Soul
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The Single Lyfe
I initiated a relocation. still in the old appartment though. organizing. facing memories cause things and pictures.
Pretty much the same. downloading and organizing music to listen in the car has become one of my biggest passtimes after 5 years without bothering with r-ships.
Going to the mall and buying useless stuff too.
It gets old after a while tho
Going to the mall and buying useless stuff too.
It gets old after a while tho
DXP
Posted by DonJohnHow exactly? You don't believe some people want to be single, or simply don't connect with things outside themselves?
living in denial = single life
Posted by DonJohnI'm not really convincing myself of anything though. In the end I rather be with a person I can relate to deeply or nothing at all. I'm completely fine with both of those paths.Posted by SoulPosted by DonJohnHow exactly? You don't believe some people want to be single, or simply don't connect with things outside themselves?
living in denial = single life
justifying single life = cope
you are not convincing me. you are trying to convince yourself.click to expand
I don't see how that's denial though. I'm not denying that's it's ok to not be single.
Posted by -Flo-It's only sad if you want it to be. That or its just as normal as anything else. Think of all the people in a relationship who are just as sad, or who would kill just to go on a trip alone to the mall and listen to music. Maybe both sides of the story only feel good with some balance.Posted by SoulThis is sad,
How do you spend yours?
I just made a new mix CD for my vehicle! I'm about to go drive around aimlessly for hours because I have a ton of money and time and nothing better to spend it on. I'll probably go to the mall and buy some more materials to fill the empty spaces.
What about you? Even if you have a lover what was is life like without one?
I spend my time studying, drinking wine, crying eating tacos, reading, getting lost in music, running.. praying.click to expand
Posted by -Flo-I don't feel sad though. Maybe to an outside perspective, but I'd rather this then spend all my money on a person that screws me over in the long run. Should it make me feel sad? Maybe lack the right emotions.Posted by SoulThat's what I meant by sad.. and even if you tried to make it seem likes it's not, it is.
How do you spend yours?
I just made a new mix CD for my vehicle! I'm about to go drive around aimlessly for hours because I have a ton of money and time and nothing better to spend it on. I'll probably go to the mall and buy some more materials to fill the empty spaces.
What about you? Even if you have a lover what was is life like without one?click to expand
Posted by -Flo-Tbh I'm beginning to think my best friend is as good as it gets. We relate better then anyone. Its unfortunate he's a male and both of us were born straight.Posted by SoulNo soul ?Posted by -Flo-I don't feel sad though. Maybe to an outside perspective, but I'd rather this then spend all my money on a person that screws me over in the long run. Should it make me feel sad? Maybe lack the right emotions.Posted by SoulThat's what I meant by sad.. and even if you tried to make it seem likes it's not, it is.
How do you spend yours?
I just made a new mix CD for my vehicle! I'm about to go drive around aimlessly for hours because I have a ton of money and time and nothing better to spend it on. I'll probably go to the mall and buy some more materials to fill the empty spaces.
What about you? Even if you have a lover what was is life like without one?
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Posted by -Flo-I notice many people from the outside think "Yep those two are gay for sure. No doubt in my mind!" but it's not like that at all. We pretend to like the things the other likes out of respect, get into heavy arguments but never fight, and say things others couldn't get away with. There isn't any physical attraction whatsoever though.Posted by SoulIt's not gay, if you cover your eyes and think of someone else..Posted by -Flo-Tbh I'm beginning to think my best friend is as good as it gets. We relate better then anyone. Its unfortunate he's a male and both of us were born straight.Posted by SoulNo soul ?Posted by -Flo-I don't feel sad though. Maybe to an outside perspective, but I'd rather this then spend all my money on a person that screws me over in the long run. Should it make me feel sad? Maybe lack the right emotions.Posted by SoulThat's what I meant by sad.. and even if you tried to make it seem likes it's not, it is.
How do you spend yours?
I just made a new mix CD for my vehicle! I'm about to go drive around aimlessly for hours because I have a ton of money and time and nothing better to spend it on. I'll probably go to the mall and buy some more materials to fill the empty spaces.
