
I am not familiar with the legal/biological definition of "grown" in this context. I am however familiar with the term "subjective".


Posted by AliensusedourbogrollI don't even want to know what that is.Posted by leowwwPosted by AliensusedourbogrollIt's ok on dxp... Of course it is... #twilightZonePosted by aquapiscescuspApparently that's ok.
to a 35 year old man, she's a child he can manipulate and he knows that.
It's even worse on reddit.
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Posted by tizianiGood points you bring up that should be considered... Thank you for a thoughtful response 🙂
All I'm going to say is if you're going to get involved, make sure you are involved the whole way and you're around to handle the consequences of your own actions.
Don't do it anonymously, nor get in contact with them behind her back.
Going that route could drive an even bigger wedge between her, her parents and family. Hell, could even drive her deeper into the arms of the 30 year old you say is up to no good. So don't just mess with someone's life irresponsibly.
For that reason, I wouldn't tell the parents. If it were as shady as you say and I really felt to get involved, I'd speak with the 16 year old directly first.


Posted by tizianiIt's a circular dilemma lolPosted by aquapiscescuspYeah, I would. But that doesn't mean I would tell parents.
tiz, would you want to know as a parent? Curious
I was actually on the outside of vaguely similar situation recently where my neighbour found out his teenage son had lied and hidden something major over the summer. And it wasn't what happened that hurt the father the most. It was the fact he found out his son felt like it was better to hide such a painful thing from his own parent.
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Posted by GC01I love the quote but it's never simple...
"There are two kinds of evil people in this world. Those who do evil stuff and those who see evil stuff being done and don't try to stop it."
-Janis Ian

Posted by mzmeeThe body can take up to the age of 18+ to mature...i have seen our son from the age of 15 to now shoot up in size....Posted by enfant_terribleIf she aint grown she's a child.Posted by mzmee16 is not a child, but a teenager ffs. Get off it. I wonder what is wrong with people with such a skewed perception in these matters. Moral panic at its finestPosted by enfant_terriblepedophilePosted by mzmeeAdults still not familiar with the definition pedophile i see. It's a dangerous word to just throw around like that
I don't care what the age of consent is, no 16 year old CHILD of mine will be hooking up with a pedophile. And if I see someone's CHILD with a pedophile, I'm screaming it from the mountain tops.
What grown ass, 30 year old man is cool with sexing a baby?
noun pe·do·phile \ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l, ˈpē-\
Definition of pedophile for English Language Learners
: a person who has a sexual interest in children
16— A child. Nope. Not arguing this.
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Posted by enfant_terribleNothing wrong, it is called responsible and caring parenting.....you don't have a daughter, if i am not mistaken? If you did, i wonder how you would feel if you found out from someone else that she was having sex with a guy old enough to be her dad?Posted by mzmee16 is not a child, but a teenager ffs. Get off it. I wonder what is wrong with people with such a skewed perception in these matters. Moral panic at its finestPosted by enfant_terriblepedophilePosted by mzmeeAdults still not familiar with the definition pedophile i see. It's a dangerous word to just throw around like that
I don't care what the age of consent is, no 16 year old CHILD of mine will be hooking up with a pedophile. And if I see someone's CHILD with a pedophile, I'm screaming it from the mountain tops.
What grown ass, 30 year old man is cool with sexing a baby?
noun pe·do·phile \ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l, ˈpē-\
Definition of pedophile for English Language Learners
: a person who has a sexual interest in children
16— A child. Nope. Not arguing this.
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Posted by Seraphlight.....i meant she considered herself as a child.....not an adultPosted by MyStarsShineHe was charged with raping a 15 yr old so i really don't give a fuck.Posted by Seraphlight
She said she had the experience when she was 16 and referred to herself as a *minor* ...
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Posted by SeraphlightI have been having a few convos with parents whose sons and daughters have left home to go to Uni. Most of them say the same thing, that at 18 they are hardly equipped for the huge changes facing them. When i read about the brain not developing until mid 20's it made sense. The cognitive development up until then is sporadic and they often make incorrect choices.... I wonder about people that get married in their teens and early 20s, if they wake up one morning and think *i have made a terrible mistake* because the brain not having maturedPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Seraphlight.....i meant she considered herself as a child.....not an adultPosted by MyStarsShineHe was charged with raping a 15 yr old so i really don't give a fuck.Posted by Seraphlight
She said she had the experience when she was 16 and referred to herself as a *minor* ...
Agreed. I consider her a kid at that age. I think she was 18 in that video and i think of her as a kid there too.
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Posted by DonJohnThat's why it should be with someone who cherishes that, not a grown ass man who's probably been married. Huh
the first love is the only true love. that is when you love unconditionally for the only time in your life.

