...

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Not an aqua lol. A divorced business owner too busy for anything serious, I was 10 months off a long term relationship so in no mood for anything but having physical needs met. It was the perfect combo...while it was.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights?

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#WaterSignProblems*

*excludes water signs with air moons.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expand

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Not of any depth or of any length, merely enough so there is chemistry and I could converse with the person. If they are so dreadfully awful to the point where I do not even want to talk to the person, why would I get in bed with them.

In that case, I doubt they would be much good of a match for me there. I might as well buy a quality dildo and not choose a human one instead.

Posted by Damnata

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

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Actually the FWB I referenced above has an IQ over 150, we had really deep, lengthy conversations...

So disappointed i wasn't picked. We could already be talking benefits by now. 😆

We could talk too. My passion are garden snails. What's yours?

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

Actually the FWB I referenced above has an IQ over 150, we had really deep, lengthy conversations... click to expand

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Yeah I don't get why it was just a FWB then if you also had that. Barring time schedules/timing in life, I would date someone like that and would not do a FWB.

I'm dying at the Aqua suggestions in this topic cuz ime Aqua men use FWB as a way to a relationship and skipping the conventional dating thing. Never met one for whom the possibility of more wasn't in the cards at all.

Posted by Damnata
I'm dying at the Aqua suggestions in this topic cuz ime Aqua men use FWB as a way to a relationship and skipping the conventional dating thing. Never met one for whom the possibility of more wasn't in the cards at all.

Imo she wants a relationship too, but trying to get it through the back door by going the FWB angle. If we go by criteria, it's rigged in a way that most likely some sparks will occur eventually. She'll be lying there in the bed, in post orgasmic bliss and they'll be talking interesting, mutually stimulating topics. That's love in my book!

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

Actually the FWB I referenced above has an IQ over 150, we had really deep, lengthy conversations... click to expand

Yeah I don't get why it was just a FWB then if you also had that. Barring time schedules/timing in life, I would date someone like that and would not do a FWB. click to expand

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Well @Damnata, because my life currently does not allow me to have enough time or energy left to invest in a relationship. To be fair to others, and not mistakenly drag people along with unrealised expectations. I prefer to keep it casual, and transparent. Why pretend, this is all I could give, and I will state so.

Relationships takes tending to, a responsibility towards someone else as well. You could not possibly half arse that, you must go all in. Frankly, at this moment my own ambitions are at the forefront. Being sated is great, having conversations are amazing, and anything more would be taxing. In relationships, you constantly have to manage the growth of it less it die out.

It does not have to be either or, friends with benefits is that beautiful middle ground, lasting for as long as it does before you move on. Perfect for my selfish needs right now, after all this arrangement requires a level of selfishness from both parties. Not because of any bad intentions, but because they have other priorities in life which are taking precedent.

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Posted by Damnata
I'm dying at the Aqua suggestions in this topic cuz ime Aqua men use FWB as a way to a relationship and skipping the conventional dating thing. Never met one for whom the possibility of more wasn't in the cards at all.

Imo she wants a relationship too, but trying to get it through the back door by going the FWB angle. If we go by criteria, it's rigged in a way that most likely some sparks will occur eventually. She'll be lying there in the bed, in post orgasmic bliss and they'll be talking interesting, mutually stimulating topics. That's love in my book!
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This is why I don't get the conversation and connection angle. To me it seems people have to dress up empty sex as something other than empty sex to make it acceptable. It might just be FWB, I don't think it points at deeper feelings but it's like some role play where people pretend something more is at hand and I don't get the effort lol.

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Posted by Damnata
I'm dying at the Aqua suggestions in this topic cuz ime Aqua men use FWB as a way to a relationship and skipping the conventional dating thing. Never met one for whom the possibility of more wasn't in the cards at all.

Imo she wants a relationship too, but trying to get it through the back door by going the FWB angle. If we go by criteria, it's rigged in a way that most likely some sparks will occur eventually. She'll be lying there in the bed, in post orgasmic bliss and they'll be talking interesting, mutually stimulating topics. That's love in my book!
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@Mr_Pinchy, actually I prefer the talking to be done before the sex. Afterwards, I want my peace of mind or sleep until morning comes about and we kiss good bye until next time. In fact, mostly this has been the routine and it keeps me happy.

