Daddy issues

So, we all know that people with daddy/mommy issues will have trouble in their relationships... Unless they overcome said issues, right?
I was wondering, do you have daddy issues? Does it affect your love life? Or any relationships you have with people? How did you overcome them?
I, myself, as you could have guessed, have daddy issues that have yet to be resolved.
Thanks for your input, people!🙂

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Posted by HouseCleaning
stripping

Looool eww. To each their own 🙂 I have too much self respect for stripping. (but not for getting treated like shit haha)

You stop looking for their approval. You stop needing it. Because eventually you get the love, respect and attention you were looking to get from your parents from other adults.

As you grow and mature you realize that the people you surround yourself with are just as important, if not more so, than your flesh and blood family.

Posted by killerwhalemoon
My dad destroyed my soul as a teenager if thats daddy issues?
I actually have more empathy in relationships. I understand now that even though anger and hate can be taken out on me that its not actually about me. Its about them.
I do how ever know when to walk away etc.
Just more empathy towards fucked up people.

Yes, that definitely qualifies as daddy issues. I'm sorry to hear that. I'm glad you actually find a way to use this to be a good person.

Posted by LadyNeptune
You stop looking for their approval. You stop needing it. Because eventually you get the love, respect and attention you were looking to get from your parents from other adults.

As you grow and mature you realize that the people you surround yourself with are just as important, if not more so, than your flesh and blood family.

That is very true. Unfortunately, in my case, it s abandonment. It does not transpire in my relationships with friends or family members, as far as I can tell, but it definitely does in my personal relationships. (lovers)

Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
I lucked out. I had both of my parents in my life. No abandonment issues whatsoever. My mom was always involved and helping us every step of the way. My father well, 25 years ago my father went to the store for some milk, but he hasn't come back yet. No worries, I know he'll be back soon. I wonder what's taking him so long....😕

Lol....then you know what I mean...😢

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I lucked out. I had both of my parents in my life. No abandonment issues whatsoever. My mom was always involved and helping us every step of the way. My father well, 25 years ago my father went to the store for some milk, but he hasn't come back yet. No worries, I know he'll be back soon. I wonder what's taking him so long....😕

Lol....then you know what I mean...😢

My dad didn't abandon me. He's just getting milk.

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I'm sure he s just around the corner, babe.

i believe my daddy issues very much influence the way i have romantic relationships. which is not good. i wish he and i had had a better relationship with more communication so we might have stayed close. he and i were simply too different it seems to be father and daughter. i find the worst is how my idea of male love came from a very conditional standpoint where, even today, i do not feel like i could ever do enough to gain his love and approval. this is also the man who told me he felt like i was a "wasted effort"... go figure...

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I was never abandoned, but it might as well have been that way. We were close when I was very little. but I think over time I just got annoying to him. I think he resented his life. I know he wanted to have a family and have a traditional life style, but I think the stress of taking care of a family was a bit much for him. so every day after work he would just sit in his bedroom and that's even where my mom would bring him his dinner. we weren't ever really allowed to make noise as children. if family friends came over, it was looked down upon to really speak. he thought that we were annoying the guests or something. but now this all bleeds into my adult hood and my social life. I feel Im constantly seeking male attention, even at times that I don't recognize straight away. so ive had to learn how to divide my energies equally between both sexes. even then my social skills are terrible. I don't really know what happened along the way to be honest. all I know is that we can barely look eachother in the eye, and that I know I don't feel im of worth unless Im with a guy whom I think is desirable. I love my dad so much, so I feel bad even saying these things!!!!

i can relate very much with this. i feel like my father wasnt ready to be one when he adopted me and my brother.

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I was never abandoned, but it might as well have been that way. We were close when I was very little. but I think over time I just got annoying to him. I think he resented his life. I know he wanted to have a family and have a traditional life style, but I think the stress of taking care of a family was a bit much for him. so every day after work he would just sit in his bedroom and that's even where my mom would bring him his dinner. we weren't ever really allowed to make noise as children. if family friends came over, it was looked down upon to really speak. he thought that we were annoying the guests or something. but now this all bleeds into my adult hood and my social life. I feel Im constantly seeking male attention, even at times that I don't recognize straight away. so ive had to learn how to divide my energies equally between both sexes. even then my social skills are terrible. I don't really know what happened along the way to be honest. all I know is that we can barely look eachother in the eye, and that I know I don't feel im of worth unless Im with a guy whom I think is desirable. I love my dad so much, so I feel bad even saying these things!!!!

