@AlIure
7 Years
Kinky Things
Posted by alexscaries😂 Ive not logged on in months. I've found it easier to get specific information from books.
Was that the primary use of your account? For information?
😊😊😊😂
Posted by AlIureHow many of y’all have a Fetlife account? How serious is it?
I do.
Everyone uses it for different reasons.
What was your last username?
Posted by _DazedPosted by AlIureHow many of y’all have a Fetlife account? How serious is it?
I do.
Everyone uses it for different reasons.
What was your last username?
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True, true
I honestly don’t remember. It’s been a while.. I used to be a lot more pg13. 🤷🏻♀️
Posted by LethalFantasiaLmfao I just googled it
I look at it as like lowkey like a 'support group' imo or whatever for people who may struggle with expressing what they want sexually tbqh, hence the app with people with similiar ~sexualinterests
It's like, I was never the kid in the 'LGBT group in high school' or whatever and nothing people do/are into is ever a shock or like outrageous to me & I never needed any kind of 'confirmation' or whatever to approve my sexuality/fantasies because this 8th house weirdo has been watching sexual documentaries since like the age of 11
xoxoxoxox
rofl
Any kinky wrestlers 🤼♀️ there?
Lol
Posted by LethalFantasiaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LethalFantasiaLmfao I just googled it
I look at it as like lowkey like a 'support group' imo or whatever for people who may struggle with expressing what they want sexually tbqh, hence the app with people with similiar ~sexualinterests
It's like, I was never the kid in the 'LGBT group in high school' or whatever and nothing people do/are into is ever a shock or like outrageous to me & I never needed any kind of 'confirmation' or whatever to approve my sexuality/fantasies because this 8th house weirdo has been watching sexual documentaries since like the age of 11
xoxoxoxox
rofl
Any kinky wrestlers 🤼♀️ there?
Lol
LMFAO!!
I feel like everyone lowkey has their kinks
Some more then others!
And people are wayyyyyyyyyy more sexual then they lead on
not just females, males aren't as /comfortable with their sexuality as society likes 2 make it seem either imo x
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Totally
Why spend time talking about it when you could be doing it.....those forums look 😁
Posted by alexscaries😂 Ive not logged on in months. I've found it easier to get specific information from books.
What information?
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Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by LethalFantasiaPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by LethalFantasiaLmfao I just googled it
I look at it as like lowkey like a 'support group' imo or whatever for people who may struggle with expressing what they want sexually tbqh, hence the app with people with similiar ~sexualinterests
It's like, I was never the kid in the 'LGBT group in high school' or whatever and nothing people do/are into is ever a shock or like outrageous to me & I never needed any kind of 'confirmation' or whatever to approve my sexuality/fantasies because this 8th house weirdo has been watching sexual documentaries since like the age of 11
xoxoxoxox
rofl
Any kinky wrestlers 🤼♀️ there?
Lol
LMFAO!!
I feel like everyone lowkey has their kinks
Some more then others!
And people are wayyyyyyyyyy more sexual then they lead on
not just females, males aren't as /comfortable with their sexuality as society likes 2 make it seem either imo x
Totally
Why spend time talking about it when you could be doing it.....those forums look 😁
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Well that just goes back to the point Dazed made about people using it for different reasons. Some people do have accounts for that sole purpose. Kinda like a meetup thing
Posted by CancerAquaSaggIm kinky but I hate the whole bdsm life style and community thing. Also the websites are always graphic and seriously gross.
I rather get to know someone and then see if they are also kinky than meeting a kinky person and develop a relationship, something about it turns me off. I also hate leather lol.
My favorite website is takeninhand relationships. So not the typical bdsm thing and I prefer that.
So anyways I can't tell you about fetLife. Lol.
Hate leather? Ever seen Shibari?
Posted by AlIureHow many of y’all have a Fetlife account? How serious is it?
I have had a fetlife account since, I think 2010/2011. I stopped being active there in 2016. I used to love reading the various forum posts for the groups I was in.
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscaries😂 Ive not logged on in months. I've found it easier to get specific information from books.
What information?
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Techniques, advice, safety.
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Sounds like the rules for working on a building site
Makes sex sound a little clinical and "controlled" excuse the pun
Lol
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscaries😂 Ive not logged on in months. I've found it easier to get specific information from books.
What information?
Sharing is caring 🤠
Techniques, advice, safety.
Sounds like the rules for working on a building site
Makes sex sound a little clinical and "controlled" excuse the pun
Lol
You need to know the rules of a game before you can play them. 😊
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I’m a rule breaker..free spirit
Never could do what I’m told
I’m the controlling man’s nightmare 🤸🏻♂️😈
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscaries😂 Ive not logged on in months. I've found it easier to get specific information from books.
What information?
Sharing is caring 🤠
Techniques, advice, safety.
