The love of my life is engaged

Just here to vent, please don’t be mean

I’ve been dating around. Trying to find another love. A healthy love to call my own. I fell in love with this Virgo man when I met him in 2019. We worked together. I know to some extent he felt the same. But he had a girlfriend. They have kids (separately. But they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years. One day, I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to get away. I found a new job. I wiped my hands clean of this affair. It’s been one year and three months. I allowed myself to feel my feelings. The good and the bad. I’ve been dating. I’ve met some interesting people. I’ve met some boring people. In that time, I’ve also become sober. I bought a new house. I’m going back to school to finally finish my degree that’s been put on hold for 10 years due to my drinking. I’ve lost about 25 pounds. It’s been 9 months since he’s last messaged me. It’s been 9 months that I’ve been sober. Life has been amazing and I’ve never been so proud of myself

He reached out to me this past Monday. Hello. How are you? I miss you. He came over on Tuesday AM. We slept together. He told me how deeply he feels for me and our friendship. He’s so sorry about everything. He’s so sorry he’s with another girl. He hasn’t been eating or sleeping but he’s not sure why. He’s HAPPY. Everything is GREAT. But he doesn’t understand this shadow of stress that’s been clouding his mind. I held him and rubbed his back as I’ve done so many times in the past. We hugged goodbye. He promised me he wouldn’t be a stranger. This is the beginning of something beautiful. I went to work on cloud 9. I saw he had unblocked me on Facebook. He (his gf) had me blocked a week after we had met after I had tried to add him as a friend. I got home from work that night and a former coworker had sent me a picture of his relationship status update that had just been posted, although dated 3 days before to “engaged.” My heart is shattered. I texted him yesterday “congratulations 🙂 I hope it’s everything you’ve ever wanted.” I’m not sure if he’ll text back. But once again my world has been rocked. I’m a libra lady on the virgo cusp. His fiancé is a libra lady. That is all. Again, please be kind

Where is the Gemini man??

Posted by LuckyLibra7
Where is the Gemini man??

Did you not read what I wrote—? I said I’ve been dating around. Gemini man I’ve known for like two months has literally nothing to do with dude I’ve been in love with for 4 years

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Can you tell us your chart and his?

Me Sag rising

Libra sun

Aries moon

Virgo mercury

Leo venus

Libra mars

Him Scorpio rising

Virgo sun

Virgo mercury

Pisces moon

Libra venus

Cancer mars

Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

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Posted by LuckyLibra7
Where is the Gemini man??

Did you not read what I wrote—? I said I’ve been dating around. Gemini man I’ve known for like two months has literally nothing to do with dude I’ve been in love with for 4 years
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Ignore him. Lol. He has no room to talk. He talks about a different woman every week.

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And you have a meltdown on here every week.. but you're giving advice.

I haven't called any of them the LOML though, so the shoe doesn't fit.

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Where is the Gemini man??

Did you not read what I wrote—? I said I’ve been dating around. Gemini man I’ve known for like two months has literally nothing to do with dude I’ve been in love with for 4 years
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Ignore him. Lol. He has no room to talk. He talks about a different woman every week.
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And you have a meltdown on here every week.. but you're giving advice.


I haven't called any of them the LOML though, so the shoe doesn't fit.

That’s because you play the whole I’m-too cool-for-emotions Libra thing too hard

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No, feelings take time to develop and in this dating market, it's important to get to know someone and not jump into things.

Posted by Undine
Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.


Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief

Damn. This toxic af. It sounds like he’s been using you. If it’s one thing I’ve learned from all my guy friends is that men can say or do romantic things for a woman today and turn around and marry or commit to someone else the next. Good, grown men already have an idea of the woman they want to have their baby and settle with. Sounds like you’re a side piece and you keep letting him use you because you’re obviously in love.

Continue taking care of yourself and focus on you. I know what its like to not be able to shake that love feeling. But the universe has a shitty way of opening a door for someone else only when we’re ready.