What about you? Even if you have a lover what was is life like without one?
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Sometimes I think we've only come this far because no love relationship has ever really come for either of us.
Posted by -Flo-I believe you. I feel something to love and cherish will come for all of us, and if it doesn't we will keep living more lives till it does. Don't feel bad or alone though. Even if you cry because of it. As far as you know I'm just trying to sound stable and tough. Trying its the first step of progressing imo.Posted by SoulSoul it will happen for you one day, I promise and definitely when you least expect it. It may sound sad that I cry.. a lot but it's really healing for me. All the things I do give me a sense of happiness but not to fulfill a part of me that's missing from companionship. It's because I truly love doing it. Everything in life comes with a time and place, and we don't know that we're not meant to know. So keep doing you and maybe the right lady will come in.Posted by -Flo-I notice many people from the outside think "Yep those two are gay for sure. No doubt in my mind!" but it's not like that at all. We pretend to like the things the other likes out of respect, get into heavy arguments but never fight, and say things others couldn't get away with. There isn't any physical attraction whatsoever though.Posted by SoulIt's not gay, if you cover your eyes and think of someone else..Posted by -Flo-Tbh I'm beginning to think my best friend is as good as it gets. We relate better then anyone. Its unfortunate he's a male and both of us were born straight.Posted by SoulNo soul ?Posted by -Flo-I don't feel sad though. Maybe to an outside perspective, but I'd rather this then spend all my money on a person that screws me over in the long run. Should it make me feel sad? Maybe lack the right emotions.Posted by SoulThat's what I meant by sad.. and even if you tried to make it seem likes it's not, it is.
How do you spend yours?
I just made a new mix CD for my vehicle! I'm about to go drive around aimlessly for hours because I have a ton of money and time and nothing better to spend it on. I'll probably go to the mall and buy some more materials to fill the empty spaces.
What about you? Even if you have a lover what was is life like without one?
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Sometimes I think we've only come this far because no love relationship has ever really come for either of us.
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Posted by KoniuchaaI just recently got into cloth buying. It does make it fun to strut around in new stuff. I never realized how much new clothes, boots, and such boost the ego.
I'm a bit busy, with working, school and what not.
I buy stuff too, but I don't think it's useless stuff. I probably have too much clothes though ?
There's always dxp lol. At least this place keeps things interesting.
Posted by lady_chatterleyThat's great! I feel people can develop who they really are with some time alone. I bet the type of love that comes to you in the end becomes the best kind of love anyway.
I am more of a social butterfly. Active. I go out to music concerts, festivals, and I am more involved in the community. I will take a class or workshop that seems interesting or fun. I am more outdoorsy. I don't look for love if I am single, it just finds me. Probably because I have more opportunities to meet people by being so active.
Posted by ChrisIsKodakSure! Go for it.Posted by SoulIs it ok if I copy and past the same story I have from the other thread? I feel like I have something valuable to say.
How do you spend yours?
I just made a new mix CD for my vehicle! I'm about to go drive around aimlessly for hours because I have a ton of money and time and nothing better to spend it on. I'll probably go to the mall and buy some more materials to fill the empty spaces.
What about you? Even if you have a lover what was is life like without one?click to expand
Posted by ChrisIsKodakI feel I can relate to this.
Hi Guys! So you guys know me as Chrisiskodak, the guy who's jokes and uses memes wayyyy too much haha. But I see this type of though process a lot in my generation and it's a understandable HUMAN thing. So i'll just be me. My name is Chris and I am 22 years old. I currently live in Southern California, the land of the pretty. I came out here to build my dream life. Entrepreneurship, Corporate Consulting, the whole nine yards. I've had some highs, and a lot of lows. haha
The idea of "single life" as a life style or thought process gets labelled many things. some good, some bad. For me personally. I enjoy single life. But not in a "I have to enjoy it because i'm stuck being single." But in a sense, the current focus on my life is becoming a better version of Christopher so I can add more value to the people I love. I love the freedom of knowing I just need to focus on making things right with me. Being at peace with myself. Learning things that will dramatically alter my life to a new type of living. Not only in monetary (Money) sense, but in a essence sense. (Spiritual). When I write out my priorities in my life, I genuinely do not place relationships at this phase of my life. By choice, I chose to be single.