That is so sad, I'm very sorry to hear this. Everything that Alicia said is true, you definitely should have a talk with your father. I'm convinced that even though it might hurt him, he would like to know about it. And work on it together. I wish you the best.
My father left when my mom was pregnant with me, and I am thinking sometimes that it was probably for the best, maybe he would have been a terrible father... I don't know. He never seemed to be able to commit to anyone, spreading kids all over the country.

Posted by AbbyNormal
i believe my daddy issues very much influence the way i have romantic relationships. which is not good. i wish he and i had had a better relationship with more communication so we might have stayed close. he and i were simply too different it seems to be father and daughter. i find the worst is how my idea of male love came from a very conditional standpoint where, even today, i do not feel like i could ever do enough to gain his love and approval. this is also the man who told me he felt like i was a "wasted effort"... go figure...

That's a terrible thing to say to your child. My father told my brother I was an accident that should have never happened and that my mom got off her birth control to trap him or something, which isn't true. So I know exactly how you feel.
I'm constantly afraid of being left, but I'm trying to break the spell...

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i believe my daddy issues very much influence the way i have romantic relationships. which is not good. i wish he and i had had a better relationship with more communication so we might have stayed close. he and i were simply too different it seems to be father and daughter. i find the worst is how my idea of male love came from a very conditional standpoint where, even today, i do not feel like i could ever do enough to gain his love and approval. this is also the man who told me he felt like i was a "wasted effort"... go figure...

That's a terrible thing to say to your child. My father told my brother I was an accident that should have never happened and that my mom got off her birth control to trap him or something, which isn't true. So I know exactly how you feel.
I'm constantly afraid of being left, but I'm trying to break the spell...

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i'm very sorry for you and anyone who has experienced such treatment from the one man on the planet whos supposed to make you feel safe and loved... i do hope you have talked to someone about it to try to cope... such issues are tender...
my current SO has abandonment/mommy issues so i guess we're perfect for each other lol
no but really he and i have been through a LOT of similar pains throughout our lives so we are able to understand and support each other better i think...
i fought the whole afraid of being left again, to always leaving first ... not a good trait.
my father told me that oh maybe two years ago (i do see and talk to him infrequently, mostly for birthdays and holidays) and i told him that wasnt a very fair thing to say considering he really didnt even know me anymore. to which the Libran agreed. pfft smdh

Posted by xyIrising

I have to remember my parents are human. My expectations that they would be above human conditions were the reason for my disappointment and issues.

nah what am sayen

Yes this is very important and I think it would help people deal with their issues better if they realized and accepted this. There is no way to be a perfect parent, situations happen and things will take place that will force you to have to deal and confront things you don't want too. It also makes it worse if you never got the support and development yourself then you go on and have children that will lack the same thing unless you mate with someone who can offer them what you can't which is the ideal in partnerships.

Everyone comes to the table lacking something and it's best to find that out early and proceed accordingly. At some point your parents are no longer an excuse for your behavior and it's your choice whether you continue to make poor decisions in life or not. No one has a perfect childhood so that's no excuse as to why you can't do better for yourself. The first step is taking accountability for wanting to turn your life around and the day you make that choice, the day you are progressing to a better you.

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i believe my daddy issues very much influence the way i have romantic relationships. which is not good. i wish he and i had had a better relationship with more communication so we might have stayed close. he and i were simply too different it seems to be father and daughter. i find the worst is how my idea of male love came from a very conditional standpoint where, even today, i do not feel like i could ever do enough to gain his love and approval. this is also the man who told me he felt like i was a "wasted effort"... go figure...

That's a terrible thing to say to your child. My father told my brother I was an accident that should have never happened and that my mom got off her birth control to trap him or something, which isn't true. So I know exactly how you feel.
I'm constantly afraid of being left, but I'm trying to break the spell...

