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Should you be allowed to date if you dont have a job? (Page 2)
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Posted by BlackMamba
Virgos are misers they may as well be jobless
Welp.......
Posted by Ands2016
the taurus rule is if you 6x your first paycheck you can date.I mistakenly left my paycheck stub on my dining room table. This taurus I was dating saw it and I cant get rid of his ass.
he only wants me for my abiliy to make money and make him cum.
borrow money from him 😛
Hmmmmmm
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I saw your paycheck and i've been sperming on it for the last week.
Posted by DMV
thoughts?
Lol I don't think you have any of those 🙂
Bump
In an interesting turn of events. I did meet a very compatible virgo man. I started the dating interview and come to find out, he is 42 with no job. Da hell—
Life is not fair
Posted by PhoenixRising
Jesus. Let's try again...Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.I'm not seeing the dilemma. The other person can decide to stay home and not date said jobless person. No one is forced to go out and pay for a date.
I find this interested, because once you throw gender into the mix and we're having s different conversation.
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That's probably because gender is always going to be an undertone.
Unemployed ppl should focus on seeking employment
How do you date not having an income?
Lol
yes, but no breeding unless you have a net worth of $ 100K or more
it's irresponsible to reproduce unless you're financially ready for it.
Posted by mmmcrunchy
yes, but no breeding unless you have a net worth of $ 100K or moreit's irresponsible to reproduce unless you're financially ready for it.
So now only upper middle class should produce?
Nice one Hitler.
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I'm being sarcastic. forgot the emoticon.
in all seriousness, yes, of course people should make their own choices. what's important is that there's honesty early on.
my hubby didn't have a job when we first met. But he wasn't a bum, and he wasn't in much debt (serious debt would be a deal breaker for me).
besides, for most people, it's temporary. they usually find another job in a few months at most.
OP sounds like an over opinionated pampered type...
Posted by mmmcrunchy
yes, but no breeding unless you have a net worth of $ 100K or moreit's irresponsible to reproduce unless you're financially ready for it.
So now only upper middle class should produce?
Nice one Hitler.
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Shouldn't be up to the tax payers to pay for someone else's lapse in judgement.
Posted by GreyWiz
this is the dumbest question i have ever read. I am baffled by the cutting edge idiocy of it all...............
An look inside the mind of a high maintenance woman...
I was hoping you'd have another ragesplosion. Those are fun to watch.
-Pumps fist in air- WHITE POWAAA!
Posted by DMV
BumpIn an interesting turn of events. I did meet a very compatible virgo man. I started the dating interview and come to find out, he is 42 with no job. Da hell—
Life is not fair
Do you go to network events that are for the jobless?
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That would explain alot but i dont.
Posted by mmmcrunchy
yes, but no breeding unless you have a net worth of $ 100K or moreit's irresponsible to reproduce unless you're financially ready for it.
Broke people shouldnt be having kids either. Damn democrats and ur social programs
Posted by mmmcrunchy
yes, but no breeding unless you have a net worth of $ 100K or moreit's irresponsible to reproduce unless you're financially ready for it.
So now only upper middle class should produce?
Nice one Hitler.
I'm being sarcastic. forgot the emoticon.
in all seriousness, yes, of course people should make their own choices. what's important is that there's honesty early on.
my hubby didn't have a job when we first met. But he wasn't a bum, and he wasn't in much debt (serious debt would be a deal breaker for me).
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Do student loans count?
Posted by Hemispheres
OP sounds like an over opinionated pampered type...
You aint heard shit yet
Posted by Gobshite
Personally, I'd rather date a lovely unemployed woman than get involved with a successful career woman, who has self-entitlement and commitment issues...
X2.
People should be able to do whatever they please, but it IS a hard situation to be in for both people, so I wouldnt say its the best thing.
Posted by Gobshite
Personally, I'd rather date a lovely unemployed woman than get involved with a successful career woman, who has self-entitlement and commitment issues...
Dont blame your brokeness on a woman and what she had going on.
Stand in your truth.
You're broke and you dont give a shit.
Posted by BlackMamba
I have school school loans from like fifteen years ago lol still haven't paid it off and its like 10k... I'm hoping they cancel itYup. Within the last 7 years, there have been some great " income based repayment plans" you can apply for and after 10 years - if you continue to qualify each year, the balance is forgiven.
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My mba costs me $ $ $ $ $ $
Posted by mmmcrunchy
yes, but no breeding unless you have a net worth of $ 100K or moreit's irresponsible to reproduce unless you're financially ready for it.
So now only upper middle class should produce?
Nice one Hitler.
I'm being sarcastic. forgot the emoticon.
in all seriousness, yes, of course people should make their own choices. what's important is that there's honesty early on.
my hubby didn't have a job when we first met. But he wasn't a bum, and he wasn't in much debt (serious debt would be a deal breaker for me).
Do student loans count?
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It depends. if it's small (by student loans standards), like $ 10K for a practical degree, that's fine. It's an investment.
now, if he's racked up $ 200K in debt for Scubadiving History from a scam "college" like University of Phoenix or something, that will freak me out.
just being honest
Posted by Gobshite
Personally, I'd rather date a lovely unemployed woman than get involved with a successful career woman, who has self-entitlement and commitment issues...X2.