What I learned (And I say this because it rings true for me) is that you never want to be with people to fill voids. You want to be with people so you can contribute to their happiness and growth. Whenever we as a people pick relationships to plug holes, you are going to have disappointment. You are always looking to that person to make you feel a certain way. Relationships are really, what you can offer in service to another person, because you love them. Love is really giving. We feel best when we give $ 100, not spend it. Don't focus on what you can get, but really what you can give. That's where your true value will shine.
Happiness greatly tied not to you being in a state of "relationship" to determine your worth. But that the average tuesdays when you make coffee and look out the window, you can be happy, at peace that you are alive here in this moment. Happiness is a state of mind.
I think the issues we face is that we have our values and viewpoints of importance skewed.
Ask people in relationships, and they will tell you, once they are in the relationship and the emotions stop running high, they go back to their regular emotions and thoughts.
If you ask me, the greatest relationship I will ever have, will always be the connection I have to the universe both around me, and inside of me.
Call it God. Call it Infinite Wisdom. Call it Burrito. Don't care. But it's important you understand how valuable you are to it all. And that YOU set the story to your own play.
You are stardust. That which you see in the night, are you. You are essense.
A quick story about knowing what you truly desire. As people, we need to know why and how. But we need to know WHAT. What is the target. You can't truly get to where you want to be at if you don't have a road map.
Old school Pilots didn't have fancy GPS. They had tape and rope. The secret to being a pilot was getting to the destination. So, they would take their current starting point, then take their desired end point. And tape rope from one end to another. Now, did they always have a straight shot road to their destination? No. but through the turbulence, wind drafts, and delays. No matter how much they adjusted or swayed, they always moved towards that end result. And in time, they would reach The Goal.
Now.
I have a few questions for you, the reader.
1) Are you at peace with yourself? If not, how can you create inner peace?
2) Do you know what is your value?
3) Do you feel connected with the world both around you and in you?
4) What kind of person do you have to be to attract the things you desire?
5) What are your life's priorities? Rank them 1-5. Realistically. If it's relationships place it 1.
6) Are you focused on gaining, nurturing, obtaining your priorities? Or Are you waiting for them to come to you?
The reason for the questions is for you to think. Absorb. Sink in. Asking the right questions first will set your focus. Then how's asked and found later. But you gotta know the end Goal for the things you desire. Relationship. Money. Life. It's all one. And it all is connected.
Hope you enjoyed this!
I'm going to think about it then get back with some answers.
Posted by DonJohnOh please. You make it sound like a person is somehow incomplete unless involved in a meaningful relationship and that's just not true.
living in denial = single life
O.P. when I was single for a long while I lived my life, enjoyed my work, enjoyed my friends, enjoyed self love, and was too busy to be all upset about not having an S.O. Sometimes the best things happen when you're just being you and living your life most enjoyably because people are attracted to that.
Posted by BuffaloBills28I agree. Maybe I'm kind of selfish or just super picky, but I want to be with someone I really connect with. Like someone I can deeply relate to. If I cant find a person like that I honestly rather be alone.
I'd rather be single than be with a person I can be without. This Capircorn I was with about a year ago was ready to have kids and settle down, but I knew deep down she isn't the one.. So, kinda ended that. I don't know, another thing you shouldn't do is be with a corrupt person because you can't handle solitude. You're only going to dig yourself a hole you're going to have to climb out of. Enjoy your solitude if anything while you have it, I've noticed, people have the fire really go out once they "settle down".
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I just made a new mix CD for my vehicle! I'm about to go drive around aimlessly for hours because I have a ton of money and time and nothing better to spend it on. I'll probably go to the mall and buy some more materials to fill the empty spaces.
What about you? Even if you have a lover what was is life like without one?