@aquapiscescusp
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Lol what's with all the random questions lately?
I got one for you, young lady. Where you been?
Ring all the bells!
Kill that wonderful love!
It might be his last chance to have a virgin!!!
Sorry.
Of course parents need to know
ASAP! Is the perv mentally stable?
Yes!
Yes I would
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.
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All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
Definitely.
They say age is just a number. But why the fuck are you dating a 30-year old?
It's everybody's business if a child is at risk
Turning a blind eye isn't always the best thing to do
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
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Actually, I was joking a bit.
Also, is a phrase, it's not literal. There's no right and wrong, is perception.
Yes, I don't know what to do in this situations, but I really think is strange for a grown man/woman to be with a teenager, taking into consideration the experiences/lack of them and other factors as life goals etc.. It's not age gap, but teenager-grown man, I think.
Posted by aquapiscescusp
If you knew the 16 year old girl was secretly seeing a mid 30s man?Would you want to know as her parents?
This is a tough call. I would try to convince her to examine her motivations for why this person in particular.
People just love to stick their nose where it doesn't belong. Smh
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
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Actually, I was joking a bit.
Also, is a phrase, it's not literal. There's no right and wrong, is perception.
Yes, I don't know what to do in this situations, but I really think is strange for a grown man/woman to be with a teenager, taking into consideration the experiences/lack of them and other factors as life goals etc.. It's not age gap, but teenager-grown man, I think.
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I agree, there is something very weird about an adult dating a teen
Creepy
@OP
Are you going to tell the parents of the 16 year old seeing the older guy?
Posted by Gemitati
Ring all the bells!Kill that wonderful love!
It might be his last chance to have a virgin!!!
Sorry.
Of course parents need to know
ASAP! Is the perv mentally stable?
If she was 18 would he still be a perv? How do you define a pervert?
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Ive learned that here. Everyone is a perv. LOL
Though at legal age all lables are down!
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties' sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
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+1
To all of what you said!
Posted by TheGreatSearcher
Definitely.They say age is just a number. But why the fuck are you dating a 30-year old?
He's obviously preying on her being very naive. Ugh
Posted by aquapiscescusp
If you knew the 16 year old girl was secretly seeing a mid 30s man?Would you want to know as her parents?
This is a tough call. I would try to convince her to examine her motivations for why this person in particular.
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I am not supposed to know! Someone told me in confidence...
Posted by pisceanloves
People just love to stick their nose where it doesn't belong. Smh
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Where do you stick your nose?
Are you going to tell the parents of the 16 year old seeing the older guy?
It would her parents I would advise but I really don't know how to handle this...
Posted by yupvirgoo
Yes coz she's underaged.If it's my daughter, I would want to know wouldn't I?
Yes but some people want to live in denial.
Are you going to tell the parents of the 16 year old seeing the older guy?
It would her parents I would advise but I really don't know how to handle this...
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Maybe trying to talk to her first?
Telling her parents right away is probably betraying the trust of that other person who told you in confidence, because you don't know the situation, maybe hearing from the girl you can see it more clearly (if she is very naive, if she's been manipulated or not)
Posted by enfant_terrible
Lol what's with all the random questions lately?I got one for you, young lady. Where you been?
Here and there... 🙂 busy as hell!
They are random to you, but not to me.
Posted by Gemitati
Ring all the bells!Kill that wonderful love!
It might be his last chance to have a virgin!!!
Sorry.
Of course parents need to know
ASAP! Is the perv mentally stable?
I don't know him at all. She works for him is all I can say.
Posted by Gemitati
Ring all the bells!Kill that wonderful love!
It might be his last chance to have a virgin!!!
Sorry.
Of course parents need to know
ASAP! Is the perv mentally stable?
I don't know him at all. She works for him is all I can say.
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So it is basically a gossip?
Posted by Gemitati
Ring all the bells!Kill that wonderful love!
It might be his last chance to have a virgin!!!
Sorry.
Of course parents need to know
ASAP! Is the perv mentally stable?
If she was 18 would he still be a perv? How do you define a pervert?
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His age vs hers... ?
Posted by Gemitati
Ring all the bells!Kill that wonderful love!
It might be his last chance to have a virgin!!!
Sorry.
Of course parents need to know
ASAP! Is the perv mentally stable?
I don't know him at all. She works for him is all I can say.
