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Why does this virgo man not caring about my emotions? (Page 4)
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Posted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by Sagoxa
@smiley_smiles
I think the last thread hit the maximum word count. I cant reply it.
So let me break this down to you, one last time
Since you cant comprehend a mutable's double life.
He wants to keep you a secret from his family, get it? He wants you to be his double life.
1 life where he's the good family boy and the other life where it's the total opposite.
That's why he wanted everything in his own terms. The calls and messages etc.
If you agree to this, it means you will need to know how to position yourself to be a secret. By not making a scene, by not announcing your relationship. You have to NOT BE SEEN and detected, understood? So, for fuck's sake, stop getting him in trouble with his family. You're ruining everything.
Since you blow the whole shit up by giving him problems AGAIN. Wait it out for few days. He probably hates you now. So wait.. for a few days or a week. And try again like how I said you should. And then wait maybe few more days. Dont expect immediate answer. He will need to make sure the coast is clear if he wants to interact with you.
If you cant do this.. i suggest you stay out and move on. There's no way you can ever force a mutable. We will rebel and run.
This double life thing can be for few months or years until things get better, so think carefully before you want to step into this..
that's why i am asking that i will make someone talk to him so that i will get to know the truths from his secretly, but ppl are telling me not to, and that i'll end up in jail if i try to do secret conversations with him
I just wrote a fucking long paragraph for you and you still dont understand anything??!!
STOP REACHING OUT, CALLING AND MAKING SOMEONE TALK TO HIM.
In which part of the idea of SECRET can you not understand?
If you make someone talk to him THEN IT'S NO LONGER A SECRET!
If he said he will call, DON'T CALL BEFORE HE CALLS. Get it?
WAIT FOR HIS CALL AND DONT CALL BEFORE HE CALLS
WAIT FOR HIS MESSAGE AND DONT MESSAGE BEFORE HE MESSAGES
He is the only one who knows when it's safe to call or message..
Send him in a few days what I said. AND DONT DO ANYTHING MORE. Just wait. It will take a few days.
What about yesterday's threats then? I poured my heart out about how much i was crying due to him and started pointing out his brother behaviour and i got a reply that i will block you, respect dangers, idk who sent that
Who the fuck told you to pour your heart? He doesnt care.. you really think he will fight for you in front of his family, now? 😆 you really think he will choose you?
Honey, hes not a cancer 😆 He's always in and out until he decides what he wants.
Whatever he has done or said to you are just lip service. To keep you there while hes making his mind up.
The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water.
If you dont want it, then leave. Dont do anything more. You wont get anything from him now. Not even a closure. Not even a sympathy. Nothing..
" The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water. "
I love to have a double life too. I am the same. But now things already got exposed, we can't have a double life and even if we want to be together, we should be only open because double life stage already crossed, he may choose me if communication happens between us, who knows? I believe in him. Once he said that he got me, it means he got me whenever i need him, i need him now and i need to let him know this, what should i do?
Yeah, i give up trying to make you understand.
Keep doing anything you want. Looking forward to more post about this guy being indirectly repulsed by you 🥂
Here, now for me, is necessary to know things from him because his family already started searching for me and is ready to give police complaint on me. I should definitely talk to him, even if it's not about love, at least about a solution for this situation, or else really i will end up in jail or have a restraining order got to me soon
I gave you the solution. Stay low for a while. Dont reach out. You will only have police coming to you IF you keep on trying to reach out to him.
And btw why does he need to provide you with solution?
You're the one terrorizing him with your calls and messages.
You are the one disturbing his family.
You are the one who keep disturbing him eventhough the family has warned you about restraining order.
You are the one digging your own grave.
And all of the sudden, he needs to save you from the consequences of your own doing?
You really like playing and being seen as a victim dont you? 😆
It's all YOU honey.. you got a lot of growing up to do.click to expand
" You will only have police coming to you IF you keep on trying to reach out to him. "
I already did this, and I'm so so afraid now, so I need to make someone ask him about this asap
Someone please answer me! What should I do now—
Posted by saggurl88Posted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by Sagoxa
@smiley_smiles
I think the last thread hit the maximum word count. I cant reply it.
So let me break this down to you, one last time
Since you cant comprehend a mutable's double life.
He wants to keep you a secret from his family, get it? He wants you to be his double life.
1 life where he's the good family boy and the other life where it's the total opposite.
That's why he wanted everything in his own terms. The calls and messages etc.
If you agree to this, it means you will need to know how to position yourself to be a secret. By not making a scene, by not announcing your relationship. You have to NOT BE SEEN and detected, understood? So, for fuck's sake, stop getting him in trouble with his family. You're ruining everything.
Since you blow the whole shit up by giving him problems AGAIN. Wait it out for few days. He probably hates you now. So wait.. for a few days or a week. And try again like how I said you should. And then wait maybe few more days. Dont expect immediate answer. He will need to make sure the coast is clear if he wants to interact with you.
If you cant do this.. i suggest you stay out and move on. There's no way you can ever force a mutable. We will rebel and run.
This double life thing can be for few months or years until things get better, so think carefully before you want to step into this..
that's why i am asking that i will make someone talk to him so that i will get to know the truths from his secretly, but ppl are telling me not to, and that i'll end up in jail if i try to do secret conversations with him
I just wrote a fucking long paragraph for you and you still dont understand anything??!!
STOP REACHING OUT, CALLING AND MAKING SOMEONE TALK TO HIM.
In which part of the idea of SECRET can you not understand?
If you make someone talk to him THEN IT'S NO LONGER A SECRET!
If he said he will call, DON'T CALL BEFORE HE CALLS. Get it?
WAIT FOR HIS CALL AND DONT CALL BEFORE HE CALLS
WAIT FOR HIS MESSAGE AND DONT MESSAGE BEFORE HE MESSAGES
He is the only one who knows when it's safe to call or message..
Send him in a few days what I said. AND DONT DO ANYTHING MORE. Just wait. It will take a few days.
LMAO
SHE CAN'T- He secretly loves her, Ya know? If only she could talk to him.
https://media.tenor.com/images/1719cf008001a86d8cdd9e0fb8f67942/tenor.gif
yes, he secretly loves me
Posted by saggurl88Posted by SagoxaPosted by saggurl88Posted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by Sagoxa
@smiley_smiles
I think the last thread hit the maximum word count. I cant reply it.
So let me break this down to you, one last time
Since you cant comprehend a mutable's double life.
He wants to keep you a secret from his family, get it? He wants you to be his double life.
1 life where he's the good family boy and the other life where it's the total opposite.
That's why he wanted everything in his own terms. The calls and messages etc.
If you agree to this, it means you will need to know how to position yourself to be a secret. By not making a scene, by not announcing your relationship. You have to NOT BE SEEN and detected, understood? So, for fuck's sake, stop getting him in trouble with his family. You're ruining everything.
Since you blow the whole shit up by giving him problems AGAIN. Wait it out for few days. He probably hates you now. So wait.. for a few days or a week. And try again like how I said you should. And then wait maybe few more days. Dont expect immediate answer. He will need to make sure the coast is clear if he wants to interact with you.
If you cant do this.. i suggest you stay out and move on. There's no way you can ever force a mutable. We will rebel and run.
This double life thing can be for few months or years until things get better, so think carefully before you want to step into this..
that's why i am asking that i will make someone talk to him so that i will get to know the truths from his secretly, but ppl are telling me not to, and that i'll end up in jail if i try to do secret conversations with him
I just wrote a fucking long paragraph for you and you still dont understand anything??!!
STOP REACHING OUT, CALLING AND MAKING SOMEONE TALK TO HIM.
In which part of the idea of SECRET can you not understand?
If you make someone talk to him THEN IT'S NO LONGER A SECRET!
If he said he will call, DON'T CALL BEFORE HE CALLS. Get it?
WAIT FOR HIS CALL AND DONT CALL BEFORE HE CALLS
WAIT FOR HIS MESSAGE AND DONT MESSAGE BEFORE HE MESSAGES
He is the only one who knows when it's safe to call or message..
Send him in a few days what I said. AND DONT DO ANYTHING MORE. Just wait. It will take a few days.
LMAO
SHE CAN'T- He secretly loves her, Ya know? If only she could talk to him.
🤣🤣🤣 you're right.
Idk why did I even bother trying to teach her the "how to.."
I give up
It's funny how we all think it's a troll but we still can't help ourselves. lol Myself included!
The one liners was the way to go with xiongmao though.
https://media.tenor.com/images/aabb4455d6a065436098b5360a8ea0c3/tenor.gif
she was a kind hearted and responsive. Not a joker like you
Posted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by bmoon8Posted by SagoxaPosted by bmoon8
Let me take a wild guess on your sign.........
Cancer.
Lol 😆
On the previous thread she didnt want to admit she's a cancer. But we all know she is 😅
I'm done talking sense to this girl. She doesnt have any 😆
I remember that she is an only child and that is quite apparent in her threads.
Virgo will have to get restraining order.
