Is modern dating screwed?

Is modern dating screwed?

With the advent of Tinder and the likes.

Probably especially with tinder, dxp, Facebook, and what's app..

Yes.

It has always been screwed...human relationships...

Humans are always humans.

Only more instances of screwing up now because of sooooo many platforms to screw it and easy to look for an(plenty of) exit these days.

But there's still good people...like how they were in the past..

Well idk but people here bring there tinder or social media dating problems here so I am saying that because it's here in dxp. Lol..

I have tried other free sites no Bueno either, so I am fine with singletons.

Posted by RumiL
Yes.

It has always been screwed...human relationships...

Humans are always humans.

Only more instances of screwing up now because of sooooo many platforms to screw it and easy to look for an(plenty of) exit these days.

But there's still good people...like how they were in the past..

But where would one find those good people if one were to look for them? Surely not Tinder

Hm the grocery store, gym, libraries, dog parks.

Hm I can't either but I am learning here on dxp. And have experience with the other sites like POF. Both are the same. I guarantee you if they are on POF they will be one others. I have caught a few so I know.

I mean actively on multiple dating sites.

Haha you will not find me at a bar or night club. I am not critical of anyone trying to branch out on pof, or tinder. If that works than do it.

Posted by tiziani
I've never dated but if I did I would thank jeezy for Tinder. It brought a lot of transparency to the game. At least in this country. I hear it varies wildly elsewhere.

Which country?

Posted by BG2
Remember the days when someone would just come up to you at a bookstore, strike up a conversation and get a cup of coffee, without being thought of as a weirdo?

It still happens but so rarely. On my side of the world, anyway.

Where you from?

Gypsy for lyfe.

Posted by tiziani

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Well idk but people here bring there tinder or social media dating problems here so I am saying that because it's here in dxp. Lol..

yeah I hear Tinder is a lot more insane in the US so I can't comment.

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Tinder SHOULD be making things a lot clearer for people. I mean if you're just looking for something casual Tinder should be a prime app...you weed out all the clingy ones.

But alas....

Online dating should just be another tool.

It's the new millenium equivalent of 50 cent beer night and writing down a phone number on a napkin.

Instead it's become a replacement for one's personality.

Posted by Bloop

Posted by RumiL
Yes.

It has always been screwed...human relationships...

Humans are always humans.

Only more instances of screwing up now because of sooooo many platforms to screw it and easy to look for an(plenty of) exit these days.

But there's still good people...like how they were in the past..

But where would one find those good people if one were to look for them? Surely not Tinder

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you'll find when you stop looking! :p

Idk lol. There are good people everywhere.. We can never predict our relationship..

Yeah I like the no pressure bit. And I hate forcing. Now I just lay back til it's my time. Supposedly next month should be a good month for me. So we'll see.

These apps and all....seem way too complex..

Posted by Quantum

Posted by tiziani

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Well idk but people here bring there tinder or social media dating problems here so I am saying that because it's here in dxp. Lol..

yeah I hear Tinder is a lot more insane in the US so I can't comment.

Tinder SHOULD be making things a lot clearer for people. I mean if you're just looking for something casual Tinder should be a prime app...you weed out all the clingy ones.

But alas....

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That is what tinder was started as- Hook ups.. But well, we all see the threads so yaaa.

Too each their own, I tried okcupid and deleted it same day- the creeps came out before I even finished my profile. Had one basic pic up and was flooded. Lol

Back before all these dating apps I did match.com, meet some decent peeps that way.

In today's time, no thank you to any dating site/app. I'd rather meet someone face to face..

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by Quantum

Posted by tiziani

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Well idk but people here bring there tinder or social media dating problems here so I am saying that because it's here in dxp. Lol..

yeah I hear Tinder is a lot more insane in the US so I can't comment.

Tinder SHOULD be making things a lot clearer for people. I mean if you're just looking for something casual Tinder should be a prime app...you weed out all the clingy ones.

But alas....

Naw..

40% of the profiles I come across explicitly state "swipe left if looking for hook ups".
30% are bots.
20% are there just to network (mostly hair dressers looking for clients).
10% are actually looking for a hookup.

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That's what I mean...Tinder is pretty explicit. It's the users themselves that misinterpret it.

True story...the chicks in my office challenged me to make a Grindr profile and see if I could get more positive swipes than they could on Tindr.

See what the stats are when you do that?

Posted by tiziani

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Well idk but people here bring there tinder or social media dating problems here so I am saying that because it's here in dxp. Lol..

yeah I hear Tinder is a lot more insane in the US so I can't comment.

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Tinder is known as a straight hook up site where I live.

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by Quantum
True story...the chicks in my office challenged me to make a Grindr profile and see if I could get more positive swipes than they could on Tindr.

Did you?

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Let's just say I got a free bottle of Bulleit out of that bet.

Posted by Quantum

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by Quantum
True story...the chicks in my office challenged me to make a Grindr profile and see if I could get more positive swipes than they could on Tindr.

Did you?

Let's just say I got a free bottle of Bulleit out of that bet.

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I attribute it more to them being ratchet AF than me being attractive.

Posted by SDNA
tinder here offers massages. @_@

Sensual massages?

Posted by SDNA

Posted by Quantum

Posted by SDNA
tinder here offers massages. @_@

Sensual massages?

yup! home service usually.