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i'm very sorry for you and anyone who has experienced such treatment from the one man on the planet whos supposed to make you feel safe and loved... i do hope you have talked to someone about it to try to cope... such issues are tender...
my current SO has abandonment/mommy issues so i guess we're perfect for each other lol
no but really he and i have been through a LOT of similar pains throughout our lives so we are able to understand and support each other better i think...
i fought the whole afraid of being left again, to always leaving first ... not a good trait.
my father told me that oh maybe two years ago (i do see and talk to him infrequently, mostly for birthdays and holidays) and i told him that wasnt a very fair thing to say considering he really didnt even know me anymore. to which the Libran agreed. pfft smdh

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Unfortunately I haven't, I pretended for the longest time that it didn't matter... That it didn't affect me, but it does.
With your partner, it might be a good thing, if you are able to actually understand and help each other. I thought that maybe I needed someone that didn't have these kind of issues, to stabilize me somehow, but maybe I was wrong.

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I was never abandoned, but it might as well have been that way. We were close when I was very little. but I think over time I just got annoying to him. I think he resented his life. I know he wanted to have a family and have a traditional life style, but I think the stress of taking care of a family was a bit much for him. so every day after work he would just sit in his bedroom and that's even where my mom would bring him his dinner. we weren't ever really allowed to make noise as children. if family friends came over, it was looked down upon to really speak. he thought that we were annoying the guests or something. but now this all bleeds into my adult hood and my social life. I feel Im constantly seeking male attention, even at times that I don't recognize straight away. so ive had to learn how to divide my energies equally between both sexes. even then my social skills are terrible. I don't really know what happened along the way to be honest. all I know is that we can barely look eachother in the eye, and that I know I don't feel im of worth unless Im with a guy whom I think is desirable. I love my dad so much, so I feel bad even saying these things!!!!

That is so sad, I'm very sorry to hear this. Everything that Alicia said is true, you definitely should have a talk with your father. I'm convinced that even though it might hurt him, he would like to know about it. And work on it together. I wish you the best.
My father left when my mom was pregnant with me, and I am thinking sometimes that it was probably for the best, maybe he would have been a terrible father... I don't know. He never seemed to be able to commit to anyone, spreading kids all over the country.

yeah youll never know I guess. I cant even imagine what that would do to a persons psyche. and maybe it is for the best that you don't have him to deal with or to disappoint you, or feeling that you may have disappointed him. its a very difficult thing to fathom when you have no idea what things could be like. your poor mother as well!!! that would be so devastating. she must be a super strong person!

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Yes, I think that life hasn't been so kind to her sometimes. But she made it through.

Posted by tiziani
At some point I asked myself, what am I going to do the day I resolve my issues and I STILL have problems in my relationship?

Feelings on whatever issues I had with my parents will likely never completely go away or how I imagined them but I don't think I'd put my life or relationship on hold for those feelings either.

Otherwise I would have become that person starting off a talk with my girlfriend with "you see, you know what my problem in life is..." it becomes an excuse not to try new things.

With one ex I became that person at the very end. It was worse than having parental issues, I put myself in that situation.

Yes, I definitely agree, I do put myself in those situations...but I can't help but think that until I can find peace within and resolve these problems, I 'll never be fully happy.

Posted by whatthecrab
My dad passed away during war. I was still a child, it lead to abandonment issues because my mom would lie to us and tell us he'd come back.
We found out he had passed away when my older brother asked my uncle(dad's brother) if he had heard from our dad and how he is doing. My uncle told him the truth. My brother told the other siblings. I have alot of trust issues with women.

And that's completely understandable, but your mom was probably just trying to protect you and didn't know how to do it properly...

Posted by blackphase
I don't personally have daddy issues. My father has always been a strong character in my life. My boyfriend was left behind by his father at the age of 2 and his father never gave him the time of day since leaving. This has effected him in many ways.. Especially since he became older, he has tried to reach out to him, visit him, talk to him on social media and the guy just blows him off. It really upsets me because I know how much it hurts him although he tries to act like it doesn't. He was raised by a single mother who was never around, because she had to work to take care of him and his sister, and his sister also left at a very young age leaving him on his own. He had no male role models in his life.. no uncles and only one male cousin who was younger and looked up to my boyfriend as he also was left without a father. All of that has effected him in so many ways, big and small. He has grown close with my father now and I think he really likes having him in his life. This alone makes me happy, as it was very hard for him to adapt to my family.. he is not used to how close we all are.. the whole family getting together for different occasions to celebrate and eat tons of food. It was quite overwhelming as he never had a close family like this, but he is always saying how nice it is and how much he enjoys spending time with everyone.

