@Stensco21
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Is it ever okay to let your significant other call you names in a relationship?
Is It Acceptable for Your Partner to Call You Names in a Relationship
Allowing your partner to call you names can harm emotional health and create an unhealthy dynamic. Respectful communication is essential for a healthy relationship. If name-calling occurs, it signals underlying issues that need addressing. Setting boundaries and seeking mutual respect are crucial for maintaining emotional well-being and relationship balance.
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Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normal
when they call you love or babe is coz they no longer love you enough to call you by your name
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Really? Never thought of that
Posted by EnochtheWise
this the dude with the burner phone? lol...you're scorp moon so attracted to violent criminally insane types maybe?
Yes I called him out on everything and he's been breaking stuff and calling me names
For me the relationship is based on respect. If there's no respect there can't be anything else.
Posted by pisceanloves
For me the relationship is based on respect. If there's no respect there can't be anything else.
Yea I have to walk ok eggshells and every time we fight he kicks me out
Posted by pisceanloves
For me the relationship is based on respect. If there's no respect there can't be anything else.Yea I have to walk ok eggshells and every time we fight he kicks me out
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Time to leave my friend. I'm sorry
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normal
If you are unsure whether being verbally abused is normal or not you have bigger problems then this angry douch bag cheater.
We sometimes call each other WHORE and say stupid shit like SMD. But we're some weirdos 🤷♀️
Posted by xghy
I would feel a strong urge to punch my invisible partner if he called me the followingSweetie
Honey
Bae
Bitch
Even if he was hitting it good?
No. And he shouldn't have it in him to do so.
I wouldn't call him names either.
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normal
No.
Calling someone bae should be an arrestable offence
It means a turd
Posted by xghy
I would feel a strong urge to punch my invisible partner if he called me the followingSweetie
Honey
Bae
Bitch
Even if he was hitting it good?
No.
If he did call me bitch, I might overanalyze as to why he would feel the need to say anything if he was hitting it that good.
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Cause dirty talk is fun sometimes
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
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I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
Posted by EnochtheWise
this the dude with the burner phone? lol...you're scorp moon so attracted to violent criminally insane types maybe?Yes I called him out on everything and he's been breaking stuff and calling me names
Did he at least give you an explanation? What was your approach when your brought it up?
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Pissed said they were old and had been there but they hadn't
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
It's still not acceptable. And if you make him that angry then why is he with you? I know you probably love him, but if that doesn't stop I would definitely leave. That or give him the choice of working on his anger issues in a way that doesn't involve you or saying goodbye to each other
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I don't know he's always been angry but now it's directed at me. He needs help
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normal
Why do you even have to ask this ? 😐
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
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But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
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I wonder about people sometimes.....really
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
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Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
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Because I can be a lot to handle
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
Because I can be a lot to handle
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So you think you deserve being abused ?
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normal
That's sounds like great relationship!
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
Because I can be a lot to handle
So you think you deserve being abused ?
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I know I'm not perfect and he said I push him until he snaps
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
Because I can be a lot to handle
So you think you deserve being abused ?
I know I'm not perfect and he said I push him until he snaps
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Sounds like you are not good for each other
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
Because I can be a lot to handle
So you think you deserve being abused ?
I know I'm not perfect and he said I push him until he snaps
Sounds like you are not good for each other
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But don't most couples fight?
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
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But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
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I think the same Just know I can be a lot to handle me
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
I think the same Just know I can be a lot to handle me
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If he can't handle you then he's not right for you 🤷♀️
If any action by a significant other, provokes you to ask "Is it okay?", it probably isn't.
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
Because I can be a lot to handle
So you think you deserve being abused ?
I know I'm not perfect and he said I push him until he snaps
Sounds like you are not good for each other
But don't most couples fight?
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Lol
Are you trying to justify his abusive behaviour....you said earlier he needs "help"
Good luck with it
Rather you than me
Self respect if a fine thing
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If any action by a significant other, provokes you to ask "Is it okay?", it probably isn't.
Yes....
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
I think the same Just know I can be a lot to handle me
Well it's still not okay to act like this. Certainly not a healthy situation. There is a thing called respect in a relationship. why do you say you are a lot to handle?
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I have very high standards. Will fight back tooth and nail over things he doesn't see as an issue. Very ambitious and always living life at the highest level. I think I stress him out. And I'm a smarter than him so he is getting caught easier then he would like. He's pretty sneaky but I def shock him things I find out. He asked me if I was psychic before because I can intuively tell when he is lying. To him that's psychic
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
I think the same Just know I can be a lot to handle me
If he can't handle you then he's not right for you 🤷♀️
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True he was just so perfect in the beginning
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
I think the same Just know I can be a lot to handle me
Well it's still not okay to act like this. Certainly not a healthy situation. There is a thing called respect in a relationship. why do you say you are a lot to handle?
I have very high standards. Will fight back tooth and nail over things he doesn't see as an issue. Very ambitious and always living life at the highest level. I think I stress him out. And I'm a smarter than him so he is getting caught easier then he would like. He's pretty sneaky but I def shock him things I find out. He asked me if I was psychic before because I can intuively tell when he is lying. To him that's psychic
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How do you have high standards if you let him lie to you and abuse you...that sounds like a huge contradiction ..
No it is Not ok.
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
I think the same Just know I can be a lot to handle me
If he can't handle you then he's not right for you 🤷♀️
True he was just so perfect in the beginning
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That's true of everyone and every relationship. It's perfect in the beginning because it's a facade. You show your best side.