Don't support that shitty virgo man! He is absolutely making me hate the whole zodiac, he's a loser, he have negativity attached with him, and it harms me if i will be with him and positivity will get vanished. Now already he ate my morals and making me look like a creepy girl just for believing his love innocently at the first sight. And just for loving him truly since he loved me once. I will move the hell out of him and find a person like my previous pisces man who is a despo like me and who loves my despo nature to the core❤️ and willing to cross any miles with me and who can't stay without talking me and being with me always being independent + despo just for me + love just on me + never wanting to leave my hand, ever
*supporting the Virgo all the way*
You see this Virgo as an extension to yourself. 🥴
He is his own separate being/person with his own needs and feelings.
after understanding his feelings last year only i fell for him and grown an unbelievable affection on him and it's literally breaking now due to his changed behaviour
People change, feelings change. He may have liked you a year ago, but probably not so now since you are here talking about him, and trying to force a relationship.click to expand
he loved me very hard before an year
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smiles
okay, as per my guess, if this virgo man saw my messages, he would have sympathized me instead of hurting me more when i was already expressing my hurt. I wantedly sent him messages about him wrongly just to check him whether he will right them, but he didn't right any of my wrong sayings, and when i started messaging him about his brother, i got a message that i will block you, respect dangers. Even when i sent him messages the last time, his brother told that he only read those messages and told that he will not give the phone to him, and he told that he will not let me speak with him and asked me what was going on between us and i said nothing, i'm just his friend, and he told me that why am i distracting his studies, after talking to this virgo man, he gave me all indirect clues and told me that his brother is scolding him a lot and maybe even beating him, so he cutted the call immediately with a tensed hurry, after that what happened idk, maybe his brother took away his phone because while i was speaking only call was cutted! So maybe his brother messaged me that time. Maybe he is completely not given his phone now! I wil try getting to know things from him in some way! I know he won't hurt others unnecessarily because he always makes sure everyone around him is okay, and he even treats his enemy with kindness, so I fell f
So what? How does anything you wrote change the outcome?
yes, it won't change, but I need to know things from him
It’s not his need or his family’s need to satisfy your need.click to expand
it's not my need. I need him to be my side when his family was treating me wrong. I need him to step up for me. But instead, he is giving things up, don't know how hard situations are going on on his side, we are just not allowed to communicate. We are forced not to talk. If I can once talk to him, then love can grow more strongly, and we can fight unitedly, and he may stand up for me and fixup things like my old pisces man
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesit's not my need. I need him to be my side when his family was treating me wrong. I need him to step up for me. But instead, he is giving things up, don't know how hard situations are going on on his side, we are just not allowed to communicate. We are forced not to talk. If I can once talk to him, then love can grow more strongly, and we can fight unitedly, and he may stand up for me and fixup things like my old pisces man
You say it's not your need but then follows up with 2 sentences saying the opposite.
You need him to be by your side. He doesn't need to be by your side.click to expand
I mean it's not my selfish need. But for the purposes of protection, he needs to standup for me at least as a friend, and it is not fair for him not to tell me anything and make me terribly afraid and suddenly making me get into unknown problems
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesit's not my need. I need him to be my side when his family was treating me wrong. I need him to step up for me. But instead, he is giving things up, don't know how hard situations are going on on his side, we are just not allowed to communicate. We are forced not to talk. If I can once talk to him, then love can grow more strongly, and we can fight unitedly, and he may stand up for me and fixup things like my old pisces man
You say it's not your need but then follows up with 2 sentences saying the opposite.
You need him to be by your side. He doesn't need to be by your side.click to expand
At least not as a bf, he should protect any girl whomever is in my place, because it's humanity. Supporting whatever wrong his blood relations are doing on me just because he loves them isn't a great thing, and he will become wrong in this case
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
Posted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?
Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?click to expand
IDGAF, you didn't even read my post
Posted by hydorahPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?
IDGAF, you didn't even read my postclick to expand
I read it. I am just asking you why isn't he doing the right thing of being on my side and saving me and assuring me instead of listening his family?
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorahPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?
IDGAF, you didn't even read my post
I read it. I am just asking you why isn't he doing the right thing of being on my side and saving me and assuring me instead of listening his family?
Because it's his family, and in comparison to his family, you're like a nobody to him.click to expand
At least he should be generous enough to let me know the truths right? Why is he making me get affected psychologically with his irresponsible nature of letting me things known when I was in trouble from his family? He should have some responsibility to save a girl who was connected to him earlier, at least as a friend. This is not right on his part. Even selfishness should have some limits and being right should be the thing here. Supporting all wrongdoings of his family and psychologically breaking me without even me being in a relationship. It's more feeling like an attack to me intentionally without me doing anything wrong.
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorahPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?
IDGAF, you didn't even read my post
I read it. I am just asking you why isn't he doing the right thing of being on my side and saving me and assuring me instead of listening his family?
Because it's his family, and in comparison to his family, you're like a nobody to him.
At least he should be generous enough to let me know the truths right? Why is he making me get affected psychologically with his irresponsible nature of letting me things known when I was in trouble from his family? He should have some responsibility to save a girl who was connected to him earlier, at least as a friend. This is not right on his part. Even selfishness should have some limits and being right should be the thing here. Supporting all wrongdoings of his family and psychologically breaking me without even me being in a relationship. It's more feeling like an attack to me intentionally without me doing anything wrong.
Selfish or not, he has no responsibility to you, even as a friend.click to expand
It's not fair for him to support his family when they are treating wrong. No matter how much I love my parents, if they treat my friend or bf wrong, I will surely stand by their side and provide the support they need, because it's the right thing. But I won't join hand in destroying my connections for my relations.
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorahPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?
IDGAF, you didn't even read my post
I read it. I am just asking you why isn't he doing the right thing of being on my side and saving me and assuring me instead of listening his family?
Because it's his family, and in comparison to his family, you're like a nobody to him.
At least he should be generous enough to let me know the truths right? Why is he making me get affected psychologically with his irresponsible nature of letting me things known when I was in trouble from his family? He should have some responsibility to save a girl who was connected to him earlier, at least as a friend. This is not right on his part. Even selfishness should have some limits and being right should be the thing here. Supporting all wrongdoings of his family and psychologically breaking me without even me being in a relationship. It's more feeling like an attack to me intentionally without me doing anything wrong.
Selfish or not, he has no responsibility to you, even as a friend.
It's not fair for him to support his family when they are treating wrong. No matter how much I love my parents, if they treat my friend or bf wrong, I will surely stand by their side and provide the support they need, because it's the right thing. But I won't join hand in destroying my connections for my relations.
He's not you.click to expand
So, I need to ask someone else to stand by my side, when he's failing to
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorahPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?
IDGAF, you didn't even read my post
I read it. I am just asking you why isn't he doing the right thing of being on my side and saving me and assuring me instead of listening his family?
Because it's his family, and in comparison to his family, you're like a nobody to him.
At least he should be generous enough to let me know the truths right? Why is he making me get affected psychologically with his irresponsible nature of letting me things known when I was in trouble from his family? He should have some responsibility to save a girl who was connected to him earlier, at least as a friend. This is not right on his part. Even selfishness should have some limits and being right should be the thing here. Supporting all wrongdoings of his family and psychologically breaking me without even me being in a relationship. It's more feeling like an attack to me intentionally without me doing anything wrong.
Selfish or not, he has no responsibility to you, even as a friend.
It's not fair for him to support his family when they are treating wrong. No matter how much I love my parents, if they treat my friend or bf wrong, I will surely stand by their side and provide the support they need, because it's the right thing. But I won't join hand in destroying my connections for my relations.
He's not you.
So, I need to ask someone else to stand by my side, when he's failing to
Just give up on him and so someone else can be by your side.click to expand
What if my one more trial on him with privacy works?
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorahPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?
IDGAF, you didn't even read my post
I read it. I am just asking you why isn't he doing the right thing of being on my side and saving me and assuring me instead of listening his family?
Because it's his family, and in comparison to his family, you're like a nobody to him.
At least he should be generous enough to let me know the truths right? Why is he making me get affected psychologically with his irresponsible nature of letting me things known when I was in trouble from his family? He should have some responsibility to save a girl who was connected to him earlier, at least as a friend. This is not right on his part. Even selfishness should have some limits and being right should be the thing here. Supporting all wrongdoings of his family and psychologically breaking me without even me being in a relationship. It's more feeling like an attack to me intentionally without me doing anything wrong.
Selfish or not, he has no responsibility to you, even as a friend.
It's not fair for him to support his family when they are treating wrong. No matter how much I love my parents, if they treat my friend or bf wrong, I will surely stand by their side and provide the support they need, because it's the right thing. But I won't join hand in destroying my connections for my relations.
He's not you.
So, I need to ask someone else to stand by my side, when he's failing to
Just give up on him and so someone else can be by your side.click to expand
What if the privacied trial turns into a beautiful one?
Posted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by xiongmaoPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorahPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by hydorah
listen, I 'm not going to read the last 10 pages because it happened too fast andI suppose it's mostly saggirl posting crap, but let me tell you this: you're doing it wrong.
Virgos, male or female, never go against authority. They're pretty much little children, that's how they see themselves, they like to obey.
Either you conquer them and make them your bitch, or forget it.
This is why aries+virgo works so well
He's never going to go against authority for you and you'll keep hoping forever
But I am getting treated wrongly by his family. How fair is it?
IDGAF, you didn't even read my post
I read it. I am just asking you why isn't he doing the right thing of being on my side and saving me and assuring me instead of listening his family?
Because it's his family, and in comparison to his family, you're like a nobody to him.
At least he should be generous enough to let me know the truths right? Why is he making me get affected psychologically with his irresponsible nature of letting me things known when I was in trouble from his family? He should have some responsibility to save a girl who was connected to him earlier, at least as a friend. This is not right on his part. Even selfishness should have some limits and being right should be the thing here. Supporting all wrongdoings of his family and psychologically breaking me without even me being in a relationship. It's more feeling like an attack to me intentionally without me doing anything wrong.
Selfish or not, he has no responsibility to you, even as a friend.