So it is basically a gossip?
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No... it's not gossip. She confided in this person who had to ask for someone's opinion(mine) because she feels it's wrong.
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties' sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
+1
To all of what you said!
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Ok. She is hiding this relationship. If it was a good thing, they would make it official.
Are you going to tell the parents of the 16 year old seeing the older guy?
It would her parents I would advise but I really don't know how to handle this...
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Maybe trying to talk to her first?
Telling her parents right away is probably betraying the trust of that other person who told you in confidence, because you don't know the situation, maybe hearing from the girl you can see it more clearly (if she is very naive, if she's been manipulated or not)
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I would be betraying that trust...
Are you going to tell the parents of the 16 year old seeing the older guy?
It would her parents I would advise but I really don't know how to handle this...
It also depends how well you know her parents. If you know them well, you're almost obligated to tell them if you think their daughter is in danger. That's a lot of "if's" though.
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I honestly wished I didn't know. Friends of the family...
Are you going to tell the parents of the 16 year old seeing the older guy?
It would her parents I would advise but I really don't know how to handle this...
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Maybe trying to talk to her first?
Telling her parents right away is probably betraying the trust of that other person who told you in confidence, because you don't know the situation, maybe hearing from the girl you can see it more clearly (if she is very naive, if she's been manipulated or not)
I would be betraying that trust...
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Then... what did the person who told you think about it? That person could act carefully without messing things up (?
Idk... good luck
Posted by ChoXtsy
That's not even cradle snatching, that's womb robbing. I'm all for dating with age gaps but you're still in high school at 16 and a child. Have to wonder what is wrong with the 30 year old. Depends who it is, it's not my business but if it was a family member, that'd be a different story.
I'm with you, that's why it's disturbing. He's manipulating her big time, I can't get into too many details but let's say she's oh so gullible.
Are you going to tell the parents of the 16 year old seeing the older guy?
It would her parents I would advise but I really don't know how to handle this...
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Maybe trying to talk to her first?
Telling her parents right away is probably betraying the trust of that other person who told you in confidence, because you don't know the situation, maybe hearing from the girl you can see it more clearly (if she is very naive, if she's been manipulated or not)
I would be betraying that trust...
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Then... what did the person who told you think about it? That person could act carefully without messing things up (?
Idk... good luck
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That's what I said! You do something about it.... but she confided in her and feels trapped, ugh I don't know either.
I could see how 16 would be a questionable age,but in America teenagers are so coddled and sheltered they really are to young minddd. The age of adult in America mentally is around 25 to be honest. Our system is designed to treat them as children for to long and hence they stay emotionally and mentally children for a prolonged length of time.
Are you going to tell the parents of the 16 year old seeing the older guy?
It would her parents I would advise but I really don't know how to handle this...
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Maybe trying to talk to her first?
Telling her parents right away is probably betraying the trust of that other person who told you in confidence, because you don't know the situation, maybe hearing from the girl you can see it more clearly (if she is very naive, if she's been manipulated or not)
I would be betraying that trust...
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Then... what did the person who told you think about it? That person could act carefully without messing things up (?
Idk... good luck
That's what I said! You do something about it.... but she confided in her and feels trapped, ugh I don't know either.
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I think the difference then is if the situation is "dangerous" or negative for the teen or if it just seems weird but they both know what are doing.
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties' sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
+1
To all of what you said!
Ok. She is hiding this relationship. If it was a good thing, they would make it official.
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Maybe she's hiding because she's scared of these very judgements ppl are making?? Or maybe they didn't even reach a point where they can actually make it official??
Posted by Stensco21
I could see how 16 would be a questionable age,but in America teenagers are so coddled and sheltered they really are to young minddd. The age of adult in America mentally is around 25 to be honest. Our system is designed to treat them as children for to long and hence they stay emotionally and mentally children for a prolonged length of time.
Oh yes, she is a child... not ready for this big bad wolf
Posted by DivaCanLeo
Young women are the stupidist sheets.I would first punch her hard in the stomach for being that stupid
Then i would write her parents an anonymous letter
Lololol
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties' sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
+1
To all of what you said!
Ok. She is hiding this relationship. If it was a good thing, they would make it official.
Maybe she's hiding because she's scared of these very judgements ppl are making?? Or maybe they didn't even reach a point where they can actually make it official??
