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Honestly, personal trainers are meant to piss you off.
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooDoing personal training classes with a female I trained with back in 2010.
Started up sessions. First sesh I was struggling with sit ups, she ‘playfully’ slaps my leg and says ‘my God blah blah, when was the last time you did sit ups blah blah’.
Verdict on this playful slapping and butter? When you barely know the person. Violation of your personal space?
It's called MOTIVATION! Later on she will see (and you) the results and you WON'T look back!
DUH NO PAIN NO GAIN! (or constructive criticism; same diff)
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by CoochiecoochiecooDoing personal training classes with a female I trained with back in 2010.
Started up sessions. First sesh I was struggling with sit ups, she ‘playfully’ slaps my leg and says ‘my God blah blah, when was the last time you did sit ups blah blah’.
Verdict on this playful slapping and butter? When you barely know the person. Violation of your personal space?
It's called MOTIVATION! Later on she will see (and you) the results and you WON'T look back!
DUH NO PAIN NO GAIN! (or constructive criticism; same diff)
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
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No the constructive criticism isn’t a problem.
It is the slapping my leg in jest. The physical act.
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by CoochiecoochiecooDoing personal training classes with a female I trained with back in 2010.
Started up sessions. First sesh I was struggling with sit ups, she ‘playfully’ slaps my leg and says ‘my God blah blah, when was the last time you did sit ups blah blah’.
Verdict on this playful slapping and butter? When you barely know the person. Violation of your personal space?
It's called MOTIVATION! Later on she will see (and you) the results and you WON'T look back!
DUH NO PAIN NO GAIN! (or constructive criticism; same diff)
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
No the constructive criticism isn’t a problem.
It is the slapping my leg in jest. The physical act.
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He/she is a TRAINER
(nagging DXP Member: I went to a cooking class and the chef came by and tasted my soup!)...I FUCKING GIVE UP
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
Posted by tizianiPosted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by tizianiEveryone has different boundaries, but it's physical training and I'd expect physical contact.
I would like to clarify this for the millionth time to everyone. I do NOT mind being touched. Having my leg moved or arm moved. Having them help me stretch. That sort of physical contact is absolutely fine.
I don’t like being slapped on the leg though as it felt as though they were trying to be too familiar and crossing the bounds of professionalism.
I don't see what that has to do with my post to be real lol
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Really? You’re speaking about physical contact and I’m responding with how physical contact conducive to training is fine.
Not banter and over familiarity that is external of the training.
Posted by EvatheDiva52Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by EvatheDiva52Posted by CoochiecoochiecooDoing personal training classes with a female I trained with back in 2010.
Started up sessions. First sesh I was struggling with sit ups, she ‘playfully’ slaps my leg and says ‘my God blah blah, when was the last time you did sit ups blah blah’.
Verdict on this playful slapping and butter? When you barely know the person. Violation of your personal space?
It's called MOTIVATION! Later on she will see (and you) the results and you WON'T look back!
DUH NO PAIN NO GAIN! (or constructive criticism; same diff)
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
No the constructive criticism isn’t a problem.
It is the slapping my leg in jest. The physical act.
He/she is a TRAINER
(nagging DXP Member: I went to a cooking class and the chef came by and tasted my soup!)...I FUCKING GIVE UP
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
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I see.
Posted by tizianiYou already clarified what you don't like about it pages ago and I think the best advice you got is just tell her so she knows.
I'm just saying my expections going into the boxing gym are im going to be making contact.
Ok but we weren’t boxing.
Different form of physical training entirely. The approach, modes and methods will be different.
Had I been boxing with this woman, I’d expect to get hit and to hit back.
From what I've seen, it's a style /strategy that some of them use to motivate people, and they don't usually mean to put the person down in a serious way. I don't need that strategy to have motivation with exercise -- I've always been almost freakishly self motivated -- but some people seem to respond well to it. If I detected that they were genuinely putting me down, that would be a problem, otherwise I would just see it as a strategy that isn't my thing and I might say something if they kept doing it, to let them know it isn't my thing.
Posted by OoopsAre you more mad that you had trouble doing a situp and she brought attention to it while slapping you? Or just the slap?
She sounds like a good trainer tbh.
No I couldn’t care less about the sit up comment. I know my muscles are fucked right now.
It’s just the slap. Unnecessary and I hope it wasn’t her putting me down or trying to assert anything.
Posted by CopperDoveFrom what I've seen, it's a style /strategy that some of them use to motivate people, and they don't usually mean to put the person down in a serious way. I don't need that strategy to have motivation with exercise -- I've always been almost freakishly self motivated -- but some people seem to respond well to it. If I detected that they were genuinely putting me down, that would be a problem, otherwise I would just see it as a strategy that isn't my thing and I might say something if they kept doing it, to let them know it isn't my thing.
