Toxic Possibly Narcississtic Sagittarius Friend (Page 2)

Posted by ImperfectStorm

I couldn’t even read it all. Like what is the point? Lol you clearly hate her. Stop being fake friends with someone you despise. My sister does this same shit and I don’t get it. It makes you sound as bad as the person you’re portraying her as.

We choose our friends... keep that in mind.

Ugh honestly I wish I knew why, it's been on my mind lately. I just see through everybody's bullshit and been getting tired of it. I think I've realized how much I try too hard for people who don't actually appreciate me as a person. Self worth issues probably. Maybe my Libra NN and Chiron in the 12th house

Posted by Sunsetvirgo

So I didn’t read alll of it but she seems to just be negatively reacting to you calling her out that one time. By giving you space, cancelling on plans. She’s def being passive aggressive and making you suffer.

But I mean if you don’t like the way she treats you nor believe you can be around her, don’t. I know it hurts (if she’s like a bestie) but sometimes cutting someone off is for your well-being.

Side note: Aries moons on ANY sun 🤢🤢🤢

Well thanks for confirming my intuition, being gaslighted can drive one crazy. But the lockdown and time spent alone with myself has increased my own intuition and psychic sensing so I'm learning to trust it more. Another thing is I have another friend who I've known longer with the exact same birth date and year, just different rising prob, and although she's more introverted and less confrontational, I've seen the same pattern of passive aggressive behaviour. Knowing the astrology just confirms it's the same shit different person. I think the underlying reason too is because I am able to give so much love to my female friends, they love me then hate me just as strongly once I pull away due to whatever personal reason. Pretty sure it's a scorpio moon thing.

Yeah Aries moons are angry little people

I’m a Sag sun, but Cap dominant including 1st house stellium. I get some of what you are saying, plus had a relationship with a Cap sun/Cap dominant guy.

The examples you gave of some of the things she does are very shitty. Sometimes we need to separate ourselves from people & that’s okay. Blaming & judging others isn’t the key here, it’s taking care of yourself and surrounding yourself with people that are better for you. You know taking responsibility for ourselves & let others do what they will & just not be part of it. You have a choice and you should choose yourself.

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Give your instincts a gold star, because something is off; two things; her sun is squared her mars, and her moon is squared her mercury. Two squares in her personal planets. While her sun is naturally friendly and fun loving, her squares make her naturally quarrelsome and she's probably been burnt for "being herself" before, so sometimes, she overdoes the friendly bit in public just to be accepted.

Not really. The squares just indicate conflicting energies in her chart, where characteristics of one somewhat offsets the characteristics of another.

Like I have Leo Moon and Taurus Mercury. I’m probably more outward than other Taurus Mercury, but in comparison to some other Leo Moons, I’m more quiet.

You’re correct; conflict. And mounting inner tension as a result. Squares are the equivalent to planets arguing with eathother’s energy. It’s especially problematic in personal planets, but it could cause some some appealing tension if coming from a generational planet. Feel free to look this up.

You're literally the only person on here to have some logical sense with the facts on here. Everyone else is just busy judging my strong reaction to it. I still trust my instincts because they've never done me wrong. I had a friend in the 5th grade whom I never liked for some reason at the beginning. Our friendship developed from being in the same classes and having the same friends, and I eventually grew to love her as a friend. However, in high school a huge fight went down because she dramatically blew up on me, caused me a lot of hurt feelings.

Anyhow, that synastry analysis sounds about right - I always had a feeling about that. The cap merc I think is also squared her aries moon, and on top of the sun squared mars, our generational pluto sign is Sag and it might be aspecting to her Sun - Sag's in my year are a lot less open and open-minded than other Sag's I see. Our generational jupiter is in Cap so I see it giving it more of Saturnian flavour with Sag being ruled by Jupiter. I have a few square-offs in my chart as well so I feel the whole inner conflict energy. It feels more like a struggle to be one or the other, with both signs never feeling quite "right." What most people don't understand about plutonian and mars energy is that it's hidden, dramatic, intense, and slow-brewing (more for pluto). That's why people love to hate on scorpios who are ruled by pluto and mars, they just don't want to accept the shadow and darker parts of themselves that are present in all human beings. Pluto is also very much about taking revenge and hurting others to get back at them if they felt hurt.