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Damn. This toxic af. It sounds like he’s been using you. If it’s one thing I’ve learned from all my guy friends is that men can say or do romantic things for a woman today and turn around and marry or commit to someone else the next. Good, grown men already have an idea of the woman they want to have their baby and settle with. Sounds like you’re a side piece and you keep letting him use you because you’re obviously in love.


Continue taking care of yourself and focus on you. I know what its like to not be able to shake that love feeling. But the universe has a shitty way of opening a door for someone else only when we’re ready.

It’s kinda funny the job I got after working with him is at a law firm that specializes in divorces. Maybe if I hear from him again, I’ll kindly let him know divorces are often more expensive than weddings and to hmu if he needs anyone good 🤷🏻‍♀️

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"He told me how deeply he feels for me and our friendship. He’s so sorry about everything. He’s so sorry he’s with another girl."

He's so sorry that he's still not leaving her😂 damn, those Virgos dickmatazing games are off the charts lol I can get why he hooked you while you were drunk, but now you're sober come on girl, sober up for real! He's playing. You's always been playing you. If he wanted to be with you he would be with you - it's that simple! Men leave their wife for someone they want to be with more but this guy is having you as his side piece and is not even married! How effed up is that?! I get people have issues leaving someone if they have mutual children, bought home together, have debts together but he doesn't even have children woth her but is still choosing her over you! How crazy is that?!

She has two boys he has one boy one girl. They all live in his house. They have debts together 🙄 I asked for kindness. I don’t need to spell the whole thing out. Please hope off if you’re gonna be rude

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Posted by Undine
Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

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She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.

These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.

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Posted by Undine
Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.


These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.
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That's very true. I was literally not even being judgemental. I get that people can be weak, that people can be naive, they can fall for lies. But you can't fall for lies over and over for 3 years. And you certainly can't show off for sleeping with someone more than his own gf...I mean...the f? I'm not a person to share high moral standards around here for sure cause I've done bad things too...but there is an end to everything. There is a point where you wake up and say - wtf am I doing?! And you get ashamed of yourself and never do it again. But I don't see shame here at all...and nope, I don't think he's a mean bad guy here at all. He's opportunistic and he's using whom he finds usable at the moment.

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dw I am passing enough judgement for this whole thread.

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Posted by Undine
Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse
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She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.


These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.

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Libras are masochists. Even when they know they can take a different direction they choose problems not peace.

Posted by Kmilibra
Just here to vent, please don’t be mean


I’ve been dating around. Trying to find another love. A healthy love to call my own. I fell in love with this Virgo man when I met him in 2019. We worked together. I know to some extent he felt the same. But he had a girlfriend. They have kids (separately. But they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years. One day, I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to get away. I found a new job. I wiped my hands clean of this affair. It’s been one year and three months. I allowed myself to feel my feelings. The good and the bad. I’ve been dating. I’ve met some interesting people. I’ve met some boring people. In that time, I’ve also become sober. I bought a new house. I’m going back to school to finally finish my degree that’s been put on hold for 10 years due to my drinking. I’ve lost about 25 pounds. It’s been 9 months since he’s last messaged me. It’s been 9 months that I’ve been sober. Life has been amazing and I’ve never been so proud of myself


He reached out to me this past Monday. Hello. How are you? I miss you. He came over on Tuesday AM. We slept together. He told me how deeply he feels for me and our friendship. He’s so sorry about everything. He’s so sorry he’s with another girl. He hasn’t been eating or sleeping but he’s not sure why. He’s HAPPY. Everything is GREAT. But he doesn’t understand this shadow of stress that’s been clouding his mind. I held him and rubbed his back as I’ve done so many times in the past. We hugged goodbye. He promised me he wouldn’t be a stranger. This is the beginning of something beautiful. I went to work on cloud 9. I saw he had unblocked me on Facebook. He (his gf) had me blocked a week after we had met after I had tried to add him as a friend. I got home from work that night and a former coworker had sent me a picture of his relationship status update that had just been posted, although dated 3 days before to “engaged.” My heart is shattered. I texted him yesterday “congratulations I hope it’s everything you’ve ever wanted.” I’m not sure if he’ll text back. But once again my world has been rocked. I’m a libra lady on the virgo cusp. His fiancé is a libra lady. That is all. Again, please be kind

What constitutes "Love of My Life" exactly? Sex? Sweet Words?