Brilliant advice as always. This is why I love speaking with you ❤️
If it continued, how would you address it? What’s the best course of action?
Posted by gemNiIs finding another trainer out of reach for you?
I could use another trainer at the same centre.
But then she will sense it either way.
Posted by gemNiPosted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by gemNiIs finding another trainer out of reach for you?
I could use another trainer at the same centre.
But then she will sense it either way.
Toss out what you think and or sense that traininer will feel. You both barely know each other. Your sole reason for being there is only for you. If this early on in training makes you this uncomfortable then address it directly to her so she can recorrect her style of stance or move on to another traininer.
Why would you think the traininer will take it personal?
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Ooh I like the way you’ve asserted that it shouldn’t matter what she thinks as I barely know her. That’s very true. I totally agree that I shouldn’t be so concerned with what she thinks.
I am paying a tonne of money as well. Which makes it worse. I think she might get offended because she’s senior and I’d said I’d do the next session with her. Also because I trained with her years ago (few sessions only) and she seems to think there’s some informal relationship between the two of us.
Posted by HeartofTopazzI’d probably follow her home and wait until she’s asleep then crawl in her window and slap her back... right in the nettles
I’ll slap her lips right off.
Then I’ll shart inside her mouth.
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooWell I don’t want her to become too familiar. I want her to stay with in her boundaries and stay professional with me.
Also to reiterate to you all it wasn’t a tap, it was a slap on the leg. Not a touch but with a little force behind it.
Little force? 😱Woman is the savage! None of us is safe until she is locked up! Why haven’t you still pressed charges? Are you waiting for something BAD to happen? Really...your procrastination can be considered as neglect and you’ll be locked up with her in a same cell...
Boy! Imagine what she is going to do to you...🤦♀️
Posted by KoniI think you are overreacting. I don’t like being touched by people I’m not close too, but this situation is understandable
Say something if it bothers you that much, but it might make the situation awkward going forward
How about those pesky pervs OBGYNs? OMG! They actually have nerve to touch our vajinas and getting away with that...NOW after this post I am finding it highly inappropriate. I am refusing taking my panties off next visit! And if he insists - to Jail he goes...shameless mirherfkr! 👿
Some dumb motherfucker keeps posting on this thread whom I’ve definitely blocked. The time stamp keeps changing but no posts.
Continue having a conversation with yourself. As long as it feeds the neurosis.
Posted by HeartofTopazzPosted by GemitatiPosted by CoochiecoochiecooWell I don’t want her to become too familiar. I want her to stay with in her boundaries and stay professional with me.
Also to reiterate to you all it wasn’t a tap, it was a slap on the leg. Not a touch but with a little force behind it.
Little force? 😱Woman is the savage! None of us is safe until she is locked up! Why haven’t you still pressed charges? Are you waiting for something BAD to happen? Really...your procrastination can be considered as neglect and you’ll be locked up with her in a same cell...
Boy! Imagine what she is going to do to you...🤦♀️
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Nice try! I’ll hild you and next I know the thread with my name will appear...’Gemitati held me by actually touching my sholders! Like there is no way to hold a person without actually touching them!’ I don’t need to be shamed like that! 😝
Posted by MademoiselleFiskPosted by PowerDonutPosted by CoochiecoochiecooDoing personal training classes with a female I trained with back in 2010.
Started up sessions. First sesh I was struggling with sit ups, she ‘playfully’ slaps my leg and says ‘my God blah blah, when was the last time you did sit ups blah blah’.
Verdict on this playful slapping and butter? When you barely know the person. Violation of your personal space?
How will a female spot you?
Females is it possible to spot a male? Say he lifts 200 squats 400
lmao. OP is a dude? I didn't know...
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well it was obvious
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by ACsquareplutoEven when I'm well-acquainted with the person I consider them to practice poor judgment when they slap me to get my attention. That, or they lack respect for me to some degree
If you continue to see her I would tell her not to do it again
See this is what I mean. Two extremely opposing opinions, one on top of another. I didn’t like it because it had nothing to do with the training itself. It was more like a ‘ugh wtf, you should be able to do sit ups without struggling’ and then a little giggle after. I don’t like people slapping for attention or to be playful.
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yeah i get this and looks like you guys got diff't personalities. From my opinion it's not a good fit and i wouldn't waste any more money training w her.
