Blindsided.

Im a Leo woman, i fell inlove with a Pisces man. By now i can say that i really already did everything...

I did everything to understand him, i went out of my comfort zone just to please him. It wasnt like this at first, everything was so good at the beginning and i was really swept out of my feet. Before the relationship started. I already informed him that im a depressed person, he said he didnt care and he accepts my situation. Everything was running smoothly especially during the lock down since everyone was forced to stay indoors. We really helped each other out on everything. I really thought everything was going well, until very recently.

I found out that he was talking to someone online. It was not constant. Probably a few hours every few months, they talk about his fetishes (cuckolding and foot fetishes). When i caught him i broke up with him immediately. But then after a few days we talked again and he explained to me what happened. They didnt meet in person ever. and i realize he did that because he feels ashamed to open that kind of fetish to me, it was so clear to me now why he was acting lazy all the time and un engaged (pre break up), it makes so much sense now, he promised me he will change if im also willing to accept this fetish and try it. Because i love him so much i told him i will accept and i will try it. (even if it goes against my personality and values) i wanted to please him so badly, i wanted us to go back to the things we were before all this happened. Maybe people will judge me because im so stupid. But i really just followed my heart. He knew what he did (he talked to someone else online) really hurts me and destroyed me. Most days i asked him a lot of questions about what happend and what went wrong because i genuinely want to know so i can undertsand him more, most days he answers me but sometimes he escapes it saying his mind is full. I try my best to understand everytime he tells me his mind is full he said no matter how many times he explained it i still circle back to the same question (I blame myself for this, i know it must be bombarding for him ; but i cant help it. i want some answers) I still hasnt move back in yet but we made love already after the break up, i honestly thought because now that we did things will start to go back to normal. Again i was wrong about this.

Recently he told me that its also a fetish to him if i act like a cookiemonster ( I am a good woman, i dont act selfishly and cookiemonstery intentionally of without reason) because i wanted him to be happy, i acted cookiemonstery one time. and he took it the wrong way. i told him i thought this is what he wanted (i honestly thought) I was wrong again. after this conversation he told me his mind is full again and that we will just reply to me tomorrow. He was so cold again.

Now i feel like he is toying with me and playing with my feelings, he said he really loves me otherwise he wont enjoy the cuckolding (if i start to do it), becuase it would be useless to get cheated on if you dont love the person cheating on you. (I went on a date the other day, he knows about it he was more excited than me, i didnt like a second of it. But i did it for him, i thought it can save us, i just pretend to give him a story after)

I feel so stupid and so hurt. Now i genuinely dont know what else to do. I desperately want to save it. save us. I think its not worth it anymore but my stupid heart still wants to save it. Sometimes i want to escape all of it. I just want to be happy and stop hurting.

I wish there was some sort of a Pisces handbook guide for women like me who are so confused about their pisces man.

Posted by Loyal

This match doesn’t work, I’ve dated a Leo woman and never again in life would I go through that. But to your point why not try a cancer man, I noticed out of all 3 water signs Cancers go well with Leos. I think as a Pisces man our best First sigh match is an Aries woman.

Can you enligthen me? I really want to understand. Did i do something wrong? was i such a bad partner to him? i want to understand what happened, can you share your experience with me?

Sounds like a typical unevolved chumpstain that refuses to act his age and can't handle being expected to behave like a well-adjusted adult.

You're far better off without him.

As a Fish myself, I'm embarrassed to be the same sign as people like that. Unfortunately I see it all too often. Here on DXP and out there. My mom was longterm involved with one like him. Let's just say it didn't end well.

You’re a Leo—

Are you a cub or a LIONESS??

He has you all the way fawked up.

Boss up and be the king of the jungle and stop being a cub who is terrified of being a real ass woman

You’re choosing your own misery

Hmmm he wants you to be a cuckhold. Aries likes that shit too. I went along with it a handful of times. Was a fun experience. We bonded over it too.

I think the issue is you’re not pleasing him sexually. He sounds like he needs a freak.

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Posted by pinkbird03

Hmmm he wants you to be a cuckhold. Aries likes that shit too. I went along with it a handful of times. Was a fun experience. We bonded over it too.

I think the issue is you’re not pleasing him sexually. He sounds like he needs a freak.

you slept with other guys you appease him?

anyways where do I sign up

if a guy wants me to date other men but he's loyal to me

that sound hilarious like bytch ok

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Lolol yep, that’s exactly how it went.... lol

I like it. Especially the aftermath when Aries said I love you a thousand times 😂😂

He should have told you about his disgusting habits before entering a relationship with you. Or perhaps given up on them, since a relationship brings other perks.

However, he went behind your back, and now appears to blackmail you into taking part in his perversions, since he knows what a doormat you have become. This phase will not last, since your enthusiasm is next to none. Besides, you were disappointed with him long before you knew what was happening. A few hours of online talks, every few months, could not have affected the dynamics of your relationship in the ways you complained about. There is more to it than meets the eye.