Posted by MyStarsShineisnt full development reached around 25?Posted by SeraphlightI have been having a few convos with parents whose sons and daughters have left home to go to Uni. Most of them say the same thing, that at 18 they are hardly equipped for the huge changes facing them. When i read about the brain not developing until mid 20's it made sense. The cognitive development up until then is sporadic and they often make incorrect choices.... I wonder about people that get married in their teens and early 20s, if they wake up one morning and think *i have made a terrible mistake* because the brain not having maturedPosted by MyStarsShinePosted by Seraphlight.....i meant she considered herself as a child.....not an adultPosted by MyStarsShineHe was charged with raping a 15 yr old so i really don't give a fuck.Posted by Seraphlight
She said she had the experience when she was 16 and referred to herself as a *minor* ...
Agreed. I consider her a kid at that age. I think she was 18 in that video and i think of her as a kid there too.
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Posted by MyStarsShineSubjectively I wouldn't like it. Objectively it's still not pedophilia. Objectively you have to deal with a lot of shit in life that you don't like, or that trigger your complexes.. as a few of you have demonstrated in this thread.Posted by enfant_terribleNothing wrong, it is called responsible and caring parenting.....you don't have a daughter, if i am not mistaken? If you did, i wonder how you would feel if you found out from someone else that she was having sex with a guy old enough to be her dad?Posted by mzmee16 is not a child, but a teenager ffs. Get off it. I wonder what is wrong with people with such a skewed perception in these matters. Moral panic at its finestPosted by enfant_terriblepedophilePosted by mzmeeAdults still not familiar with the definition pedophile i see. It's a dangerous word to just throw around like that
I don't care what the age of consent is, no 16 year old CHILD of mine will be hooking up with a pedophile. And if I see someone's CHILD with a pedophile, I'm screaming it from the mountain tops.
What grown ass, 30 year old man is cool with sexing a baby?
noun pe·do·phile \ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l, ˈpē-\
Definition of pedophile for English Language Learners
: a person who has a sexual interest in children
16— A child. Nope. Not arguing this.
Think about it....
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Posted by enfant_terribleSurePosted by MyStarsShineSubjectively I wouldn't like it. Objectively it's still not pedophilia. Objectively you have to deal with a lot of shit in life that you don't like, or that trigger your complexes.. as a few of you have demonstrated in this thread.Posted by enfant_terribleNothing wrong, it is called responsible and caring parenting.....you don't have a daughter, if i am not mistaken? If you did, i wonder how you would feel if you found out from someone else that she was having sex with a guy old enough to be her dad?Posted by mzmee16 is not a child, but a teenager ffs. Get off it. I wonder what is wrong with people with such a skewed perception in these matters. Moral panic at its finestPosted by enfant_terriblepedophilePosted by mzmeeAdults still not familiar with the definition pedophile i see. It's a dangerous word to just throw around like that
I don't care what the age of consent is, no 16 year old CHILD of mine will be hooking up with a pedophile. And if I see someone's CHILD with a pedophile, I'm screaming it from the mountain tops.
What grown ass, 30 year old man is cool with sexing a baby?
noun pe·do·phile \ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l, ˈpē-\
Definition of pedophile for English Language Learners
: a person who has a sexual interest in children
16— A child. Nope. Not arguing this.
Think about it....
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Posted by SeraphlightPosted by enfant_terriblePosted by MyStarsShineObjectively it's still not pedophilia.Posted by enfant_terribleNothing wrong, it is called responsible and caring parenting.....you don't have a daughter, if i am not mistaken? If you did, i wonder how you would feel if you found out from someone else that she was having sex with a guy old enough to be her dad?Posted by mzmee16 is not a child, but a teenager ffs. Get off it. I wonder what is wrong with people with such a skewed perception in these matters. Moral panic at its finestPosted by enfant_terriblepedophilePosted by mzmeeAdults still not familiar with the definition pedophile i see. It's a dangerous word to just throw around like that