I'm also one of those "serious-mode" workout people so I don't like a lot of joking during training. this is purely a personality/preference thing and makes a huge deal when choosing a trainer.
Posted by TxOgalPosted by MademoiselleFiskPosted by PowerDonutPosted by CoochiecoochiecooDoing personal training classes with a female I trained with back in 2010.
Started up sessions. First sesh I was struggling with sit ups, she ‘playfully’ slaps my leg and says ‘my God blah blah, when was the last time you did sit ups blah blah’.
Verdict on this playful slapping and butter? When you barely know the person. Violation of your personal space?
How will a female spot you?
Females is it possible to spot a male? Say he lifts 200 squats 400
lmao. OP is a dude? I didn't know...
well it was obvious
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I’m a woman
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by ACsquareplutoEven when I'm well-acquainted with the person I consider them to practice poor judgment when they slap me to get my attention. That, or they lack respect for me to some degree
If you continue to see her I would tell her not to do it again
See this is what I mean. Two extremely opposing opinions, one on top of another. I didn’t like it because it had nothing to do with the training itself. It was more like a ‘ugh wtf, you should be able to do sit ups without struggling’ and then a little giggle after. I don’t like people slapping for attention or to be playful.
yeah i get this and looks like you guys got diff't personalities. From my opinion it's not a good fit and i wouldn't waste any more money training w her.
I'm also one of those "serious-mode" workout people so I don't like a lot of joking during training. this is purely a personality/preference thing and makes a huge deal when choosing a trainer.
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Thank you for this.
Perhaps I should just seek another trainer at the same centre?
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by ACsquareplutoEven when I'm well-acquainted with the person I consider them to practice poor judgment when they slap me to get my attention. That, or they lack respect for me to some degree
If you continue to see her I would tell her not to do it again
See this is what I mean. Two extremely opposing opinions, one on top of another. I didn’t like it because it had nothing to do with the training itself. It was more like a ‘ugh wtf, you should be able to do sit ups without struggling’ and then a little giggle after. I don’t like people slapping for attention or to be playful.
yeah i get this and looks like you guys got diff't personalities. From my opinion it's not a good fit and i wouldn't waste any more money training w her.
I'm also one of those "serious-mode" workout people so I don't like a lot of joking during training. this is purely a personality/preference thing and makes a huge deal when choosing a trainer.
Thank you for this.
Perhaps I should just seek another trainer at the same centre?
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Yes 100% . I had this issue w a trainer and the longer you let it go on, the more awkward it gets.
yo wassup
did someone assault your cellulite today? I need to know
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by TxOgalPosted by MademoiselleFiskPosted by PowerDonutPosted by CoochiecoochiecooDoing personal training classes with a female I trained with back in 2010.
Started up sessions. First sesh I was struggling with sit ups, she ‘playfully’ slaps my leg and says ‘my God blah blah, when was the last time you did sit ups blah blah’.
Verdict on this playful slapping and butter? When you barely know the person. Violation of your personal space?
How will a female spot you?
Females is it possible to spot a male? Say he lifts 200 squats 400
lmao. OP is a dude? I didn't know...
well it was obvious
I’m a woman
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Oh that's great, I'm a woman too
How do you do fellow woman?
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by CopperDoveFrom what I've seen, it's a style /strategy that some of them use to motivate people, and they don't usually mean to put the person down in a serious way. I don't need that strategy to have motivation with exercise -- I've always been almost freakishly self motivated -- but some people seem to respond well to it. If I detected that they were genuinely putting me down, that would be a problem, otherwise I would just see it as a strategy that isn't my thing and I might say something if they kept doing it, to let them know it isn't my thing.
Brilliant advice as always. This is why I love speaking with you ❤️
If it continued, how would you address it? What’s the best course of action?
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:-)
I can imagine that you might feel annoyed if she does it again, so I'd say do your best to put the irritation you feel in the moment aside -- resist the urge to slap her really hard back, in other words, haha - and giving her the benefit of the doubt tell her something like, "I appreciate you helping me, but please don't slap me, I'm not comfortable with that."
Posted by LaMadrinai read things wrong and have quick reflexes. iwould have grabbed and squeezed her hand very hard looking into her eyes saying don't touch me. like i often do with idiots. i don't like strangers touching me period. playful my ass.
Yeah but everyone here seems to think it’s over sensitivity.
Posted by CopperDovePosted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by CopperDoveFrom what I've seen, it's a style /strategy that some of them use to motivate people, and they don't usually mean to put the person down in a serious way. I don't need that strategy to have motivation with exercise -- I've always been almost freakishly self motivated -- but some people seem to respond well to it. If I detected that they were genuinely putting me down, that would be a problem, otherwise I would just see it as a strategy that isn't my thing and I might say something if they kept doing it, to let them know it isn't my thing.
