Unemotional Pisces Man

This topic was created in the Pisces forum by virgal_perfectionist on Friday, August 7, 2020 and has 32 replies.

Understanding an Unemotional Pisces Man

A Pisces man with strong emotional placements may struggle with expressing feelings and opening up. His reserved nature can appear distant or cold, especially if he is healing from past heartbreak. Patience and clear communication are essential, but recognize when his emotional needs require space. Building trust and encouraging vulnerability can help deepen the connection over time.

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@virgal_perfectionist
8 Years

It’s a long one...

I’ve been dating this man for almost a year and our relationship has made little to no progress. He doesn’t tell me anything regarding his feelings. Where do I begin...There was one instance he begged me (yes begged me) to see a picture of my ex. I showed him and without even asking he showed me a picture of his ex in return. I asked him, “why did y’all break up,” he shut me down saying “I don’t want to talk about it.” 1 year later I still know nothing. He doesn’t talk about his feelings at all. I’ve tried asking on a couple occasions into our ‘situation-ship’ and nothing - I feel like I have given up. Its like I barely know him.

So recently, I took it upon myself to start seeing other people because technically I am single. He also told me when we met, that once I turn 30 (which will be next month) I become less desirable to men and all this other bull. Anyways, he found out about one of my dates by eavesdropping into my conversation with a friend and ignored me for about 2 weeks.

Cool. When those 2 weeks went by he randomly text me asking “how was your date,” I didn’t reply. He called later on that day & asked me to dinner. At dinner, he asked about the date a second time. I end up telling him about how I felt. I told him how I feel like I barely know him from an emotional standpoint, how he doesn’t open up and tell me anything, and even recalled the time about him telling me that I was going to be less desirable at 30 and that he’s not taking me serious enough so of course I’m dating other people. I even ended the conversation telling him how much fun I had on my date (since he kept asking). I said all of that for him to respond, “we will talk later, not now,” which he always does! It’s been a month and he has yet to tell me anything!

I have entirely too much patience with him but now it’s running short. Idk if he acts like this because he’s been heart broken and hasn’t got over it or if that’s who he is. He’s not affectionate at all and can be a bit cold hearted. We never had sex, but there are times I spend the night and doesn’t even touch me, I’ll try to cuddle with him and he either pushes me off or gets an attitude. He even lacks at being a gentleman. He not absolutely horrible, he does have qualities I really like about him but all of this is playing a huge role.

Any advice?

His Placements

Pisces Sun

Pisces moon

Aqua merc

Cappy Venus

Cappy Mars

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@Cancer96
7 Years

Try asking about his past relationships, and to open up. If he says no or postpones it again, tell him that you're cutting contact with him for good and that you don't want to waste anymore time talking to a 'brick wall'. Good riddance.

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@bkbella86
15 Years5,000+ PostsAries

Let that shit go. Lots of wasted time. Plus I’m not sure if you know this but he’s abusive by negging you, telling you you’re not desirable. I wish a ninja would. Why deal with someone like that? Have you no self respect? This man is trash.

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@virgal_perfectionist
8 Years

Posted by BlueStar

What actually is attractive about him? 😒

Lol after I wrote all that out I asked myself the same question. He’s physically attractive but all of the baggage that come with him, it takes from an 8 to a 4. He’s goal oriented and ambitious & pushed me start my business. Other than that... that’s about it.

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@virgal_perfectionist
8 Years

Posted by jukey

They undesirable comment would have been a deal breaker for me. Someone has a black cloud above them.

The Venus Cap keeps the feelings on the down low, no matter the Sun. I feel like they respond to shows of devotion and commitment in order to open up. Naturally they're guarded about sharing such things in order to look cool and calm.

They usually need to trust that you'll be invested in them long-term.

So it would have to progress from a situationship to something more. If they're insecure, watch out for any controlling tendencies, passive-aggressiveness and paranoid accusations. His cold shoulder needs to be checked as well at some point if you stick around.

My Venus is in Virgo and its pretty tough for me to open up as well but goodness he has me beat. He deflects from every question I ask. He can’t even tell me he misses me when we go long periods without see each other. Instead he will say his damn dog misses me and wants to see me. It’s just getting old at this point. Cutting him off seems like the only reasonable thing to do.

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@LadyNeptune
10 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by virgal_perfectionist I told him how I feel like I barely know him from an emotional standpoint, how he doesn’t open up and tell me anything, and even recalled the time about him telling me that I was going to be less desirable at 30

He’s not affectionate at all and can be a bit cold hearted. We never had sex, but there are times I spend the night and doesn’t even touch me, I’ll try to cuddle with him and he either pushes me off or gets an attitude.

I'm confused what you are getting from this relationship?