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She's hiding it because she knows her parents wouldn't approve, I mean which parents would? So yeah.. judgements are sometimes necessary.
Posted by ChoXtsy
That's not even cradle snatching, that's womb robbing. I'm all for dating with age gaps but you're still in high school at 16 and a child. Have to wonder what is wrong with the 30 year old. Depends who it is, it's not my business but if it was a family member, that'd be a different story.I'm with you, that's why it's disturbing. He's manipulating her big time, I can't get into too many details but let's say she's oh so gullible.
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This doesn't seem to be that uncommon either.......quite sickening
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties' sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
+1
To all of what you said!
Ok. She is hiding this relationship. If it was a good thing, they would make it official.
Maybe she's hiding because she's scared of these very judgements ppl are making?? Or maybe they didn't even reach a point where they can actually make it official??
She's hiding it because she knows her parents wouldn't approve, I mean which parents would? So yeah.. judgements are sometimes necessary.
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Exactly my point!! She most definitely knows she won't get an approval from many people let alone her family. What can be any better reason to hide?
There are kids in our lad's class who are having sex, smoking weed, drinking like fish and dabbling in other drugs......how do the parents not have some clue ? If a kid is underage as in under 18, isn't it the responsibility of the parents to find out what their sons and daughters are up to?
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties' sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
+1
To all of what you said!
Ok. She is hiding this relationship. If it was a good thing, they would make it official.
Maybe she's hiding because she's scared of these very judgements ppl are making?? Or maybe they didn't even reach a point where they can actually make it official??
She's hiding it because she knows her parents wouldn't approve, I mean which parents would? So yeah.. judgements are sometimes necessary.
Exactly my point!! She most definitely knows she won't get an approval from many people let alone her family. What can be any better reason to hide?
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Knowing her she wants the whole world to know, trust me.It's him... he's probably saying shush... ya know.
Posted by DivaCanLeo
Do we know if there is abuse in the home? This could be a side condition
Interesting... I don't think so. But anything is possible.
Posted by MyStarsShine
There are kids in our lad's class who are having sex, smoking weed, drinking like fish and dabbling in other drugs......how do the parents not have some clue ? If a kid is underage as in under 18, isn't it the responsibility of the parents to find out what their sons and daughters up to?
yes... they should know
Another thing, parents know him... harmless... she works for him --
Forget telling her parents, tell the police.
Posted by MyStarsShine
There are kids in our lad's class who are having sex, smoking weed, drinking like fish and dabbling in other drugs......how do the parents not have some clue ? If a kid is underage as in under 18, isn't it the responsibility of the parents to find out what their sons and daughters up to?yes... they should know
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Yes, I agree
Posted by aquapiscescusp
Another thing, parents know him... harmless... she works for him --Gross. He's nasty.
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Shithead
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties' sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
+1
To all of what you said!
Ok. She is hiding this relationship. If it was a good thing, they would make it official.
Maybe she's hiding because she's scared of these very judgements ppl are making?? Or maybe they didn't even reach a point where they can actually make it official??
She's hiding it because she knows her parents wouldn't approve, I mean which parents would? So yeah.. judgements are sometimes necessary.
Exactly my point!! She most definitely knows she won't get an approval from many people let alone her family. What can be any better reason to hide?
Knowing her she wants the whole world to know, trust me.It's him... he's probably saying shush... ya know.
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Or maybe not.
I get what you're saying.Maybe she would want the world to know if this is not the scenario.What do you wanna do anyway?
Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.----
All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
I dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties' sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.
+1
To all of what you said!
Ok. She is hiding this relationship. If it was a good thing, they would make it official.
Maybe she's hiding because she's scared of these very judgements ppl are making?? Or maybe they didn't even reach a point where they can actually make it official??
She's hiding it because she knows her parents wouldn't approve, I mean which parents would? So yeah.. judgements are sometimes necessary.
Exactly my point!! She most definitely knows she won't get an approval from many people let alone her family. What can be any better reason to hide?
Knowing her she wants the whole world to know, trust me.It's him... he's probably saying shush... ya know.
Or maybe not.
I get what you're saying.Maybe she would want the world to know if this is not the scenario.What do you wanna do anyway?
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I don't know... send an anonymous letter?
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If you knew the 16 year old girl was secretly seeing a mid 30s man?
Would you want to know as her parents?