@MrMars
8 Years
Platonic relationships with opposite sex
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Posted by OCJack
Lol? As if it's up to /you/ whether you get to be more than that with the other person?
Well it is, isn't it? It's a harsh reality but I genuinely polarize my intent in a way that I'm either trying to mate or try again elsewhere. I have my friends to talk about platonic things and woman I find attractive for their feminine energy. This is why I have trouble realizing why people maintain friendships with their exes unless I'm just ignorant. Anyways, I was just wondering for the sake of perspective what other people thought lol.
Posted by WolfInRamsClothing
Lol I assume this is the question for guys.
Nope, you're wrong. It actually confuses me why most woman get offended when their ex isn't willing to be a friend after a mutual break up.
Posted by Dreamyboy
That’s hard as hell. If I find a lady friend of mines attractive, I’m gonna flirt with her and say all kinds of things to get in those panties. I could maintain a friendship with the opposite sex while having casual sex though. No biggie for me.
Amen brother LOL
Kinda lol I'll play it cool being all flirty. If they feeling it then I'll pounce.
Yes I can
Posted by LethalFantasia
I would. I've done it for years.
How do you feel after all these years? No disrespect, I feel like if I were in your shoes I would reflect on a lot of wasted time and try finding someone else that would appreciate you.
Posted by Lioness18881
Yes. It's possible if they're in their 20s and not ready to settle down. Make sure boundaries are clear and they have non committal placements like venus sextile uranus.
Asking men to restrict their boundaries is like prevent mankind from reaching space (lol I'm playing). Friendships shouldn't require boundaries though if purely platonic, don't you agree?
Posted by Dolluxxe
Yes I can
I need an explanation from you
Posted by WolfInRamsClothing
Lol I assume this is the question for guys.Nope, you're wrong. It actually confuses me why most woman get offended when their ex isn't willing to be a friend after a mutual break up. click to expand
Really, why? Sooo offended. click to expand
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You must be special then. I take that back :p
Posted by LethalFantasia
I would. I've done it for years.How do you feel after all these years? No disrespect, I feel like if I were in your shoes I would reflect on a lot of wasted time and try finding someone else that would appreciate you. click to expand
I'm not sure, we've had "moments" that almost led to sex but I ignored them. For the most part we are just really good friends. Even went on a double date to try and get my friend laid. Sometimes it's more like a "cousin thing" then a sexual thing. It's hard to explain. click to expand
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So wait.. do you normally find your male cousins attractive lol/jk? How does your male friend feel about this, have you ever asked him?
Posted by WolfInRamsClothing
Lol I assume this is the question for guys.Nope, you're wrong. It actually confuses me why most woman get offended when their ex isn't willing to be a friend after a mutual break up. click to expand
Really, why? Sooo offended. click to expand
You must be special then. I take that back :p click to expand
No, I am offended too. So why not be friends after mutual break up? Lol click to expand
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After being romantically involved at one point, eventually, I would think about having sex. I know myself better than anyone else and I don't think you're supposed to feel that way with "just" friends lmaoo.
Posted by Dolluxxe
Yes I canI need an explanation from you click to expand
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I've always had male friends/bestfriends. I really don't know how I/we managed to keep everything on a platonic level but I guess once a friendship is established I only see them as sort of brothers I can hang out with and I'm sure it's vice versa.
Also people have to set boundaries. I'm not gonna put myself in a situation where he and I might end up in bed.
Maturity also play a huge role.
Posted by DeadInside
friendzone
It happens, the main question is do you choose to stay or do you leave?
Posted by Dolluxxe
Yes I canI need an explanation from you click to expand
I've always had male friends/bestfriends. I really don't know how I/we managed to keep everything on a platonic level but I guess once a friendship is established I only see them as sort of brothers I can hang out with and I'm sure it's vice versa.
Also people have to set boundaries. I'm not gonna put myself in a situation where he and I might end up in bed.
Maturity also play a huge role. click to expand
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I never said I couldn't have maintain fulfilling friendships with woman though. I have many female friends but none I have sexual attraction to. Have you ever had a friend you thought was attractive, yet, you kept as just a friend?
Posted by DeadInside
friendzoneIt happens, the main question is do you choose to stay or do you leave? click to expand
im deadinside click to expand
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Tbh, I think we would be good friends lmfao
Posted by WolfInRamsClothing
Then my answer to the thread would be yes I can, what am I, thirsty? Lololo
Lmaoo wait..what? 😂😅
Posted by Dolluxxe
Yes I canI need an explanation from you click to expand
I've always had male friends/bestfriends. I really don't know how I/we managed to keep everything on a platonic level but I guess once a friendship is established I only see them as sort of brothers I can hang out with and I'm sure it's vice versa.
Also people have to set boundaries. I'm not gonna put myself in a situation where he and I might end up in bed.
