@spica
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Meh. It depends. I naturally take the lead in situations...but we both kind of do our own thing.
If you observed our body language you would find we're pretty equal.
He's Libra
I'm Sag
it's a 50/50 thing.
he's a libra.
i'm a gem.
Me for the most part...I'm Aries, he's a taurus. It believe stems from my control issues. But, him being a bull, if he's passionate or set about or on something, there is no stopping him.
...Usually the women I'm involve with wear the pants in the relationship :p
Depends on who you ask LOL.
We fight for control alot but it's a silly little inside joke between us.
We are equal for the most part which is why he's so good for me. With my control issues it's nice sometimes to be told that I can't have control all the time.
He's Aries and I'm a Scorp 🙂
Always 50/50 with the relationships I'm involved with.
With my relationships he wears the pants...I just tell him which ones to put on!!! Hahaha
I like to think it is equal.
Posted by ConfusionBeyondSanity
I like to think it is equal.
Forgot to add I am an Aries and he is a Cancer. 🙂
lol who would admit that they are in a relationship where they are the weaker link?
Posted by Smiles24
Always 50/50 with the relationships I'm involved with.
...always 50/50 in relationships
the shoes on my feet? i bought it!
the clothes i'm wearing? I bought it!
the rock i'm rockin? I bought it!
cause i depend on me 🙂
ahhhh your comment got that DC song stuck in my head 🙂
50/50 for me as well. I take the lead when he cannot find a answer or conclusion to something, so i add my 20cents, then he adds his 30cents and there you have it folks....50 whole cents, wtf!!
me = leo
him = aquarius
let's go through my 3 boyfriends...
with me and cancer it was pretty equal i guess. there was no power struggle and no one trying to dominate the other. i dunno, we were both teenagers.
totally different story with my libra though. we were both very dominant and would butt heads constantly. we didn't fight a lot or anything but we both were just stubborn and very head strong. he would forget that i only like to be "taken" in the bedroom but don't try it outside of it! loads of respect between us though. i loved how manly he was and he was the best lover i've had yet.
i'm with a taurus now. i definitely wear the pants here. it kind of gets to me sometimes. i make all the decisions and he caters to my every whim. sure, some females think that sounds great but i'm not one of them. he's openly admitted to being very passive so i guess i should have known better. i do love how sweet, loyal, and generous he is. he definitely puts me on a pedastal. i just wish he wouldn't place himself beneath me.
Posted by Smiles24
Always 50/50 with the relationships I'm involved with....always 50/50 in relationships
the shoes on my feet? i bought it!
the clothes i'm wearing? I bought it!
the rock i'm rockin? I bought it!
cause i depend on me 🙂ahhhh your comment got that DC song stuck in my head 🙂
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Haha Oops.. My bad lol 😛
Mrs P,
I think it's that way in most relationships, the ladies always let the man lead because it's meant to be but watch out if he was to go against what SHE wants! So easiest solution let him wear the pants but he better ask which ones to put on first!!!!
Another way of looking at it is He is the Head of the family but she is the neck that turns the head! 😛
usually 50/50
I am cap, hes a libra 🙂
It depends on whether it's his territory or mine.
Posted by Butterfingers
me libra her arie... you already know lol.
Only diddy calls Aries Arie. seriously, Arie sounds better, but its ArieS. Btw, Lol.
Posted by i love ewe
lol who would admit that they are in a relationship where they are the weaker link?
It's a poll to see which signs are more honest 😉
And which one is it?
Posted by sweethearts
And which one is it?
most people are saying they're relationships are 50/50
with me and my gem, i'm in charge 😄
when i dated a capricorn, he was in charge
when i was with my ex aries, nobody was in charge
i've come a long way!
EDIT: their
Posted by Butterfingers
there no such thing as 50/50 lol someone jus have to give more then the others.
but someone giving doesn't mean they are the ones dominated, its compromising in relationships
I am a Pisces. Normally, I've worn the pants. I was with an Aries. I pretty much ran it. Same with a Taurus.
They both kind of knew it.
But I'd let them get away thinking they had the pants. Like, "oh you pick the movie" etc. 😛
Now I'm with a Cancer, and I'm pretty good with just letting him run it. I guide him in the direction I want, if I have to. But mostly I just let him do what he wants.
I think the difference, with the Aries and Taurus, both of them were a lot less mature than I was at the time. Also, both of them tended to do drugs, and stupid shit if they weren't watched. (I was 16 with the Aries, he was 18. I was the same age as my Taurus, I actually wanna say I was older by a month.)
My cancer is four years older, and we kind of hit at closer maturity levels. (18 and 22.) I'm not constantly worried about him.
So I don't really know if I can blame the stars so much, as the ages.
Haha, I dunno about all that.
I wish I was more stern, tbh.
I'm kind of go with the flow.
With my tiny little voice. D8
I just end up with guys that I feel like I need to mother.
Or I used to.
depends on the day
our energies switch from masculine to feminine nonstop between both of us
i am a taurus he is a pisces
50/50 is absolutely absurd to say, in my opinion.
You do in the relationship what is your place to do, while allowing the other to do in the relationship what is theirs to do, if you plan on having a relationship, rather than an arrangement which is proposed here by saying 50/50.
If you are stronger by 70% , or weaker by 60% , or smarter in math by 95% or dumber in electronics by 23% or any "place" within the relationship .... then this is the position you will take if you plan on actually having a relationship, instead of an arrangement.
If your wo/man is aggressive and takes the upper hand at all times, and you want to have a relationship with this person .. then you are going to allow them to do so.
Be real, or stfu
He wears the pants...not matter what star sign he is, it's his God given right...
But I'll always tell him which ones to put on!!! 😛
Being passive/aggressive irritates the fuck out of me .... so, don't do it.
If you want something .. speak or stfu later when you're not happy about the other persons decision.
I wasn't meaning you specially, Bling ... just saying.
* specifically
damn, proof read, proof read before hitting the button
uh me im a libra, she's a scorpio so most of the time she prolly lets me think im in control but its coolcuz i just keep on thinking that
He : cancer
Me : aqua
He wears the pants
Posted by sweethearts
With my relationships he wears the pants...I just tell him which ones to put on!!! Hahaha
Enormously funny.
When I was with my scorp ex (me Aries) it could/would go back and forth, sometimes very quickly. At times it could also degenerate into an out right duel over who was going to call that particular shot.
No such thing as 50/50.....
Actually, it occurs to me that we would switch back and forth just to watch people try and keep up with who was playing which role. Be sitting in a bank doing a loan say, neither one of us clicked with the loan officer. Nary a word was spoken between me and ex, but we both took off on this poor person and left them stunned and confused. "What the hell just happened——?"
I'm taking this question to mean "who most often gets his/her way?"
Me: Gemini
With the Gemini ex- He did- Because I was was easy-going and he wasn't
With the Libra ex - I did - he wasn't good with decisions
With the Pisces ex- He did- I was in love and he wasn't, which gave him the emotional power
Now with Scorpio husband- neither- it's truly a balance. Each of us sometimes tests the boundaries of our pants-wearing (especially him) and we always get gently reminded that we're not the one solely in charge. I don't think he would respect me if I let him always get his way, and I know I wouldn't respect him if he let me walk on him.
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You, or they
and what are your signs?
just a poll
🙂