Brilliant advice as always. This is why I love speaking with you ❤️
If it continued, how would you address it? What’s the best course of action?
:-)
I can imagine that you might feel annoyed if she does it again, so I'd say do your best to put the irritation you feel in the moment aside -- resist the urge to slap her really hard back, in other words, haha - and giving her the benefit of the doubt tell her something like, "I appreciate you helping me, but please don't slap me, I'm not comfortable with that."
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Posted by hydorahyo wassup
did someone assault your cellulite today? I need to know
😂😂😂😂😂😂
I hope nobody will think you know about cellulite because you saw it on ME! 🤦♀️
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by LaMadrinai read things wrong and have quick reflexes. iwould have grabbed and squeezed her hand very hard looking into her eyes saying don't touch me. like i often do with idiots. i don't like strangers touching me period. playful my ass.
Yeah but everyone here seems to think it’s over sensitivity.
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She said she would slap trainer back...not come and post this shit here and keep talking about it when 90% respondents simply ridiculed your ass! 🤷♀️
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by ACsquareplutoEven when I'm well-acquainted with the person I consider them to practice poor judgment when they slap me to get my attention. That, or they lack respect for me to some degree
If you continue to see her I would tell her not to do it again
See this is what I mean. Two extremely opposing opinions, one on top of another. I didn’t like it because it had nothing to do with the training itself. It was more like a ‘ugh wtf, you should be able to do sit ups without struggling’ and then a little giggle after. I don’t like people slapping for attention or to be playful.
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Ah..so you're pissed off at the fact that you couldn't do the sit-ups as per your own expectations?
Or, you see her as mocking you for not being able to do the freakin' sit ups.
I suck too much doing sit ups, you can talk to my belly.
My belly is here for you..
Posted by AneemA11Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by ACsquareplutoEven when I'm well-acquainted with the person I consider them to practice poor judgment when they slap me to get my attention. That, or they lack respect for me to some degree
If you continue to see her I would tell her not to do it again
See this is what I mean. Two extremely opposing opinions, one on top of another. I didn’t like it because it had nothing to do with the training itself. It was more like a ‘ugh wtf, you should be able to do sit ups without struggling’ and then a little giggle after. I don’t like people slapping for attention or to be playful.
Ah..so you're pissed off at the fact that you couldn't do the sit-ups as per your own expectations?
Or, you see her as mocking you for not being able to do the freakin' sit ups.
I suck too much doing sit ups, you can talk to my belly.
My belly is here for you..
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She might consider this ‘belly talk’ as sexual harassment... be careful. 😱
Posted by TxOgalPosted by CopperDovePosted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by CopperDoveFrom what I've seen, it's a style /strategy that some of them use to motivate people, and they don't usually mean to put the person down in a serious way. I don't need that strategy to have motivation with exercise -- I've always been almost freakishly self motivated -- but some people seem to respond well to it. If I detected that they were genuinely putting me down, that would be a problem, otherwise I would just see it as a strategy that isn't my thing and I might say something if they kept doing it, to let them know it isn't my thing.
Brilliant advice as always. This is why I love speaking with you ❤️
If it continued, how would you address it? What’s the best course of action?
:-)
I can imagine that you might feel annoyed if she does it again, so I'd say do your best to put the irritation you feel in the moment aside -- resist the urge to slap her really hard back, in other words, haha - and giving her the benefit of the doubt tell her something like, "I appreciate you helping me, but please don't slap me, I'm not comfortable with that."
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Yeah! Cool! Them both meeting in a jail cell...
Posted by AneemA11Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by ACsquareplutoEven when I'm well-acquainted with the person I consider them to practice poor judgment when they slap me to get my attention. That, or they lack respect for me to some degree
If you continue to see her I would tell her not to do it again
See this is what I mean. Two extremely opposing opinions, one on top of another. I didn’t like it because it had nothing to do with the training itself. It was more like a ‘ugh wtf, you should be able to do sit ups without struggling’ and then a little giggle after. I don’t like people slapping for attention or to be playful.
Ah..so you're pissed off at the fact that you couldn't do the sit-ups as per your own expectations?
Or, you see her as mocking you for not being able to do the freakin' sit ups.
I suck too much doing sit ups, you can talk to my belly.
My belly is here for you..
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No I’m not bothered about the sit ups. It’s the truth and that shit doesn’t hurt my feelings at all.
