One intense intense relationship, wtf is going on?

This topic was created in the Relationships & Astrology forum by deckedandecker on Thursday, February 18, 2021 and has 30 replies.

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Posted by DonnaLibra

IDK but Gem moon, Sag venus, mars Scorpio and saturn Gem - seems to me she's pretty hard to tie down and probably promiscuous.

Oh yeah, she is married with kids and is known to cheat on her husband (not the Leo) a good good good amount, like slept with the whole block type of cheating.

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Posted by deckedandecker
Posted by DonnaLibra

IDK but Gem moon, Sag venus, mars Scorpio and saturn Gem - seems to me she's pretty hard to tie down and probably promiscuous.

Oh yeah, she is married with kids and is known to cheat on her husband (not the Leo) a good good good amount, like slept with the whole block type of cheating.

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why did she feel the need to cheat?

This synastry says they will have a profound effect on each other.

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Posted by Lostthoughts
Posted by deckedandecker
Posted by DonnaLibra

IDK but Gem moon, Sag venus, mars Scorpio and saturn Gem - seems to me she's pretty hard to tie down and probably promiscuous.

Oh yeah, she is married with kids and is known to cheat on her husband (not the Leo) a good good good amount, like slept with the whole block type of cheating.


why did she feel the need to cheat?

This synastry says they will have a profound effect on each other.

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profound effect?

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So I am trying to read this chart and study it more, seems like while aspects might seem intense, the houses almost ease away any strong attraction feelings. Like the Mars-Pluto meeting happens in the 6th and 3rd, both nonsexual houses. Whenever Pluto is touching, it touches the nonsexual houses and same for Mars.

The Venus is in the 4th for the two so that is a unique overlay.

Maybe it is one of those cases where the synastry is intense in verbal or work situation but outside of that, there is nothing there?

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Posted by deckedandecker
Posted by DonnaLibra

IDK but Gem moon, Sag venus, mars Scorpio and saturn Gem - seems to me she's pretty hard to tie down and probably promiscuous.

Oh yeah, she is married with kids and is known to cheat on her husband (not the Leo) a good good good amount, like slept with the whole block type of cheating.

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So she probably has twins from the man around the corner as well?

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Does she has lilith in Gemini? And you have Gemini moon, I read somewhere that same sign it can create intensive connection

Edit - oh wait it's her moon and lilith. Nvm

does this create an intense connection if it’s just by sign and it’s not aspecting in the synastry?

I have the Lilith to Venus in cancer with someone, I’m wondering.

NVM.

Found this.

Black Moon Lilith in a Man’s Chart

In a man’s chart, Lilith represents how he deals with female power. Some sources have suggested that his Lilith describes the type of woman (by sign and planetary aspects) that he fears and desires the most. I would say that his Lilith shows the type of woman who makes him intensely uncomfortable, and how he deals with that is a reflection of how he handles power dynamics with the opposite sex.

Again, there will be sexual attraction with a Lilith contact. But there’s no suggestion of harmony, or even getting to first base. If your Sun conjuncts a man’s BML, he’ll feel your presence on an animal level (BML is not about love or empathy). But there’s no guarantee that he’ll pursue you to the ends of the earth. What is for certain is that there will be a struggle for dominance as your ego triggers his issues with female power. He may respond with anger, defensiveness or a one night stand that never develops further. Or, he may run in the other direction. Then again, if there are other contacts between you that provide stability and emotional connection, you could be a powerful force that he embraces. It all depends on how comfortable he is with a woman who will not submit.

