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Posted by TheLadyScorpioJust to be clear, I didn't ask from a stance of "this is the wrong way to do it" but genuine curiosity and it comes across aggressive with aries placements lol. See I don't get how you can have conversations yet at the same time not give any justifications. I would either do both or not do any because I either care enough to talk to you therefore I will care enough to provide explanations or...I don't care at all for either. It's interesting to see how others go about it.Posted by DamnataPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by DamnataPosted by Jules-llPosted by DamnataPosted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.
Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand
Actually the FWB I referenced above has an IQ over 150, we had really deep, lengthy conversations... click to expand
Yeah I don't get why it was just a FWB then if you also had that. Barring time schedules/timing in life, I would date someone like that and would not do a FWB. click to expand
Well @Damnata, because my life currently does not allow me to have enough time or energy left to invest in a relationship. To be fair to others, and not mistakenly drag people along with unrealised expectations. I prefer to keep it casual, and transparent. Why pretend, this is all I could give, and I will state so.
Relationships takes tending to, a responsibility towards someone else as well. You could not possibly half arse that, you must go all in. Frankly, at this moment my own ambitions are at the forefront. Being sated is great, having conversations are amazing, and anything more would be taxing. In relationships, you constantly have to manage the growth of it less it die out.
It does not have to be either or, friends with benefits is that beautiful middle ground, lasting for as long as it does before you move on. Perfect for my selfish needs right now, after all this arrangement requires a level of selfishness from both parties. Not because of any bad intentions, but because they have other priorities in life which are taking precedent. click to expand
Yeah, I got that. It's just even conversations are too much effort and leave an opening where the other party could go "Well we didn't have just sex and now I have feelings" and then the aftermath of that is effort cuz you have to clarify that noooo the convos didn't mean butter. They'd be within their right to go to an assumption here and I think it would be more hassle to explain that than anything else lol. click to expand
Hah, the difference being I never clarify and simply leave it hanging. Until, they realise and do not bring it up. To bother to explain, would make it rather awkward. I let them deal with their own emotions, that is not my issue to deal with. Friends with benefits, they know the routine, I will only manage my own emotions.
As said, friends with benefits do not last forever. I will enjoy them for as long as I could until it expires. You are supposed to care about the person, but not care enough to bother to give any justifications. That only happens in relationships. click to expandclick to expand
Last time I tried to make a guy a fwb I ended up being his gf 💩
Posted by DamnataHah @Damnata, I forget you have your Ram moon. 😆Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by DamnataPosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by DamnataPosted by Jules-llPosted by DamnataPosted by TheLadyScorpio
Generally, I prefer to find someone who I like enough as a human being. To be able to at least talk to them when we do meet for our weekly or biweekly sessions.
Why? I seriously don't get that with people. What is there to talk about with human dildos/fleshlights? click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand
Actually the FWB I referenced above has an IQ over 150, we had really deep, lengthy conversations... click to expand
Yeah I don't get why it was just a FWB then if you also had that. Barring time schedules/timing in life, I would date someone like that and would not do a FWB. click to expand
Well @Damnata, because my life currently does not allow me to have enough time or energy left to invest in a relationship. To be fair to others, and not mistakenly drag people along with unrealised expectations. I prefer to keep it casual, and transparent. Why pretend, this is all I could give, and I will state so.
Relationships takes tending to, a responsibility towards someone else as well. You could not possibly half arse that, you must go all in. Frankly, at this moment my own ambitions are at the forefront. Being sated is great, having conversations are amazing, and anything more would be taxing. In relationships, you constantly have to manage the growth of it less it die out.
It does not have to be either or, friends with benefits is that beautiful middle ground, lasting for as long as it does before you move on. Perfect for my selfish needs right now, after all this arrangement requires a level of selfishness from both parties. Not because of any bad intentions, but because they have other priorities in life which are taking precedent. click to expand
Yeah, I got that. It's just even conversations are too much effort and leave an opening where the other party could go "Well we didn't have just sex and now I have feelings" and then the aftermath of that is effort cuz you have to clarify that noooo the convos didn't mean butter. They'd be within their right to go to an assumption here and I think it would be more hassle to explain that than anything else lol. click to expand
Hah, the difference being I never clarify and simply leave it hanging. Until, they realise and do not bring it up. To bother to explain, would make it rather awkward. I let them deal with their own emotions, that is not my issue to deal with. Friends with benefits, they know the routine, I will only manage my own emotions.