I don't care what the age of consent is, no 16 year old CHILD of mine will be hooking up with a pedophile. And if I see someone's CHILD with a pedophile, I'm screaming it from the mountain tops.
What grown ass, 30 year old man is cool with sexing a baby?
noun pe·do·phile \ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l, ˈpē-\
Definition of pedophile for English Language Learners
: a person who has a sexual interest in children
16— A child. Nope. Not arguing this.
Think about it....
You aren't being objective there.
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Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by enfant_terribleSurePosted by MyStarsShineSubjectively I wouldn't like it. Objectively it's still not pedophilia. Objectively you have to deal with a lot of shit in life that you don't like, or that trigger your complexes.. as a few of you have demonstrated in this thread.Posted by enfant_terribleNothing wrong, it is called responsible and caring parenting.....you don't have a daughter, if i am not mistaken? If you did, i wonder how you would feel if you found out from someone else that she was having sex with a guy old enough to be her dad?Posted by mzmee16 is not a child, but a teenager ffs. Get off it. I wonder what is wrong with people with such a skewed perception in these matters. Moral panic at its finestPosted by enfant_terriblepedophilePosted by mzmeeAdults still not familiar with the definition pedophile i see. It's a dangerous word to just throw around like that
I don't care what the age of consent is, no 16 year old CHILD of mine will be hooking up with a pedophile. And if I see someone's CHILD with a pedophile, I'm screaming it from the mountain tops.
What grown ass, 30 year old man is cool with sexing a baby?
noun pe·do·phile \ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l, ˈpē-\
Definition of pedophile for English Language Learners
: a person who has a sexual interest in children
16— A child. Nope. Not arguing this.
Think about it....
Talk about only having one mode.
Parent mode.....tbh you have to be in it to experience it.
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Posted by enfant_terriblePosted by MyStarsShinePosted by enfant_terribleSurePosted by MyStarsShineSubjectively I wouldn't like it. Objectively it's still not pedophilia. Objectively you have to deal with a lot of shit in life that you don't like, or that trigger your complexes.. as a few of you have demonstrated in this thread.Posted by enfant_terribleNothing wrong, it is called responsible and caring parenting.....you don't have a daughter, if i am not mistaken? If you did, i wonder how you would feel if you found out from someone else that she was having sex with a guy old enough to be her dad?Posted by mzmee16 is not a child, but a teenager ffs. Get off it. I wonder what is wrong with people with such a skewed perception in these matters. Moral panic at its finestPosted by enfant_terriblepedophilePosted by mzmeeAdults still not familiar with the definition pedophile i see. It's a dangerous word to just throw around like that
I don't care what the age of consent is, no 16 year old CHILD of mine will be hooking up with a pedophile. And if I see someone's CHILD with a pedophile, I'm screaming it from the mountain tops.
What grown ass, 30 year old man is cool with sexing a baby?
noun pe·do·phile \ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l, ˈpē-\
Definition of pedophile for English Language Learners
: a person who has a sexual interest in children
16— A child. Nope. Not arguing this.
Think about it....
Talk about only having one mode.
Parent mode.....tbh you have to be in it to experience it.
That's the problem see. When you become a parent you lose all sense of objectivity.
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Posted by SeraphlightIt's a source of information. Information that many times is gained from academic articles you speak of. Quit playing dumb for sake of argument.Posted by enfant_terriblePosted by Seraphlight
You aren't being objective there.
Wikipedia a few pages back says I am. Modern psychology says I am. Swedish laws say I am.
I took psychology as an elective for a year. It doesn't. Wiki is hardly something you can put in your footnotes submitting an academic article is it.
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Posted by enfant_terribleLOL wut
I'd be more concerned if my hypothetical 16 year old daughter dated a sincere and serious 30 year old bc If he'd turn out to be a pedo then that relationship would have a really short life expectancy. He'd lose his boner by the time she turns 18 lol .