I've required a bit more from men and did not give out this crown - "Love of My Life."

The first thing you need to do is stop calling him that. Speak it into the universe that a sexual affair with a common-law married man with kids soon to be married man for realz is the best you'll ever do? Love of Your Life, really? Don't believe it. It's like game day talk, exaggeration to psyche yourself up. Psyching yourself up in this way is a hard fall and probably why you feel so bad. Look at the title you gave him and how little you required of him to earn it. You certainly didn't require fidelity... I mean, I think that's a basic requisite for this title, no? If not, being the "love of your life" sells for pretty cheap.

You probably just called him that for emphasis and purpose of this thread but you get my point, I'm sure. But, it's style a metaphor for the intensity of your feelings. Feelings that don't seem quite warranted.

Was it the D, though, LOL?

Now that you know he’s engaged, he’ll be back once he’s married, since you were willing to be there while he was in a relationship.

Virgos are sneaky and if you’ve accepted him previously, he won’t see a problem later either.

He’s a typical man that can waste years of your life if you let him, while remaining where he’s at.

There’s a viral video that talks about women readily fitting in to mens lives just where the men need them because they make themselves available to the man and the man really didn’t need to do much because the other woman knows the truth.

He still loves his girl, he just may be bored or mad and another woman stepped up and fit into that space to comfort him.

Try to heal and move on and find someone else.

It’s a tale old as time of falling for a guy pretending to be in an unfulfilling relationship.

You deserve your own man, not someone else’s.

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Posted by Undine
Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.


These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.

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You're right. The men expect this type of competitive spirit to entangle the other woman. It's the psychology of the triangle. The universe will find her deserving of the darkness she feels as it feeds on the darkness in her. She becomes a victim and the persecutor but to no one. Her on personal jail cell. She may become stuck in the loop as he prepares her to continue to be the side piece. Which it kinda looks like he's about to do cause the new woman don't know about her.... hence the visitation.

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Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.


These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.

You're right. The men expect this type of competitive spirit to entangle the other woman. It's the psychology of the triangle. The universe will find her deserving of the darkness she feels as it feeds on the darkness in her. She becomes a victim and the persecutor but to no one. Her on personal jail cell. She may become stuck in the loop as he prepares her to continue to be the side piece. Which it kinda looks like he's about to do cause the new woman don't know about her.... hence the visitation.

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Woah that's deep. 🔥

so sorry but he wasn't a very stand-up guy from the very beginning

and from what i've read at least, he's never really committed himself to you

Posted by Kmilibra
He told me how deeply he feels for me and our friendship.

yeah i'd have given up after that

he didn't even TRY to future fake you.

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Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.

These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.
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You're right. The men expect this type of competitive spirit to entangle the other woman. It's the psychology of the triangle. The universe will find her deserving of the darkness she feels as it feeds on the darkness in her. She becomes a victim and the persecutor but to no one. Her on personal jail cell. She may become stuck in the loop as he prepares her to continue to be the side piece. Which it kinda looks like he's about to do cause the new woman don't know about her.... hence the visitation.

I think this is our knee jerk reaction as women to the thought of someone being able to infiltrate our most vulnerable relationships. We hope that the universe will even the score. I don’t ever see it happen this way though. My grandma carried on a decades long affair with a man that only ended because he died. They worked together and he found time to be around for every holiday. Men die first so it doesn’t matter if you’re the wife or the side chick, they’re both living out the rest of their days alone.

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No, I don't. I'm judging on her pain, feelings, perspective of the situation. If she came on here happy, good. Naive, a different approach. She expresses not wanting to do this.

