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Montgomery: "But you're toxic.

And telling someone that they look bad and that they are an object of pity (simply because someone complimented them) is the action of another toxic person.

There is nothing beneficial that one can take from that-- because it's spiteful.

It's intended to cause pain, and to take away any good feels she may have had as a result of the compliment.

I think you just identify with the toxicity and feel the need to defend it, because it's like defending yourself."

Why thank you for that kind sir, I do appreciate it.

Kindness, I can empathize with you as I went through this in my own way last winter. My mother is a very bitter and selfish woman. She wants what she wants and if she doesn't get her way she gets angry. She loves to play the elder card believing that because she is old, she is right. The problem being that she has never faced one thing in her life always sweeping it under the rug. She is fearful of all things emotional and ultimately her and I could not see eye to eye on much. I do believe that had she faced some things back when, my life and my siblings lives to date would have played out much differently. I think the one thing that actually disgusted me was her weakness. I abhore weakness and anytime I see it in myself I will purposely face whatever it is because I cannot stand it, that much.

So that's the nitty gritty of it. Here is the good part... When I consider myself as a Mother I accept my imperfections. I have raised my children to understand and know that their mother is not perfect and sometimes I just make shitty choices. I instill a level of acceptance in them provided it never becomes off balanced behavior. This is a two-way street in my household. So then I have to apply that to my relationship with my mother. I have to understand and accept that she was working with the tools she had at the time. That she didn't really understand, as we do today, that un-earthing these things lead to a happier person, a happier mother and a happier household. I forgave her in the way you "grandfather" in old scenarios to new law. I love her and give her the credit for surviving her world, and now it's my turn to take it a little further....

Posted by kindness
Montgomery: "But you're toxic.

And telling someone that they look bad and that they are an object of pity (simply because someone complimented them) is the action of another toxic person.

There is nothing beneficial that one can take from that-- because it's spiteful.

It's intended to cause pain, and to take away any good feels she may have had as a result of the compliment.

I think you just identify with the toxicity and feel the need to defend it, because it's like defending yourself."

Why thank you for that kind sir, I do appreciate it.

It's just the truth.

She bashes anyone and everyone, many with legitimate posts-- and she has groupies that will attack a poster on her behalf when they smell blood.

But you haven't been here long enough to know that, I'm guessing.

And I have not been here so long that I'm immune to it.


I'm not a sir, either. 😄

Posted by kindness
Hi everyone, I'm not sure where everyone got the idea that I live with her, I don't. I live on my own.

I was trying to figure out why everyone kept saying that too. I was like where are they getting this from? She never said that! Lol

Oh dear 🦇

The only persons panties that are getting waddled up are P-Angels because apparently someone's negative attitude towards their mother are attacking her through the computer screen and she needs to go all out and Fuck! this and Fuck! that and go on about mothers sniffing their husbands balls to prove a point.

And by the way P your point sounds very archaic like you expect the kids to be tucked in bed upstairs at 4pm.

Not everyones family is like yours P. Maybe because you service your you think you have the right to talk however you like but in some families like mine everyone gets to have a say??_??_some of us don't live in some mormon, amish cult like you.

you say its none of her business well in this day and age its anyone who is willing to make it their businesses business??_??_.and

Posted by kindness

P-Angel: You are STILL missing the point.

The only person missing the point here ... is you.


You have the ability to not subject yourself to your mother.

Instead, you hang with her > then bitch, and try to control her, instead of controlling yourself.


I'd be willing to wager that when you need something, you're all up in her asshole, acting.

Yes, acting.

You must have wanted something that she wouldn't give you .... so this is why you are in here talking like you want to butt fuck her.

Posted by The_eleventh_sign_11
The only persons panties that are getting waddled up are P-Angels because apparently someone's negative attitude towards their mother are attacking her through the computer screen and she needs to go all out and Fuck! this and Fuck! that and go on about mothers sniffing their husbands balls to prove a point.

And by the way P your point sounds very archaic like you expect the kids to be tucked in bed upstairs at 4pm.

Not everyones family is like yours P. Maybe because you service your you think you have the right to talk however you like but in some families like mine everyone gets to have a say??_??_some of us don't live in some mormon, amish cult like you.

you say its none of her business well in this day and age its anyone who is willing to make it their businesses business??_??_.and

and??_and yea!

Posted by P-Angel

Posted by kindness

P-Angel: You are STILL missing the point.

The only person missing the point here ... is you.


You have the ability to not subject yourself to your mother.

Instead, you hang with her > then bitch, and try to control her, instead of controlling yourself.


I'd be willing to wager that when you need something, you're all up in her asshole, acting.

Yes, acting.

You must have wanted something that she wouldn't give you .... so this is why you are in here talking like you want to butt fuck her.

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omg I just realised you remind me of my mum??_.going off on her crazy crusade without all the swearing...

You know the things you posted about can be applied to both my scorpio mothers. I guess when I was a kid I rebelled hard to the point they've both just accepted I'll do what I want. But they sure give my sister and brother an earful.

I think one's always more self-centred but I know they care, love and are proud of all of us. Family disputes can be all kinds of crazy, like being chased down the road by mum with a kitchen knife in her hand kind of crazy. My sister would probably fill your role here, they often bitch to her because I usually don't care about it and it some respect it works for me because they are more direct when something really irritates them.

My sister tries to relay it to me but I really have no energy to deal with that. If that negativity is rubbing off on you then find an outlet fast or address the situation directly otherwise you're just your own cause of misery (I think this was P's point). Honestly she's relaying her negativity to you and you are trying to understand it by passing the negativity to DXP. There's not much understanding needed, just acceptance.

Hello aquasnoz, I guess I am not really seeing how I am bringing negativity to DXP via this thread, if I am on here not complaining about it, but rather looking for ways to cope/handle it. However, if that is how you perceive it, well, there are no right and wrong to how one feels. Yes, I have been trying to think of her positive attributed when I am around her, and think of other things when she is in a mood. It definitely takes some extra effort and focus, but am hoping that if I keep it up, it will soon become a habit. Thank you for your response.