IT HAPPENS TO WOMEN TOO...

IT HAPPENS TO WOMEN TOO...

Everytime I feel I'm falling for someone I sabotage it, get scared, ready to run... my brain is like nooooooooo! What are you doing? You're gonna get hurt... quick detour!

At this point either I ruin it or I end up falling and be like fuck it I can't hide it no more...

Anybody else as a female experience this?

Or men did your significant other confess this is what happened?

Yea of course...you have to be pretty special to make me feel anything In the first place...

For me .....its just a feeling of being outta control

Being vulnerable sucks ass ....

Trusting people sucks ass...

Being rejected sucks ass...

Rejecting someone else sucks ass...

Posted by Cancan26
Yea of course...you have to be pretty special to make me feel anything In the first place...

For me .....its just a feeling of being outta control

Being vulnerable sucks ass ....

Trusting people sucks ass...

Being rejected sucks ass...

Rejecting someone else sucks ass...

Omg yes lol

Wish I could. Just free fall that is...

Too much controlling ass Capricorn in my chart holding my emotions in check.

Posted by bittercupcake
It could be attachment avoidant style . Fear of commitment or close relationships because in your childhood your parents, in this case the male/father figure, was distant or detached.

I'm guilty of pulling back when getting close to someone romantically, but I come back. I'm also not prone to committing. I've had many guys want to start up something and pursuing hard, only to give up because their affections weren't being reciprocated. But I see no point in giving anyone a chance if I'm not ready or remotely interested. If I don't feel attracted to you initially, you being with me had a z e r o chance

Yes I have abandonment issues... my father was very much detached... I relate to this.

Posted by LadyNeptune
Wish I could. Just free fall that is...

Too much controlling ass Capricorn in my chart holding my emotions in check.

Damn those capricorn placements make sure you won't fall till the bitter end when you about to fall off the cliff in mid air then you be like do I have a parachute or I'm just gonna have to hit the bottom now 😂😂 terrible man.

I feel the age we live in in general makes it harder to create a true committed bond with other humans. We are so use to instant gratification thanks to technology that the second we feel we won't have it our way it must be a negative thing. It's kind of sad really. Humans always depended on each other to make things work which made a level of respect and need for each other. Now that technology does pretty much everything we want other humans aren't really considered as a trustworthy investment.

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Posted by bittercupcake
It could be attachment avoidant style . Fear of commitment or close relationships because in your childhood your parents, in this case the male/father figure, was distant or detached.

I'm guilty of pulling back when getting close to someone romantically, but I come back. I'm also not prone to committing. I've had many guys want to start up something and pursuing hard, only to give up because their affections weren't being reciprocated. But I see no point in giving anyone a chance if I'm not ready or remotely interested. If I don't feel attracted to you initially, you being with me had a z e r o chance

Yes I have abandonment issues... my father was very much detached... I relate to this.

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Okay, if that is the problem then therapy might be better than discussing it online. Because we are talking trauma, unconscious deeply rooted fears, behavior and thinking patterns etc. Get offline, this is too big for

an online forum.

Posted by Soul
I feel the age we live in in general makes it harder to create a true committed bond with other humans. We are so use to instant gratification thanks to technology that the second we feel we won't have it our way it must be a negative thing. It's kind of sad really. Humans always depended on each other to make things work which made a level of respect and need for each other. Now that technology does pretty much everything we want other humans aren't really considered as a trustworthy investment.

Very interesting analogy! And yes this makes total sense! All of it this is such a good summarization of WHY we feel this way. ❤️

Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Glad I'm not alone lol... it always happens as soon as I feel like "oh god I'm falling" the panic happens lol.

Posted by TaurusInShania

Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Glad I'm not alone lol... it always happens as soon as I feel like "oh god I'm falling" the panic happens lol.

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I feel you. it got to the point that my bf thought I didn't like him lol. That was when we were first dating. I still have my sabotage moments. That's why we've been on and off for 3 years 🙄

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Posted by TaurusInShania

Posted by bittercupcake
It could be attachment avoidant style . Fear of commitment or close relationships because in your childhood your parents, in this case the male/father figure, was distant or detached.

I'm guilty of pulling back when getting close to someone romantically, but I come back. I'm also not prone to committing. I've had many guys want to start up something and pursuing hard, only to give up because their affections weren't being reciprocated. But I see no point in giving anyone a chance if I'm not ready or remotely interested. If I don't feel attracted to you initially, you being with me had a z e r o chance

Yes I have abandonment issues... my father was very much detached... I relate to this.