I'm honestly not judging, nor am I undermining your intuition. It's just in your post, you had a lot of "I feel..." and much less things like results from what happened when you communicate with her. From what you describe, she doesn't sound like a great friend. I empathize your frustration. But...your thoughts about her, your frustrations about her....how much and how often do you actually tell her?

I have no issue in accepting the darker parts of myself. I have inclination for debates, discussions, and arguments because I'm a triple fire with mars in gemini. It's precisely my earth placements that square those fire placements that helps me learn to be less so.

The "I feel" statements are a moon in the 1st house thing lol. I know that gives me a tendency to be oversensitive to every little thing and take it personally. My cap sun makes me hide it because it doesn't like to act overly emotional. I'm trying to work through things in myself but it's just been a triggerfest lately with everything and everyone - I always feel walked on and my boundaries crossed by so many people.

It's ok. I know you Cap Suns are often more harder on yourselves than to anyone else. I just advocate speaking up, especially when you feel like your boundaries got crossed (regardless of whose fault it is). With certain fire suns, picking up subtleties may not be a strong suit.

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I've been trying to speak up where I can as of late.. I try not to be too preachy or sound like I'm being a parent because honestly I can totally have that and tell someone what exactly they're doing wrong but I know people don't like that

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TLDR

With friends like you, who needs enemies?

The most loyal dogs will explode in angry and bite back the more abusive treatment they receive.

I do believe my post is emotionally biased because it was written in anger, but the facts remain true.

I never abused dogs, so don’t know firsthand if it is true or not. It’s definitely plausible.

The thing is.. no one is perfect and we are all flawed in some way. There are certain flaws that do not meet our standards and we should count our losses, and move on. Otherwise, if these flaws are acceptable to you, but they bother you to a degree where you have to air dirty laundry out to a bunch of strangers online, you are not a true friend. If you were true friend and these things bother you, why not tell her to her face? Why not be open and honest with “your friend”? The worst case scenario is she would not take you seriously and keep doing the same shit. However, best case scenario is that she would change.

You're right about everyone having flaws and weaknesses, I've acted out in some pretty bad ways in the past unknowingly before too. I did think about myself and how it looks from an objective place based on what some people on here said, and truth be told I realize I'm doing the same thing my mother did to me. She would do all the necessary things but act out in small passive aggressive ways, and I'd hear her talk vehemently about me behind my back all the time without trying to understand me...so I guess I do the exact same pattern. idk anymore I have deep trust issues because I was hurt so much

That’s horrible that your mother did that.. I am sorry to hear that. Your mother sounds like she was envious of you.

It’s not too late to ever break the cycle and this is unhealthy behavior you don’t want to carry into other friendships or relationships. It’s incredible insight that you have to recognize that this is learned behavior. I’m impressed in a very good way.

I don’t trust people easily either, so can relate to your trust issues. The Cap sun/Scorpio rising/ Scorpio moon does not help with trusting either. For trust, I listen to my gut instinct on who I should take a gamble on trusting. When I trust someone and know them well, I truly become more of myself around - uninhibited and very open. Otherwise, I am closed off to people.