Don’t you think that you two are incompatible....? Take your time to think logically about what you want from a relationship, what you don’t, and where you two are heading, compared to where you wanted to. Unhappiness is loving someone you shouldn’t.

To clarify. I didnt sleep with anyone yet. I just went on a date then went home.

I know you guys think the we are incompatible. I can understand that. But i really love him so much that im willing to do whatever it took to save us. I really want to understand him. I know lately i have been bombarding him with a lot of things because of the flirting online issue. I understand that he cant take a lot of info all at once. Thats why he swims back to his comfort zone. Sometimes i think im only justifying his actions because i love him too much.

He told me the other day. If i agree to cuckold him he will surely love me more. And i dont want to pass up on the opportunity that i get my old pisces man back. I want my old pisces man so badly. I want him to come back to me. That time when everything was so simple and we were happy.

Posted by rufflestruffles

But i really love him so much that im willing to do whatever it took to save us.

Love isn't always enough, and it won't change the fact that you have no viable future with him. Just because you want it "to be so" so bad, doesn't make it real and it won't make it happen. You can go on deluding yourself that it's all good, but these things creep up on you, and you will never truly be at peace. Speaking from recent personal experience.

You simply have to learn to stop loving him. You have to put yourself first, because he is clearly an unhealthy influence in your life. Wake up, and wise up.

Posted by rufflestruffles

He told me the other day. If i agree to cuckold him he will surely love me more. And i dont want to pass up on the opportunity that i get my old pisces man back. I want my old pisces man so badly. I want him to come back to me. That time when everything was so simple and we were happy.

But he is not your “old Pisces”. Nothing will be simple, or you happy!

How would you feel having sex with another man, if what you want in a relationship is commitment and loyalty? If he tells you he is a pimp and wants to make money from prostituting you, will you agree? If not, there is not much of a difference, prostituting yourself against your will for someone’s “perks”! You are entering a very slippery slope. Rescue yourself! You are wonderful, dedicated, passionate, worthy of real love!

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Posted by pinkbird03

Hmmm he wants you to be a cuckhold. Aries likes that shit too. I went along with it a handful of times. Was a fun experience. We bonded over it too.

I think the issue is you’re not pleasing him sexually. He sounds like he needs a freak.

you slept with other guys you appease him?

anyways where do I sign up

if a guy wants me to date other men but he's loyal to me

that sound hilarious like bytch ok

Lolol yep, that’s exactly how it went.... lol

I like it. Especially the aftermath when Aries said I love you a thousand times 😂😂

does he watch

or do you tape

how does he get off on it

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He jumps around the bed naked, with his recording phone in one hand and his dick in the other, while repeating “daddy loves mommy....daddy loves mommy”🤣

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Posted by pinkbird03

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Posted by pinkbird03

Hmmm he wants you to be a cuckhold. Aries likes that shit too. I went along with it a handful of times. Was a fun experience. We bonded over it too.

I think the issue is you’re not pleasing him sexually. He sounds like he needs a freak.

you slept with other guys you appease him?

anyways where do I sign up

if a guy wants me to date other men but he's loyal to me

that sound hilarious like bytch ok

Lolol yep, that’s exactly how it went.... lol

I like it. Especially the aftermath when Aries said I love you a thousand times 😂😂

does he watch

or do you tape

how does he get off on it

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We did a 3 sum before, he watched other times, he filmed it once. We always had sex later that night together and it was amazing lol

“Because i love him so much i told him i will accept and i will try it. (even if it goes against my personality and values) i wanted to please him so badly, i wanted us to go back to the things we were before all this happened.”

It’s never going to go back to the way it was. That ship has sailed. And anyways, the ‘way it was’ = him hiding his fetishes from you...pretending to be the person you wanted, and getting his needs met by stepping out of the relationship.

Now the roles are reversed and your gonna be the one to pretend to be something your not despite that meaning you will have to ‘go against your values’.

Your just not compatible.

Posted by rufflestruffles

To clarify. I didnt sleep with anyone yet. I just went on a date then went home.

I know you guys think the we are incompatible. I can understand that. But i really love him so much that im willing to do whatever it took to save us. I really want to understand him. I know lately i have been bombarding him with a lot of things because of the flirting online issue. I understand that he cant take a lot of info all at once. Thats why he swims back to his comfort zone. Sometimes i think im only justifying his actions because i love him too much.

He told me the other day. If i agree to cuckold him he will surely love me more. And i dont want to pass up on the opportunity that i get my old pisces man back. I want my old pisces man so badly. I want him to come back to me. That time when everything was so simple and we were happy.

I have 2 question for you... It's not about who is right or wrong, to each their own.

You are investing a lot of energy into him. would he or has he invested that much into the relationship and you his own way?

Would he be willing to go outside his comfort zone like that for you?