Ultimately, it is our lives. We hurt ourselves.

Hey, anyone can coach her on how to be a happy side-piece, go right ahead.

I've know happy side pieces too, shit. My girlfriends' father decided he was going to move in with his side piece of many years. The family laughed as he came back cause the side-piece said no to living together. She was happy with the arrangement. But, when he tried to come back, my friend's mom also said no. LMAO

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Posted by Undine
Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.

These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.

You're right. The men expect this type of competitive spirit to entangle the other woman. It's the psychology of the triangle. The universe will find her deserving of the darkness she feels as it feeds on the darkness in her. She becomes a victim and the persecutor but to no one. Her on personal jail cell. She may become stuck in the loop as he prepares her to continue to be the side piece. Which it kinda looks like he's about to do cause the new woman don't know about her.... hence the visitation.

Woah that's deep. 🔥

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Permit me to go deeper...

The fact that he is setting her up to be a permanent member of a triangle, and just change out the main woman, third party might mean he's working something out psychologically, subconsciously. They both might. In this way, she kinda becomes the main woman, LOL.

For example, my nephews' godmother revealed to me she was the other woman in most of her relationships because of childhood wound of her father carrying out an affair for many years. She saw her own mother as weak and the other woman as glamourous and strong. Her mother was submissive, traditional, stay at home, silent sufferer. Her anger at her mother for not standing up for herself, for having "no other choices," being completely dependent... made her assume the position of side-chick in her adult life.

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Can you tell us your chart and his?

Me Sag rising

Libra sun

Aries moon

Virgo mercury

Leo venus

Libra mars

Him Scorpio rising

Virgo sun

Virgo mercury

Pisces moon

Libra venus

Cancer mars
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Pisces moon bleh.


He has no fire either. He’s just feeding off of your energy.

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pisces moon men 🤮🤮

Posted by Kmilibra
Just here to vent, please don’t be mean


I’ve been dating around. Trying to find another love. A healthy love to call my own. I fell in love with this Virgo man when I met him in 2019. We worked together. I know to some extent he felt the same. But he had a girlfriend. They have kids (separately. But they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years. One day, I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to get away. I found a new job. I wiped my hands clean of this affair. It’s been one year and three months. I allowed myself to feel my feelings. The good and the bad. I’ve been dating. I’ve met some interesting people. I’ve met some boring people. In that time, I’ve also become sober. I bought a new house. I’m going back to school to finally finish my degree that’s been put on hold for 10 years due to my drinking. I’ve lost about 25 pounds. It’s been 9 months since he’s last messaged me. It’s been 9 months that I’ve been sober. Life has been amazing and I’ve never been so proud of myself


He reached out to me this past Monday. Hello. How are you? I miss you. He came over on Tuesday AM. We slept together. He told me how deeply he feels for me and our friendship. He’s so sorry about everything. He’s so sorry he’s with another girl. He hasn’t been eating or sleeping but he’s not sure why. He’s HAPPY. Everything is GREAT. But he doesn’t understand this shadow of stress that’s been clouding his mind. I held him and rubbed his back as I’ve done so many times in the past. We hugged goodbye. He promised me he wouldn’t be a stranger. This is the beginning of something beautiful. I went to work on cloud 9. I saw he had unblocked me on Facebook. He (his gf) had me blocked a week after we had met after I had tried to add him as a friend. I got home from work that night and a former coworker had sent me a picture of his relationship status update that had just been posted, although dated 3 days before to “engaged.” My heart is shattered. I texted him yesterday “congratulations I hope it’s everything you’ve ever wanted.” I’m not sure if he’ll text back. But once again my world has been rocked. I’m a libra lady on the virgo cusp. His fiancé is a libra lady. That is all. Again, please be kind

This article might help you. It's the astrology and psychology of love triangles. https://www.astro.com/astrology/in_triangle_e.htm

I also have a music thread about them: https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/music/music-for-those-love-triangles-oooo-10531027/

I find love triangles fascinating.