Signed,

8th house moon conjunct Pluto with Cap rising

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Thank you, the introspection, perception and studying psychology has helped me a lot. Oh yeah you're 100% right...it wasn't until lately that it hit me that a lot of my mother's controlling behaviour on me my whole life was because she's envious that she can't do certain things and doesn't really want me to be happy. I've learned through my personal relationships outside of family that people in general can't be happy for you or want you to be happy if they're miserable inside about their own life. I'm still in the process of learning to put myself first, her presence in my life is what I can only describe as being heavy, overbearing, oppressive and burdensome on me and my psyche my entire life. My anxiety and depression was because of her and feeling a lack of control in my life and my agency. I realized that I've been acting out for the longest time based on her (moon in the 1st house) but in other relationships and it has been impacting those relationships... like I'll attract people who remind me of her or I'll find myself being avoidant because I fear being controlled or having someone backstab me. Which has kind of happened anyway, I feel like we attract the energy we give out based on our fear whether we like it or not. It's been bad the last several years while working through all the issues in therapy, but it's felt like I can't 'feel' anything the way I used to for people in general. Guess it's a process to be worked through.

I'm sure your moon being conjunct pluto in the 8th house has a really intense manifestation in your life too. I knew someone who had a scorpio moon conjunct pluto and her mother had abandoned her as a young teenager and then passed away.

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Posted by saggurl88

Are you upset cause she doesn't want to be alone with you? Why do you need her to yourself?

Sag don't like being controlled. The more you push for alone time, the weirder she probably got 😆

If you don't like her behavior, stop hanging around with her, tell her about herself, send this whole post that you've written out. She probably won't bother you again.

No one would want to be friends with a person who thinks of them like this. Why even bother with her?

I wasn't the one who asked to do something alone, it was feeling like I was being manipulated and strung along when honestly I would just be more at peace being left alone and not asked at all. If anything, she's worse than me and I've seen it in the way she treats her other friends. I'm not even wrong about the facts of my character judgement here lmao. 2 examples, she told her guy best friend to his face while we were having a group dinner once that he got fat. Who does that? Another time she showed a picture of the girlfriend of her other good friend to an entire group at her own birthday celebration to judge and laugh at how "ugly and fat" the girl was. Oh and she full on told me how she showed the picture of the guy I was seeing to all her close friends and how they all thought he was ugly.

I guess we all have our own kinds of ugly right!

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Why exactly is she considered a friend to you?

What's the point in having her around if this is the behavior that she displays and you don't agree with it?

Drop her as a friend if she's doing things that you don't like or behaving badly. She is being who she is, she's showing you the type of person she is, so if you don't like it, end the friendship.

As they say "birds of a feather, flock together" - If she is all that she says she is, she probably has like minded friends.

This is why I don't have many female friends. What's the point of being a friend if you actually don't like the person who you consider a friend? If I don't like someone, I don't hang out with them. Why be fake about it?

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Posted by saggurl88

Are you upset cause she doesn't want to be alone with you? Why do you need her to yourself?

Sag don't like being controlled. The more you push for alone time, the weirder she probably got 😆

If you don't like her behavior, stop hanging around with her, tell her about herself, send this whole post that you've written out. She probably won't bother you again.

No one would want to be friends with a person who thinks of them like this. Why even bother with her?

I wasn't the one who asked to do something alone, it was feeling like I was being manipulated and strung along when honestly I would just be more at peace being left alone and not asked at all. If anything, she's worse than me and I've seen it in the way she treats her other friends. I'm not even wrong about the facts of my character judgement here lmao. 2 examples, she told her guy best friend to his face while we were having a group dinner once that he got fat. Who does that? Another time she showed a picture of the girlfriend of her other good friend to an entire group at her own birthday celebration to judge and laugh at how "ugly and fat" the girl was. Oh and she full on told me how she showed the picture of the guy I was seeing to all her close friends and how they all thought he was ugly.

I guess we all have our own kinds of ugly right!

Why exactly is she considered a friend to you?

What's the point in having her around if this is the behavior that she displays and you don't agree with it?

Drop her as a friend if she's doing things that you don't like or behaving badly. She is being who she is, she's showing you the type of person she is, so if you don't like it, end the friendship.

As they say "birds of a feather, flock together" - If she is all that she says she is, she probably has like minded friends.

