Q for those Wishy-Washy Fish (Page 2)

oops, should have read: I would have been very shocked had he insisted on NOT taking me home...

Posted by lildol
oops, should have read: I would have been very shocked had he insisted on NOT taking me home...

wait, no, I read it to myself wrong... it was meant to read: "had he insisted on taking me to MY home" OR "had he insisted on NOT taking me to HIS home"

ok, that's much clearer in my mind as to what I meant... it's been a long day!!

lildol, I don't think he was throwing it in your face either. Let's see if I can put this in a manner clear enough for a non-Pisces to get how our minds work.

If this was something that he absolutely recoils from, that he absolutely cannot accept under any circumstance, he would already be gone. That he's at least attempting to accept and understand it actually speaks volumes to me. He's not trying to hurt or shame you at this point, he's gauging your guilt level, deciding how much importance to place on the tidbit of info. If you allow yourself to feel increasingly guilty and embarrassed and defensive about the past, that will tell him that it's actually a pretty big deal and he's justified in placing such importance on it.

Stand your ground with Mr. Pisces, he's feeling for the edge of your guilt. If you feel you've done nothing wrong per se, that it's a past indiscretion (that we all have!) and though you are not proud of it, you are not ashamed of it either because it's the past... Pisces respond very well to that tone of thinking. Very few Pisces have true regrets; we feel everything shapes us. He will probably accept this thing, acceptance comes rather easily to us, but first he has to wrap his mind around it, and there must be a shift in his way of thinking to be able to incorporate it because he'd never imagined a situation where he'd be okay with such a thing, see?... like I said, stand your ground. If YOU cannot accept this thing from your past, then why should he? If your resolve weakens, if he sees that he's justified in thinking this thing is so bad, so awful, such a deal-breaker, he will tear you apart (figuratively speaking LOL) and swim away.

Oh! As for the control thing... Pisces are not usually possessive. It's a joke; Pisces humor can seem very twisted to others. But how do I know it's probably a joke (as well as voicing an opinion about someone he doesn't like much, without being confrontational or antagonistic) and a way to start hinting about his developing feelings for you (he's thinking of the future if he's jokingly staking a claim to you, concerned about who you hang with or are friends with in the future. This means he has imagined a future with you, and has not come up empty and swum away!).. how do I know?

This is how: I will tell you one thing, one secret that Pisces rarely reveal, so listen up... we are naturally mysterious and a bit secretive. We have difficulty opening up and sharing our inner private thoughts and feelings. (Don't take it personally; it's just our way.) We may hint... we may allude... we may reveal a little and feel you out for your reaction. But with a Pisces, you may think the things he brings up are what's most important and weighing on his mind, but they're not - they're only of minor or mid-importance, on his mind, but not heavily so. The really deep stuff, we don't bring it up, rarely voice it at all. We hold it inside, to mull over and process internally. If this friend REALLY, REALLY bothered him, if he REALLY wanted to start controlling you, you'd never know it, he'd never SAY it. He would just DO it, and you wouldn't know until you were already caught in his web. I feel it was just his way to hint at his developing devotion to you. Most are not strong enough to take full-on Piscean devotion (or at least, that's what we tell ourselves LOL) so we reveal it little by little usually, so we don't overwhelm you. Because Pisces love WILL drown most people, and when younger and less in control of our Piscean outpourings, we DO overwhelm and scare others with the force of our love. We have to learn to not uhhh.. "whip that sucker out and just let it pound them flat".. we learn more self-control. Quiet Pisces? Almost all of the action is seething underneath, where no one can see!

Things are not good... I went shopping, he was out to dinner (and drinks) w/ a friend. After 3hrs of shopping (for lingerie to wear for you know who) he has an issue w/ the fact I went to the bar. He doesn't want a woman that hangs out at the bar, as he put it. OK. He basically said he didn't want anything to do with me as a result. wtf? he was out with a friend, what did I do wrong? (oh yeah, I was at the bar by myself... god forbid!!). Is this just an excuse on his part?

I wrote him a note explaining that I just spent 3 hrs at the store searching for lingerie to wear for him (yes, 100% the truth) and left it (the note) on the window of his truck as he was no longer picking up my calls.

My fear is that he can't come down to earth... he's got a good woman head over heals for him and he may just be throwing it away...

I have had this experience with two Capricorns. I hope this is not your case, but in my situation with boy guys was that I just didn't like them but felt too bad to tell them that. If that isn't your situation, I would just ask him out. I think being straight is the best way to go. Just tell him you like him, you want to date him, is he feeling anything similar etc. Good luck! My mum is a capricorn and I absolutely love you people.