That has to tremendously help him. Having a real family, even if it is an "adopted" one.

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Posted by xyIrising

I have to remember my parents are human. My expectations that they would be above human conditions were the reason for my disappointment and issues.

nah what am sayen

Yes this is very important and I think it would help people deal with their issues better if they realized and accepted this. There is no way to be a perfect parent, situations happen and things will take place that will force you to have to deal and confront things you don't want too. It also makes it worse if you never got the support and development yourself then you go on and have children that will lack the same thing unless you mate with someone who can offer them what you can't which is the ideal in partnerships.

Everyone comes to the table lacking something and it's best to find that out early and proceed accordingly. At some point your parents are no longer an excuse for your behavior and it's your choice whether you continue to make poor decisions in life or not. No one has a perfect childhood so that's no excuse as to why you can't do better for yourself. The first step is taking accountability for wanting to turn your life around and the day you make that choice, the day you are progressing to a better you.

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That is very true. Thank your for your insight.

Posted by blackphase
I don't personally have daddy issues. My father has always been a strong character in my life. My boyfriend was left behind by his father at the age of 2 and his father never gave him the time of day since leaving. This has effected him in many ways.. Especially since he became older, he has tried to reach out to him, visit him, talk to him on social media and the guy just blows him off. It really upsets me because I know how much it hurts him although he tries to act like it doesn't. He was raised by a single mother who was never around, because she had to work to take care of him and his sister, and his sister also left at a very young age leaving him on his own. He had no male role models in his life.. no uncles and only one male cousin who was younger and looked up to my boyfriend as he also was left without a father. All of that has effected him in so many ways, big and small. He has grown close with my father now and I think he really likes having him in his life. This alone makes me happy, as it was very hard for him to adapt to my family.. he is not used to how close we all are.. the whole family getting together for different occasions to celebrate and eat tons of food. It was quite overwhelming as he never had a close family like this, but he is always saying how nice it is and how much he enjoys spending time with everyone.

yeah for someone who doesnt have a close family, whether due to death or whatever the case, it can be intimidating yet exhilarating to experience family ties, functions, even fights. i know i learn a lot from watching other people fight within their own families. i dont like to fight especially with my loved ones, so seeing how they communicate and cope is really helpful in my own personal growth and learning how to work things out with someone. i learned to walk away a long time ago to save myself heartache but you cant do that with family. when times get tough, they stick together not fall apart. im trying to learn these skills to hopefully implement them in my own family, if i ever get lucky enough to have one...

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stripping

Looool eww. To each their own 🙂 I have too much self respect for stripping. (but not for getting treated like shit haha)

What if they're lesbian strippers?

Do they still have daddy issues?

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Lol who knows??
Maybe, maybe not?

I don't know if this counts as daddy issues or not, but my daddy could never relate to me. While he isn't a mean man, he's just not very affectionate and he's overly critical. He shows me love through things and money when all I wanted was to spend time with him. My daddy loves work more than anything in the world. I remember when I used to ask him why couldn't he ever spend time with me and he'd say:

"I have to work to get you all of the things you ask for. Money doesn't grow on trees."

If I could choose a movie that matched our relationship, it would be "Excess Baggage" minus the planning my own kidnapping and whatnot.

Posted by Charfig5
So, we all know that people with daddy/mommy issues will have trouble in their relationships... Unless they overcome said issues, right?
I was wondering, do you have daddy issues? Does it affect your love life? Or any relationships you have with people? How did you overcome them?
I, myself, as you could have guessed, have daddy issues that have yet to be resolved.
Thanks for your input, people!🙂

we were watching the new season of Daredevil.

and Elecktra comes in, and she has DADDY issues. lol

and elecktra comes from, this:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electra_complex

Electra complex, as proposed by Carl Gustav Jung, is a girl's psychosexual competition with her mother for possession of her father. In the course of her psychosexual development, the complex is the girl's phallic stage; formation of a discrete sexual identity, a boy's analogous experience is the Oedipus complex. The Electra complex occurs in the third—phallic stage (ages 3–6)—of five psychosexual development stages: (i) the Oral, (ii) the Anal, (iii) the Phallic, (iv) the Latent, and (v) the Genital—in which the source libido pleasure is in a different erogenous zone of the infant’s body.