Okay, if that is the problem then therapy might be better than discussing it online. Because we are talking trauma, unconscious deeply rooted fears, behavior and thinking patterns etc. Get offline, this is too big for

an online forum.

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It explains like, all her behavior though, especially the "starved for male attention" bit.

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Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Glad I'm not alone lol... it always happens as soon as I feel like "oh god I'm falling" the panic happens lol.

I feel you. it got to the point that my bf thought I didn't like him lol. That was when we were first dating. I still have my sabotage moments. That's why we've been on and off for 3 years 🙄

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😂😂 he's probably used to it by now like... oh goodness here she goes let's give her a break and come back lol

Posted by TaurusInShania

Posted by thecrazyariestaurus

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Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Glad I'm not alone lol... it always happens as soon as I feel like "oh god I'm falling" the panic happens lol.

I feel you. it got to the point that my bf thought I didn't like him lol. That was when we were first dating. I still have my sabotage moments. That's why we've been on and off for 3 years 🙄

😂😂 he's probably used to it by now like... oh goodness here she goes let's give her a break and come back lol

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Lmfao he really is tho 😂😭 he's probably wondering why it hasn't happened lately. I've been trying reeeeeeeeeally hard not to do it this year 😂😂

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Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Glad I'm not alone lol... it always happens as soon as I feel like "oh god I'm falling" the panic happens lol.

I feel you. it got to the point that my bf thought I didn't like him lol. That was when we were first dating. I still have my sabotage moments. That's why we've been on and off for 3 years 🙄

😂😂 he's probably used to it by now like... oh goodness here she goes let's give her a break and come back lol

Lmfao he really is tho 😂😭 he's probably wondering why it hasn't happened lately. I've been trying reeeeeeeeeally hard not to do it this year 😂😂

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It's almost over lol... fingers crossed 👌🏽😂

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Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Glad I'm not alone lol... it always happens as soon as I feel like "oh god I'm falling" the panic happens lol.

I feel you. it got to the point that my bf thought I didn't like him lol. That was when we were first dating. I still have my sabotage moments. That's why we've been on and off for 3 years 🙄

😂😂 he's probably used to it by now like... oh goodness here she goes let's give her a break and come back lol

Lmfao he really is tho 😂😭 he's probably wondering why it hasn't happened lately. I've been trying reeeeeeeeeally hard not to do it this year 😂😂

It's almost over lol... fingers crossed 👌🏽😂

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Lmao! Just gotta make it through 2 more months then I hit a record 😂 so bad 😔

Yes!

What you describe happens to me.

Everytime i think i like smn i start thinking "no i dont like him, he might not be good for me, if he doesnt feel the same way i will get hurt , its so difficult to show him i am interested" and all that stuff

And i back off imediately....its sad....

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Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Glad I'm not alone lol... it always happens as soon as I feel like "oh god I'm falling" the panic happens lol.

I feel you. it got to the point that my bf thought I didn't like him lol. That was when we were first dating. I still have my sabotage moments. That's why we've been on and off for 3 years 🙄

😂😂 he's probably used to it by now like... oh goodness here she goes let's give her a break and come back lol

Lmfao he really is tho 😂😭 he's probably wondering why it hasn't happened lately. I've been trying reeeeeeeeeally hard not to do it this year 😂😂

It's almost over lol... fingers crossed 👌🏽😂

Lmao! Just gotta make it through 2 more months then I hit a record 😂 so bad 😔

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Not bad its progress 😜

Posted by DropOfJupiter
Yes!

What you describe happens to me.

Everytime i think i like smn i start thinking "no i dont like him, he might not be good for me, if he doesnt feel the same way i will get hurt , its so difficult to show him i am interested" and all that stuff

And i back off imediately....its sad....

Omg this...yes

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Posted by thecrazyariestaurus
Yep that's so me. I have a bad habit of sabotaging my relationships

Glad I'm not alone lol... it always happens as soon as I feel like "oh god I'm falling" the panic happens lol.

I feel you. it got to the point that my bf thought I didn't like him lol. That was when we were first dating. I still have my sabotage moments. That's why we've been on and off for 3 years 🙄

😂😂 he's probably used to it by now like... oh goodness here she goes let's give her a break and come back lol

Lmfao he really is tho 😂😭 he's probably wondering why it hasn't happened lately. I've been trying reeeeeeeeeally hard not to do it this year 😂😂

It's almost over lol... fingers crossed 👌🏽😂

Lmao! Just gotta make it through 2 more months then I hit a record 😂 so bad 😔

Not bad its progress 😜

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I just think it's bad that I think this way lol it's not ok 😫