It's not fair for him to support his family when they are treating wrong. No matter how much I love my parents, if they treat my friend or bf wrong, I will surely stand by their side and provide the support they need, because it's the right thing. But I won't join hand in destroying my connections for my relations.
He's not you.
So, I need to ask someone else to stand by my side, when he's failing to
Just give up on him and so someone else can be by your side.click to expand
Everytime only his brother was harsh with me, he never was harsh with me with my words, he always comforted me when I was getting emotional, so now maybe this reply was not by him, but maybe by his brother, because i scolded him by blaming him for the things he didn't do in chat, but instead of proving himself for unnecessary blames, I got a response that I will block you, respect dangers. This is the response maybe given by his brother. Why should I make him pay for the behaviour his brother does? Why can't I try understanding him more? I told him in chat that I'm always trying to understand you, and I never meant to hurt you, I'm just feeling wrong for the way your brother scolded me, and I got msg like this. So comparing to past behaviours, I can guess it might be his brother who replied me! In case if this is the truth, then I will lose a true lover for my life. I don't know how much tight situations he is placed in. Maybe I can fight for him. Maybe he is failing the fight. Maybe he don't even remember my number to call me from another ways. Maybe his phone was completely not given to him, and maybe situations will get beautiful once communication happens in a privacied ways to us, in a passing manner, who knows?
oh, she woke up
Posted by Wizardz
You have major attachment disorder darling 🤦♂️ seek counselling/therapy
Is the OP a water sign/dominant?
Posted by WizardzPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Wizardz
You have major attachment disorder darling 🤦♂️ seek counselling/therapy
Is the OP a water sign/dominant?
Cancer 🧐click to expand
yess❤️
Posted by Wizardz
You have major attachment disorder darling 🤦♂️ seek counselling/therapy
i don't have an attachment disorder, but never ending love on him, for which he only started it, so maybe he also have it but may also be that situations aren't favourable!
Posted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by WizardzPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Wizardz
You have major attachment disorder darling 🤦♂️ seek counselling/therapy
Is the OP a water sign/dominant?
Cancer 🧐
yess❤️click to expand
Wow I could tell you were a cancer just from the fact that you only care about your feelings and not even listening to what other people are saying. And I don't even believe in astrology.
How the elements will treat your emotions:
-FIRE: they will trample your feelings if they notice them and use them against you in a sadistic way just for fun
-EARTH: they don't care about your feelings, everything is a transaction for them.
-WATER: they only care about their own feelings, can't even notice other people's feelings except in a distorted way. Or something they can manipulate to satisfy their own emotions
-AIR: they will care a lot and make a big deal of your feelings, but soon you'll realize it's all very superficial and feels fake
-FIRE: they will trample your feelings if they notice them and use them against you in a sadistic way just for fun
-EARTH: they don't care about your feelings, everything is a transaction for them.
-WATER: they only care about their own feelings, can't even notice other people's feelings except in a distorted way. Or something they can manipulate to satisfy their own emotions
-AIR: they will care a lot and make a big deal of your feelings, but soon you'll realize it's all very superficial and feels fake
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....click to expand
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them damclick to expand
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?click to expand
Why should I always think negative? Why not give a positive try?
Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?
Why should I always think negative? Why not give a positive try?click to expand
In my experience if a man wants to be with you, there’s no need to put yourself through all this angst...he comes after you and makes it known..
Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?
Why should I always think negative? Why not give a positive try?
In my experience if a man wants to be with you, there’s no need to put yourself through all this angst...he comes after you and makes it known..click to expand
but for a virgo man, a girl needs to let him know that she's also interested, or else he will never make a move on her, especially to his lost lover, even if he's in love with her, but I can say one thing surely, he loved me way hard in my past, after one year I went back running to him to show him my love, but I was very shy in starting so I talked with him less, and when things were about to get to next level, his brother came in between, who is not letting things happen, and breaking us brutally. Maybe even he warned him about harming me, and maybe that's the reason he is staying away from me, I can't guess and know situations properly unless I get to know things from him directly in a 100% sure trusting way of talking with him. Messaging is a way to misinterpret things, because we don't know who is on other side of the screen, and what's going on the other side! So, asking is always better than assuming
Posted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?
Why should I always think negative? Why not give a positive try?
In my experience if a man wants to be with you, there’s no need to put yourself through all this angst...he comes after you and makes it known..
but for a virgo man, a girl needs to let him know that she's also interested, or else he will never make a move on her, especially to his lost lover, even if he's in love with her, but I can say one thing surely, he loved me way hard in my past, after one year I went back running to him to show him my love, but I was very shy in starting so I talked with him less, and when things were about to get to next level, his brother came in between, who is not letting things happen, and breaking us brutally. Maybe even he warned him about harming me, and maybe that's the reason he is staying away from me, I can't guess and know situations properly unless I get to know things from him directly in a 100% sure trusting way of talking with him. Messaging is a way to misinterpret things, because we don't know who is on other side of the screen, and what's going on the other side! So, asking is always better than assuming
Yes, I remember you telling him that you were not interested in him or something to that effect. It did not go the way you intended it to and he decided to move on.
Such is life.click to expand
okay, it happened an year ago and I can't change it now but when I ran back to him, he happily received me, we spoke for about 8 days, after that, suddenly I got blocked, following by his family not letting him use his phone ( I didn't knew this until his friend said me after his brother's incident ), i didn't approach him for 3 months after that block ( but I didn't had an answer from him about why I was blocked ). And he didn't had that phone. After 3 months I called him to know why he blocked me and he picked up the call and asked me how am I doing, I said fine, and our call went too emotional, where I'm the one who was getting too emotional, and he was comforting me very softly. Everything was good but I forgot to ask about the block and he told that he will talk to me next day, and I told him okay, and he sweetly ended the call, and next day I didn't give him a chance to call me back but I only called him out of excitement, and his brother lifted the call and this went on as my question says at the starting to now. So, why not expect him to have that love on me still now?
Posted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?
Why should I always think negative? Why not give a positive try?
In my experience if a man wants to be with you, there’s no need to put yourself through all this angst...he comes after you and makes it known..
but for a virgo man, a girl needs to let him know that she's also interested, or else he will never make a move on her, especially to his lost lover, even if he's in love with her, but I can say one thing surely, he loved me way hard in my past, after one year I went back running to him to show him my love, but I was very shy in starting so I talked with him less, and when things were about to get to next level, his brother came in between, who is not letting things happen, and breaking us brutally. Maybe even he warned him about harming me, and maybe that's the reason he is staying away from me, I can't guess and know situations properly unless I get to know things from him directly in a 100% sure trusting way of talking with him. Messaging is a way to misinterpret things, because we don't know who is on other side of the screen, and what's going on the other side! So, asking is always better than assuming
Yes, I remember you telling him that you were not interested in him or something to that effect. It did not go the way you intended it to and he decided to move on.
Such is life.
okay, it happened an year ago and I can't change it now but when I ran back to him, he happily received me, we spoke for about 8 days, after that, suddenly I got blocked, following by his family not letting him use his phone, i didn't approach him for 3 months after that block and he didn't had that phone too. After 3 months, he got it, so I called him, and he picked up the call and asked me how am I doing, I said fine, and our call went too emotional, where I'm the one who was getting too emotional, and he was comforting me very softly. Everything was good, he told that he will talk to me next day, and I told him okay, and he sweetly ended the call, and next day I didn't give him a chance to call me back but I only called him out of excitement, and his brother lifted the call and this went on as my question says at the starting to now. So, why not expect him to have that love on me still now?
You think it is okay to play games to get what you want.click to expand
Am I playing games— Is expressing emotions to him a game? I truly love him, and he truly cares for me still
Posted by saggurl88
You need to Find a Sag Sun/Aqua Moon guy. Ya'll can be needy and clingy together.
Now why would you tell her this...
Savage.
Posted by hydorah
How the elements will treat your emotions:
-FIRE: they will trample your feelings if they notice them and use them against you in a sadistic way just for fun
-EARTH: they don't care about your feelings, everything is a transaction for them.
-WATER: they only care about their own feelings, can't even notice other people's feelings except in a distorted way. Or something they can manipulate to satisfy their own emotions
-AIR: they will care a lot and make a big deal of your feelings, but soon you'll realize it's all very superficial and feels fake
So basically don’t date then lmao
Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?
Why should I always think negative? Why not give a positive try?click to expand
Don’t be delusional. He doesn’t want you and you can’t impose your will over someone, that’s just wrong and can be very scary if a person is visibly blocking it. You don’t want him to see you as a stalker.
Posted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?
Why should I always think negative? Why not give a positive try?
In my experience if a man wants to be with you, there’s no need to put yourself through all this angst...he comes after you and makes it known..
but for a virgo man, a girl needs to let him know that she's also interested, or else he will never make a move on her, especially to his lost lover, even if he's in love with her, but I can say one thing surely, he loved me way hard in my past, after one year I went back running to him to show him my love, but I was very shy in starting so I talked with him less, and when things were about to get to next level, his brother came in between, who is not letting things happen, and breaking us brutally. Maybe even he warned him about harming me, and maybe that's the reason he is staying away from me, I can't guess and know situations properly unless I get to know things from him directly in a 100% sure trusting way of talking with him. Messaging is a way to misinterpret things, because we don't know who is on other side of the screen, and what's going on the other side! So, asking is always better than assuming
Yes, I remember you telling him that you were not interested in him or something to that effect. It did not go the way you intended it to and he decided to move on.