And, have no experience with it at all. To tell you why would be me being "mean" and you said don't be mean.

You didn’t pose a question in your post.

What did you want help with?!

Send him a congratulations 🎂 🍾 🎉

I'm fascinated by things I do not understand. So, I listened to varying tales, songs, articles on the subject from all sides of the triangle both male and female perspective. My curiosity often began as a child, trying to understand the whole world of love.

For example, this song by Steely Dan called "Dirty Work." It came out before I was born 1972.

This song answered the big question of "why?" it gives several instances and possibilities of "why?"

"Times are hard

You're afraid to pay the fee

So you find yourself somebody

Who can do the job for free"

It's om my thread titled, "Music for Those Love Triangles...Oooo"

https://www.dxpnet.com/opinion/music/music-for-those-love-triangles-oooo-10531027/

My favorite is Tom Petty and the Heart Breakers "She's A Woman in Love."

The saddest is Stylistics "Hurry Up This Way Again"

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Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.

These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.
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You're right. The men expect this type of competitive spirit to entangle the other woman. It's the psychology of the triangle. The universe will find her deserving of the darkness she feels as it feeds on the darkness in her. She becomes a victim and the persecutor but to no one. Her on personal jail cell. She may become stuck in the loop as he prepares her to continue to be the side piece. Which it kinda looks like he's about to do cause the new woman don't know about her.... hence the visitation.
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Men die first so it doesn’t matter if you’re the wife or the side chick, they’re both living out the rest of their days alone.

Maybe some do, but not always, at least not in my family. Both of my grandpas lived longer than my grandmas (one I never even met, died before I was born). The other couple, grandpa died 40 days after grandma and he was 4 years older. My dad is alive and my mom died, he's also older. Same thing with my cousin's grand parents, grandpa outlived grandma for years...

On average females of every species outlive their counterparts. It has been hypothesized that the extra X chromosome helps protect against mutations.

Eh, sometimes I wished it, sometimes not so much. It kinda sucks to outlive your SO. Maybe my family has defective 2nd X lol

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Whole reason why I didn't want to be married and the plus side of divorce - not outliving your spouse. As a Venus in Aqua, I can have perverse perspectives like this that are actually a part of me that I put into action. I revealed this to my husband when we got back together, and he said he knew. It felt good that he understands me without words. He's so courageous about our love?

Be ye not deceived. That was not the main reason (outliving him), just an added plus in my mind. I always try to find the sunshine.

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Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.

These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.

You're right. The men expect this type of competitive spirit to entangle the other woman. It's the psychology of the triangle. The universe will find her deserving of the darkness she feels as it feeds on the darkness in her. She becomes a victim and the persecutor but to no one. Her on personal jail cell. She may become stuck in the loop as he prepares her to continue to be the side piece. Which it kinda looks like he's about to do cause the new woman don't know about her.... hence the visitation.

Woah that's deep. 🔥
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The fact that he is setting her up to be a permanent member of a triangle, and just change out the main woman, third party might mean he's working something out psychologically, subconsciously. They both might. In this way, she kinda becomes the main woman, LOL.


For example, my nephews' godmother revealed to me she was the other woman in most of her relationships because of childhood wound of her father carrying out an affair for many years. She saw her own mother as weak and the other woman as glamourous and strong. Her mother was submissive, traditional, stay at home, silent sufferer. Her anger at her mother for not standing up for herself, for having "no other choices," being completely dependent... made her assume the position of side-chick in her adult life.

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tbh as i get older, i feel so much more esteem for women who don't actually care about the men whose marriages and lives they're ruining (but only the ones that don't get pregnant or emotionally-attached). i really respect the ones that were literally just out there for boredom or financial gain. not the emotional, competitive ones. just the ones who ruin these weak men's lives then discard them to level up. women who future fake.

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Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.

These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.