Posted by enfant_terriblePosted by mzmeeI am not familiar with the legal/biological definition of "grown" in this context. I am however familiar with the term "subjective".Posted by enfant_terribleIf she's not grown, she's a child. Period.
"...criteria for pedophilia extend the cut-off point for prepubescence to age 13.[1] A person who is diagnosed with pedophilia must be at least 16 years old, but adolescents must be at least five years older than the prepubescent child for the attraction to be diagnosed as pedophilia."
https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pedophilia
But sure let's all have our own definition..
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Posted by enfant_terribleOr he'd marry her, have kids with her, and molest his daughter and any friends she has over for play dates.
I'd be more concerned if my hypothetical 16 year old daughter dated a sincere and serious 30 year old bc If he'd turn out to be a pedo then that relationship would have a really short life expectancy. He'd lose his boner by the time she turns 18 lol .

Posted by LadyNeptuneYes, this thread is still going, why.... is that a problem for you?
This thread is still ongoing! Jfc.
It's simple, if the girl in question is classified as a child in that country/state then it is illegal and needs to be reported to the authorities. If she is classified as an adult then it's non of your buisness.
Can the op please clarify the legal age of consent for the area she lives in?

Posted by MyStarsShinePosted by mzmeeThe body can take up to the age of 18+ to mature...i have seen our son from the age of 15 to now shoot up in size....Posted by enfant_terribleIf she aint grown she's a child.Posted by mzmee16 is not a child, but a teenager ffs. Get off it. I wonder what is wrong with people with such a skewed perception in these matters. Moral panic at its finestPosted by enfant_terriblepedophilePosted by mzmeeAdults still not familiar with the definition pedophile i see. It's a dangerous word to just throw around like that
I don't care what the age of consent is, no 16 year old CHILD of mine will be hooking up with a pedophile. And if I see someone's CHILD with a pedophile, I'm screaming it from the mountain tops.
What grown ass, 30 year old man is cool with sexing a baby?
noun pe·do·phile \ˈpe-də-ˌfī(-ə)l, ˈpē-\
Definition of pedophile for English Language Learners
: a person who has a sexual interest in children
16— A child. Nope. Not arguing this.
Also the brain can take up to well in the 20s to mature to its' full capacity
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Posted by Gem_from_VenusHow are you invested? A bet? Sorry, I can't keep track...Posted by aquapiscescuspHave you come to a decision? I'm invested in how this plays out now. 😆Posted by LadyNeptuneYes, this thread is still going, why.... is that a problem for you?
This thread is still ongoing! Jfc.
It's simple, if the girl in question is classified as a child in that country/state then it is illegal and needs to be reported to the authorities. If she is classified as an adult then it's non of your buisness.
Can the op please clarify the legal age of consent for the area she lives in?
The age of consent is irrelevant in my original question as that does not dictate what's right or wrong as far as I'm concerned. I've already established he's a manipulating sob taking advantage of a teenager. Should the parents be advised is the original dilemma. I'm getting many constructive opinions and some non so constructive but that's the beauty of dxp.click to expand


Posted by Gem_from_VenusPosted by aquapiscescuspLOL, emotionally invested in seeing how it plays out since so many people felt compelled to share opinions and it's such a complex issue. I commented early on.Posted by Gem_from_VenusHow are you invested? A bet? Sorry, I can't keep track...Posted by aquapiscescuspHave you come to a decision? I'm invested in how this plays out now. 😆Posted by LadyNeptuneYes, this thread is still going, why.... is that a problem for you?
This thread is still ongoing! Jfc.
It's simple, if the girl in question is classified as a child in that country/state then it is illegal and needs to be reported to the authorities. If she is classified as an adult then it's non of your buisness.
Can the op please clarify the legal age of consent for the area she lives in?
The age of consent is irrelevant in my original question as that does not dictate what's right or wrong as far as I'm concerned. I've already established he's a manipulating sob taking advantage of a teenager. Should the parents be advised is the original dilemma. I'm getting many constructive opinions and some non so constructive but that's the beauty of dxp.
As for my decision, what everyone is saying here is what's going on in my head, I'm all over the place with it. When I feel that way I usually don't act on it. Someone very close, trusted me with that information and i can't break that trust the way things are now. So based on that it would have to be anonymous ugh.
Let's see what happens over Xmas.
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Posted by Gem_from_VenusYeah for sure... no one ever expected her to do that.Posted by aquapiscescuspNo wonder you're so concerned. I'm so sorry that happened. That's the real danger with someone so young dating an older person. She's going to experience an adult relationship but she may not have the adult coping skills for that yet.
I had a friend who committed suicide when she was 18 over an "older Guy" who she thought was the love of her life. She got pregnant... he bailed saying he was getting back with his wife.
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Posted by Gemitati7 month ago?
Ring all the bells!
Kill that wonderful love!
It might be his last chance to have a virgin!!!
Sorry.
Of course parents need to know
ASAP! Is the perv mentally stable?
Posted by MyStarsShineIt's one thing to be dating, another thing to be friends. Even if there's "chemistry" that line shouldn't be crossed.Posted by BlackburnI agree, there is something very weird about an adult dating a teenPosted by cvurkoPosted by BlackburnI dont see how that's evil. People are too easy to judge and project their own definitions of good, evil, right, wrong and etc. on the others. If i don't know the actual situation and the two parties sincere mentality and feelings i am not the one to make the call. Having a relationship with a partner who is way younger/older than you is not evil per se.Posted by cvurko
Not my business, i'd keep my nose out of it.
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All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good ppl do nothing.
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Actually, I was joking a bit.
Also, is a phrase, it's not literal. There's no right and wrong, is perception.
Yes, I don't know what to do in this situations, but I really think is strange for a grown man/woman to be with a teenager, taking into consideration the experiences/lack of them and other factors as life goals etc.. It's not age gap, but teenager-grown man, I think.
Creepy
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