I am sorry Lildol, 😢 Dumb Ass!!!

I had a similar experience with my ex pisces bf. This happened in the beginning of our relationship. It was my birthday ....and I was going to go to bar with some of the guys at work. Well PD gets a little too shnockered up, and my lan line answering maching turned off and my cell phone died (battery). When I got home from my night out .......I went straight to bed ......that is all my head wanted to find ....the pillow.

So I get up the next day and I get my phones all in order .....OMG I had some of the most nasty messages from him. I was like dude .....you are way over board. I was accused of cheating ....blah blah Seriously the guy went ballistic. It was my birthday.......Now what I know of my pisces ex .....that should have been my warning sign right there.

So me being a pisces .......I understand this. I will not lie ....as a Pisces I know I can jump the gun a bit and have been guilty of doing this. When we open our hearts and make ourselves vulnerable ......we can do crazy things.

Omg ......girl ....what an idiot .....especially you with your lingere.......

PD

From Susan Miller's Capricorn forecast for Sept:

"Another sign that your marriage, romantic, or business partner will figure prominently in your life is the fact that on September 18 or 19 (depending on your time zone), plus or minus four days, Mars will oppose the position of the July 7 eclipse in Capricorn. This is sure to be a big day for partnership discussions and developments, and doubly so if you were born on January 7. Sit back and see what happens - expect the unexpected."

(my bday is the 8th... close enough)

And Pisces Sept forecast:

"These [planetary] aspects will not cause a breakup if your relationship is strong. Instead, you may suddenly have to face a very aggressive competitor or step up to a critic.

One day after this very troublesome day comes September 18, but rather than provide a soothing sense of calm, Uranus and Saturn will come gunning for the new moon. Your seventh house of partners will be full with planets - Mercury, Saturn, the new moon, and the Sun - and on the other side of the sky Uranus will be staring at each planet. Some sort of situation seems to be reaching a breaking point."


- Oh that's just great! This does not bode well for me under the circumstances and the newness of this relationship... (I would like to think that I'm happy and optimistic all the time, that's how I portray myself to the world anyway, but I am really feeling that the 'glass is half empty' right now) *shakes head* 😢 *sighs*

Lildol, not looking good. I had a similar situation back in August with my Pisces bf & the whole Susan Miller prediction came true to the DATE!!! It said I would have a relationship end on the 6th of August.... and the Pisces forecast said on the same day things would change in a relationship and BAM.... on August 6th we broke up! It was crazy!!!!

Good luck though! But, Id say... cut your losses before you get in any deeper because I think its gonna be a pretty rough ride if you dont.

Ya know what, I shouldn't have returned his phone call! Given the fact he called at 11pm, it probably would have never came up about me calling him back, I could have been in bed for all he knew (I'm usually in bed by 10pm).

I understand that he was not comfortable with the fact that I was at the bar by myself... ok, I get it! And I will tell him that if he happens to call me (I already tried to call him this morning and he didn't pick up). But, to essentially throw me to the curb when he hasn't even laid down the ground rules?? (i.e., expectations, not rules per se - I don't like being told what I can and cannot do, you tell me I can't and I will just because I can. I'm stubborn like that!).

*banging head on desk*

I don't even understand why I even care what he thinks! If that was a deal breaker so be it, it's not like I can't attract men (it's just attracting the right one's that I have problems with).

You know what it is, I really admire him for what he has accomplished in life and the fact he is so goal oriented. Few men I meet have really made a mark in this world or have even tried. Most seem to have the 'come what may' attitude and as a result are not happy with themselves or what they do. I used to tell my ex (the Cancer asshole) that if he didn't like where he was in life he needed to take the initiative to change it. He considered himself stuck and at the mercy of outside forces. Looser attitude - grow some balls already!

I also find Mr. Pisces fun to be with, he makes me laugh, I feel attractive when I'm with him and I hate to say it, but I even like, to some extent, the mild jealousy and possessiveness he's shown - I don't want to be controlled but I want to be wanted and that makes me feel wanted.

I like the way he touches me and looks at me. I like his intellect and sense of humor. I like his boyish looks and his blue eyes (I've always been partial to brown eyes though so I don't know what's up with that). I like the hair on his chest, the way his body feels next to mine, how in-tuned he is to me sexually and desire to please me *looking sheepishly*. He's close to his family and visits his mom every two weeks (only an 8 hr trip one way). He has lofty aspirations (attainable to be sure given his goal oriented mindset).