This is why I don't have many female friends. What's the point of being a friend if you actually don't like the person who you consider a friend? If I don't like someone, I don't hang out with them. Why be fake about it?

id say about 90% of female friendships are based on not liking each other and one upman ship

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That's crazy and ridiculous. I don't get it.

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Posted by themilkyway36

Posted by bmoon8

Posted by themilkyway36

Posted by bmoon8

TLDR

With friends like you, who needs enemies?

The most loyal dogs will explode in angry and bite back the more abusive treatment they receive.

I do believe my post is emotionally biased because it was written in anger, but the facts remain true.

I never abused dogs, so don’t know firsthand if it is true or not. It’s definitely plausible.

The thing is.. no one is perfect and we are all flawed in some way. There are certain flaws that do not meet our standards and we should count our losses, and move on. Otherwise, if these flaws are acceptable to you, but they bother you to a degree where you have to air dirty laundry out to a bunch of strangers online, you are not a true friend. If you were true friend and these things bother you, why not tell her to her face? Why not be open and honest with “your friend”? The worst case scenario is she would not take you seriously and keep doing the same shit. However, best case scenario is that she would change.

You're right about everyone having flaws and weaknesses, I've acted out in some pretty bad ways in the past unknowingly before too. I did think about myself and how it looks from an objective place based on what some people on here said, and truth be told I realize I'm doing the same thing my mother did to me. She would do all the necessary things but act out in small passive aggressive ways, and I'd hear her talk vehemently about me behind my back all the time without trying to understand me...so I guess I do the exact same pattern. idk anymore I have deep trust issues because I was hurt so much

That’s horrible that your mother did that.. I am sorry to hear that. Your mother sounds like she was envious of you.

It’s not too late to ever break the cycle and this is unhealthy behavior you don’t want to carry into other friendships or relationships. It’s incredible insight that you have to recognize that this is learned behavior. I’m impressed in a very good way.

I don’t trust people easily either, so can relate to your trust issues. The Cap sun/Scorpio rising/ Scorpio moon does not help with trusting either. For trust, I listen to my gut instinct on who I should take a gamble on trusting. When I trust someone and know them well, I truly become more of myself around - uninhibited and very open. Otherwise, I am closed off to people.

Signed,

8th house moon conjunct Pluto with Cap rising

Thank you, the introspection, perception and studying psychology has helped me a lot. Oh yeah you're 100% right...it wasn't until lately that it hit me that a lot of my mother's controlling behaviour on me my whole life was because she's envious that she can't do certain things and doesn't really want me to be happy. I've learned through my personal relationships outside of family that people in general can't be happy for you or want you to be happy if they're miserable inside about their own life. I'm still in the process of learning to put myself first, her presence in my life is what I can only describe as being heavy, overbearing, oppressive and burdensome on me and my psyche my entire life. My anxiety and depression was because of her and feeling a lack of control in my life and my agency. I realized that I've been acting out for the longest time based on her (moon in the 1st house) but in other relationships and it has been impacting those relationships... like I'll attract people who remind me of her or I'll find myself being avoidant because I fear being controlled or having someone backstab me. Which has kind of happened anyway, I feel like we attract the energy we give out based on our fear whether we like it or not. It's been bad the last several years while working through all the issues in therapy, but it's felt like I can't 'feel' anything the way I used to for people in general. Guess it's a process to be worked through.

I'm sure your moon being conjunct pluto in the 8th house has a really intense manifestation in your life too. I knew someone who had a scorpio moon conjunct pluto and her mother had abandoned her as a young teenager and then passed away.

There are a lot of miserable people out there. I can’t relate. I am usually content despite any hardship I may be going through.

We attract things and people in to our life, sometimes, to teach us a lesson. We will keep attracting similar things or people until we learn what we are to learn from it.

I don’t know if I believe totally in the Law of Attraction as spoken about in the book “The Secret”.