Such is life.
okay, it happened an year ago and I can't change it now but when I ran back to him, he happily received me, we spoke for about 8 days, after that, suddenly I got blocked, following by his family not letting him use his phone, i didn't approach him for 3 months after that block and he didn't had that phone too. After 3 months, he got it, so I called him, and he picked up the call and asked me how am I doing, I said fine, and our call went too emotional, where I'm the one who was getting too emotional, and he was comforting me very softly. Everything was good, he told that he will talk to me next day, and I told him okay, and he sweetly ended the call, and next day I didn't give him a chance to call me back but I only called him out of excitement, and his brother lifted the call and this went on as my question says at the starting to now. So, why not expect him to have that love on me still now?
You think it is okay to play games to get what you want.
Am I playing games— Is expressing emotions to him a game? I truly love him, and he truly cares for me still
Yes. You told him you were not interested even though you really are.
If he really loved or cared about you, he would be balls deep in your pussy.click to expand
I misunderstood him one fine day so broke him brutally last year, and he made it the last day to see me and he disappeared out of my life and I was afraid why he suddenly disappeared, and I forgave him for the misunderstanding thing, and after one year of hard search, I found him one fine day, where he was excited to take me back, and things went like this, I didn't express him my love yet. He still doesn't knows that I love him so much. I am not even getting a chance to talk with him due to these middle breaking situations which I want to get rid off and express my love to him
Posted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by bmoon8Posted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by smiley_smilesPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by ATGR
It’s not gonna happen. Just give up.
I agree
You can’t push the river.....you just have to let it flow....
But what if the river is forcely stopped with a dam? The dam needs to be broken down for the river to flow right? So, I want to break them dam
What if you can’t
What if he doesn’t want you to?
Why should I always think negative? Why not give a positive try?
In my experience if a man wants to be with you, there’s no need to put yourself through all this angst...he comes after you and makes it known..
but for a virgo man, a girl needs to let him know that she's also interested, or else he will never make a move on her, especially to his lost lover, even if he's in love with her, but I can say one thing surely, he loved me way hard in my past, after one year I went back running to him to show him my love, but I was very shy in starting so I talked with him less, and when things were about to get to next level, his brother came in between, who is not letting things happen, and breaking us brutally. Maybe even he warned him about harming me, and maybe that's the reason he is staying away from me, I can't guess and know situations properly unless I get to know things from him directly in a 100% sure trusting way of talking with him. Messaging is a way to misinterpret things, because we don't know who is on other side of the screen, and what's going on the other side! So, asking is always better than assuming
Yes, I remember you telling him that you were not interested in him or something to that effect. It did not go the way you intended it to and he decided to move on.
Such is life.
okay, it happened an year ago and I can't change it now but when I ran back to him, he happily received me, we spoke for about 8 days, after that, suddenly I got blocked, following by his family not letting him use his phone, i didn't approach him for 3 months after that block and he didn't had that phone too. After 3 months, he got it, so I called him, and he picked up the call and asked me how am I doing, I said fine, and our call went too emotional, where I'm the one who was getting too emotional, and he was comforting me very softly. Everything was good, he told that he will talk to me next day, and I told him okay, and he sweetly ended the call, and next day I didn't give him a chance to call me back but I only called him out of excitement, and his brother lifted the call and this went on as my question says at the starting to now. So, why not expect him to have that love on me still now?
You think it is okay to play games to get what you want.
Am I playing games— Is expressing emotions to him a game? I truly love him, and he truly cares for me still
Yes. You told him you were not interested even though you really are.
If he really loved or cared about you, he would be balls deep in your pussy.
I misunderstood him one fine day so broke him brutally last year, and he made it the last day to see me and he disappeared out of my life and I was afraid why he suddenly disappeared, and I forgave him for the misunderstanding thing, and after one year of hard search, I found him one fine day, where he was excited to take me back, and things went like this, I didn't express him my love yet. He still doesn't knows that I love him so much. I am not even getting a chance to talk with him due to these middle breaking situations which I want to get rid off and express my love to him
Keep telling yourself whatever you need to hear or believe without facing reality. You’re only hurting yourself.click to expand
I will face it soon. Let's see if he loves me or not, if he loves me, then I will be on cloud nine
Posted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by Sagoxa
@smiley_smiles
I think the last thread hit the maximum word count. I cant reply it.
So let me break this down to you, one last time
Since you cant comprehend a mutable's double life.
He wants to keep you a secret from his family, get it? He wants you to be his double life.
1 life where he's the good family boy and the other life where it's the total opposite.
That's why he wanted everything in his own terms. The calls and messages etc.
If you agree to this, it means you will need to know how to position yourself to be a secret. By not making a scene, by not announcing your relationship. You have to NOT BE SEEN and detected, understood? So, for fuck's sake, stop getting him in trouble with his family. You're ruining everything.
Since you blow the whole shit up by giving him problems AGAIN. Wait it out for few days. He probably hates you now. So wait.. for a few days or a week. And try again like how I said you should. And then wait maybe few more days. Dont expect immediate answer. He will need to make sure the coast is clear if he wants to interact with you.
If you cant do this.. i suggest you stay out and move on. There's no way you can ever force a mutable. We will rebel and run.
This double life thing can be for few months or years until things get better, so think carefully before you want to step into this..
that's why i am asking that i will make someone talk to him so that i will get to know the truths from his secretly, but ppl are telling me not to, and that i'll end up in jail if i try to do secret conversations with him
I just wrote a fucking long paragraph for you and you still dont understand anything??!!
STOP REACHING OUT, CALLING AND MAKING SOMEONE TALK TO HIM.
In which part of the idea of SECRET can you not understand?
If you make someone talk to him THEN IT'S NO LONGER A SECRET!
If he said he will call, DON'T CALL BEFORE HE CALLS. Get it?
WAIT FOR HIS CALL AND DONT CALL BEFORE HE CALLS
WAIT FOR HIS MESSAGE AND DONT MESSAGE BEFORE HE MESSAGES
He is the only one who knows when it's safe to call or message..
Send him in a few days what I said. AND DONT DO ANYTHING MORE. Just wait. It will take a few days.
What about yesterday's threats then? I poured my heart out about how much i was crying due to him and started pointing out his brother behaviour and i got a reply that i will block you, respect dangers, idk who sent that
Who the fuck told you to pour your heart? He doesnt care.. you really think he will fight for you in front of his family, now? 😆 you really think he will choose you?
Honey, hes not a cancer 😆 He's always in and out until he decides what he wants.
Whatever he has done or said to you are just lip service. To keep you there while hes making his mind up.
The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water.
If you dont want it, then leave. Dont do anything more. You wont get anything from him now. Not even a closure. Not even a sympathy. Nothing..
" The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water. "
I love to have a double life too. I am the same. But now things already got exposed, we can't have a double life and even if we want to be together, we should be only open because double life stage already crossed, he may choose me if communication happens between us, who knows? I believe in him. Once he said that he got me, it means he got me whenever i need him, i need him now and i need to let him know this, what should i do?
Yeah, i give up trying to make you understand.
Keep doing anything you want. Looking forward to more post about this guy being indirectly repulsed by you 🥂
Here, now for me, is necessary to know things from him because his family already started searching for me and is ready to give police complaint on me. I should definitely talk to him, even if it's not about love, at least about a solution for this situation, or else really i will end up in jail or have a restraining order got to me soon
I gave you the solution. Stay low for a while. Dont reach out. You will only have police coming to you IF you keep on trying to reach out to him.
And btw why does he need to provide you with solution?
You're the one terrorizing him with your calls and messages.
You are the one disturbing his family.
You are the one who keep disturbing him eventhough the family has warned you about restraining order.
You are the one digging your own grave.
And all of the sudden, he needs to save you from the consequences of your own doing?
You really like playing and being seen as a victim dont you? 😆
It's all YOU honey.. you got a lot of growing up to do.click to expand
As you said, I'm staying low for a while. After that, Can I reach him out through someone else and ask for the truth?
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@smiley_smiles
I think the last thread hit the maximum word count. I cant reply it.
So let me break this down to you, one last time
Since you cant comprehend a mutable's double life.
He wants to keep you a secret from his family, get it? He wants you to be his double life.
1 life where he's the good family boy and the other life where it's the total opposite.
That's why he wanted everything in his own terms. The calls and messages etc.
If you agree to this, it means you will need to know how to position yourself to be a secret. By not making a scene, by not announcing your relationship. You have to NOT BE SEEN and detected, understood? So, for fuck's sake, stop getting him in trouble with his family. You're ruining everything.
Since you blow the whole shit up by giving him problems AGAIN. Wait it out for few days. He probably hates you now. So wait.. for a few days or a week. And try again like how I said you should. And then wait maybe few more days. Dont expect immediate answer. He will need to make sure the coast is clear if he wants to interact with you.
If you cant do this.. i suggest you stay out and move on. There's no way you can ever force a mutable. We will rebel and run.
This double life thing can be for few months or years until things get better, so think carefully before you want to step into this..
that's why i am asking that i will make someone talk to him so that i will get to know the truths from his secretly, but ppl are telling me not to, and that i'll end up in jail if i try to do secret conversations with him
I just wrote a fucking long paragraph for you and you still dont understand anything??!!
STOP REACHING OUT, CALLING AND MAKING SOMEONE TALK TO HIM.
In which part of the idea of SECRET can you not understand?
If you make someone talk to him THEN IT'S NO LONGER A SECRET!
If he said he will call, DON'T CALL BEFORE HE CALLS. Get it?
WAIT FOR HIS CALL AND DONT CALL BEFORE HE CALLS
WAIT FOR HIS MESSAGE AND DONT MESSAGE BEFORE HE MESSAGES
He is the only one who knows when it's safe to call or message..
Send him in a few days what I said. AND DONT DO ANYTHING MORE. Just wait. It will take a few days.