Shall I go on?? *sigh*

Only possible likelihood of Cap in his chart would be his south node.

IDK, maybe it's an over compensation for something - he owns two business in two different states and multiple rental properties in different states, one of which he is getting ready to flip. But, then again maybe he's not very goal oriented and I just perceive it as such. Could be his imaginative nature that has lead to whatever success he's made for himself - after all, some of the most powerful and richest people in business are Pisces such as Steve Jobs, Michael Dell and Rupert Murdoch.

Posted by poopsie1
i also wouldn't value having rental properties in multiple states too high at this down time tbh. it's possible that the equity of them wouldn't impress much if he tries to cash them out now. i'd be worried more about his debt more owning rentals and his own businesses right now lol. not saying there is likely something to worry about for real i'm just saying appearances can fool you.

He just sold one of his properties in the spring for around a $ 55,000 profit.

I sold a house a year ago yesterday almost $ 60,000 over what I bought it for (had it for 6 yrs)... when all was said and done though I was only at about a $ 15,000 profit because of what I put into it.

I purchased another last Oct and its value has actually remained stable (maybe a slight increase actually).

Where not doing to bad this part of the country!

i'd prefer someone with cash in hand at this time if all things being equal lol. many once in a life time opportunites to pick up if you have cash. cash is king 😉.

ah, I could care less about the money or even what he owns for that matter... I respect what he's achieved and the work that he put into getting to this point in his life - I would feel different if everything had been handed to him and wouldn't be the least bit interested in him.

Pissy Fish

went out with my girlfriend as I do every Fri night! It's 'date night' as we say. He rubbed that in my face... oh, "it's date night, gotta change gotta hot date myself" He knows who I am with... my god?!

I'm ready to go tell him to go fuck himself, he doesn't deserve a woman as good as me!!

hope

He has decided that since I went to a bar by myself on Thurs night that we are two very different people. He called last night and seemed a little perturbed - alright 'seemed' is too mild, WAS is more like it - to the point where he commented again about not hanging out w/ my girlfriend as she is a bad influence (recall she told me I should have lied to him about 'it' and I was honest in telling him when he asked what she said).

He needs to get over himself! He doesn't know me, he's not taking the chance to get to know me, he's too busy jumping to conclusions.

He's going out of town again until probably Wed. I'm going to write him a note and drop it off at his place this afternoon so he'll get it before he leaves. Verbal communication is not my strong point, and I don't always say what I should for fear of being rejected. Writing is a lot easier as I am not subject to immediate rejection or dismissal for that matter. The person more or less has to hear me out (if they read it) and can't interrupt or interject their own thoughts/biases thereby distracting me from what I need to say.

So, maybe he won't like what I have to say. I'm already feeling hurt by his wishy-washy can't make up his mind, idiotic thought processes so it doesn't matter. *smh* If he doesn't like me for who I am then he can go fuck himself. I'm done with assholes in my life, I've wasted too much time on them in the past all out of this false 'hope' I seem to cling to.

I just want someone to love ME... but you all know that already.

Posted by love_365
—to the point where he commented again about not hanging out w/ my girlfriend as she is a bad influence (recall she told me I should have lied to him about 'it' and I was honest in telling him when he asked what she said).??

Oh my!!! I guess Mr. Pisces was right about your friend. She is telling you to lie to him.

I love her... we've been best buds for years (we were inseparable before we both got involved with Cancer assholes who sucked the life out of us)

She thinks I should sensor what I tell him... but, I detest liers myself and refuse to take on such a characteristic. Why should I lie? I have nothing to hide. If he doesn't like me for me, and he doesn't like the fact that I'm honest, so be it. I'll get over it... it's his loss! Not beating my chest or anything, but I am a good catch... honest (to a fault), faithful (won't date multiple men at the same time... even casually), nurturing (fatal flaw of mine) and I like a little kinkiness (Mars in Scorp 😄 ).

Oh, btw, my GF she's an Aries, love her to death, but don't think I'd ever date one!!

So, my note, I'm starting out first off with how bad I am at verbal communication and then go into what I see as positives about him... good so far? In the end I won't attack, but I will probably express something to the effect of how he's driving me nuts with his wishy-washyness (ok, I won't use those words, promise).

Thoughts?

Question: If a man you're only just starting to get to know dictates that you shouldn't go some place...even if it's just a drink with your best bud....should you submissively do whatever he says?

Should a SO decide that you should cut off ties with your BFFs that you've known for years?