My mother and father fought a lot and there was mixed messages that I received from both of them. For example, my mother was religious and superstitious about certain things. My father went to church, but didn’t live a religious life. He would go out to drink on Wednesday nights and was a hypocrite. I think more in black and white terms.. you are either religious or you are not. Me, personally? I believe in a completely different religion than they did.

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Yep the lessons thing I'm getting a hold of. I like to see it as a school except we have to figure it out on our own by the clues and experiences we have.

I read the secret a long time ago, but before I had really noticed the way it works in my own life. I like watching videos on youtube where people explain it in a more casual and fun, modern way. I'm currently reading Ask and it is Given, and it actually breaks down LoA WAY more, to the point where it feels like a secret manual to living life. I highly recommend it.

It actually only came to me recently of the unconscious negative messaging I got from my parents about romantic relationships.... it was hard to spot because they were a traditional marriage and have been together since they were really young, and been loyal and dutiful through it all. However on an emotional level I'd always energetically sensed all the tension, unresolved conflict, resentment, anger, imbalance in give and take etc. And so came the holy answer as to why I'm so afraid of commitment and relationships myself even though on paper it looks "perfect" that I come from a whole nuclear family of a loyal marriage with the usual stuff that I shouldn't have issues with romantic relationships myself. Also other things are, my mom always acted like she cared so much about her kids and would sacrifice everything, when in reality, I've always sensed that she resents becoming a mother and it limiting her freedom and thus she plays a martyr constantly (this manifested in a fear in myself of having kids) - learning deeply about my chart confirmed this for me. Opposite of you for the religion thing, my parents didn't practice or preach religion at all, but to my surprise I ended up getting heavily into spirituality. That's probably because at least one of them energetically gave off the spiritual vibe but never "taught" it or forced anything on me.

Kids don't learn from their parents what the parents preach - they learn from what they actually do, no matter what is said. As children we're all intuitive enough to absorb the energy they give off and so being a hypocrite or wearing fake masks do not fly with parenting.

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Are you upset cause she doesn't want to be alone with you? Why do you need her to yourself?

Sag don't like being controlled. The more you push for alone time, the weirder she probably got 😆

If you don't like her behavior, stop hanging around with her, tell her about herself, send this whole post that you've written out. She probably won't bother you again.

No one would want to be friends with a person who thinks of them like this. Why even bother with her?

I wasn't the one who asked to do something alone, it was feeling like I was being manipulated and strung along when honestly I would just be more at peace being left alone and not asked at all. If anything, she's worse than me and I've seen it in the way she treats her other friends. I'm not even wrong about the facts of my character judgement here lmao. 2 examples, she told her guy best friend to his face while we were having a group dinner once that he got fat. Who does that? Another time she showed a picture of the girlfriend of her other good friend to an entire group at her own birthday celebration to judge and laugh at how "ugly and fat" the girl was. Oh and she full on told me how she showed the picture of the guy I was seeing to all her close friends and how they all thought he was ugly.

I guess we all have our own kinds of ugly right!

Why exactly is she considered a friend to you?

What's the point in having her around if this is the behavior that she displays and you don't agree with it?

Drop her as a friend if she's doing things that you don't like or behaving badly. She is being who she is, she's showing you the type of person she is, so if you don't like it, end the friendship.

As they say "birds of a feather, flock together" - If she is all that she says she is, she probably has like minded friends.

This is why I don't have many female friends. What's the point of being a friend if you actually don't like the person who you consider a friend? If I don't like someone, I don't hang out with them. Why be fake about it?

id say about 90% of female friendships are based on not liking each other and one upman ship

That's crazy and ridiculous. I don't get it.

probably society's fault since we're expected to be prim and proper we have to keep our aggressions disguesd as friendships

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I blame the libra chiron in the 12th...

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Posted by saggurl88

Are you upset cause she doesn't want to be alone with you? Why do you need her to yourself?

Sag don't like being controlled. The more you push for alone time, the weirder she probably got 😆

If you don't like her behavior, stop hanging around with her, tell her about herself, send this whole post that you've written out. She probably won't bother you again.