What about yesterday's threats then? I poured my heart out about how much i was crying due to him and started pointing out his brother behaviour and i got a reply that i will block you, respect dangers, idk who sent that
Who the fuck told you to pour your heart? He doesnt care.. you really think he will fight for you in front of his family, now? 😆 you really think he will choose you?
Honey, hes not a cancer 😆 He's always in and out until he decides what he wants.
Whatever he has done or said to you are just lip service. To keep you there while hes making his mind up.
The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water.
If you dont want it, then leave. Dont do anything more. You wont get anything from him now. Not even a closure. Not even a sympathy. Nothing..
" The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water. "
I love to have a double life too. I am the same. But now things already got exposed, we can't have a double life and even if we want to be together, we should be only open because double life stage already crossed, he may choose me if communication happens between us, who knows? I believe in him. Once he said that he got me, it means he got me whenever i need him, i need him now and i need to let him know this, what should i do?
Yeah, i give up trying to make you understand.
Keep doing anything you want. Looking forward to more post about this guy being indirectly repulsed by you 🥂
Here, now for me, is necessary to know things from him because his family already started searching for me and is ready to give police complaint on me. I should definitely talk to him, even if it's not about love, at least about a solution for this situation, or else really i will end up in jail or have a restraining order got to me soon
I gave you the solution. Stay low for a while. Dont reach out. You will only have police coming to you IF you keep on trying to reach out to him.
And btw why does he need to provide you with solution?
You're the one terrorizing him with your calls and messages.
You are the one disturbing his family.
You are the one who keep disturbing him eventhough the family has warned you about restraining order.
You are the one digging your own grave.
And all of the sudden, he needs to save you from the consequences of your own doing?
You really like playing and being seen as a victim dont you? 😆
It's all YOU honey.. you got a lot of growing up to do.
As you said, I'm staying low for a while. After that, Can I reach him out through someone else and ask for the truth?
No. Dont involve someone else. The message tends to be blurry. Wait it out, stay low, and then message him apologizing and say you'll wait for him to initiate contact and you wont do anything else anymore.
Once the coast is clear and he feels safe, he will contact you. When he contact you, you can ask him the truth. And ask how you two move forward from here...click to expand
But the phone now is not with him I guess. Or else he would have clear things out instead of being rudely and meaninglessly replying to my msgs, and I doubt his brother is still using his phone and not giving him the phone because even if I'm telling him the words or situations he used to get angry with, the responses which I receive from his number are like not at all understanding my words or situations and just meaninglessly responding to my feelings whereas he used to meaningfully respond me earlier, so I doubt since his brother was rude to me always and also I said him in msg that I never meant to hurt you and I was always trying to understand your situations instead of judging u but I don't think you intentionally do these all to me just to make me feel bad, and I was just mentioning that I hated the way his brother spoke with me and scolded me, and I got a very harsh response, in fact proving that his brother maybe having his phone. I don't think he have his phone now, because I also blamed him for the things he didn't do, and he was not even trying to prove that he didn't do anything intentionally, the responses I received were like, he is not even caring about the blames I wrongly kept on him, and from this I can evaluate that his brother might have responded me, in this case I shouldn't message him that call me when everything is safe, because if it is his brother, he will not even allow him any secret ways and he will take precautions to not allow him any privacy, in which case I'll lose him permanently, and I don't want that! So I already splitted out a lot of previous secret things I tried conveying him on chat but I didn't get a reply for that, maybe his brother saw my messages, and he didn't reply, so I only have an option to involve someone else! I already messaged him I won't talk to him again in my last message, I messaged him block me, this will be the end, and I didn't message anything from that day, so if his brother uses his phone, he will think that my part of efforts are over to reach him out so that I can have a chance with any mutual friend and what do you think about this?
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@smiley_smiles
I think the last thread hit the maximum word count. I cant reply it.
So let me break this down to you, one last time
Since you cant comprehend a mutable's double life.
He wants to keep you a secret from his family, get it? He wants you to be his double life.
1 life where he's the good family boy and the other life where it's the total opposite.
That's why he wanted everything in his own terms. The calls and messages etc.
If you agree to this, it means you will need to know how to position yourself to be a secret. By not making a scene, by not announcing your relationship. You have to NOT BE SEEN and detected, understood? So, for fuck's sake, stop getting him in trouble with his family. You're ruining everything.
Since you blow the whole shit up by giving him problems AGAIN. Wait it out for few days. He probably hates you now. So wait.. for a few days or a week. And try again like how I said you should. And then wait maybe few more days. Dont expect immediate answer. He will need to make sure the coast is clear if he wants to interact with you.
If you cant do this.. i suggest you stay out and move on. There's no way you can ever force a mutable. We will rebel and run.
This double life thing can be for few months or years until things get better, so think carefully before you want to step into this..
that's why i am asking that i will make someone talk to him so that i will get to know the truths from his secretly, but ppl are telling me not to, and that i'll end up in jail if i try to do secret conversations with him
I just wrote a fucking long paragraph for you and you still dont understand anything??!!
STOP REACHING OUT, CALLING AND MAKING SOMEONE TALK TO HIM.
In which part of the idea of SECRET can you not understand?
If you make someone talk to him THEN IT'S NO LONGER A SECRET!
If he said he will call, DON'T CALL BEFORE HE CALLS. Get it?
WAIT FOR HIS CALL AND DONT CALL BEFORE HE CALLS
WAIT FOR HIS MESSAGE AND DONT MESSAGE BEFORE HE MESSAGES
He is the only one who knows when it's safe to call or message..
Send him in a few days what I said. AND DONT DO ANYTHING MORE. Just wait. It will take a few days.
What about yesterday's threats then? I poured my heart out about how much i was crying due to him and started pointing out his brother behaviour and i got a reply that i will block you, respect dangers, idk who sent that
Who the fuck told you to pour your heart? He doesnt care.. you really think he will fight for you in front of his family, now? 😆 you really think he will choose you?
Honey, hes not a cancer 😆 He's always in and out until he decides what he wants.
Whatever he has done or said to you are just lip service. To keep you there while hes making his mind up.
The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water.
If you dont want it, then leave. Dont do anything more. You wont get anything from him now. Not even a closure. Not even a sympathy. Nothing..
" The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water. "
I love to have a double life too. I am the same. But now things already got exposed, we can't have a double life and even if we want to be together, we should be only open because double life stage already crossed, he may choose me if communication happens between us, who knows? I believe in him. Once he said that he got me, it means he got me whenever i need him, i need him now and i need to let him know this, what should i do?
Yeah, i give up trying to make you understand.
Keep doing anything you want. Looking forward to more post about this guy being indirectly repulsed by you 🥂
Here, now for me, is necessary to know things from him because his family already started searching for me and is ready to give police complaint on me. I should definitely talk to him, even if it's not about love, at least about a solution for this situation, or else really i will end up in jail or have a restraining order got to me soon
I gave you the solution. Stay low for a while. Dont reach out. You will only have police coming to you IF you keep on trying to reach out to him.
And btw why does he need to provide you with solution?
You're the one terrorizing him with your calls and messages.
You are the one disturbing his family.
You are the one who keep disturbing him eventhough the family has warned you about restraining order.
You are the one digging your own grave.
And all of the sudden, he needs to save you from the consequences of your own doing?
You really like playing and being seen as a victim dont you? 😆
It's all YOU honey.. you got a lot of growing up to do.
As you said, I'm staying low for a while. After that, Can I reach him out through someone else and ask for the truth?
No. Dont involve someone else. The message tends to be blurry. Wait it out, stay low, and then message him apologizing and say you'll wait for him to initiate contact and you wont do anything else anymore.
Once the coast is clear and he feels safe, he will contact you. When he contact you, you can ask him the truth. And ask how you two move forward from here...
But the phone now is not with him I guess. Or else he would have clear things out instead of being rudely and meaninglessly replying to my msgs, and I doubt his brother is still using his phone and not giving him the phone because even if I'm telling him the words or situations he used to get angry with, the responses which I receive from his number are like not at all understanding my words or situations and just meaninglessly responding to my feelings whereas he used to meaningfully respond me earlier, so I doubt since his brother was rude to me always and also I said him in msg that I never meant to hurt you and I was always trying to understand your situations instead of judging u but I don't think you intentionally do these all to me just to make me feel bad, and I was just mentioning that I hated the way his brother spoke with me and scolded me, and I got a very harsh response, in fact proving that his brother maybe having his phone. I don't think he have his phone now, because I also blamed him for the things he didn't do, and he was not even trying to prove that he didn't do anything intentionally, the responses I received were like, he is not even caring about the blames I wrongly kept on him, and from this I can evaluate that his brother might have responded me, in this case I shouldn't message him that call me when everything is safe, because if it is his brother, he will not even allow him any secret ways and he will take precautions to not allow him any privacy, in which case I'll lose him permanently, and I don't want that! So I already splitted out a lot of previous secret things I tried conveying him on chat but I didn't get a reply for that, maybe his brother saw my messages, and he didn't reply, so I only have an option to involve someone else! I already messaged him I won't talk to him again in my last message, I messaged him block me, this will be the end, and I didn't message anything from that day, so if his brother uses his phone, he will think that my part of efforts are over to reach him out so that I can have a chance with any mutual friend and what do you think about this?click to expand
Why ask for opinions/advice when its replied with a “but” or not taking on board what people are offering?
It seems you already have all the answers 🥴
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@smiley_smiles
I think the last thread hit the maximum word count. I cant reply it.
So let me break this down to you, one last time
Since you cant comprehend a mutable's double life.