It was the slapping the leg that irritated me. I think as acsquare mentioned that it’s a lack of good judgement to do shit like that to get my attention. It is assuming too much and being too familiar.
Posted by hydorahI think she's attracted to you
Solid judgement, yes.
Posted by LaMadrinaPosted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by LaMadrinai read things wrong and have quick reflexes. iwould have grabbed and squeezed her hand very hard looking into her eyes saying don't touch me. like i often do with idiots. i don't like strangers touching me period. playful my ass.
Yeah but everyone here seems to think it’s over sensitivity.
do what's best for you. it's never good to live trying to please others. it's not their bodies so they can't tell you how to feel. most ppl here are passive in life, so they accept shitty or sneaky treatment before they grow some and take control of their situations. never cared what anyone else thinks. never have. never will.
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You are my new life coach.
I want to start sessions immediately please.
How has your approach impacted you in social circles? Do you feel you’ve become isolated as a result or are more respected?
Posted by seraphJust ask her politely (or playfully, to lighten the impact) to stop. Had you simply done that in the first place you’d have rendered the whole thing a non-event, and no need to create and then babysit a thread.
Can you give me a sentence you’d use as an example? Because I think however I put it, it will come off in an offensive manner.
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by AneemA11Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by ACsquareplutoEven when I'm well-acquainted with the person I consider them to practice poor judgment when they slap me to get my attention. That, or they lack respect for me to some degree
If you continue to see her I would tell her not to do it again
See this is what I mean. Two extremely opposing opinions, one on top of another. I didn’t like it because it had nothing to do with the training itself. It was more like a ‘ugh wtf, you should be able to do sit ups without struggling’ and then a little giggle after. I don’t like people slapping for attention or to be playful.
Ah..so you're pissed off at the fact that you couldn't do the sit-ups as per your own expectations?
Or, you see her as mocking you for not being able to do the freakin' sit ups.
I suck too much doing sit ups, you can talk to my belly.
My belly is here for you..
No I’m not bothered about the sit ups. It’s the truth and that shit doesn’t hurt my feelings at all.
It was the slapping the leg that irritated me. I think as acsquare mentioned that it’s a lack of good judgement to do shit like that to get my attention. It is assuming too much and being too familiar.
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Seesh, it's just a leg.
Break a leg.
I was slapped in my face and i broke the person's leg.
You gotta be serious, man.
Posted by AneemA11Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by AneemA11Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by ACsquareplutoEven when I'm well-acquainted with the person I consider them to practice poor judgment when they slap me to get my attention. That, or they lack respect for me to some degree
If you continue to see her I would tell her not to do it again
See this is what I mean. Two extremely opposing opinions, one on top of another. I didn’t like it because it had nothing to do with the training itself. It was more like a ‘ugh wtf, you should be able to do sit ups without struggling’ and then a little giggle after. I don’t like people slapping for attention or to be playful.
Ah..so you're pissed off at the fact that you couldn't do the sit-ups as per your own expectations?
Or, you see her as mocking you for not being able to do the freakin' sit ups.
I suck too much doing sit ups, you can talk to my belly.
My belly is here for you..
No I’m not bothered about the sit ups. It’s the truth and that shit doesn’t hurt my feelings at all.
It was the slapping the leg that irritated me. I think as acsquare mentioned that it’s a lack of good judgement to do shit like that to get my attention. It is assuming too much and being too familiar.
Seesh, it's just a leg.
Break a leg.
I was slapped in my face and i broke the person's leg.
You gotta be serious, man.
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No, i actually just kicked the man's thigh and tried to punch his face.
@Dianna
Posted by Coochiecoochiecoo@Dianna
All your sudden plea
If you're uncomfortable with it, just tell her, "don't slap my leg I'm uncomfortable with that." If you don't like her as a trainer and her style , get a new trainer. You don't owe her an explanation if you change, and if she wants one just say the style of training you want is different than the one she provides. Each trainer has a different style and you should be able to experience different ones and see which one works the best for you.
Posted by Coochiecoochiecoo
All your sudden plea
Posted by AneemA11Posted by CoochiecoochiecooAll your sudden plea
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Thanks for your contributions.
It’s enough now.
Posted by CoochiecoochiecooPosted by AneemA11Posted by CoochiecoochiecooAll your sudden plea
Thanks for your contributions.
It’s enough now.
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Enough for what?
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I would like to clarify this for the millionth time to everyone. I do NOT mind being touched. Having my leg moved or arm moved. Having them help me stretch. That sort of physical contact is absolutely fine.
I don’t like being slapped on the leg though as it felt as though they were trying to be too familiar and crossing the bounds of professionalism.