You're right. The men expect this type of competitive spirit to entangle the other woman. It's the psychology of the triangle. The universe will find her deserving of the darkness she feels as it feeds on the darkness in her. She becomes a victim and the persecutor but to no one. Her on personal jail cell. She may become stuck in the loop as he prepares her to continue to be the side piece. Which it kinda looks like he's about to do cause the new woman don't know about her.... hence the visitation.

Woah that's deep. 🔥
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Permit me to go deeper...


The fact that he is setting her up to be a permanent member of a triangle, and just change out the main woman, third party might mean he's working something out psychologically, subconsciously. They both might. In this way, she kinda becomes the main woman, LOL.


For example, my nephews' godmother revealed to me she was the other woman in most of her relationships because of childhood wound of her father carrying out an affair for many years. She saw her own mother as weak and the other woman as glamourous and strong. Her mother was submissive, traditional, stay at home, silent sufferer. Her anger at her mother for not standing up for herself, for having "no other choices," being completely dependent... made her assume the position of side-chick in her adult life.

tbh as i get older, i feel so much more esteem for women who don't actually care about the men whose marriages and lives they're ruining (but only the ones that don't get pregnant or emotionally-attached). i really respect the ones that were literally just out there for boredom or financial gain. not the emotional, competitive ones. just the ones who ruin these weak men's lives then discard them to level up. women who future fake.

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I agree.

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Please never let yourself down so much to become a side piece again.

Block that piece of shit...How are you not OUTRAGED by the deceptive and cowardly way he treated you?

It hasn’t even been 48 hours yet. I think this situation calls for a normal range of emotions. Believe the rage will come after the grief
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What 48h? You've been sleeping with him for 3 years while he's been living with someone else. That's quite a lot of time to get outraged by his playing! Oh he's engaged now? Big difference! He'll still sleep with you as he did. Piece of paper and ring on the finger never changed anyone for better or worse

She loves it. I don't even know why we bother replying. Everyone's all in here like "Oh my god he's such an ass you deserve better, you were used by this big bad evil man you poor thing" Like hell she was. Here she goes gloating "they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years" She loves it. This isn't even a 'help me, tell me I'm good and he's bad thread' this is a straight up gloating thread lmao.

These two are as bad as eachother, they both deserve what's coming. He's gonna get found out and she's wasted 3 good years of her life, and will waste more I bet.
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You're right. The men expect this type of competitive spirit to entangle the other woman. It's the psychology of the triangle. The universe will find her deserving of the darkness she feels as it feeds on the darkness in her. She becomes a victim and the persecutor but to no one. Her on personal jail cell. She may become stuck in the loop as he prepares her to continue to be the side piece. Which it kinda looks like he's about to do cause the new woman don't know about her.... hence the visitation.
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Men die first so it doesn’t matter if you’re the wife or the side chick, they’re both living out the rest of their days alone.

Maybe some do, but not always, at least not in my family. Both of my grandpas lived longer than my grandmas (one I never even met, died before I was born). The other couple, grandpa died 40 days after grandma and he was 4 years older. My dad is alive and my mom died, he's also older. Same thing with my cousin's grand parents, grandpa outlived grandma for years...

On average females of every species outlive their counterparts. It has been hypothesized that the extra X chromosome helps protect against mutations.

Eh, sometimes I wished it, sometimes not so much. It kinda sucks to outlive your SO. Maybe my family has defective 2nd X lol

Whole reason why I didn't want to be married and the plus side of divorce - not outliving your spouse. As a Venus in Aqua, I can have perverse perspectives like this that are actually a part of me that I put into action. I revealed this to my husband when we got back together, and he said he knew. It felt good that he understands me without words. He's so courageous about our love?


Be ye not deceived. That was not the main reason (outliving him), just an added plus in my mind. I always try to find the sunshine.