He wants to keep you a secret from his family, get it? He wants you to be his double life.
1 life where he's the good family boy and the other life where it's the total opposite.
That's why he wanted everything in his own terms. The calls and messages etc.
If you agree to this, it means you will need to know how to position yourself to be a secret. By not making a scene, by not announcing your relationship. You have to NOT BE SEEN and detected, understood? So, for fuck's sake, stop getting him in trouble with his family. You're ruining everything.
Since you blow the whole shit up by giving him problems AGAIN. Wait it out for few days. He probably hates you now. So wait.. for a few days or a week. And try again like how I said you should. And then wait maybe few more days. Dont expect immediate answer. He will need to make sure the coast is clear if he wants to interact with you.
If you cant do this.. i suggest you stay out and move on. There's no way you can ever force a mutable. We will rebel and run.
This double life thing can be for few months or years until things get better, so think carefully before you want to step into this..
that's why i am asking that i will make someone talk to him so that i will get to know the truths from his secretly, but ppl are telling me not to, and that i'll end up in jail if i try to do secret conversations with him
I just wrote a fucking long paragraph for you and you still dont understand anything??!!
STOP REACHING OUT, CALLING AND MAKING SOMEONE TALK TO HIM.
In which part of the idea of SECRET can you not understand?
If you make someone talk to him THEN IT'S NO LONGER A SECRET!
If he said he will call, DON'T CALL BEFORE HE CALLS. Get it?
WAIT FOR HIS CALL AND DONT CALL BEFORE HE CALLS
WAIT FOR HIS MESSAGE AND DONT MESSAGE BEFORE HE MESSAGES
He is the only one who knows when it's safe to call or message..
Send him in a few days what I said. AND DONT DO ANYTHING MORE. Just wait. It will take a few days.
What about yesterday's threats then? I poured my heart out about how much i was crying due to him and started pointing out his brother behaviour and i got a reply that i will block you, respect dangers, idk who sent that
Who the fuck told you to pour your heart? He doesnt care.. you really think he will fight for you in front of his family, now? 😆 you really think he will choose you?
Honey, hes not a cancer 😆 He's always in and out until he decides what he wants.
Whatever he has done or said to you are just lip service. To keep you there while hes making his mind up.
The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water.
If you dont want it, then leave. Dont do anything more. You wont get anything from him now. Not even a closure. Not even a sympathy. Nothing..
" The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water. "
I love to have a double life too. I am the same. But now things already got exposed, we can't have a double life and even if we want to be together, we should be only open because double life stage already crossed, he may choose me if communication happens between us, who knows? I believe in him. Once he said that he got me, it means he got me whenever i need him, i need him now and i need to let him know this, what should i do?
Yeah, i give up trying to make you understand.
Keep doing anything you want. Looking forward to more post about this guy being indirectly repulsed by you 🥂
Here, now for me, is necessary to know things from him because his family already started searching for me and is ready to give police complaint on me. I should definitely talk to him, even if it's not about love, at least about a solution for this situation, or else really i will end up in jail or have a restraining order got to me soon
I gave you the solution. Stay low for a while. Dont reach out. You will only have police coming to you IF you keep on trying to reach out to him.
And btw why does he need to provide you with solution?
You're the one terrorizing him with your calls and messages.
You are the one disturbing his family.
You are the one who keep disturbing him eventhough the family has warned you about restraining order.
You are the one digging your own grave.
And all of the sudden, he needs to save you from the consequences of your own doing?
You really like playing and being seen as a victim dont you? 😆
It's all YOU honey.. you got a lot of growing up to do.
As you said, I'm staying low for a while. After that, Can I reach him out through someone else and ask for the truth?
No. Dont involve someone else. The message tends to be blurry. Wait it out, stay low, and then message him apologizing and say you'll wait for him to initiate contact and you wont do anything else anymore.
Once the coast is clear and he feels safe, he will contact you. When he contact you, you can ask him the truth. And ask how you two move forward from here...
But the phone now is not with him I guess. Or else he would have clear things out instead of being rudely and meaninglessly replying to my msgs, and I doubt his brother is still using his phone and not giving him the phone because even if I'm telling him the words or situations he used to get angry with, the responses which I receive from his number are like not at all understanding my words or situations and just meaninglessly responding to my feelings whereas he used to meaningfully respond me earlier, so I doubt since his brother was rude to me always and also I said him in msg that I never meant to hurt you and I was always trying to understand your situations instead of judging u but I don't think you intentionally do these all to me just to make me feel bad, and I was just mentioning that I hated the way his brother spoke with me and scolded me, and I got a very harsh response, in fact proving that his brother maybe having his phone. I don't think he have his phone now, because I also blamed him for the things he didn't do, and he was not even trying to prove that he didn't do anything intentionally, the responses I received were like, he is not even caring about the blames I wrongly kept on him, and from this I can evaluate that his brother might have responded me, in this case I shouldn't message him that call me when everything is safe, because if it is his brother, he will not even allow him any secret ways and he will take precautions to not allow him any privacy, in which case I'll lose him permanently, and I don't want that! So I already splitted out a lot of previous secret things I tried conveying him on chat but I didn't get a reply for that, maybe his brother saw my messages, and he didn't reply, so I only have an option to involve someone else! I already messaged him I won't talk to him again in my last message, I messaged him block me, this will be the end, and I didn't message anything from that day, so if his brother uses his phone, he will think that my part of efforts are over to reach him out so that I can have a chance with any mutual friend and what do you think about this?
Why ask for opinions/advice when its replied with a “but” or not taking on board what people are offering?
It seems you already have all the answers 🥴click to expand
I'm just confused about my answers, and want a confirmation on whether I'm doing it the right way
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@smiley_smiles
I think the last thread hit the maximum word count. I cant reply it.
So let me break this down to you, one last time
Since you cant comprehend a mutable's double life.
He wants to keep you a secret from his family, get it? He wants you to be his double life.
1 life where he's the good family boy and the other life where it's the total opposite.
That's why he wanted everything in his own terms. The calls and messages etc.
If you agree to this, it means you will need to know how to position yourself to be a secret. By not making a scene, by not announcing your relationship. You have to NOT BE SEEN and detected, understood? So, for fuck's sake, stop getting him in trouble with his family. You're ruining everything.
Since you blow the whole shit up by giving him problems AGAIN. Wait it out for few days. He probably hates you now. So wait.. for a few days or a week. And try again like how I said you should. And then wait maybe few more days. Dont expect immediate answer. He will need to make sure the coast is clear if he wants to interact with you.
If you cant do this.. i suggest you stay out and move on. There's no way you can ever force a mutable. We will rebel and run.
This double life thing can be for few months or years until things get better, so think carefully before you want to step into this..
that's why i am asking that i will make someone talk to him so that i will get to know the truths from his secretly, but ppl are telling me not to, and that i'll end up in jail if i try to do secret conversations with him
I just wrote a fucking long paragraph for you and you still dont understand anything??!!
STOP REACHING OUT, CALLING AND MAKING SOMEONE TALK TO HIM.
In which part of the idea of SECRET can you not understand?
If you make someone talk to him THEN IT'S NO LONGER A SECRET!
If he said he will call, DON'T CALL BEFORE HE CALLS. Get it?
WAIT FOR HIS CALL AND DONT CALL BEFORE HE CALLS
WAIT FOR HIS MESSAGE AND DONT MESSAGE BEFORE HE MESSAGES
He is the only one who knows when it's safe to call or message..
Send him in a few days what I said. AND DONT DO ANYTHING MORE. Just wait. It will take a few days.
What about yesterday's threats then? I poured my heart out about how much i was crying due to him and started pointing out his brother behaviour and i got a reply that i will block you, respect dangers, idk who sent that
Who the fuck told you to pour your heart? He doesnt care.. you really think he will fight for you in front of his family, now? 😆 you really think he will choose you?
Honey, hes not a cancer 😆 He's always in and out until he decides what he wants.
Whatever he has done or said to you are just lip service. To keep you there while hes making his mind up.
The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water.
If you dont want it, then leave. Dont do anything more. You wont get anything from him now. Not even a closure. Not even a sympathy. Nothing..
" The idea of this double life is that youre also allowed to have him as your double life. It's an arrangement for convenience. And to test if this relationship is worth to fight for or not. He hasnt make a decision yet about anything. He wants to test the water. "
I love to have a double life too. I am the same. But now things already got exposed, we can't have a double life and even if we want to be together, we should be only open because double life stage already crossed, he may choose me if communication happens between us, who knows? I believe in him. Once he said that he got me, it means he got me whenever i need him, i need him now and i need to let him know this, what should i do?
Yeah, i give up trying to make you understand.
Keep doing anything you want. Looking forward to more post about this guy being indirectly repulsed by you 🥂
Here, now for me, is necessary to know things from him because his family already started searching for me and is ready to give police complaint on me. I should definitely talk to him, even if it's not about love, at least about a solution for this situation, or else really i will end up in jail or have a restraining order got to me soon
I gave you the solution. Stay low for a while. Dont reach out. You will only have police coming to you IF you keep on trying to reach out to him.
And btw why does he need to provide you with solution?
You're the one terrorizing him with your calls and messages.
You are the one disturbing his family.
You are the one who keep disturbing him eventhough the family has warned you about restraining order.
You are the one digging your own grave.
And all of the sudden, he needs to save you from the consequences of your own doing?
You really like playing and being seen as a victim dont you? 😆
It's all YOU honey.. you got a lot of growing up to do.
As you said, I'm staying low for a while. After that, Can I reach him out through someone else and ask for the truth?