Maturity also play a huge role. click to expand
I never said I couldn't have maintain fulfilling friendships with woman though. I have many female friends but none I have sexual attraction to. Have you ever had a friend you thought was attractive, yet, you kept as just a friend? click to expand
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Yes back in college. I had a few male friends who were really good looking like I appreciate good looks in a man but that was it.
Posted by Lioness18881
Yes. It's possible if they're in their 20s and not ready to settle down. Make sure boundaries are clear and they have non committal placements like venus sextile uranus.Asking men to restrict their boundaries is like prevent mankind from reaching space (lol I'm playing). Friendships shouldn't require boundaries though if purely platonic, don't you agree? click to expand
If you're having sex, that's crossing the line of friendship. You don't need boundaries for friends but for sex, you have to make it clear that it's just sex with no potential for relationship. You also need to ve open about feelings and if someone starts catching feels, if it's not mutual, you have to end the sex bit. click to expand
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So if you caught feelings for your guy friend and he's like you gotta chill it's it mutual. What is your next move?
Hell no
Posted by Dolluxxe
Yes I canI need an explanation from you click to expand
I've always had male friends/bestfriends. I really don't know how I/we managed to keep everything on a platonic level but I guess once a friendship is established I only see them as sort of brothers I can hang out with and I'm sure it's vice versa.
Also people have to set boundaries. I'm not gonna put myself in a situation where he and I might end up in bed.
Maturity also play a huge role. click to expand
I never said I couldn't have maintain fulfilling friendships with woman though. I have many female friends but none I have sexual attraction to. Have you ever had a friend you thought was attractive, yet, you kept as just a friend? click to expand
Yes back in college. I had a few male friends who were really good looking like I appreciate good looks in a man but that was it. click to expand
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Okay this makes sense. I have dated woman I was attracted to at first and then because of "something" it would change my opinion of them. I wouldn't stay friends with them after though :/
Posted by AquaNextDoor
Hell no
LOL
Posted by LethalFantasia
I would. I've done it for years.How do you feel after all these years? No disrespect, I feel like if I were in your shoes I would reflect on a lot of wasted time and try finding someone else that would appreciate you. click to expand
I'm not sure, we've had "moments" that almost led to sex but I ignored them. For the most part we are just really good friends. Even went on a double date to try and get my friend laid. Sometimes it's more like a "cousin thing" then a sexual thing. It's hard to explain. click to expand
So wait.. do you normally find your male cousins attractive lol/jk? How does your male friend feel about this, have you ever asked him? click to expand
Nope... lol. Never found my male cousins attractive (although some of my uncles are hot asf). It's just like a friendship with your cousin, it's hard to explain. click to expand
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It's okay I already know you're answer without having to say it :p
*that uncle stuff though iunno lmaooo
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.
Posted by WolfInRamsClothing
Lol I assume this is the question for guys.Nope, you're wrong. It actually confuses me why most woman get offended when their ex isn't willing to be a friend after a mutual break up. click to expand
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I am best friend with my ex. No problem for me.
And I have lots of male friends.
Posted by Lioness18881
Yes. It's possible if they're in their 20s and not ready to settle down. Make sure boundaries are clear and they have non committal placements like venus sextile uranus.Asking men to restrict their boundaries is like prevent mankind from reaching space (lol I'm playing). Friendships shouldn't require boundaries though if purely platonic, don't you agree? click to expand
If you're having sex, that's crossing the line of friendship. You don't need boundaries for friends but for sex, you have to make it clear that it's just sex with no potential for relationship. You also need to ve open about feelings and if someone starts catching feels, if it's not mutual, you have to end the sex bit. click to expand
So if you caught feelings for your guy friend and he's like you gotta chill it's it mutual. What is your next move? click to expand
I had a guy catch feels so i told him we can't have sex anymore. Then we only hung out in a group. No more one on one but everyone grew up and went their own ways so we kind of drifted apart. Still Facebook friends and talk if we bump into each other but it's like acquaintances. The problem is, when someone gets a gf or bf, the fwb stops being in the picture. You eventually lose that friendship click to expand
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Holy shit I'm dying, this same thing has actually happened to me. Literally everything related and played out exactly. That being said, the fact you guys could only hang in a group would make it more of a forced interaction. You have to like being around someone to have a meaningful friendship though :p
No
I don't want friends I am going to have the hots for
Lol
Posted by pisceswoman123
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.
Are both of you still single ?
Posted by pisceswoman123
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.
Yes, this
It's annoying
Posted by pisceswoman123
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.Are both of you still single ? click to expand
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Single or not it doesn’t seem to make any difference.
Posted by pisceswoman123
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.Are both of you still single ? click to expand
Single or not it doesn’t seem to make any difference. click to expand
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Alright lol
The only platonic rship I have with a bloke is my ex and I don't have the hots for him
Posted by pisceswoman123
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.Are both of you still single ? click to expand
Single or not it doesn’t seem to make any difference. click to expand
Alright lol click to expand
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It is true.
