things you wish you could have said...

to the younger you.

also things you wish you could have known when you were younger, for whatever reason.

1. you'll rarely regret the things you did, but will always regret the things you didn't do when you had the chance.
2. ENJOY youth, instead of wishing you could grow up. responsibility sucks sometimes.
3. DON'T BE SO HESITANT TO DO DUMB, CRAZY SHIT. (even tho you may have done your share...) when you're older, you won't have an excuse.
4. get involved in something you're passionate about NOW. the experience will help you later.
5. EVERYTHING CHANGES. people you think will be there forever will drift away, or suddenly be taken from you. you will probably have to leave your home and everything dear behind. there are some things in life you CAN'T control - but you can control your reaction to it. don't ever believe you know what tomorrow holds, and live as though today is all you have.

yours?

Good list. I agree with all of that. 🙂

I would just add: don't bother crying over that boy because in less than a year he won't even be relevant.

Posted by brianafay
I would just add: don't bother crying over that boy because in less than a year he won't even be relevant.

so true!!

spend more quality time with mom
say i love you today, you're not guaranteed tomorrow
hugs are great
smile more
you can't fix everything
don't lose yrself in love
the spongebob squarepants movie sucked (only movie i ever paid to see). either have your date pay or stay home
land ownership = happiness
once a year ask yourself, 'what do i really want out of life?"
home isn't in a place
chances are, he's lying
your vagina isn't the holy grail
men really do rule the world
don't argue with stupid people
you don't like applesauce
you do like fish

Trust your instincts more, your head less.
Spend more time with your Grandmother, she is a font of knowledge.
You will have a painful marriage, but do not alter it, it made you who you are now.
Put the fork down sweetheart.
Really love yourself.

Lets see...

What I would have said to my YOUNG AND DUMB-ASS self....

1. Go with the gals that know how to jump in the fire with no regrets.
2. Howl at the moon (Sooner than I did)
3. Avoiding drinking or getting as drunk as I did on a particular November night.

Posted by Prince_Pisces
Trust your instincts more, your head less.

LOL i thought that said "trust insects more" for a second lol.

But don't trust f'ing clowns!

Posted by scorpio_chic
no room for regret. 🙂

your skirt is WAY too short

go to class more often

So Co and Tequila will gives you the voms

Another one of my favorites...

Fate loves the fearless

no one will ever help you but you
trust no one
depend only on yourself
accept yourself as you are who gives a fuck if people like you or not.
Just a few of the easy ones

^ I like those too.

NEVER say NEVER about anything! You just dont know what life will bring you tomorrow and you may well end up eating your words.

Don't hold grudges, because in the end you will just be disappointed in yourself.

Don't be afraid to get hurt. Go with your heart and lead less with your head. You will have fewer regrets if you know you gave it all you had.

Learn from your mistakes. You make them for a reason.

Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved

Don't be afraid to get hurt. Go with your heart and lead less with your head. You will have fewer regrets if you know you gave it all you had.

Jump in the fire!!!

Posted by satori
I agree. This is a really great idea for a thread, Trifles.

hehe thankssssss. =)

Posted by VirgoHero

Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved

Don't be afraid to get hurt. Go with your heart and lead less with your head. You will have fewer regrets if you know you gave it all you had.

Jump in the fire!!!

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LOL!!! HA HA HA!!! Im full of that!

Posted by venusianbull
You will have a painful marriage, but do not alter it, it made you who you are now.

This one gave me goosebumps!

Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved

Posted by venusianbull
You will have a painful marriage, but do not alter it, it made you who you are now.

This one gave me goosebumps!

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I swear that you dxp ladies have pushed me FURTHER from the ideal of walking down the isle.

Sometimes the pain of being hurt, is far less than the pain of causing hurt to others.

VH.... there is no IDEAL of walking down the isle. That is where you get hung up!

Love can be painful....... but with it sometimes comes great reward.

Take your own advice... sometimes... just jump into the fire! You may be glad u did!

Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
VH.... there is no IDEAL of walking down the isle. That is where you get hung up!

Love can be painful....... but with it sometimes comes great reward.

Certainly, dear. But don't the joys and pains of love come regardless of the legality of the ceremony and paperwork? Common! Jumping in the fire is supposed to transcend signatures and tax breaks!