In classical psychoanalytic theory, the child's identification with the same-sex parent is the successful resolution of the Electra complex and of the Oedipus complex; his and her key psychological experience to developing a mature sexual role and identity. Sigmund Freud instead proposed that girls and boys resolved their complexes differently—she via penis envy, he via castration anxiety; and that unsuccessful resolutions might lead to neurosis and homosexuality.[citation needed] Hence, women and men who are fixated in the Electra and Oedipal stages of their psychosexual development might be considered "father-fixated" and "mother-fixated" as revealed when the mate (sexual partner) resembles the father or the mother.

so basically daddy issues would mean according to the site,

a girl who is in COMPETITION with her mother for the affection of her father.

that doesn't sound very good at all.

like she's trying very very hard to win over daddy while OFFing the mother.



EDIT - if you watch Disney, it's also represented in fiction:

Electra in fiction[edit]

Fiction affords people the opportunity to identify with the protagonists of fantastic stories depicting what might be if they could act upon their desires. Often, in aid to promoting social conformity, the myth, story, stage play, or film presents a story meant to frighten people from acting upon and pursuing their desires.[13] In the course of infantile socialization, fairy tales fulfil said function; boys and girls identify with the hero and heroine in the course of their adventures. Often, the travails of hero and heroine are caused by an (evil) stepmother who is envious of him, her, or both, and will obstruct their fulfilling of desire. Girls, especially in the three-to-six year age range, can especially identify with a heroine for whom the love of a prince charming will sate her penis envy. Moreover, stories such as Cinderella have two maternal figures, the stepmother (society) and the fairy godmother; stepmother represents the girl's feelings towards mother; the fairy godmother teaches the girl that her (step) mother loves her, thus, to have mother’s love, the girl must emulate the good Cinderella, not the wicked stepsisters.[

from:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electra_complex

I think I have parental issues, my mum tends to emasculate men, she was the bread maker and my dad was her pickaninny till she divorced him for breaking her nose and cheating on her.

So when I'm in a relationship with a man I'm the dominant one but I'm not super manly just normal. When I'm with a guy and he tries to dominate me I emasculated him and guys don't like it but I feel like I need to stomp alpha male energy out because it makes me scared because my dad used to scare the shit out of us when I was a kid, seriously I used to think there was something wrong with his head, turned out his dad used to tie him up and leave him in the graveyard at night when he was a kid

Posted by Taureye
I have granDaddy issues. I was born to be a stripper

Make that money

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Posted by Charfig5
So, we all know that people with daddy/mommy issues will have trouble in their relationships... Unless they overcome said issues, right?
I was wondering, do you have daddy issues? Does it affect your love life? Or any relationships you have with people? How did you overcome them?
I, myself, as you could have guessed, have daddy issues that have yet to be resolved.
Thanks for your input, people!🙂

we were watching the new season of Daredevil.

and Elecktra comes in, and she has DADDY issues. lol

and elecktra comes from, this:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Electra_complex

Electra complex, as proposed by Carl Gustav Jung, is a girl's psychosexual competition with her mother for possession of her father. In the course of her psychosexual development, the complex is the girl's phallic stage; formation of a discrete sexual identity, a boy's analogous experience is the Oedipus complex. The Electra complex occurs in the third—phallic stage (ages 3–6)—of five psychosexual development stages: (i) the Oral, (ii) the Anal, (iii) the Phallic, (iv) the Latent, and (v) the Genital—in which the source libido pleasure is in a different erogenous zone of the infant’s body.

In classical psychoanalytic theory, the child's identification with the same-sex parent is the successful resolution of the Electra complex and of the Oedipus complex; his and her key psychological experience to developing a mature sexual role and identity. Sigmund Freud instead proposed that girls and boys resolved their complexes differently—she via penis envy, he via castration anxiety; and that unsuccessful resolutions might lead to neurosis and homosexuality.[citation needed] Hence, women and men who are fixated in the Electra and Oedipal stages of their psychosexual development might be considered "father-fixated" and "mother-fixated" as revealed when the mate (sexual partner) resembles the father or the mother.