No sex, cuddles, physical affection.

Insults to tear down your self-esteem.

You've given him a year of your life. What are you receiving in return?

I know virgo has a captn save a ho complex but I'm here to tell you disney lied to you. You can't 'change' him.

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@hbbrnaqua
9 Years

I'm also currently trying to understand a pisces sun & moon I have been seeing for a few months, and your description seems to be somewhat similar to some of his traits: can go long periods without talking, avoiding any form of confrontation.

I am not seeing him anymore because from one day to the other he decided that his feelings aren't enough to continue talking. One message, after months of acting like a couple, that's it.

I wish I could help you out with that, but there is no way I can relate to or understand this behavior. I hope those guys will learn how to talk things through at some point in their lives. At least out of respect to the other person.

Good luck!!

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@pinkbird03
10 Years5,000+ Posts

I dated a similar Pisces. He wouldn’t let me in or get close to him. Yet we talked multiple times a week and saw each other only a little bit. He eventually pulled away and I moved on too. It’s been 3 months now. However! Not long ago he reached out to say sorry and he wanted another chance if I was single and he blamed himself for everything. I actually felt bad! Poor guy. I think it’s their nature to swim back and forth.

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@sweethearts
20 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by pinkbird03

I dated a similar Pisces. He wouldn’t let me in or get close to him. Yet we talked multiple times a week and saw each other only a little bit. He eventually pulled away and I moved on too. It’s been 3 months now. However! Not long ago he reached out to say sorry and he wanted another chance if I was single and he blamed himself for everything. I actually felt bad! Poor guy. I think it’s their nature to swim back and forth.

And did you give him that second chance? Sadly, They all seem to be like this from what others have experienced and shared here.

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@pinkbird03
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by sweethearts

Posted by pinkbird03

I dated a similar Pisces. He wouldn’t let me in or get close to him. Yet we talked multiple times a week and saw each other only a little bit. He eventually pulled away and I moved on too. It’s been 3 months now. However! Not long ago he reached out to say sorry and he wanted another chance if I was single and he blamed himself for everything. I actually felt bad! Poor guy. I think it’s their nature to swim back and forth.

And did you give him that second chance? Sadly, They all seem to be like this from what others have experienced and shared here.

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No, I’m dating someone else. And I’m not sure if I’d give him a chance knowing that he might swim away again. Plus I’m not sure if I’d like him the same as I did.

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@virgoOPPP
7 Years10,000+ Posts

he probably still hasn't gotten over his ex.

maybe that's why he's interested in your ex.

many times in my relationships, i can't help but compare myself to his ex.

i hope you don't go through that so maybe it's better to just ghost him.

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@virgoOPPP
7 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by PhoenixStormHe also told me when we met, that once I turn 30 (which will be next month) I become less desirable to men

Where do people like him come up with this buffoonery?

i've got a scorpio sun/cap moon co-worker tell me that it's over for women after 25

dude's almost 40 and like overweight but okay

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@chris19
8 YearsPisces

Posted by SeaLion

Pisces men are trash

Not all of em. We come in different sizes, so it's best to choose the right one for you. All signs have the good and bad sides to them. It's like saying all men are trash. We all men come in different tastes, sizes etc. Better do your home work before choosing the right man for you or saying such words. And take that post out of this forum.

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@SeaLion
8 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by chris19

Posted by SeaLion

Pisces men are trash

Not all of em. We come in different sizes, so it's best to choose the right one for you. All signs have the good and bad sides to them. It's like saying all men are trash. We all men come in different tastes, sizes etc. Better do your home work before choosing the right man for you or saying such words. And take that post out of this forum.

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I've dated 4 or 5 Pisces men... all trash. I've done enough homework.

Your response "and take that post out of this forum" just proves my point... its called freedom of speech and opinion... dont try to censor my ass because you're a man and don't like what I have to say Pisces.

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@virgoOPPP
7 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by chris19

Posted by SeaLion

Pisces men are trash

Not all of em. We come in different sizes, so it's best to choose the right one for you. All signs have the good and bad sides to them. It's like saying all men are trash. We all men come in different tastes, sizes etc. Better do your home work before choosing the right man for you or saying such words. And take that post out of this forum.

I've dated 4 or 5 Pisces men... all trash. I've done enough homework.

Your response "and take that post out of this forum" just proves my point... its called freedom of speech and opinion... dont try to censor my ass because you're a man and don't like what I have to say Pisces.

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but what did they do?

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@SeaLion
8 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by chris19

Posted by SeaLion

Pisces men are trash

Not all of em. We come in different sizes, so it's best to choose the right one for you. All signs have the good and bad sides to them. It's like saying all men are trash. We all men come in different tastes, sizes etc. Better do your home work before choosing the right man for you or saying such words. And take that post out of this forum.