No one would want to be friends with a person who thinks of them like this. Why even bother with her?

I wasn't the one who asked to do something alone, it was feeling like I was being manipulated and strung along when honestly I would just be more at peace being left alone and not asked at all. If anything, she's worse than me and I've seen it in the way she treats her other friends. I'm not even wrong about the facts of my character judgement here lmao. 2 examples, she told her guy best friend to his face while we were having a group dinner once that he got fat. Who does that? Another time she showed a picture of the girlfriend of her other good friend to an entire group at her own birthday celebration to judge and laugh at how "ugly and fat" the girl was. Oh and she full on told me how she showed the picture of the guy I was seeing to all her close friends and how they all thought he was ugly.

I guess we all have our own kinds of ugly right!

Why exactly is she considered a friend to you?

What's the point in having her around if this is the behavior that she displays and you don't agree with it?

Drop her as a friend if she's doing things that you don't like or behaving badly. She is being who she is, she's showing you the type of person she is, so if you don't like it, end the friendship.

As they say "birds of a feather, flock together" - If she is all that she says she is, she probably has like minded friends.

This is why I don't have many female friends. What's the point of being a friend if you actually don't like the person who you consider a friend? If I don't like someone, I don't hang out with them. Why be fake about it?

id say about 90% of female friendships are based on not liking each other and one upman ship

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I feel like this depends on masculine versus feminine energy, not just the gender. I can be both and I guess that explains why certain girls and boys get triggered when I share accomplishments even small ones about myself. Guess the masculine energy is better saved for professional purposes

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Posted by saggurl88

Are you upset cause she doesn't want to be alone with you? Why do you need her to yourself?

Sag don't like being controlled. The more you push for alone time, the weirder she probably got 😆

If you don't like her behavior, stop hanging around with her, tell her about herself, send this whole post that you've written out. She probably won't bother you again.

No one would want to be friends with a person who thinks of them like this. Why even bother with her?

I wasn't the one who asked to do something alone, it was feeling like I was being manipulated and strung along when honestly I would just be more at peace being left alone and not asked at all. If anything, she's worse than me and I've seen it in the way she treats her other friends. I'm not even wrong about the facts of my character judgement here lmao. 2 examples, she told her guy best friend to his face while we were having a group dinner once that he got fat. Who does that? Another time she showed a picture of the girlfriend of her other good friend to an entire group at her own birthday celebration to judge and laugh at how "ugly and fat" the girl was. Oh and she full on told me how she showed the picture of the guy I was seeing to all her close friends and how they all thought he was ugly.

I guess we all have our own kinds of ugly right!

Why exactly is she considered a friend to you?

What's the point in having her around if this is the behavior that she displays and you don't agree with it?

Drop her as a friend if she's doing things that you don't like or behaving badly. She is being who she is, she's showing you the type of person she is, so if you don't like it, end the friendship.

As they say "birds of a feather, flock together" - If she is all that she says she is, she probably has like minded friends.

This is why I don't have many female friends. What's the point of being a friend if you actually don't like the person who you consider a friend? If I don't like someone, I don't hang out with them. Why be fake about it?

id say about 90% of female friendships are based on not liking each other and one upman ship

That's crazy and ridiculous. I don't get it.

probably society's fault since we're expected to be prim and proper we have to keep our aggressions disguesd as friendships

I blame the libra chiron in the 12th...

and compounding libras make horrible same sex friends, the women talk to much shit for my taste.

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The libra men are womanizers and players

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Are you upset cause she doesn't want to be alone with you? Why do you need her to yourself?

Sag don't like being controlled. The more you push for alone time, the weirder she probably got 😆

If you don't like her behavior, stop hanging around with her, tell her about herself, send this whole post that you've written out. She probably won't bother you again.

No one would want to be friends with a person who thinks of them like this. Why even bother with her?