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That is actually very interesting and does make sense...
The Electra stage would be something common to go through when your father is around, just as the oedipal stage with your mother. If everything goes well, you shouldn't fixate on either one.

Posted by cheekyfaerie
Hmm. I think I'm surprisingly well adjusted. My dad and his family were all yucky people so I'm glad they were mostly out of my life. They ruined every moment they were in it so I'm way better off.

Learning how to healthily love another person's been hard because I was never given a good example. That said, I was given just about every example of a bad relationship I can think of and I've tried to use that road map just as wisely.

Have I fucked up? Obviously. But I've also learned from those mistakes and am a better person for them. That's the difference. Some people never learn. I have.

I like this a lot. 🙂

Posted by Chelsey07
I don't know if this counts as daddy issues or not, but my daddy could never relate to me. While he isn't a mean man, he's just not very affectionate and he's overly critical. He shows me love through things and money when all I wanted was to spend time with him. My daddy loves work more than anything in the world. I remember when I used to ask him why couldn't he ever spend time with me and he'd say:

"I have to work to get you all of the things you ask for. Money doesn't grow on trees."

If I could choose a movie that matched our relationship, it would be "Excess Baggage" minus the planning my own kidnapping and whatnot.

welcome! *hugs*
wow this sounds way familiar lol is your dad a Libra/Aries moon as well??
mine is a workaholic who also has difficulty expressing affection. very few i love yous (mostly prompted by my own expression) and awkward side hugs. little communication...
has this caused you any difficulties in adulthood?

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Posted by Chelsey07
I don't know if this counts as daddy issues or not, but my daddy could never relate to me. While he isn't a mean man, he's just not very affectionate and he's overly critical. He shows me love through things and money when all I wanted was to spend time with him. My daddy loves work more than anything in the world. I remember when I used to ask him why couldn't he ever spend time with me and he'd say:

"I have to work to get you all of the things you ask for. Money doesn't grow on trees."

If I could choose a movie that matched our relationship, it would be "Excess Baggage" minus the planning my own kidnapping and whatnot.

welcome! *hugs*
wow this sounds way familiar lol is your dad a Libra/Aries moon as well??
mine is a workaholic who also has difficulty expressing affection. very few i love yous (mostly prompted by my own expression) and awkward side hugs. little communication...
has this caused you any difficulties in adulthood?

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No, my daddy is a Gemini sun and Pisces moon. Same with the I love yous. They were few and far in between. I guess he thought that I knew that he loved me and don't get me wrong, I do know that he loves me in his own little way lol...it just feels good to hear those words. My daddy has always treated me more like a colleague than his daughter. I think the only difficulty it has caused for me is my extreme defensiveness. His overly critical behavior has made me quite indecisive about anything and everything in my life. I know he means well when he says the things that he says, it's just...he's a dream ruiner lol. He behaves nothing like his sign actually.

On a positive note, I've never had strained communication with my daddy. If anything, I can talk to him better than I can my mom. Thankfully, he's starting to soften up 🙂

I've always been glad that I was raised by a single mother. Better no father than one who could cause considerable emotional damage. I did luck out that the rest of the men in my family were there to replace a fatherly figure whenever I needed one.

The only issue that this has given me I think after all of it, is that I have a tendency to be attracted to men who are or who would make great fathers.

Posted by Gennie
I've always been glad that I was raised by a single mother. Better no father than one who could cause considerable emotional damage. I did luck out that the rest of the men in my family were there to replace a fatherly figure whenever I needed one.

The only issue that this has given me I think after all of it, is that I have a tendency to be attracted to men who are or who would make great fathers.

That's a good thing then, not an issue. 🙂 It's a quality I wish all men possessed. Same with mothers.

Posted by Arielle83
My dad has always been there for me. He taught me self defence and that no man is worth my tears. He's incredibly intelligent as a physicist/mathematician. I talk to him nearly everyday even though he lives in canada. My parents are a part of my daily life. I knew at a young age to marry for love and I did, because I saw my parent's love and realise you can overcome hurdles together if you trust and support each other.