Then once things get comfortable the real person comes out.
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
I think the same Just know I can be a lot to handle me
Well it's still not okay to act like this. Certainly not a healthy situation. There is a thing called respect in a relationship. why do you say you are a lot to handle?
I have very high standards. Will fight back tooth and nail over things he doesn't see as an issue. Very ambitious and always living life at the highest level. I think I stress him out. And I'm a smarter than him so he is getting caught easier then he would like. He's pretty sneaky but I def shock him things I find out. He asked me if I was psychic before because I can intuively tell when he is lying. To him that's psychic
Ummmm it just sounds unhealthy. Lying is not okay & you shouldn't have to snoop on someone to see if they are lying or not. My advice is to get out. Find someone who is honest with you.
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Yea I'm done
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
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She apparently likes to be put down. However she knows that's not ok.
Asking is just 'let's talk about it'...
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
She apparently likes to be put down. However she knows that's not ok.
Asking is just 'let's talk about it'...
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I've no patience with peoples' low standards
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalNope nope nope nope and nope. Tell that fucker to go to hell and leave him. Seriously. That's not okay.
I know but he says it's because I make him so angry
But look at how he treats you when he gets angry. His first instinct is to be abusive.
Why do you want to stay with someone who doesn't respect you?
Because he is nice in other ways. Just not sure if I'm overreacting
But not when it counts.
A real man would walk away when he gets heated, not hurl insults and objects at his gf. It's very telling that he reacts this way when you confront him about his shady behavior (burner phone and condoms). A cheater will always flip the script when confronted with his fuck up. He hurls insults to keep you off balance and shift the attention off him.
Blaming you for his anger issues is also textbook wife beater.
I think the same Just know I can be a lot to handle me
If he can't handle you then he's not right for you 🤷♀️
True he was just so perfect in the beginning
That's true of everyone and every relationship. It's perfect in the beginning because it's a facade. You show your best side.
Then once things get comfortable the real person comes out.
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Yes, for sure
I don't remember ever reading anything you wrote that I don't agree with
Like minds
🙂
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
She apparently likes to be put down. However she knows that's not ok.
Asking is just 'let's talk about it'...
I've no patience with peoples' low standards
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I once had tried. Next day I've told him off because that's not me. However anlota of women into this. How do you think bdsm works?
We cuss each other out all the time, but just jokingly lol I call him a motherfucker all the time but he knows I'm playing 😝
If he did it for real he knows I'll become psycho bitch real quick
Posted by Stensco21
Lazy, bitch, liar, evil and then he breaks stuff just don't know it it's normalWhy do you even have to ask this ? 😐
She apparently likes to be put down. However she knows that's not ok.
Asking is just 'let's talk about it'...
I've no patience with peoples' low standards
I once had tried. Next day I've told him off because that's not me. However anlota of women into this. How do you think bdsm works?
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Not sure, Gem but Freud would have a field day with this stuff....some of it comes from childhood patterns, I guess...learned behavior and conditioning in part ?
Posted by FknNerd
What did he say about the condoms? Breaking your stuff isnt cool, but youre not really saying enough for me to tell you that youre not in the wrong here. Like, what does he lie about?
Fucking other girls.
Posted by FknNerd
What did he say about the condoms? Breaking your stuff isnt cool, but youre not really saying enough for me to tell you that youre not in the wrong here. Like, what does he lie about?
He said they were old and that they had been in there for years. But I had never seen them before and I stayed home for a year and didn't work. I dug all throughout that drawer for a year. Never once saw them.
Posted by FknNerd
What did he say about the condoms? Breaking your stuff isnt cool, but youre not really saying enough for me to tell you that youre not in the wrong here. Like, what does he lie about?He said they were old and that they had been in there for years. But I had never seen them before and I stayed home for a year and didn't work. I dug all throughout that drawer for a year. Never once saw them.
Okay so like did you just let that go? Kick him out til he tells the truth.
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No I broke up with him
Posted by FknNerd
What did he say about the condoms? Breaking your stuff isnt cool, but youre not really saying enough for me to tell you that youre not in the wrong here. Like, what does he lie about?He said they were old and that they had been in there for years. But I had never seen them before and I stayed home for a year and didn't work. I dug all throughout that drawer for a year. Never once saw them.
Okay so like did you just let that go? Kick him out til he tells the truth.
No I broke up with him
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Good for you...he sounds like a loser and you deserve much more
Stay strong
x
Posted by FknNerd
What did he say about the condoms? Breaking your stuff isnt cool, but youre not really saying enough for me to tell you that youre not in the wrong here. Like, what does he lie about?He said they were old and that they had been in there for years. But I had never seen them before and I stayed home for a year and didn't work. I dug all throughout that drawer for a year. Never once saw them.
Okay so like did you just let that go? Kick him out til he tells the truth.
No I broke up with him
Does he want to get back together? Maybe he found the condoms somewhere else and just put them in there. If you're sure he's lying, have you gone about trying to get the truth somehow? If you dont want to be with him, then just be done with it. But if you do, breaking up with him for a long period of time gives him a lot of space to actually sleep with other people so if that's what he wanted to do, he's done it by now.
Someone breaking up with me over something I didnt do and then them not believing me would make me angry too lol.
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If he did find them somewhere else why wouldn't he just say that? Instead just trying to make me believe they have always been there when I know they haven't.
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Is it ever okay to let your significant other call you names in a relationship?