No. Dont involve someone else. The message tends to be blurry. Wait it out, stay low, and then message him apologizing and say you'll wait for him to initiate contact and you wont do anything else anymore.
Once the coast is clear and he feels safe, he will contact you. When he contact you, you can ask him the truth. And ask how you two move forward from here...
But the phone now is not with him I guess. Or else he would have clear things out instead of being rudely and meaninglessly replying to my msgs, and I doubt his brother is still using his phone and not giving him the phone because even if I'm telling him the words or situations he used to get angry with, the responses which I receive from his number are like not at all understanding my words or situations and just meaninglessly responding to my feelings whereas he used to meaningfully respond me earlier, so I doubt since his brother was rude to me always and also I said him in msg that I never meant to hurt you and I was always trying to understand your situations instead of judging u but I don't think you intentionally do these all to me just to make me feel bad, and I was just mentioning that I hated the way his brother spoke with me and scolded me, and I got a very harsh response, in fact proving that his brother maybe having his phone. I don't think he have his phone now, because I also blamed him for the things he didn't do, and he was not even trying to prove that he didn't do anything intentionally, the responses I received were like, he is not even caring about the blames I wrongly kept on him, and from this I can evaluate that his brother might have responded me, in this case I shouldn't message him that call me when everything is safe, because if it is his brother, he will not even allow him any secret ways and he will take precautions to not allow him any privacy, in which case I'll lose him permanently, and I don't want that! So I already splitted out a lot of previous secret things I tried conveying him on chat but I didn't get a reply for that, maybe his brother saw my messages, and he didn't reply, so I only have an option to involve someone else! I already messaged him I won't talk to him again in my last message, I messaged him block me, this will be the end, and I didn't message anything from that day, so if his brother uses his phone, he will think that my part of efforts are over to reach him out so that I can have a chance with any mutual friend and what do you think about this?
Why ask for opinions/advice when its replied with a “but” or not taking on board what people are offering?
It seems you already have all the answers 🥴click to expand
I took Sagoxa's advice to stay low for a while
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@smiley_smiles
Here's the thing. You need to get how sweet he was handling you in the past, out of your head. Virgo is a mutable sign. He has 2 or maybe more sides of him that you havent seen. You have only seen 1 side of him last year.
That's why I laughed when you said the pisces man was sweet etc, pisces is a mutable sign too. You havent seen his other sides as well.
You really need to look for other signs than mutables. We will drive you crazy because you can not adapt to our ever changing natures. But the phone now is not with him I guess. Or else he would have clear things out instead of being rudely and meaninglessly replying to my msgs
Wrong. He sees you as a trouble now. You got him into trouble with his family. In his head it is better to avoid you. Virgo arent the most communicative sign. You have to look at their actions instead of their words.
Right now he is enjoying his peace and judging by his actions, he would like to keep it that way.
I dont see him reaching out to you, unless you are capable to prove to him you will not cause him anymore trouble. Virgo is an earth sign. Although they like drama sometimes but these type of drama that jeopardizes his security, livelihood and family is too much for him.I was just mentioning that I hated the way his brother spoke with me and scolded me, and I got a very harsh response, in fact proving that his brother maybe..
Wrong again. You attacked his brother of course he will defend him. That is him talking, not his brother.
I dont care if you think he shouldve defended you instead etc. He has his own emotions and priority, get it? It's not just about you and your emotions.
Right now, you're not his priority. His family is. He would rather lose you than his family. And that is HIS RIGHTS. You cant control what he wants. You can only control yourself.He will not even allow him any secret ways and he will take precautions to not allow him any privacy
Wrong again. You are under estimating a virgo's intelligence and sneakiness. Virgo is one of the smartest sign. If he wants to be discreet or seek loopholes, he can.
Seeing that he doesnt do it with you, it means he has no desire of being in contact with you.
Involving a mutual friend will only piss him off even more.
Wait for 1 more week or, 1 month is better. And then message him. You're a cancer, you know how to message people eventhough they've blocked you 😆 so use your cancer's way.
Btw, do me a favor and read this 2 or 3 times before replying. I hate repeating the same answer.
I didn't attack his brother. I told him that I'm feeling very bad for the way his brother scolded me. I told him that I never meant to hurt him but understand him. Last time too when I messaged him his brother saw all my messages and asked me why am I so bothered about him and why am I distracting his studies. He told that he is getting frustrated and what's going on. And he told that he is not saying his brother anything about me when he asked. I asked his brother to give him the phone, and he said that he will not let him talk to me. I asked multiple times, and he gave it that too under his supervision only that too to know what's going on between us, and while this virgo man was talking to me, he spoke to me very affectionately and I asked him whether I'm bothering him and should I stop talking to him and he said that his brother was very mad at him and scolding him due to me. He said no nothing like that, u can talk to me but don't msg or call me as yourself, get it? So, I asked if he only calls. He said yes, I'll talk to you later, and I'll message you about that. But when he was saying this, his brother was beside of him and was scolding him that Is she your gf?? Multiple times. He immediately cutted the call saying can I cut the call? And as scoldings were becoming intense from his brother, he immediately cutted and I got this msg of 'Plz never ever call me or msg me' I was like shocked! What happened? So, I lashed out in anger, his phone was switched off. My messages delivered next day when his phone was switched on, but he didn't see any of those! Maybe it was his brother and maybe he was not interested to read. I messaged his brother that I will not talk to him even if he wants to talk to me and I also told him that if his brother doesn't want me to talk with him, I will permanently stop talking with him, and that I'm cutting off with him. His brother seen that message. He didn't reply me. Then following few days, I stayed silent. Didn't message or call him. But few days ago, with full anger, I messaged him I hate you a lot which followed up with these harsh responses. I gave him all the reasons about why I sent his brother the message because I didn't wanted him to get in trouble, this and that. I told him all the reasons. My messages were seen, no reply. I don't know if it's his bro who saw. I also scolded him for the things he didn't do. This clearly says that it's his brother. Because if it's him, he would have understood how much I was hurting and would have comforted me like earlier. But no, harshly responded me. I will find out the truth anyways. I don't trust his brother
Posted by Sagoxa
@smiley_smiles
Here's the thing. You need to get how sweet he was handling you in the past, out of your head. Virgo is a mutable sign. He has 2 or maybe more sides of him that you havent seen. You have only seen 1 side of him last year.
That's why I laughed when you said the pisces man was sweet etc, pisces is a mutable sign too. You havent seen his other sides as well.
You really need to look for other signs than mutables. We will drive you crazy because you can not adapt to our ever changing natures. But the phone now is not with him I guess. Or else he would have clear things out instead of being rudely and meaninglessly replying to my msgs
Wrong. He sees you as a trouble now. You got him into trouble with his family. In his head it is better to avoid you. Virgo arent the most communicative sign. You have to look at their actions instead of their words.
Right now he is enjoying his peace and judging by his actions, he would like to keep it that way.
I dont see him reaching out to you, unless you are capable to prove to him you will not cause him anymore trouble. Virgo is an earth sign. Although they like drama sometimes but these type of drama that jeopardizes his security, livelihood and family is too much for him.I was just mentioning that I hated the way his brother spoke with me and scolded me, and I got a very harsh response, in fact proving that his brother maybe..
Wrong again. You attacked his brother of course he will defend him. That is him talking, not his brother.
I dont care if you think he shouldve defended you instead etc. He has his own emotions and priority, get it? It's not just about you and your emotions.
Right now, you're not his priority. His family is. He would rather lose you than his family. And that is HIS RIGHTS. You cant control what he wants. You can only control yourself.He will not even allow him any secret ways and he will take precautions to not allow him any privacy
Wrong again. You are under estimating a virgo's intelligence and sneakiness. Virgo is one of the smartest sign. If he wants to be discreet or seek loopholes, he can.
Seeing that he doesnt do it with you, it means he has no desire of being in contact with you.
Involving a mutual friend will only piss him off even more.
Wait for 1 more week or, 1 month is better. And then message him. You're a cancer, you know how to message people eventhough they've blocked you 😆 so use your cancer's way.
Btw, do me a favor and read this 2 or 3 times before replying. I hate repeating the same answer.
There's a saying that "Sometimes what didn't work out for you, really worked out for you😍" What about that?
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Here's the thing. You need to get how sweet he was handling you in the past, out of your head. Virgo is a mutable sign. He has 2 or maybe more sides of him that you havent seen. You have only seen 1 side of him last year.
That's why I laughed when you said the pisces man was sweet etc, pisces is a mutable sign too. You havent seen his other sides as well.
You really need to look for other signs than mutables. We will drive you crazy because you can not adapt to our ever changing natures. But the phone now is not with him I guess. Or else he would have clear things out instead of being rudely and meaninglessly replying to my msgs
Wrong. He sees you as a trouble now. You got him into trouble with his family. In his head it is better to avoid you. Virgo arent the most communicative sign. You have to look at their actions instead of their words.
Right now he is enjoying his peace and judging by his actions, he would like to keep it that way.
I dont see him reaching out to you, unless you are capable to prove to him you will not cause him anymore trouble. Virgo is an earth sign. Although they like drama sometimes but these type of drama that jeopardizes his security, livelihood and family is too much for him.I was just mentioning that I hated the way his brother spoke with me and scolded me, and I got a very harsh response, in fact proving that his brother maybe..
Wrong again. You attacked his brother of course he will defend him. That is him talking, not his brother.
I dont care if you think he shouldve defended you instead etc. He has his own emotions and priority, get it? It's not just about you and your emotions.