Do not be afraid of getting married some day VH. I said that because it has made me stronger, taught me what pitfalls to avoid. Taught me that it isn't all moonlit walks and rose petals. I did not let it jade me, nor turn me off to the idea of happiness with someone. It has tempered me with fire, did I melt? NOPE, I burnished. I learned that I could ( and did ) cope with the pain, and guess what? The sun still rises and sets, and the world is still a relatively decent place to be in. And I held firm to the idea that I would not let it make me bitter. Without that man, my children wouldn't exist. And obviously I fell in love with him, so I hung onto that too. That he isn't a flaming cad.. made poor choices perhaps, didn't want to put in the work, but that was his choice to make and it doesn't reflect on me at all.
Would I remarry some day? Absolutely.

Posted by venusianbull
Do not be afraid of getting married some day VH. I said that because it has made me stronger, taught me what pitfalls to avoid. Taught me that it isn't all moonlit walks and rose petals. I did not let it jade me, nor turn me off to the idea of happiness with someone. It has tempered me with fire, did I melt? NOPE, I burnished. I learned that I could ( and did ) cope with the pain, and guess what? The sun still rises and sets, and the world is still a relatively decent place to be in. And I held firm to the idea that I would not let it make me bitter. Without that man, my children wouldn't exist. And obviously I fell in love with him, so I hung onto that too. That he isn't a flaming cad.. made poor choices perhaps, didn't want to put in the work, but that was his choice to make and it doesn't reflect on me at all.
Would I remarry some day? Absolutely.

Cosign!!! Couldnt have said it better myself!!!

Posted by venusianbull
Do not be afraid of getting married some day VH. I said that because it has made me stronger, taught me what pitfalls to avoid. Taught me that it isn't all moonlit walks and rose petals. I did not let it jade me, nor turn me off to the idea of happiness with someone. It has tempered me with fire, did I melt? NOPE, I burnished. I learned that I could ( and did ) cope with the pain, and guess what? The sun still rises and sets, and the world is still a relatively decent place to be in. And I held firm to the idea that I would not let it make me bitter. Without that man, my children wouldn't exist. And obviously I fell in love with him, so I hung onto that too. That he isn't a flaming cad.. made poor choices perhaps, didn't want to put in the work, but that was his choice to make and it doesn't reflect on me at all.
Would I remarry some day? Absolutely.

I don't really fear it. More so, there's a part of me that thinks the expectation of "having" to be married gets in the way of the connection between that special someone for some people. I suppose I don't think everyone was destined to be married and have that American happy quota of 2.5 kids.

Partners in Crime for life are cool 😛

LOL My opinion is that it works for some, not for others. Everyone goes into it thinking they're in it for the long haul, but with unrealistic expectations. I think people MUST go into it knowing that there will be days that you'd honestly like to throttle your partner. And that falling in and out of love is the norm. There has to be that commitment level. To go into it with eyes wide open that it's going to be work, and hard work at that, but that you're strong for one another. Always.
I think if one knows oneself, than they can make the choice on whether or not to do it. 🙂

Partners in crime for life is indeed cool. Antarctica frosty.

^5 LeoLady, you know.

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Posted by LeoLadyLovesToBeLoved
Sometimes the pain of being hurt, is far less than the pain of causing hurt to others.

word ll, i have always said i wont base my happiness in an others unhappiness. i am a firm believer in karma.

but i wasn't always

hugz

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🙂 Karma's a bitch, that's why you gotta keep her on your side! LOL!

Atually, Nefer is the one who told me that little tid bit of advice regarding my Pisces and I have to say it had a very lasting affect on me. At the moment, I am experiencing the pain involved of hurting someone and it blows! I would much rather be the one hurt this go around. Because I know I will survive and come out a better person from it. I just hope he can see this and when his pain subsides, I hope he will not resent me or have any regrets. 😢

I wouldn't have listened anyway. I need to see things for myself than go by people's words. I mean, there are FEW people I do listen to, but I doubt I would've listened to myself. For a long time I was determined to be with this man I was in long term relationship with, I didn't who thought what or heard or did or said what I was gonna do it. As far as anything else, I would take heed to.