Platonic relationships with opposite sex (Page 3)

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Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
I'm not attracted to my guy friends, it could be because I met them when I was in a relationship. Most of my guy friends do find me attractive and it doesn't bother me, because they don't try to push the boundary line and they know it won't work.

When I'm with someone it is because I'm totally into them- emotionally and physically, I won't be attracted to other guys. But I can acknowledge someone else as good looking doesn't mean I want them.

I wish more women felt like this. It's too bad men, including myself, have to resort into playing immature games to maintain sexual attraction. It's sad this is the dating culture I have been exposed to.

Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
I'm not attracted to my guy friends, it could be because I met them when I was in a relationship. Most of my guy friends do find me attractive and it doesn't bother me, because they don't try to push the boundary line and they know it won't work.

When I'm with someone it is because I'm totally into them- emotionally and physically, I won't be attracted to other guys. But I can acknowledge someone else as good looking doesn't mean I want them.

That is how it it with my guy best friends. We know each other from high school and I know everyone they have been with. There’s just friendship. Some of them I find attractive and I know they do because they always say but we know that we will never try. We love each other as friends. And we respect each other never to cross that line.

Sometimes they can flirt with me but it’s just nice because we know for sure that nothing else will happen. So is just like joking around.

Only if they “friendzone” me, LOL. If I’m single, and I find them attractive, I WILL try to be more than just friends. If I’m not single, and I find them attractive, but they aren’t attracted to me and friendzone me - then I’ll still be friends. If I’m not single, and I find them attractive and they find me attractive, I will cut off the friendship.

why can't friendships be just friendships and we must always rub out

anything natural that is about them by labelling them as platonic

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Posted by pinkbird03
How about looking at an exes social media who posts sexy pictures? Is that crossing the line?

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Lol but it’s different if I’m the ex who’s posting and he’s looking all day. I was suspecting he has a new gf but honestly don’t know. There’s no proof at all.

But why do guys do this—

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Posted by Squishy_Marshmallow
I'm not attracted to my guy friends, it could be because I met them when I was in a relationship. Most of my guy friends do find me attractive and it doesn't bother me, because they don't try to push the boundary line and they know it won't work.

When I'm with someone it is because I'm totally into them- emotionally and physically, I won't be attracted to other guys. But I can acknowledge someone else as good looking doesn't mean I want them.

That is how it it with my guy best friends. We know each other from high school and I know everyone they have been with. There’s just friendship. Some of them I find attractive and I know they do because they always say but we know that we will never try. We love each other as friends. And we respect each other never to cross that line.
Sometimes they can flirt with me but it’s just nice because we know for sure that nothing else will happen. So is just like joking around. click to expand

Hahaha! That's kinda cute. It's good they know not to cross the line, I think the entire friendship as such depends on how good they are at handling their attraction and keeping it to themself.
Well if you guys are single there is nothing wrong with flirting. I can't flirt with them, it's so weird. Sometimes when I see new girls act like my friends are desirable, I want to facepalm myself. It's like what do these girls see in these donkeys? But yeah my friends are great but I just don't get it why girls like them so much!!!
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It’s flirting in a very friendly way. Like teasing each other, not sexually. We know each other so well for so long that we can push our buttons. It is like they are my brothers. But they like to bust my ego saying that I look good and things like that.

I just love male energy in the sense that they are more direct and honest. I trust them more and understand them better.

Yes

Ah



I can hide my feelings for years 😿

Posted by MrMars
If you're friends with someone and find them attractive , would you find yourself able to maintain a purely platonic relationship?

With romance out of the equation, sure. I will say, I’ve had sexual relations with all of my guy friends [before I met my bf]; that’s just how I bond & really get to know someone. But our friendships have otherwise always been platonic.

Yes I can. In fact at times it's much easier being friends with men, less drama...

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Posted by nikkistar
I objectively and logically can understand that my best guy friends are attractive to most women.

However to me, on an attraction level, they all look like penisless Ken dolls with no genitalia. My libido doesn't react to others, while I am committed to the person I am with. I can see something as nice to look at, but it's all "meh" to me.

As previously mentioned , beauty is in the eyes of the beholder. A woman can be physically attractive to most men but still be disqualified as a sexual mate based off her other characteristics. My question is if you find a friend sexually attractive is it possible to truthfully remain platonic. click to expand

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For me it is, because I start all my friendships out in this way, regardless of sex. If I want to be your friend, that's it. From the start, you are now in the Ken box.

Is she already in a relationship?

If YES than YES it is easy to just be friends.

Is she Married?

IF YES then YES it is easy to just be friends.

Is she single?

If YES then YES it is easy to just be friends.

WHY? Because I don't care anymore.

I lose important people when they

know I like them.That is painful because

I don't just like them for what they look like.

Their friendship is important too.

Does that seem fake or sooooo unbelievable

for society to grasp/understand how a man can think?

I don't care what the other guys are doing or

who I'm SUPPOSED to be as a male.

I am me.

SO, I do not have interest in even starting

anything UNLESS they have interest in me.

I just don't care anymore otherwise.

I just live my life improving who I am.

Because I find PEACE in THAT.

Everything else is chaos.

You lose people, you gain people,

You lose people, you gain people,

you lose people,you gain people,

you lose people, you gain people.

"But what if she finds someone else, you've lost

opportunity to know if it would have worked out?"

I just don't care anymore. Too much pain to risk

and lose so many times in my past ans so It wasn't meant to be.

"ohh you are so beta or... you are like a woman on all this"

well ..maybe...JUST MAYBE it would be advantageous for

some of us to apply some things the opposite sex may

do in order to find that next person. Would it be SO

wrong for a MAN to sit back and see for ONCE who is

attracted to us FIRST before we open our mouths

instead of asking blindly— Would it be SO wrong

for a woman to just say how she feels first?!

no. and I'm not waiting for others to accept it

or society to make it right to do. It feels more

natural to just wait and let things be anyway.

Posted by Arielle83
If I’m not attracted, why would I be friends with them?

My point indeed.

Even assuming you're not interested in having sex with someone, doesn't the craving itself of a friend talking to you more and more suggest you're somehow attracted to them? And if there wasn't anything stimulating about their thought process (so no pushing buttons whatsoever) why would you even want to entertain such friendships?

Not to mention how flawed is the very same concept of platonic by virtue of the fact people are sexual beings.

No I can't. I want the D 😄

Posted by saggurl88
No I can't. I want the D

Pointless post. As if people here had any doubt about you 😄

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No I can't. I want the D

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I didn't know you did! Hey there handsome! 😆

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No I can't. I want the D

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I didn't know you did! Hey there handsome!

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Oh hello Sagi! Any more of you you'd like to share with us?

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Posted by saggurl88
No I can't. I want the D

Pointless post. As if people here had any doubt about you click to expand

I didn't know you did! Hey there handsome!

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Oh hello Sagi! Any more of you you'd like to share with us?

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lol, I don't have any more pics. I don't take a lot of selfies. You can send me one though! 😄 I see you've taken off your pictures.