Right now, you're not his priority. His family is. He would rather lose you than his family. And that is HIS RIGHTS. You cant control what he wants. You can only control yourself.He will not even allow him any secret ways and he will take precautions to not allow him any privacy
Wrong again. You are under estimating a virgo's intelligence and sneakiness. Virgo is one of the smartest sign. If he wants to be discreet or seek loopholes, he can.
Seeing that he doesnt do it with you, it means he has no desire of being in contact with you.
Involving a mutual friend will only piss him off even more.
Wait for 1 more week or, 1 month is better. And then message him. You're a cancer, you know how to message people eventhough they've blocked you 😆 so use your cancer's way.
Btw, do me a favor and read this 2 or 3 times before replying. I hate repeating the same answer.
There's a saying that "Sometimes what didn't work out for you, really worked out for you😍" What about that?
Huh?click to expand
It means that even though, as it is seeming like not yet worked, it already worked out, in the sense, he loves me, their family understood his feelings on me, his brother understood, so they are not letting him use his phone or connect with me
Posted by SagoxaPosted by smiley_smilesPosted by Sagoxa
@smiley_smiles
Here's the thing. You need to get how sweet he was handling you in the past, out of your head. Virgo is a mutable sign. He has 2 or maybe more sides of him that you havent seen. You have only seen 1 side of him last year.
That's why I laughed when you said the pisces man was sweet etc, pisces is a mutable sign too. You havent seen his other sides as well.
You really need to look for other signs than mutables. We will drive you crazy because you can not adapt to our ever changing natures. But the phone now is not with him I guess. Or else he would have clear things out instead of being rudely and meaninglessly replying to my msgs
Wrong. He sees you as a trouble now. You got him into trouble with his family. In his head it is better to avoid you. Virgo arent the most communicative sign. You have to look at their actions instead of their words.
Right now he is enjoying his peace and judging by his actions, he would like to keep it that way.
I dont see him reaching out to you, unless you are capable to prove to him you will not cause him anymore trouble. Virgo is an earth sign. Although they like drama sometimes but these type of drama that jeopardizes his security, livelihood and family is too much for him.I was just mentioning that I hated the way his brother spoke with me and scolded me, and I got a very harsh response, in fact proving that his brother maybe..
Wrong again. You attacked his brother of course he will defend him. That is him talking, not his brother.
I dont care if you think he shouldve defended you instead etc. He has his own emotions and priority, get it? It's not just about you and your emotions.
Right now, you're not his priority. His family is. He would rather lose you than his family. And that is HIS RIGHTS. You cant control what he wants. You can only control yourself.He will not even allow him any secret ways and he will take precautions to not allow him any privacy
Wrong again. You are under estimating a virgo's intelligence and sneakiness. Virgo is one of the smartest sign. If he wants to be discreet or seek loopholes, he can.
Seeing that he doesnt do it with you, it means he has no desire of being in contact with you.
Involving a mutual friend will only piss him off even more.
Wait for 1 more week or, 1 month is better. And then message him. You're a cancer, you know how to message people eventhough they've blocked you 😆 so use your cancer's way.
Btw, do me a favor and read this 2 or 3 times before replying. I hate repeating the same answer.
I didn't attack his brother. I told him that I'm feeling very bad for the way his brother scolded me. I told him that I never meant to hurt him but understand him. Last time too when I messaged him his brother saw all my messages and asked me why am I so bothered about him and why am I distracting his studies. He told that he is getting frustrated and what's going on. And he told that he is not saying his brother anything about me when he asked. I asked his brother to give him the phone, and he said that he will not let him talk to me. I asked multiple times, and he gave it that too under his supervision only that too to know what's going on between us, and while this virgo man was talking to me, he spoke to me very affectionately and I asked him whether I'm bothering him and should I stop talking to him and he said that his brother was very mad at him and scolding him due to me. He said no nothing like that, u can talk to me but don't msg or call me as yourself, get it? So, I asked if he only calls. He said yes, I'll talk to you later, and I'll message you about that. But when he was saying this, his brother was beside of him and was scolding him that Is she your gf?? Multiple times. He immediately cutted the call saying can I cut the call? And as scoldings were becoming intense from his brother, he immediately cutted and I got this msg of 'Plz never ever call me or msg me' I was like shocked! What happened? So, I lashed out in anger, his phone was switched off. My messages delivered next day when his phone was switched on, but he didn't see any of those! Maybe it was his brother and maybe he was not interested to read. I messaged his brother that I will not talk to him even if he wants to talk to me and I also told him that if his brother doesn't want me to talk with him, I will permanently stop talking with him, ans that I'm cutting off with him. His brother seen that message. He didn't reply me. Then following few days, I stayed silent. Didn't message or call him. But few days ago, with full anger, I messaged him I hate you a lot which followed up with these harsh responses. I gave him all the reasons about why I sent his brother the message because I didn't wanted him to get in trouble, this and that. I told him all the reasons. My messages were seen, no reply. I don't know if it's his bro who saw. I also scolded him for the things he didn't do. This clearly says that it's his brother. Because if it's him, he would have understood how much I was hurting and would have comforted me like earlier. But no, harshly responded me. I will find out the truth anyways. I don't trust his brother
"This clearly says that it's his brother. Because if it's him, he would have understood how much I was hurting and would have comforted me like earlier."
You expect a virgo to emotionally comfort you, really? 🤣
You come to a virgo for opinions, solution and an earthy perspective, not emotional comfort 😆
If he did that earlier it was pure lip service. They're pretty good at that. But that's not the real them 🤣
Why isnt he doing it anymore? Because he doesnt want to. Why? I explained it on my previous post. I'm not going to repeat my words.
Geez, you need a lot to learn about virgo. You got and understand everything wrong.
You're hanging on and hopeful for only 1 side of him. Didnt i tell you they have multiple sides? 😅
I know virgos for almost 15 years now both friends and romantic.. you really understand everything wrong.
And no, i dont want to hear what you think he's feeling and doing and the story behind it. It's very obvious i understand him better than you at this point.
You're hanging on to 1 part/side of him. Completely oblivious that he can change. He's a MUTABLE. He will always change.click to expand
"You expect a virgo to emotionally comfort you, really?"
He was actually happy seeing me emotional and he loved it and he even made me more emotional by his deeply affectionate replies. And he did it through his heart and I felt it❤️
He did it earlier. Maybe even if it's a lip service, he was happy doing it, for me❤️ it shows his loving nature. His words were really like coming from heart. I felt trueness in his words. I felt a great deal of affection in his way of talking. I was actually crying and he was even more comforting me with his words and telling me not to worry. He earlier told that he got me, and when I got this doubt too, when I made his friend ask him for the first time, he told that his family is not letting him use his phone on the name of the word study. But now that his family openly asked him about me and he was speechless saying nothing about me and that he don't know me, they were thinking that we have something going on, so maybe he is hiding and his brother was scolding him a lot. Something was going on his side, so all my messages were being read by his brother. Or it may even be a shared phone due to which he may went into problem. But something lined up, due to which he was unable to connect with me earlier, and suddenly his brother called me and scolded me a lot, followed by he fearing his bro and his bro beating/ scolding him. I don't feel he is changed. If he really changed, he wouldn't have taken me back when I went back to him after breaking his heart. He still showered me with love for 8 days at starting, after which family's involvement came in between, which parted us and got me to these situations, and got these many problems for him and me, I love him so much, I still love him, and I still want him back, maybe he is losing his hope, but I want to give him that hope back by reappearing in privacied ways through a mutual like I did for the first time. And he said me not to call or msg him because his brother was giving me warnings of police and restraining order. He just didn't wanted me to go jail for him, so he was afraid of his brother trying to ruin my life in the ways of police, etc. He told me to not call, since his brother is handling the phone and maybe he also gave him the same warning that he'll hand me up to the police if he continues with me, but in reality, his brother don't have a right for that, and he needs to understand this, and his brother don't have any right to break us, because we both are majors who are capable of taking individual decisions, so I need to step up for him, and let him know that I feel the same for him and also ask him about what's happening and what he feels about me. I just need to give him a chance to open up to me, through a friend
Where is his Moon?
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Yeah i didnt read the whole thing of what you replied to me. My earth sign mercury cant handle how unneat, delusional, illogical and ungrounded it is.
I have provided you with solutions and explanation. You wanted to understand a virgo, I understand them well and have explained it to you and provided you with solutions as well. As far as i'm concerned, i've got nothing else to offer.
If you're looking for someone to feed you more on only what you want to see to fit the imagination and scenario in your head, i'm not that person. Go find someone else.
Come to me for a grounded, practical, realistic, present and future oriented things. Anything other than that i will not entertain anymore
yeah, I got your point but the thing is that I'm a cancer girl and sees things with emotions more than others. So, I saw emotions in him too once, that was when I called him. He was getting completely excited talking to me, and was very affectionate. But, after this his brother came who stopped the things going on between us, I don't know what happened on his side still, but I guess something very big. As he said his friend, his family was not letting him use his phone. I know only proper info till this point. After that, I'm still unsure of what happened. Few days later, his brother called me and scolded me harshly. And that was the time when I listened virgo man's words of telling me how much his brother was angry at him. And he was talking very fearfully, and I still don't know how things are going on his side now. Still clueless. Need someone's help in talking to him and asking things out. This is the only way for me to know his feelings properly. All other ways are fishy, don't know who is seeing my messages, who is replying. Maybe I'll get a clarity if I involve a mutual friend in this. I will ask someone to. Because, without clarity, everything is an assumption. And ending things with him with an understanding will be better than to end it with a misunderstanding!
If I'm lucky, it may even be a beautiful start of our relationship
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