That used to be one of my reasons too, in fact, one of my greatest fears. But I think I was able to overcome that fear and I no longer see it that way. I turned to financial stability as my priority and I now focus on that solely. I've been alone my whole life (no siblings) so my greatest fear was losing my mom and my SO. He scared the crap of mw on several occasions with life threatening situations and my mom just died...when I continued living after that and was able to go through all that hell with her and stayed strong, I realized I can go on without anyone as long as I'm financially stable. It's ironic to correlate finance and relationships, but I have such indicators in chart that crave for financial stability over everything else, and considering I already survived my greatest fear I guess there is nothing else to fear, it's just life and we all have to go at some point to another dimension. I'm surprised though to hear Aqua Venus has such fear. But then again, why would Sag Venus have it either?😂 My mom had also Aqua Venus and she feared more for leaving me behind, unsecured financially or any other way than she feared death I think. But she was Cap Moon and Taurus rising...

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Everyone's so hungry for lifelong love, it seems perverse, anti-society to not want it, death and all that be damned.

I've been binging Alfred Hitchcock Presents (Peacock TV). I love horror. 7 seasons and quite a few about love triangles. Boy oh boy, some really good plot twists, deaths, and scheming.

This one woman insists on the man telling his wife about them. He explains some real down to earth reasons anybody would be scared of but she's not listening. Just keeps on threatening to tell the wife herself. If you gotta threaten somebody, that means you know they are scared, and you are validating their fears by threatening them. So, like what?

Well, he kills her and gets locked in the boss' office he killed her in. Cause she locked the door for privacy. He's trying to find the key, breaks the key in the door, madness, it's Christmas Eve.

So, he's gotta get outta there without the dead body being noticed. So, he hides her body in the bathroom - a real "Mad Men's" office complete with a bathroom (eyeroll). He calls a friend for help. But, he winds up trying to get the woman in the next building to call someone. She thinks he's a peeping Tom and calls the police. He gets rid of the picture of the guy who's office it is and tries to disguise himself. Well, his friend shows up drunk, just after the police get him out and asks where the girl is.

There's another one where a man is cheating and planning to kill the wife. Meanwhile the wife and the woman he's cheating with is the daughter of the man the wife is cheating with and they are all setting him up. They kill him, LMAO. The wife was a rich older woman. What makes it funny is the daughter asks the wife if she can borrow the Porsche afterwards.

One last thing and I'll shut up.

I can tell cheating and other nefarious activities in synastry. I've done it. I look at Neptune in both synastry and individual Natal charts.

But, I'm at the stage of my career where I don't have time or energy anymore... I still do it for family though.

Men lie. If he really wanted to be with you he’s make it happen just like you would. That was a lesson I myself had to learn.

I'm not sure why woman don't realize that they dodged a bullet dealing with this type of wasteman.

It's more of a competition instead of common sense. SMH

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I’ve been dating around. Trying to find another love. A healthy love to call my own. I fell in love with this Virgo man when I met him in 2019. We worked together. I know to some extent he felt the same. But he had a girlfriend. They have kids (separately. But they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years. One day, I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to get away. I found a new job. I wiped my hands clean of this affair. It’s been one year and three months. I allowed myself to feel my feelings. The good and the bad. I’ve been dating. I’ve met some interesting people. I’ve met some boring people. In that time, I’ve also become sober. I bought a new house. I’m going back to school to finally finish my degree that’s been put on hold for 10 years due to my drinking. I’ve lost about 25 pounds. It’s been 9 months since he’s last messaged me. It’s been 9 months that I’ve been sober. Life has been amazing and I’ve never been so proud of myself


He reached out to me this past Monday. Hello. How are you? I miss you. He came over on Tuesday AM. We slept together. He told me how deeply he feels for me and our friendship. He’s so sorry about everything. He’s so sorry he’s with another girl. He hasn’t been eating or sleeping but he’s not sure why. He’s HAPPY. Everything is GREAT. But he doesn’t understand this shadow of stress that’s been clouding his mind. I held him and rubbed his back as I’ve done so many times in the past. We hugged goodbye. He promised me he wouldn’t be a stranger. This is the beginning of something beautiful. I went to work on cloud 9. I saw he had unblocked me on Facebook. He (his gf) had me blocked a week after we had met after I had tried to add him as a friend. I got home from work that night and a former coworker had sent me a picture of his relationship status update that had just been posted, although dated 3 days before to “engaged.” My heart is shattered. I texted him yesterday “congratulations I hope it’s everything you’ve ever wanted.” I’m not sure if he’ll text back. But once again my world has been rocked. I’m a libra lady on the virgo cusp. His fiancé is a libra lady. That is all. Again, please be kind