I wasn't the one who asked to do something alone, it was feeling like I was being manipulated and strung along when honestly I would just be more at peace being left alone and not asked at all. If anything, she's worse than me and I've seen it in the way she treats her other friends. I'm not even wrong about the facts of my character judgement here lmao. 2 examples, she told her guy best friend to his face while we were having a group dinner once that he got fat. Who does that? Another time she showed a picture of the girlfriend of her other good friend to an entire group at her own birthday celebration to judge and laugh at how "ugly and fat" the girl was. Oh and she full on told me how she showed the picture of the guy I was seeing to all her close friends and how they all thought he was ugly.

I guess we all have our own kinds of ugly right!

Why exactly is she considered a friend to you?

What's the point in having her around if this is the behavior that she displays and you don't agree with it?

Drop her as a friend if she's doing things that you don't like or behaving badly. She is being who she is, she's showing you the type of person she is, so if you don't like it, end the friendship.

As they say "birds of a feather, flock together" - If she is all that she says she is, she probably has like minded friends.

This is why I don't have many female friends. What's the point of being a friend if you actually don't like the person who you consider a friend? If I don't like someone, I don't hang out with them. Why be fake about it?

id say about 90% of female friendships are based on not liking each other and one upman ship

I feel like this depends on masculine versus feminine energy, not just the gender. I can be both and I guess that explains why certain girls and boys get triggered when I share accomplishments even small ones about myself. Guess the masculine energy is better saved for professional purposes

side effects of being ambitious in a man's world 😒

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Yeah I also had to learn the hard way that even at work you gotta play yourself down if you're working under people, or else their egos feel threatened. They won't give a shit about you trying to be a leader or show initiative but will probably give a glowing reference for sucking up to them. It's not going to be a man's world any longer by the end of this century, at least that's what I'm hoping for.

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Posted by saggurl88

Are you upset cause she doesn't want to be alone with you? Why do you need her to yourself?

Sag don't like being controlled. The more you push for alone time, the weirder she probably got 😆

If you don't like her behavior, stop hanging around with her, tell her about herself, send this whole post that you've written out. She probably won't bother you again.

No one would want to be friends with a person who thinks of them like this. Why even bother with her?

I wasn't the one who asked to do something alone, it was feeling like I was being manipulated and strung along when honestly I would just be more at peace being left alone and not asked at all. If anything, she's worse than me and I've seen it in the way she treats her other friends. I'm not even wrong about the facts of my character judgement here lmao. 2 examples, she told her guy best friend to his face while we were having a group dinner once that he got fat. Who does that? Another time she showed a picture of the girlfriend of her other good friend to an entire group at her own birthday celebration to judge and laugh at how "ugly and fat" the girl was. Oh and she full on told me how she showed the picture of the guy I was seeing to all her close friends and how they all thought he was ugly.

I guess we all have our own kinds of ugly right!

Why exactly is she considered a friend to you?

What's the point in having her around if this is the behavior that she displays and you don't agree with it?

Drop her as a friend if she's doing things that you don't like or behaving badly. She is being who she is, she's showing you the type of person she is, so if you don't like it, end the friendship.

As they say "birds of a feather, flock together" - If she is all that she says she is, she probably has like minded friends.

This is why I don't have many female friends. What's the point of being a friend if you actually don't like the person who you consider a friend? If I don't like someone, I don't hang out with them. Why be fake about it?

id say about 90% of female friendships are based on not liking each other and one upman ship

That's crazy and ridiculous. I don't get it.

probably society's fault since we're expected to be prim and proper we have to keep our aggressions disguesd as friendships

I blame the libra chiron in the 12th...

and compounding libras make horrible same sex friends, the women talk to much shit for my taste.

The libra men are womanizers and players

😭 wouldn't mind being in a Libra man harem!!!!

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they know how to charm and what to say for sure, I think their insecurity and people-pleasing tendencies require someone who's more assertive and headstrong to keep them around