As said, friends with benefits do not last forever. I will enjoy them for as long as I could until it expires. You are supposed to care about the person, but not care enough to bother to give any justifications. That only happens in relationships. click to expand
Just to be clear, I didn't ask from a stance of "this is the wrong way to do it" but genuine curiosity and it comes across aggressive with aries placements lol. See I don't get how you can have conversations yet at the same time not give any justifications. I would either do both or not do any because I either care enough to talk to you therefore I will care enough to provide explanations or...I don't care at all for either. It's interesting to see how others go about it. click to expandclick to expand
You could have conversations with strangers or acquaintances, and enjoy it at times. However, you may not always give justification to them on why certain things happen the way they do. Not really, because the level of investment is not there. I talk to them for the mere sake of conversation, their well being is not of my responsibility. They should be whole enough as an individual to be able to handle it.
When there is no commitment, both parties are free agents. They do not owe each other anything, if one party could no longer handle it. Then their feelings have gone far deeper than it should. There is no responsibility for the other, conversations are merely conversations. Like birds of the wild, they come for a moment, you admire them for what they are, and they leave again. There are no cages, no restraints, no nothing.
Posted by TheLadyScorpio
[Please do not say tinder, or dating apps. I tried that, the results were lacking, very lacking.]
Details!!
Posted by Arielle83By throwing herself at him whilst trying to mark her territory, being possessive and attempting to control him. He wants commitment free attachments, whilst enjoying a variety of women (not always with sex, merely women in general). She refuses to accept it, and is attempting to manipulate him into something more.
How is this Aries trying to steal?
She is setting herself up for a Ram gent who will explode on her. I have my wine glass full and ready to watch the drama unfold, as she makes a fool of herself. In no way will I involve myself, I prefer to watch her dig her own grave. 😆
Posted by TheLadyScorpioShe is one of his lovers?Posted by Arielle83
How is this Aries trying to steal?
By throwing herself at him whilst trying to mark her territory, being possessive and attempting to control him. He wants commitment free attachments, whilst enjoying a variety of women (not always with sex, merely women in general). She refuses to accept it, and is attempting to manipulate him into something more.
She is setting herself up for a Ram gent who will explode on her. I have my wine glass full and ready to watch the drama unfold, as she makes a fool of herself. In no way will I involve myself, I prefer to watch her dig her own grave. click to expandclick to expand
Posted by MyStarsShineFrom what I know, no. She is his subordinate within the company.Posted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by Arielle83
How is this Aries trying to steal?
By throwing herself at him whilst trying to mark her territory, being possessive and attempting to control him. He wants commitment free attachments, whilst enjoying a variety of women (not always with sex, merely women in general). She refuses to accept it, and is attempting to manipulate him into something more.
She is setting herself up for a Ram gent who will explode on her. I have my wine glass full and ready to watch the drama unfold, as she makes a fool of herself. In no way will I involve myself, I prefer to watch her dig her own grave. click to expand
She is one of his lovers?
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Posted by TheLadyScorpioSorry, but my gut tells me you are worth far more than thisPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by Arielle83
How is this Aries trying to steal?
By throwing herself at him whilst trying to mark her territory, being possessive and attempting to control him. He wants commitment free attachments, whilst enjoying a variety of women (not always with sex, merely women in general). She refuses to accept it, and is attempting to manipulate him into something more.
She is setting herself up for a Ram gent who will explode on her. I have my wine glass full and ready to watch the drama unfold, as she makes a fool of herself. In no way will I involve myself, I prefer to watch her dig her own grave. click to expand
She is one of his lovers?
click to expand
From what I know, no. She is his subordinate within the company. click to expandclick to expand
He sounds very weak and it all sounds so messy....ultimately you could be sleeping with a guy who sleeps with several others
😞
- How and where do you usually find your friend with benefits ?
Usually at after work gatherings. I guess my field of work is easier. People are very thirsty.
- Do you only have one, or do you keep multiple ones on rotation ?
Usually just one. I don't really like the 'friend' part but I've never said no to mutual needs in this case.
- Would you let each of them know of the others ?
I'm pretty sure it's always been the case, most of them know each other.
Usually at after work gatherings. I guess my field of work is easier. People are very thirsty.
- Do you only have one, or do you keep multiple ones on rotation ?
Usually just one. I don't really like the 'friend' part but I've never said no to mutual needs in this case.
- Would you let each of them know of the others ?
I'm pretty sure it's always been the case, most of them know each other.
Posted by ColdFire17YesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by Arielle83
How is this Aries trying to steal?
By throwing herself at him whilst trying to mark her territory, being possessive and attempting to control him. He wants commitment free attachments, whilst enjoying a variety of women (not always with sex, merely women in general). She refuses to accept it, and is attempting to manipulate him into something more.
She is setting herself up for a Ram gent who will explode on her. I have my wine glass full and ready to watch the drama unfold, as she makes a fool of herself. In no way will I involve myself, I prefer to watch her dig her own grave. click to expand
She is one of his lovers?
click to expand
From what I know, no. She is his subordinate within the company. click to expand
Sorry, but my gut tells me you are worth far more than this
He sounds very weak and it all sounds so messy....ultimately you could be sleeping with a guy who sleeps with several others
😞 click to expand
She's looking to rotate several fwb but he sounds weak supposedly doing the same? Lol click to expandclick to expand
Posted by ColdFire17The lady is willing to make a commitment to a strong man, he's too scared to commitPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by Arielle83
How is this Aries trying to steal?