Well then, now you got room to find your person😊

Feel free to not tell him you know and ask him to put up or shut up😁🍿

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Just here to vent, please don’t be mean


I’ve been dating around. Trying to find another love. A healthy love to call my own. I fell in love with this Virgo man when I met him in 2019. We worked together. I know to some extent he felt the same. But he had a girlfriend. They have kids (separately. But they live together. One big “happy” family). We’ve slept together more times than they probably have in the past 3 years. One day, I couldn’t take it anymore. I had to get away. I found a new job. I wiped my hands clean of this affair. It’s been one year and three months. I allowed myself to feel my feelings. The good and the bad. I’ve been dating. I’ve met some interesting people. I’ve met some boring people. In that time, I’ve also become sober. I bought a new house. I’m going back to school to finally finish my degree that’s been put on hold for 10 years due to my drinking. I’ve lost about 25 pounds. It’s been 9 months since he’s last messaged me. It’s been 9 months that I’ve been sober. Life has been amazing and I’ve never been so proud of myself


He reached out to me this past Monday. Hello. How are you? I miss you. He came over on Tuesday AM. We slept together. He told me how deeply he feels for me and our friendship. He’s so sorry about everything. He’s so sorry he’s with another girl. He hasn’t been eating or sleeping but he’s not sure why. He’s HAPPY. Everything is GREAT. But he doesn’t understand this shadow of stress that’s been clouding his mind. I held him and rubbed his back as I’ve done so many times in the past. We hugged goodbye. He promised me he wouldn’t be a stranger. This is the beginning of something beautiful. I went to work on cloud 9. I saw he had unblocked me on Facebook. He (his gf) had me blocked a week after we had met after I had tried to add him as a friend. I got home from work that night and a former coworker had sent me a picture of his relationship status update that had just been posted, although dated 3 days before to “engaged.” My heart is shattered. I texted him yesterday “congratulations I hope it’s everything you’ve ever wanted.” I’m not sure if he’ll text back. But once again my world has been rocked. I’m a libra lady on the virgo cusp. His fiancé is a libra lady. That is all. Again, please be kind

Well then, now you got room to find your person😊
Feel free to not tell him you know and ask him to put up or shut up😁🍿

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This was really sweet, thank you 😊 I did already text him congrats. Not sure if he got the text or not 🤷🏻‍♀️ But if I do hear from him again I’ll give him my office number in case he needs a divorce attorney for the future

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One last thing and I'll shut up.

I can tell cheating and other nefarious activities in synastry. I've done it. I look at Neptune in both synastry and individual Natal charts.

But, I'm at the stage of my career where I don't have time or energy anymore... I still do it for family though.

neptune is alll about telling ourselves lies. I've been the side piece at a stage in my life where I felt like I had no power. but at least I had more power then HER.


Whole thing is shitty but hey some people wanna play victim theyre whole ass lives

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I said "cheating and other nefarious activities in synastry."

Go back and read what I wrote. You inferred too much and too little at the same time.

Reading and understanding charts is alot deeper and than you think.

You met him 2019. He's not the love of your life. You only known him 4 years.

would you really want to be with him considering the fact he’s been cheating on his gf for years? who said he won’t cheat on you too? I think you dodged a bullet here, he’s a player

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One last thing and I'll shut up.

I can tell cheating and other nefarious activities in synastry. I've done it. I look at Neptune in both synastry and individual Natal charts.

But, I'm at the stage of my career where I don't have time or energy anymore... I still do it for family though.

What aspects in particular with Neptune?