I always have a problem about this. Even being next to my boyfriend or partner and even if they are good friends of him, they always hitting on me. They even say to him how lucky he is and try to kiss me when he isn’t looking. What the hell is that about?
Posted by pisceswoman123
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.Are both of you still single ? click to expand
Single or not it doesn’t seem to make any difference. click to expand
Alright lol click to expand
It is true.
I always have a problem about this. Even being next to my boyfriend or partner and even if they are good friends of him, they always hitting on me. They even say to him how lucky he is and try to kiss me when he isn’t looking. What the hell is that about? click to expandclick to expand
They think with their dicks
Boring 🐓
Posted by pisceswoman123
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.Are both of you still single ? click to expand
Single or not it doesn’t seem to make any difference. click to expand
Alright lol click to expand
It is true.
I always have a problem about this. Even being next to my boyfriend or partner and even if they are good friends of him, they always hitting on me. They even say to him how lucky he is and try to kiss me when he isn’t looking. What the hell is that about? click to expandThey think with their dicks
Boring 🐓 click to expand
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They are really nice guys and I get on with them really well, but sometimes lol, it is just a bit too much.
Posted by pisceswoman123
It is not problem for me. The problem is that they always reciprocate and they want more.Are both of you still single ? click to expand
Single or not it doesn’t seem to make any difference. click to expand
Alright lol click to expand
It is true.
I always have a problem about this. Even being next to my boyfriend or partner and even if they are good friends of him, they always hitting on me. They even say to him how lucky he is and try to kiss me when he isn’t looking. What the hell is that about? click to expandThey think with their dicks
Boring 🐓 click to expand
They are really nice guys and I get on with them really well, but sometimes lol, it is just a bit too much. click to expand
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You've more patience than me 😋
TBH that would really piss me off....
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Posted by topes
Obviously youre a cut above the rest.
Who?
No. Our DNA is programmed to reproduce with the opposite sex.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
No. Our DNA is programmed to reproduce with the opposite sex.
True
Yes, because I am detached like a virgo or a cap
Posted by Smidge
I've done it, yes.
That's what I thought too in my 20's.
Time tends to take care of our self-delusions, though.
A man who stays around a woman purely for "friendship" is either gay, completely out of touch with his instincts/feelings or self-deluded as hell.
Posted by Smidge
I've done it, yes.That's what I thought too in my 20's.
Time tends to take care of our self-delusions, though. click to expand
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I think most of the women here would like to think that their best male friend just isn't like all the other man-pigs around and that somehow he doesn't look like that at her.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
A man who stays around a woman purely for "friendship" is either gay, completely out of touch with his instincts/feelings or self-deluded as hell.
lol
every guy in college i have met..
i love their company
but i dont want them romantically.
but wow they really love to be with me. cause why they drive miles and miles to be with me or wait for me..
i was really appreciative of it though.
maybe some guys find some girls very nice company.
even if they know they aren't gonna be "more"...
i used to think it's cruel to be around them.
Posted by Smidge
I've done it, yes.That's what I thought too in my 20's.
Time tends to take care of our self-delusions, though. click to expand
I think most of the women here would like to think that their best male friend just isn't like all the other man-pigs around and that somehow he doesn't look like that at her. click to expand
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Having sexual interest for a female (in this case a "female friend") does not make a man a pig. Our only true and deepest desire as species is to survive, aka reproducing aka having sex.
Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
A man who stays around a woman purely for "friendship" is either gay, completely out of touch with his instincts/feelings or self-deluded as hell.
Haha
I choose not to have a friend who takes sneaky sly glances (or sometimes overt stares) at my breasts and arse
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Posted by BoomShakalakaBoom
A man who stays around a woman purely for "friendship" is either gay, completely out of touch with his instincts/feelings or self-deluded as hell.Haha
I choose not to have a friend who takes sneaky sly glances (or sometimes overt stares) at my breasts and arse
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lol
some are really good at not doing that.
they probably are gay and just wanna have a cool female gal pal.
Posted by Smidge
I've done it, yes.That's what I thought too in my 20's.
Time tends to take care of our self-delusions, though. click to expand
I think most of the women here would like to think that their best male friend just isn't like all the other man-pigs around and that somehow he doesn't look like that at her. click to expand
Having sexual interest for a female (in this case a "female friend") does not make a man a pig. Our only true and deepest desire as species is to survive, aka reproducing aka having sex. click to expand
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It's just a figure of speech, no need to be defensive.
I'm not sure many men have the discipline and willpower not to look at women's breasts and arse when talking to them
I've met a few that don't.....but they are few and far between
Nowt wrong in looking ... we all do it, but not when engaged in conversation. I shamed some by staring down at my boobs when I saw them looking then threw them a look as if to say "and........"
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If you're friends with someone and find them attractive , would you find yourself able to maintain a purely platonic relationship?