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I have this with someone ...my lilith conjuncts his moon (we also have sun/moon conjunction). I know he cares for me deeply and we get a long really well. I know he is sexual attracted to me too but I think I make him weirdly uncomfortable (the conjunction is in Aqua so it makes sense lol). It's hard to describe but I get the sense and I could be totally off...I scare him, not in the way like boo but I think he knows on some level that I'd be the real deal and it freaks him out but he can't stop...so he goes and gets in new relationships that he doesn't have a real connection with and therefore he doesn't have to get truly involved with. He uses all his little tricks with the other girls but knows he can't use them on me because I don't fall for it and called him out for it. He then breaks it off and comes running back to me (not in that sense because I already told him we are better as friends..he did ask me to be his gf but he said it in such a way that I'm like nah, I'm good lol). I know he gets frustrated and dramatic when he thinks he's losing me or when I don't submit in a sense?!...but he's also a Leo so it could be that too lol.

Idk if that explains it at all but this is the feeling I always get with him and like I said...I may be way off base and always doubt this feeling I can never shake but I don't think I'm wrong.

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Posted by deckedandecker
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Posted by deckedandecker
Posted by DonnaLibra

IDK but Gem moon, Sag venus, mars Scorpio and saturn Gem - seems to me she's pretty hard to tie down and probably promiscuous.

Oh yeah, she is married with kids and is known to cheat on her husband (not the Leo) a good good good amount, like slept with the whole block type of cheating.


why did she feel the need to cheat?

This synastry says they will have a profound effect on each other.

profound effect?

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Are you too afraid to go find out yourself? Stop looking for excuses to justify the hallow fear your feeling.

Don't need to be. Work to understanding and exchanging ideas of what's what with her. You can handle what ever comes next if you really wanted to.

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quite a bunch of difficult/(in)tense aspects:

Venus opposition Mars

Mars square Venus

Mercury opposite Mars

Sun square Moon

Mars square Ascendant

Mars conjunct Pluto

Pluto trine Mars

Uranus square Uranus

Mars square Saturn

Chiron square Uranus

IC square MC

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Just ran this thing through the Astro-Seek site as well. We missed something....

there is a double whammy between Mars and Lillith and that $ hit is square and opposing.

This synastry just shouts crazy......

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You guys ever hear that song Love The Way You Lie by Rihana featuring Eminem?

I swear, the more I dig into this synastry, the more I get vibes of that song. Could I just be putting too much emphasis on the Mars-Pluto connections or what?

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interesting that the other long post got deleted, please remember not to put people's birthdays up

I never even got the point of why people do that when they are just asked to read the chart itself but okay

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So I have been doing a lot of reading into synastry and trying to learn some stuff.

I think the double whammies are happening at a tight angle and seem to all involve Mars. Now in the Sag, the Mars sits in Scorpio while in the Leo it sits in Gemini. What really gets me is that the conjunction of Mars and Pluto is happening at about 2 degrees which makes it significant, anything more than 3 degrees I disregard for a generational planet.

Now add to that the signs are in Scorpio, both, their native home.

Then there is a trine which is EXACT, thankfully it is in air signs but I cannot help but think that it happening in the water signs adds to emotions but then the air signs is mind games galore without the emotions. The exactness of it though, DAMN.

Now with mars and Venus, it is not that the aspects are happening which is a red flag, it is the fact that they are happening at such a tight angle which is.....scary.

I read that these are passion aspects, could it mean that they can also go in a good direction?

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Posted by laFille

quite a bunch of difficult/(in)tense aspects:

Venus opposition Mars

Mars square Venus

Mercury opposite Mars

Sun square Moon

Mars square Ascendant

Mars conjunct Pluto

Pluto trine Mars

Uranus square Uranus

Mars square Saturn

Chiron square Uranus

IC square MC

Are trines every difficult though?

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Sorry can't help with the astro stuff but my Leo dad has been married to my Sag mum for 40 years. Their marriage was toxic growing up but they're kind of cute now. He still thinks mum is hot.

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Been revisiting the chart a bit and what does put me at ease is knowing that anyone with a chart in synastry exactly like that would be avoidant of each other right? I feel like the intense aspects have an almost cooling situation to them in the sense that the houses playing out with Mars, Venus, and the intense planets are not the intense houses like the 5th and 8th or even 12th.