I've dated 4 or 5 Pisces men... all trash. I've done enough homework.

Your response "and take that post out of this forum" just proves my point... its called freedom of speech and opinion... dont try to censor my ass because you're a man and don't like what I have to say Pisces.

but what did they do?

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I honestly don't like talking about them anymore. I'm trying to move on.

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@virgoOPPP
7 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by chris19

Posted by SeaLion

Pisces men are trash

Not all of em. We come in different sizes, so it's best to choose the right one for you. All signs have the good and bad sides to them. It's like saying all men are trash. We all men come in different tastes, sizes etc. Better do your home work before choosing the right man for you or saying such words. And take that post out of this forum.

I've dated 4 or 5 Pisces men... all trash. I've done enough homework.

Your response "and take that post out of this forum" just proves my point... its called freedom of speech and opinion... dont try to censor my ass because you're a man and don't like what I have to say Pisces.

but what did they do?

I honestly don't like talking about them anymore. I'm trying to move on.

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sorry i've had bad experiences with them too

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10 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by pinkbird03

I dated a similar Pisces. He wouldn’t let me in or get close to him. Yet we talked multiple times a week and saw each other only a little bit. He eventually pulled away and I moved on too. It’s been 3 months now. However! Not long ago he reached out to say sorry and he wanted another chance if I was single and he blamed himself for everything. I actually felt bad! Poor guy. I think it’s their nature to swim back and forth.

Its really not.

He's just circling back to former options because of covid or whoever he prioritized over you didn't work out.

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@pinkbird03
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by pinkbird03

I dated a similar Pisces. He wouldn’t let me in or get close to him. Yet we talked multiple times a week and saw each other only a little bit. He eventually pulled away and I moved on too. It’s been 3 months now. However! Not long ago he reached out to say sorry and he wanted another chance if I was single and he blamed himself for everything. I actually felt bad! Poor guy. I think it’s their nature to swim back and forth.

Its really not.

He's just circling back to former options because of covid or whoever he prioritized over you didn't work out.

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He wasn’t dating anyone. He had serious health issues causing him a lot of pain and was depressed. And I know this was true because I drove by his house a bunch of times looking for another car in his driveway and there never once was a car. He only lives 5 minutes away so I felt tempted a lot.

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10 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by pinkbird03

I dated a similar Pisces. He wouldn’t let me in or get close to him. Yet we talked multiple times a week and saw each other only a little bit. He eventually pulled away and I moved on too. It’s been 3 months now. However! Not long ago he reached out to say sorry and he wanted another chance if I was single and he blamed himself for everything. I actually felt bad! Poor guy. I think it’s their nature to swim back and forth.

Its really not.

He's just circling back to former options because of covid or whoever he prioritized over you didn't work out.

He wasn’t dating anyone. He had serious health issues causing him a lot of pain and was depressed. And I know this was true because I drove by his house a bunch of times looking for another car in his driveway and there never once was a car. He only lives 5 minutes away so I felt tempted a lot.

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If he was chatting to you chances are he was chatting to others.

I'm js, what you describe sounds more like typical fuck boy behavior, not Pisces behavior.

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@pinkbird03
10 Years5,000+ Posts

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by pinkbird03

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by pinkbird03

I dated a similar Pisces. He wouldn’t let me in or get close to him. Yet we talked multiple times a week and saw each other only a little bit. He eventually pulled away and I moved on too. It’s been 3 months now. However! Not long ago he reached out to say sorry and he wanted another chance if I was single and he blamed himself for everything. I actually felt bad! Poor guy. I think it’s their nature to swim back and forth.

Its really not.

He's just circling back to former options because of covid or whoever he prioritized over you didn't work out.

He wasn’t dating anyone. He had serious health issues causing him a lot of pain and was depressed. And I know this was true because I drove by his house a bunch of times looking for another car in his driveway and there never once was a car. He only lives 5 minutes away so I felt tempted a lot.

If he was chatting to you chances are he was chatting to others.

I'm js, what you describe sounds more like typical fuck boy behavior, not Pisces behavior.

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Yeah I agree. But was his apology sincere? Does he actually want a chance with me?

I don’t think I’d date him again if I became single. He is 43 and I’m 31. I met him when he was 42. He’s overweight and his hair is receding. He is nice and makes me feel calm though - a quality a loved a lot for me being a crazy cancer.

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@chris19
8 YearsPisces

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by chris19

Posted by SeaLion

Pisces men are trash

Not all of em. We come in different sizes, so it's best to choose the right one for you. All signs have the good and bad sides to them. It's like saying all men are trash. We all men come in different tastes, sizes etc. Better do your home work before choosing the right man for you or saying such words. And take that post out of this forum.

