Should I ask this Pisces man to be more than friends?

I broke up with an ex and was online looking for new friends and possibly dating. Met this pisces man, we went out 3 times over a month, he is very respectful and good with conversation. I kinda want to try to be more than friend with him. But I'm just no sure if he lost interest or was just as confused as me, because he stopped initiating contact with me after our second outings. It could be because we both got busy, but I still managed to invite him out for a 3rd time, I feel he should be able to ask me out if I can do that with busy schedule, unless he doesn't want to go out with me.

So after our 3rd outings, I said: I want to ask you something, can you honestly answer me? When we are going out, it's always me asking you to do something, do you enjoy spending time with me or feel pressured to do so? He respond that you always know things to do, (duh, I might be too nervous to pay attention what exactly he said, but the gist was I'm the one who has good idea of fun stuff to do, so he just follows me or something like that). So we compared our schedule a bit afterward (the conversation was a blur to me now because nervousness made my brain blacked out). He didn't message me when he got home like before, the last 2 times, he always messaged me and thanked me for inviting him out (could be because his mom's minor surgery, he said he needed to call her when he got home). I messaged him instead, thanked him for walking me home and wish his mom's surgery went well. He replied the next day and thanked me for recommending the show, he really enjoyed it. I respond that I enjoyed his company.

I admit that I did intentionally keep it at friends distance for the 3 outings, because I want to see if we can both be our true self. A lot of people put on false personality when they go out on dates, it clouds the judgment. So we never hold hands or kisses, everything was on platonic level, that's why I guess he might lose interest after 2nd outings, when there could be more happen but I held back. Now it became me initiating everything, he does respond my message very quickly, albeit brief, so the line of conversation is still open.

My question is does it worth to ask him out again and suggest to be more than friends? I quite like him as a friend, if he is not interested, I don't want to make it awkward that he would avoid me in the future. Do you think he isn't interested or he was just very passive? He did tell me that he always asked his friends to ask the woman if she was interested in him. But we met online, we don't have common friends😢.

you need to not be cold at all and not keep him at friends distance, because pisces will be put off if you're always cold and may pull back to see if you're actually interested at all. You'll need to be very warm otherwise you'll both get progressively more distant.

Posted by LittleStar

Texting is not the place to be setting up terms for a relationship. It’s for need to know info to meet up. Talk in person. It’s easier to get a more clarifying answer.

I know, that's why I'm debating whether I should ask him about being more than friends next time we go out. I like him and I don't want to lose him as a friend if bring this up might distance him.

Posted by hydorah

you need to not be cold at all and not keep him at friends distance, because pisces will be put off if you're always cold and may pull back to see if you're actually interested at all. You'll need to be very warm otherwise you'll both get progressively more distant.

I tend to give people I don't vibe with the impression of being cold, but not with people I like, so I think I haven't been cold to him. I'm just not sure how to proceed with passive people, I never need to initiate in my past relationships and friendships, I'm so used to be the follower or copilot that I don't know how to deal with passive people, especially when they don't show any sign of reciprocation.

The reason I keep people at friends distance at the very beginning is most men are already very aggressive without me doing anything. I just hate people touching me when there wasn't anything yet and pretend to be someone they are not.

Don’t ask him that question. Seems you’re both not there yet. Let it evolve naturally. Hang out again and show your sweet flirty side so he can know you are interested in him.

You need to be open with him. If like him show it when ever you meet. It usually puts him off when you are cold with.

Puting him in a friend zone definitely makes him twice about you. Usually in this kind of situation makes a Pisces loose interest and once they do it is for good. We never look back. It's possible this fish lost interest. But even then you should have told he likes you. With in three months. You should convince him if you still have the chance.

Posted by pinkbird03

Don’t ask him that question. Seems you’re both not there yet. Let it evolve naturally. Hang out again and show your sweet flirty side so he can know you are interested in him.

This! 100%

Well, I tried to ask him out again and he called me that he can't go out with me anymore, he started to see someone a few weeks ago and it's getting serious... It sucks but it's nice to get the clarity. I'm really happy for him and asked to remain friends. I guess people move really fast in the dating world these days.

I'm getting in this weird situation that men coming on too strong on me, I can't trust them and my instinct is always right. But with people who are taking pace with me, other women always move faster than me and got the guy...

Posted by Arielle83

Posted by freespirits

Well, I tried to ask him out again and he called me that he can't go out with me anymore, he started to see someone a few weeks ago and it's getting serious... It sucks but it's nice to get the clarity. I'm really happy for him and asked to remain friends. I guess people move really fast in the dating world these days.

I'm getting in this weird situation that men coming on too strong on me, I can't trust them and my instinct is always right. But with people who are taking pace with me, other women always move faster than me and got the guy...

Doesn’t mean they get them for long

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Maybe they'll get married, the past two guys I liked briefly all married the next women after me... Maybe man who wants to get married should date me to get ready... It really puzzles me, I'm very honest and not crazy, I treat people well and respectfully, it shouldn't be so hard to find someone loves each other mutually...