Sounds like the rules for working on a building site
Makes sex sound a little clinical and "controlled" excuse the pun
Lol
You need to know the rules of a game before you can play them. 😊
I’m a rule breaker..free spirit
Never could do what I’m told
I’m the controlling man’s nightmare 🤸🏻♂️😈
Some men like being told what to do. And I don't mean me.
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More fool them..nobody is in control of us except ourselves..a Scorpio lesson taught to me by Scorpios 😬
I have one. Sorta serious. There are a lot of psychos on there. You need to be Careful
Sadly those places can be a breeding ground for messed up people who if they spent as much time focusing on their issues than their sex lives, may stand a chance of being a healthy human being...("oh it's just the way i am")
No extreme sexual practice is balanced if used to abuse other people...and few explore why they have the need to want to choke, strangle and kill others because of a sexual desire..
Control yourself before you try and hurt others through sexual behaviour. So sickening to read that peoples' lives are lost because of some chosen kink.
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Posted by alexscariesPosted by TimonPosted by CancerAquaSaggIm kinky but I hate the whole bdsm life style and community thing. Also the websites are always graphic and seriously gross.
I rather get to know someone and then see if they are also kinky than meeting a kinky person and develop a relationship, something about it turns me off. I also hate leather lol.
My favorite website is takeninhand relationships. So not the typical bdsm thing and I prefer that.
So anyways I can't tell you about fetLife. Lol.
Had to Google takeninhand too. 😂
Hm is that more a mental thing and not always sexual? I've always liked the idea of a dominant partner in sex but in real life I'm probably a pretty shitty submissive because I'm not that good with taking orders lol.
Look up brats.
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an ill-mannered annoying child or the dolls?
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineSadly those places can be a breeding ground for messed up people who if they spent as much time focusing on their issues than their sex lives, may stand a chance of being a healthy human being...("oh it's just the way i am")
No extreme sexual practice is balanced if used to abuse other people...and few explore why they have the need to want to choke, strangle and kill others because of a sexual desire..
Control yourself before you try and hurt others through sexual behaviour. So sickening to read that peoples' lives are lost because of some chosen kink.
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David Carradine.
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Suicidal tendancies that went too far?
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineSadly those places can be a breeding ground for messed up people who if they spent as much time focusing on their issues than their sex lives, may stand a chance of being a healthy human being...("oh it's just the way i am")
No extreme sexual practice is balanced if used to abuse other people...and few explore why they have the need to want to choke, strangle and kill others because of a sexual desire..
Control yourself before you try and hurt others through sexual behaviour. So sickening to read that peoples' lives are lost because of some chosen kink.
😐
David Carradine.
Suicidal tendancies that went too far?
Or just hanging out in Thailand?
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His missus claimed it was murder...
Posted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by alexscariesPosted by MyStarsShineSadly those places can be a breeding ground for messed up people who if they spent as much time focusing on their issues than their sex lives, may stand a chance of being a healthy human being...("oh it's just the way i am")
No extreme sexual practice is balanced if used to abuse other people...and few explore why they have the need to want to choke, strangle and kill others because of a sexual desire..
Control yourself before you try and hurt others through sexual behaviour. So sickening to read that peoples' lives are lost because of some chosen kink.
😐
David Carradine.
Suicidal tendancies that went too far?
Or just hanging out in Thailand?
His missus claimed it was murder...
Death by misadventure. The only crime was the bad films he put out in the 80s.
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Haha, criminal for sure
...and that he was into incest?
I do, but haven’t used it in ages.
Mostly you will find creeps or legit dangerous folk out there, especially if you’re a sub-inclined female.
I get my kink on from local “fetish flea markets” people run and from my burning man fetish camp friends. Who also throw events year around.
I took one account there some time ago, just out of curiosity. More and more females have made me understand they are seeing me as a figure of domination, to the point where I was starting to think this was a thing. I had some research to do.
Having thus conceived a new shape for my metamorphoses, I wanted some literature on the topic. Not totally sure I'd roll with this, just intellectually researching. Went to fetlife and others.
Unfortunately these communities are boring as hell. Everything must be a ritual and a follow the rules. It's all about boring normie couples practicing their leather fetish from 5 to 7 on thursdays or sthg like that. No spontaneity and freshness.
Every thing has name and every time someone mentions something, someone else comes and corrects them by telling them "it's called X and you should practice it like this and that". UGHHHHH...boring. I even hate the word "kink" which implies it's just reinforcing normalcy. Where's the thrill of getting into this if you are sure that you're getting out of it unchanged, unharmed and socially adjusted ?
As soon as you introduce a third person or more people into your practice, it gets a social value, it's not the same anymore. At least I'm not personally into freakshows, swinger clubs, BDSM carnival or any of that ridiculousness.
Ths website also has a lot of obvious prostitutes and some unbalanced people who'd need mental care. Any DXPer would feel right at home. But I don't go there anymore.
I've devised to be more socially dominant, conjured some macho back into this gynocratic dying world. And in intimate life, I'm adaptable and spontaneous, generally just let them dominate themselves onto me. Energy-conscious.
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