By throwing herself at him whilst trying to mark her territory, being possessive and attempting to control him. He wants commitment free attachments, whilst enjoying a variety of women (not always with sex, merely women in general). She refuses to accept it, and is attempting to manipulate him into something more.
She is setting herself up for a Ram gent who will explode on her. I have my wine glass full and ready to watch the drama unfold, as she makes a fool of herself. In no way will I involve myself, I prefer to watch her dig her own grave. click to expand
She is one of his lovers?
click to expand
From what I know, no. She is his subordinate within the company. click to expand
Sorry, but my gut tells me you are worth far more than this
He sounds very weak and it all sounds so messy....ultimately you could be sleeping with a guy who sleeps with several others
😞 click to expand
She's looking to rotate several fwb but he sounds weak supposedly doing the same? Lol click to expandclick to expand
That's the difference
Posted by ColdFire17I don't see that as true.....but i could be mistakenPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ColdFire17Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by TheLadyScorpioPosted by Arielle83
How is this Aries trying to steal?
By throwing herself at him whilst trying to mark her territory, being possessive and attempting to control him. He wants commitment free attachments, whilst enjoying a variety of women (not always with sex, merely women in general). She refuses to accept it, and is attempting to manipulate him into something more.
She is setting herself up for a Ram gent who will explode on her. I have my wine glass full and ready to watch the drama unfold, as she makes a fool of herself. In no way will I involve myself, I prefer to watch her dig her own grave. click to expand
She is one of his lovers?
click to expand
From what I know, no. She is his subordinate within the company. click to expand
Sorry, but my gut tells me you are worth far more than this
He sounds very weak and it all sounds so messy....ultimately you could be sleeping with a guy who sleeps with several others
😞 click to expand
She's looking to rotate several fwb but he sounds weak supposedly doing the same? Lol click to expand
The lady is willing to make a commitment to a strong man, he's too scared to commit
That's the difference click to expand
There's no difference between them, one only wants the sex with the benefits without the commitment. Op wants more sex but is looking for more dicks to rotate
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You could ask her
Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturnsPosted by Jules-ll
Dating site, put your status as not looking for a relationship. Worked for me...
I like those profiles on dating sites where the women are wearing revealing clothing, lingerie and/or lying in bed and then say they don't want a ONS. click to expandclick to expandclick to expandclick to expand
Right? And then they wonder why men don't treat them with respect... Revealing photos aren't my thing, prefer discretion and some things left to the imagination.
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Most wealthy kids are jerks ...i've gone to school with a lot.
LMFAO there's a ME Andromeda forum?? Well shit......didn't see that coming. I didn't ask for it though. Still, while it's here, might as well put it to good use.
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Idk how I can act normal around this guy anymore
tips?
What would you do?
So earlier at work, since i just got off I had a conversation with two co-workers but in a different department.
They told me that no one liked one of the managers at work, because she's pretty much cheery and smiley. Which I cant even comprehend with
Just for fun 😀
*Monday's child is fair of face
*Tuesday's child is full of grace
*Wednesday's child is full of woe
*Thursday's child has far to go
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New NFL policy.
http://www.espn.com/nfl/story/_/id/23582533/nfl-owners-approve-new-national-anthem-policy
Can't say I didn't see this coming.
I suspect season ticket purchases are down, among other sources of revenue.
Be interesting to see that
Or nah?......
You down with advanced ancient civilizations my dudes? Discuss.
haha
Do you think it's stupid and pitiful?
I found your soulmate. He:
- is a 30yo Italian stud with plenty of muscle to go with him
- has a nice ass
- is vegan with an affinity for healthy eating
- is a dog lover, having rescued at least 3 dogs & prefers dogs to humans
- Virgo sun/dominant
I'm thinking to myself "pfff! my dad actually met Pablo Escobar on a Sunday afternoon in the cafeteria of his public Zoo/Hacienda Napoles in the mid 80's, and guess what? I was there as toddler too. Does that make me cool too? 😑
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Is it better to be with your own, whether it's race, creed, or just something in common?
I mean woman who use a man she know he is really in love with her??
Like Scarlet did with Cillian Murphy in their movie together
https://i.gifer.com/jiw.gif
...
A woman you really love-not just like, use you for her sexual pleasure...
Ever since I was 9 or 10 reading the dictionary has been one of my favourite things to do :D
I'm a Virgo
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ummm, no.
I prefer to spray them with a can of Raid and make them scatter like roaches.
So, I am just sitting here, having a wonderful conversation with Hare about gluten, and we came up with a great idea of doing a research project. Our results are as follows....
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