I've dated 4 or 5 Pisces men... all trash. I've done enough homework.

Your response "and take that post out of this forum" just proves my point... its called freedom of speech and opinion... dont try to censor my ass because you're a man and don't like what I have to say Pisces.

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So what? You dated 4 or 5 Sharks, then you think you can judge us off those knuckle heads. Get your facts right, lady. I suggest you date at 40 or at least 10 Pisces men then maybe I can support your claim.

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@SeaLion
8 Years1,000+ Posts

Posted by chris19

Posted by SeaLion

Posted by chris19

Posted by SeaLion

Pisces men are trash

Not all of em. We come in different sizes, so it's best to choose the right one for you. All signs have the good and bad sides to them. It's like saying all men are trash. We all men come in different tastes, sizes etc. Better do your home work before choosing the right man for you or saying such words. And take that post out of this forum.

I've dated 4 or 5 Pisces men... all trash. I've done enough homework.

Your response "and take that post out of this forum" just proves my point... its called freedom of speech and opinion... dont try to censor my ass because you're a man and don't like what I have to say Pisces.

So what? You dated 4 or 5 Sharks, then you think you can judge us off those knuckle heads. Get your facts right, lady. I suggest you date at 40 or at least 10 Pisces men then maybe I can support your claim.

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Lol. Nah I'm good. I'm dating a Virgo now. Earth energy is a lot more peaceful. Less emotional drama.

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@virgal_perfectionist
8 Years

Update: I end up cutting him off. I never been one to tell someone “I’m cutting you off,” I just ignore (which I been told it’s not the correct way to go about things...I’m just not confrontational) Anyways, he end up sending me text messages which I didn’t respond to. He called a few times and wrote me on social media.

This morning I decided to send him a message telling him “I think it’s best we end things and go our separate ways.” He replied and said “I respect your decision and I hope we can remain friends and go out from time to time.”

Although I feel I made the right decision, I am overwhelmed with so many emotions all of a sudden. I’m guessing this is normal and won’t last for too long. Anyways thank you all for the advice!! ❤️

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@LadyNeptune
10 Years25,000+ Posts

Op: let’s end things and go our separate ways.

Pisces man: ok I’ll respect your decision.

Also Pisces man: lets stay friends and go out

Lol men 😂 freaking ridiculous.

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@virgoOPPP
7 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by LadyNeptune

Op: let’s end things and go our separate ways.

Pisces man: ok I’ll respect your decision.

Also Pisces man: lets stay friends and go out

Lol men 😂 freaking ridiculous.

that's just how it is 😂😂

i used to have this thing with a pisces sun/aqua mooon guy, then he started to make contact again but i told him i've got a boyfriend now so we can't be in contact anymore (i'd be okay with that usually but he's too unpredictable).

immediately, dude sends me a shirtless pic of himself lmao why.

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@LadyNeptune
10 Years25,000+ Posts

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by LadyNeptune

Op: let’s end things and go our separate ways.

Pisces man: ok I’ll respect your decision.

Also Pisces man: lets stay friends and go out

Lol men 😂 freaking ridiculous.

that's just how it is 😂😂

i used to have this thing with a pisces sun/aqua mooon guy, then he started to make contact again but i told him i've got a boyfriend now so we can't be in contact anymore (i'd be okay with that usually but he's too unpredictable).

immediately, dude sends me a shirtless pic of himself lmao why.

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Lol why exactly. He thought his male nipples would be powerful enough for you to leave your relationship? At least it wasn't a dick pic. Thank fictional baby jeebus.

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@virgoOPPP
7 Years10,000+ Posts

Posted by LadyNeptune

Posted by virgoOPPP

Posted by LadyNeptune

Op: let’s end things and go our separate ways.

Pisces man: ok I’ll respect your decision.

Also Pisces man: lets stay friends and go out

Lol men 😂 freaking ridiculous.

that's just how it is 😂😂

i used to have this thing with a pisces sun/aqua mooon guy, then he started to make contact again but i told him i've got a boyfriend now so we can't be in contact anymore (i'd be okay with that usually but he's too unpredictable).

immediately, dude sends me a shirtless pic of himself lmao why.

Lol why exactly. He thought his male nipples would be powerful enough for you to leave your relationship? At least it wasn't a dick pic. Thank fictional baby jeebus.

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tbh i'm such a cruel, trolling b i t c h to anyone who dares send me a dic pic

he knows that so he wouldn't dare but that move was confusing

maybe he thought: "lookie my hot bod, how can you miss out on this?"

pisces men are confusing asf