It fascinates me how you lot impose your own perspectives on me as if I am not self aware enough of what I want. This is as blunt as it gets and I am stating exactly my wants. Now, merely finding a solution to getting it.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

Actually the FWB I referenced above has an IQ over 150, we had really deep, lengthy conversations... click to expand

Yeah I don't get why it was just a FWB then if you also had that. Barring time schedules/timing in life, I would date someone like that and would not do a FWB. click to expand

Well @Damnata, because my life currently does not allow me to have enough time or energy left to invest in a relationship. To be fair to others, and not mistakenly drag people along with unrealised expectations. I prefer to keep it casual, and transparent. Why pretend, this is all I could give, and I will state so.

Relationships takes tending to, a responsibility towards someone else as well. You could not possibly half arse that, you must go all in. Frankly, at this moment my own ambitions are at the forefront. Being sated is great, having conversations are amazing, and anything more would be taxing. In relationships, you constantly have to manage the growth of it less it die out.

It does not have to be either or, friends with benefits is that beautiful middle ground, lasting for as long as it does before you move on. Perfect for my selfish needs right now, after all this arrangement requires a level of selfishness from both parties. Not because of any bad intentions, but because they have other priorities in life which are taking precedent. click to expand

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Yeah, I got that. It's just even conversations are too much effort and leave an opening where the other party could go "Well we didn't have just sex and now I have feelings" and then the aftermath of that is effort cuz you have to clarify that noooo the convos didn't mean shit. They'd be within their right to go to an assumption here and I think it would be more hassle to explain that than anything else lol.

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Posted by Damnata
I'm dying at the Aqua suggestions in this topic cuz ime Aqua men use FWB as a way to a relationship and skipping the conventional dating thing. Never met one for whom the possibility of more wasn't in the cards at all.

Imo she wants a relationship too, but trying to get it through the back door by going the FWB angle. If we go by criteria, it's rigged in a way that most likely some sparks will occur eventually. She'll be lying there in the bed, in post orgasmic bliss and they'll be talking interesting, mutually stimulating topics. That's love in my book!
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This is why I don't get the conversation and connection angle. To me it seems people have to dress up empty sex as something other than empty sex to make it acceptable. It might just be FWB, I don't think it points at deeper feelings but it's like some role play where people pretend something more is at hand and I don't get the effort lol. click to expand

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Simple, because both of you are seeing the situation as black or white.

It does not have to be, and for many the grey is an option.

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Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

Actually the FWB I referenced above has an IQ over 150, we had really deep, lengthy conversations... click to expand

Yeah I don't get why it was just a FWB then if you also had that. Barring time schedules/timing in life, I would date someone like that and would not do a FWB. click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

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In hindsight maybe we should have, I really wasn't expecting to meet someone of his caliber on a dating site. But wasn't looking to do the workaholic thing again either...

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Posted by Damnata

Posted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.

Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand

Actually the FWB I referenced above has an IQ over 150, we had really deep, lengthy conversations... click to expand

Yeah I don't get why it was just a FWB then if you also had that. Barring time schedules/timing in life, I would date someone like that and would not do a FWB. click to expand

Well @Damnata, because my life currently does not allow me to have enough time or energy left to invest in a relationship. To be fair to others, and not mistakenly drag people along with unrealised expectations. I prefer to keep it casual, and transparent. Why pretend, this is all I could give, and I will state so.

Relationships takes tending to, a responsibility towards someone else as well. You could not possibly half arse that, you must go all in. Frankly, at this moment my own ambitions are at the forefront. Being sated is great, having conversations are amazing, and anything more would be taxing. In relationships, you constantly have to manage the growth of it less it die out.

It does not have to be either or, friends with benefits is that beautiful middle ground, lasting for as long as it does before you move on. Perfect for my selfish needs right now, after all this arrangement requires a level of selfishness from both parties. Not because of any bad intentions, but because they have other priorities in life which are taking precedent. click to expand

Yeah, I got that. It's just even conversations are too much effort and leave an opening where the other party could go "Well we didn't have just sex and now I have feelings" and then the aftermath of that is effort cuz you have to clarify that noooo the convos didn't mean shit. They'd be within their right to go to an assumption here and I think it would be more hassle to explain that than anything else lol. click to expand

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Hah, the difference being I never clarify and simply leave it hanging. Until, they realise and do not bring it up. To bother to explain, would make it rather awkward. I let them deal with their own emotions, that is not my issue to deal with. Friends with benefits, they know the routine, I will only manage my own emotions.

As said, friends with benefits do not last forever. I will enjoy them for as long as I could until it expires. You are supposed to care about the person, but not care enough to bother to give any justifications. That only happens in relationships.