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JFC...this country is so far behind the times.

@op
No.
Yes, the relationship dynamics has changed but we humans will do what we do best which is adapt.

is it screwed or are we just moving into a society where paring up its not necessary, and family has less and less value.

Yes, modern dating is screwed. If you want to save it. Detonate a very large EMP I'm the atmosphere above North America and let natural selection do its work

Posted by Scruffles
I think love can, and does, happen anywhere.

Cheesy opening to a cheesy movie but I dig it and believe it:

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Posted by Damnata

Posted by Scruffles
I think love can, and does, happen anywhere.

Cheesy opening to a cheesy movie but I dig it and believe it:

I never saw that movie but the hopeful romantic in me believes it too.

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😉

Posted by komorebi

Posted by xtina
@op
No.
Yes, the relationship dynamics has changed but we humans will do what we do best which is adapt.

Posted by Astrobyn
is it screwed or are we just moving into a society where paring up its not necessary, and family has less and less value.

I agree with these!

In my interpretation it's more of a transformation. Not to sound too cheesy, I find that capitalism has influenced all aspects of our lives. (Not just economically, but social/cultural/sexual capital, etc.) Modern (Western) dating resembles the mode of production of its society; dating has become a market where people barter the various forms of capital they possess.

E.g., A beautiful, young educated woman can go on these sites advertising her sexual capital and education capital to appeal to prospect/interested mates.

Also, relationship dynamics have changed. With greater percentage and representation of women in the workforce, the idea of a nuclear family has transformed. Women are no longer bound by a male-dominant income earner compared to the past.

What makes me somewhat uncomfortable with the means of modern dating (e.g., websites, social media, apps) is how commodified people are; there's a certain disconnect because to first get to know someone requires some degree of cost-benefit analysis. Provided, choice has always been part of dating, but now there seems to be a shopping list of criteria before even giving a chance to know someone.

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Wow. This actually makes a LOT of sense.

Posted by xtina
@op
No.
Yes, the relationship dynamics has changed but we humans will do what we do best which is adapt.

Adapt how?

Posted by Astrobyn
is it screwed or are we just moving into a society where paring up its not necessary, and family has less and less value.

It is screwed and what you said.
Both of them, but not related.

People on tinder arent looking to "partner up"

Posted by komorebi

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Posted by komorebi

Posted by xtina
@op
No.
Yes, the relationship dynamics has changed but we humans will do what we do best which is adapt.

Posted by Astrobyn
is it screwed or are we just moving into a society where paring up its not necessary, and family has less and less value.

I agree with these!

In my interpretation it's more of a transformation. Not to sound too cheesy, I find that capitalism has influenced all aspects of our lives. (Not just economically, but social/cultural/sexual capital, etc.) Modern (Western) dating resembles the mode of production of its society; dating has become a market where people barter the various forms of capital they possess.

E.g., A beautiful, young educated woman can go on these sites advertising her sexual capital and education capital to appeal to prospect/interested mates.

Also, relationship dynamics have changed. With greater percentage and representation of women in the workforce, the idea of a nuclear family has transformed. Women are no longer bound by a male-dominant income earner compared to the past.

What makes me somewhat uncomfortable with the means of modern dating (e.g., websites, social media, apps) is how commodified people are; there's a certain disconnect because to first get to know someone requires some degree of cost-benefit analysis. Provided, choice has always been part of dating, but now there seems to be a shopping list of criteria before even giving a chance to know someone.

Wow. This actually makes a LOT of sense.

Aww I'm glad. Didn't want to make it sound extremely off the wall. 😆

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Do you have strong mercury aspects?

Posted by Scruffles
Yes and no.

Yes.. because we seem to have devolved into a hook-up culture. Free, instant sex just a swipe away with little to no effort.

No.. because dating sites/apps are just another avenue to meet people. You can't be the only one out of millions who wants to fall in love.

I think love can, and does, happen anywhere.

Problem is that people (especially guys) on that site aren't looking for love

Posted by SDNA

Posted by Quantum

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Posted by SDNA
tinder here offers massages. @_@

Sensual massages?

yup! home service usually.

JFC...this country is so far behind the times.

we just have a big service industry. 😆

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Big service industry? Thailand?

Posted by GetMisted

Posted by tiziani

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Well idk but people here bring there tinder or social media dating problems here so I am saying that because it's here in dxp. Lol..

yeah I hear Tinder is a lot more insane in the US so I can't comment.

Tinder in the US is mainly bots.

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What would a bot running company (I am assuming a tech company) achieve out of bots of thee sites when you dont really need bots as thre are enough people on the sire alredy.

I thought bots were needed when there are less people , to make a site look crowded.

Posted by WateryGem

Posted by tiziani

Posted by FirstDecanTaurianWomen0428
Well idk but people here bring there tinder or social media dating problems here so I am saying that because it's here in dxp. Lol..

yeah I hear Tinder is a lot more insane in the US so I can't comment.

Tinder is known as a straight hook up site where I live.

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where?

Posted by exxtasyx
I was on POF for like a year and some of the guys were super sweet but most of the guys were just horny and curious. The more I talked to the majority of them the more I realized they just wanted to "experiment" with me. I got a message from a Capricorn guy at one point who wanted me to be myself around him but when we would go out for dates he wanted me to act and dress "straight." That was interesting.

Haha...what an Ass

It's blossoming.