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x3 and I know plenty of them. All of them are either single or ironically can't detach from a "broke" dude(the guys actually do work) and strangely all of their female friends are married.
Posted by LuckyLibra979
No n neither should those who don't wanna put out on the first night
THIS
Posted by elllesque
So I suppose women are supposed to sit around filing their nails, collect unemployment while waiting for a man to pay their rent and car note?I don't understand why women are looked down upon because they can take care of themselves.
It seems to be a liability to some men.
If I can add to our quality of life because I have a few extra disposable dollars in my pocket, my bills are current, my credit score is great and I don't have to experience any anxiety over who is going to pay for dinner......how can that be something 'negative'?
There's nothing wrong with a woman going out and getting her own and being successful. It's how you treat people that matters. All I know is that most do not want to be looked down on or excluded from being loved because their financial situation is less than ideal...that's gender neutral.
I dont think theres anything wrong with wanting your mate to have a job.
Is it so much to ask for ppl to have a job. If not for dating, but shit for your own self worth.
Posted by elllesque
So I suppose women are supposed to sit around filing their nails, collect unemployment while waiting for a man to pay their rent and car note?I don't understand why women are looked down upon because they can take care of themselves.
It seems to be a liability to some men.
If I can add to our quality of life because I have a few extra disposable dollars in my pocket, my bills are current, my credit score is great and I don't have to experience any anxiety over who is going to pay for dinner......how can that be something 'negative'?
There's nothing wrong with a woman going out and getting her own and being successful. It's how you treat people that matters. All I know is that most do not want to be looked down on or excluded from being loved because their financial situation is less than ideal...that's gender neutral.
that's fair enough.
The pendulum swings violently in these types of threads......some of the comments about career driven women are the same as you would read about gold diggers....which confuses me.
"Princess"...."Entitled".
Being a working woman......that's like the opposite of both of those.
If the target is constantly moving.....there is just no point. the best thing is to be who you are and let everything else fall in its place, I suppose.
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I agree. The princess or entitlement label comes when the ego kicks in as you stated earlier and people start thinking someone is a lesser person because they are struggle...I'm sorry but it's silly because of the reality of our economic system. Regardless of whether you're self employed or work for someone, you rely on othersand no one every truly becomes successful on their own. Therefore we all get help and someone takes a chance on us despite our talents and flaws. It's understandable if you don't extend that same gift to someone. But don't have a disdain or call them bums and broke when all of us are on the public done in some form regardless of how hard they work. Simple truth
Posted by elllesque
I can agree with that, @beautifulsoul74. 🙂
😉
...and yes being your own boss.is difficult.
Theres a difference between struggling and just not wanting to work
Theres a difference between struggling and just not wanting to work
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.you're running with the idea that don't have a job = don't have money
notwithstanding trust funds, 401Ks, or CDs...
one cannot have money without a job
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yeah i wouldnt want to be with a man who just has alot of money, and no job skills/ect. i mean, i know a cousin of ours, she is married to a very wealthy guy but he is jobless.He inherited ALOT of money so he sits on his ass playing video games all day. Not even cleaning the house, since he pays housekeepers for that -- he's rich. And she works full time.
to be honest, when we have Christmas gatherings, funerals, weddings, big family events thats when i see this cousin, And when she talks about her husband and situation, i hear alot of resentment. she doesn' sound happy at all, and the resentment is just too much. What do we all do? just listen. I mean she married him, knowing this.
Posted by elllesque
I've been jobless and completely broke. The recession was real.Men were not lined up at my door. lol
Posted by elllesque
being unemployed is more attractive than bitterness.js.
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agree!
the recession is also real in europe. Lots of lay offs everywhere in the past several years. by the hundreds.
*thousands actually.
Posted by DMV
isnt that taking advantage of the other person. I mean theyre going to look past all that in the beginning but after a while, they will grow to resent your inability to pay for dates.you're running with the idea that don't have a job = don't have money
notwithstanding trust funds, 401Ks, or CDs...
one cannot have money without a job
yeah i wouldnt want to be with a man who just has alot of money, and no job skills/ect. i mean, i know a cousin of ours, she is married to a very wealthy guy but he is jobless.He inherited ALOT of money so he sits on his ass playing video games all day. Not even cleaning the house, since he pays housekeepers for that -- he's rich. And she works full time.
to be honest, when we have Christmas gatherings, funerals, weddings, big family events thats when i see this cousin, And when she talks about her husband and situation, i hear alot of resentment. she doesn' sound happy at all, and the resentment is just too much. What do we all do? just listen. I mean she married him, knowing this.
Those type of ppl are completely useless
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yup! according to Ernst Wilhelm, she got a BAD JUPITER.
' If you have a bad Jupiter, you're gonna get a husband who doesn't do anything for you."
well at least on the positive side, he's wealthy and if she quit, or lost her job, they're still millionaires. *shrug*
Omg thank the lawd Sagi season is upon us!
Jobless people should not be worrying about dating...they should be worrying about finding a damn employer
Yes exactly. How could one expect to give someone the bet of themselves if they have no job.
If your broke but see a cute girl or boy, just look but dont touch. Just let them keep walking. Dont try to sell the same potential youve been trying to sell for the last 5 years.
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*glare* SHHHHHTTTAAAP with that!