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Just wondering...Is it true a woman is less likely to cheat than a man? If I've to answer that question based on my experience I'd say "man". I've seen plenty
of man who cheat or heard stories about them. But so far have only met one woman who intentionally cheated on her partner.

Yeah its true...

Men want to conquer and dominate... women? just love.. (even it is for the moment).

But leave the cheating out of it? both genders cheat?. Its depends on the depth of their affections? more affections.. less cheatings ?

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ALL MEN ARE PIGS, I TELL YA!

And I am a sexiest one 🙂

Mr.C, Right now I kinda agree with ya!

Mr.Q,I agree that it depends on the depth of their affections but the problem is nothing is constant ... one day it's like you are the only two people in the universe and after a few years everyone else is more interesting than you are...I guess you are right...gender is irrelevant here. I wish things were different.."It would be so nice if something made sense for a change".Thanks for your sharing thoughts.

Haffo, That's very rude. I didn't mean any such thing. Everyone's input is appreciaated...even if they are feuding among themselves as long as they are not fighting with me.

oops sorry....wrong thread.

Actually, I saw a documentation stating the opposite. Women are just as likely to cheat in the event that her current mate is not appropriate for procreation.

Despite the fact that many of us try to deny our animalistic urges, there are some things that are entirely inherent- one of them being the need to reproduce. In a way, women are genetically programmed to find the most suitable mate to have children with, and on a very subconcious level- when women are fertile, women tend to be more attracted to what has been called, "the alpha male". Even when coupled with another individual, the drive to find that alpha male can be stronger than feelings about staying loyal.

At any rate- whether you accept the theories above or not, cheating as a morale issue is not confined by sex. The only difference, IMHO - is that women cheat less, more-so women cheat for different reasons. Men may do it simply for the sexual gratification- however women are looking for the emotional security that they no longer have- or never had with their current partner.

Puzzles!!!!! I love em! 😉

I wish i were a sexy pig.

All this time, I thought you were a sexy pig.

I totally agree with you Mr.C - in truth...we really don't "own" anything - it is all on loan to us so......how I see it - enjoy EACH moment, no matter who you are with. We live in a temporary world.

What about the feelings side of things?

Are men and women effected differently by being cheated on?

Sure there are the issues of lost love and dreams, broken trust, lies and deceit but would it be fair to say that men are more likely to suffer from the effects of a bruised ego when their girl runs off with another guy?

Being that men seem to be more competetive than women, i feel that when men are cheated on we initually focus more on the guy she cheated with than the why's and the how's of the relationship going bad. Is this because the relationship doesn't need to be going bad for a guy to cheat?

Not that there isn't women out there that don't cheat for the sake of it as well.

Just a thought, Of course I can't speak for everyone or every situation.

What do you all think?

I think women ultimately can handle being cheated on, but men? HELL NO!

I know PLENTY of women who had horrible relationships, cheaters, liars, thieves, abusers, etc. and they are generally able to move on at some point and drop the baggage.

Let a man get ahold of a bad apple (who probably was turned bad by one of the MANY dogs out there that call themselves men) and they act like their ENTIRE love life is shot for the rest of their lives. Women cannot be trusted, all women are b1tche $ , any new woman get is going to cheat on me (which the reason she probably cheated on you in the first place is because you were screwing someone else & got caught!)

Then again men as a general rule LIVE by a double standard.

I dunno.. could be both competetiveness- or insecurity, or both.

I agree with Cancerlady in that men do not handle infidelity very well. Could it be because they know that the reason their partner is going astray is a resulte of something lacking within the relationship? Or could it be that they just don't like another male on their turf? Or both? Or neither? I'm not sure.

One thing I know for sure is that difference between the sexes lies within the typical reaction to cheating.

If a woman cheats on her mate, then to the guy, she is the whore- however when a man cheats, his female partner is more likely to blame his lover, rather than the man she loves. Still a double standard where the woman comes out on the bottom--- yet it is not only instituted by men- but by women as well.

As an example, I have seen scenarios where two men, who are friends... can repair friendship after some "partner sharing".... the female being cast aside. BUT two women under the same circumstances would hate each other forever... yet the man in between them would be king.

Of course these are just typical examples. Not everyone is the same.

Cheaters, liars, thieves and abusers suck!

But not all men live by double standards CL. Well, not as a rule anyway.

Very interesting though ladies, very interesting indeed.

"But not all men live by double standards CL. Well, not as a rule anyway."

I agree with you on that BJ...I only wish there were more of them. But look around you more closely,you'll realize CL and STD has a valid point.Maybe it's not so obvious to you b/c you are not one of them...plus it's a piscean trait to look for the best in other people.