Should I feel guilty for taking this job?

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So I got laid off from my previous job because of the Covid-19. I’ve been stucked at home for a month and I applied for unemployment.

However I don’t want to be in debt because my boyfriend is hardly working and we’re very broke right now.

Some places are still open and I want to work. Of course, businesses are taking precautions and everyone wears masks. After applying to several places, a small company hired me. I will be working in an office but my boss and co-worker are males. My boyfriend has always been ridiculously jealous and doesn’t trust me around men. And I don’t understand why because I have respected him since the beginning of our relationship. He’s even jealous of all my previous boyfriends. It’s crazy!

All I want to do is work. Just because I will be with men doesn’t mean I will cheat on my boyfriend or act inappropriately. I told my boyfriend that my boss was going to be a male because he says I need to tell him everything!!! and he told me that I shouldn’t say “my boss” and that I needed to use another word like “the owner of the company”. Even though I know myself and that I’m not unfaithful, I feel guilty for taking the job. My boyfriend didn’t even congratulate me after I got hired. I want to feel happy not guilty while I start my first day. Since my boyfriend is a jealous freak, I feel guilty working close to a man. Is this bad? Should men and women work together or how do you see it?
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LadyNeptune
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Men come and go.

Money keeps your bills paid, lights on, and belly full.

I think rn you need to take a hard long look at your relationship to weigh out whether his good traits out weigh the bad; the insecurity, the mistrust, the controlling nature, etc.

Ime dudes who constantly accuse you of cheating are actually cheating themselves and projecting their guilt. Or the use their accusations to force you to defend yourself... and distract you from the red flags they are leaving.
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Posted by Rainbow87

So I got laid off from my previous job because of the Covid-19. I’ve been stucked at home for a month and I applied for unemployment.

However I don’t want to be in debt because my boyfriend is hardly working and we’re very broke right now.

Some places are still open and I want to work. Of course, businesses are taking precautions and everyone wears masks. After applying to several places, a small company hired me. I will be working in an office but my boss and co-worker are males. My boyfriend has always been ridiculously jealous and doesn’t trust me around men. And I don’t understand why because I have respected him since the beginning of our relationship. He’s even jealous of all my previous boyfriends. It’s crazy!

All I want to do is work. Just because I will be with men doesn’t mean I will cheat on my boyfriend or act inappropriately. I told my boyfriend that my boss was going to be a male because he says I need to tell him everything!!! and he told me that I shouldn’t say “my boss” and that I needed to use another word like “the owner of the company”. Even though I know myself and that I’m not unfaithful, I feel guilty for taking the job. My boyfriend didn’t even congratulate me after I got hired. I want to feel happy not guilty while I start my first day. Since my boyfriend is a jealous freak, I feel guilty working close to a man. Is this bad? Should men and women work together or how do you see it?

Unless you plan on moving to a island with just woman, this issue is going to come up with your boyfriend eventually.

How are you not offended he doesn't trust you?