I married a man just like my father in a sensitive, yet strong demeaner.

I also stripped for 8 months cuz I love money.

Lmfao oh I bet you were rolling in those dollar bills...🙂 hehe
I do like your story, seems like you had a great daddy!🙂

My dad didn't give a shit. They got a divorce when I was 4. On the weekends he'd leave me alone to go party. I remember being scared. When I was 15 he started to care, around the same time he ended up on heroin. Step mother had 3 daughters. Dad and step mom would come home at 4am screaming and breaking shit. The sound was frighting.

But I don't find it as an issue. I turned out perfectly fine, don't ya think?

Posted by Soul
My dad didn't give a shit. They got a divorce when I was 4. On the weekends he'd leave me alone to go party. I remember being scared. When I was 15 he started to care, around the same time he ended up on heroin. Step mother had 3 daughters. Dad and step mom would come home at 4am screaming and breaking shit. The sound was frighting.

But I don't find it as an issue. I turned out perfectly fine, don't ya think?

Lol, I don't know, you tell me...
I'm sorry you had to go through that... That's a terrible family situation.😢

I feel like i mask ot always have. As i got older and more spiritual i come tonthe realization the reason i attract all these ppl with issues esp eith family is because of my own issue. I feel im bery positive but why as a positive person i attract abusive women, ppl that self sabotage, ppl that have issue with mom and dad? My mom was a single parent i grew up fast no man was in the house hold so i dont think i know love. And how to be treated properly no one showed me. My mom was tough and independent but something was missing. I dont get along with my father i dont like him. I feel i dont know what it is to be treated right all i know is giving. And i think its normal for ppl treat me as such I just dust it off but thats noy right

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Posted by Soul
My dad didn't give a shit. They got a divorce when I was 4. On the weekends he'd leave me alone to go party. I remember being scared. When I was 15 he started to care, around the same time he ended up on heroin. Step mother had 3 daughters. Dad and step mom would come home at 4am screaming and breaking shit. The sound was frighting.

But I don't find it as an issue. I turned out perfectly fine, don't ya think?

Lol, I don't know, you tell me...
I'm sorry you had to go through that... That's a terrible family situation.😢

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It could be worse though right?

No one died, and I've still got good memories of my dad. The bad moments always seem to outshine the good though.

I was fine. My child form had lots of videogames, friends, and the internet as a distraction.

It was a weird experence, but luckily the past is far behind us.

I try not to use any of that as an excuse to feel like shit and give up.

Anything life gives you can be used as a lesson to gain strength, rather then let it weaken your spirit.

Posted by Soul
It was a weird experence, but luckily the past is far behind us.

I try not to use any of that as an excuse to feel like shit and give up.

Anything life gives you can be used as a lesson to gain strength, rather then let it weaken your spirit.

Yes, it could always be worse. I like the way you think.
I guess everything happens for a reason, sometimes just to make us stronger.

Posted by lovely77
I feel like i mask ot always have. As i got older and more spiritual i come tonthe realization the reason i attract all these ppl with issues esp eith family is because of my own issue. I feel im bery positive but why as a positive person i attract abusive women, ppl that self sabotage, ppl that have issue with mom and dad? My mom was a single parent i grew up fast no man was in the house hold so i dont think i know love. And how to be treated properly no one showed me. My mom was tough and independent but something was missing. I dont get along with my father i dont like him. I feel i dont know what it is to be treated right all i know is giving. And i think its normal for ppl treat me as such I just dust it off but thats noy right

Aww that sucks 😢 do you love yourself though?

Honestly i think i do. As i said in a positive optimistic person i dont let alot stuff get to me. I dont hold grudges etc i get over things. I feel i could be a little better with walking away from toxic situations even if i can handle them its like why bother. Its stressful and part of loving urself is knowing what to deal with and what not to deal with to walk away. Im a fighter

Posted by lovely77
Honestly i think i do. As i said in a positive optimistic person i dont let alot stuff get to me. I dont hold grudges etc i get over things. I feel i could be a little better with walking away from toxic situations even if i can handle them its like why bother. Its stressful and part of loving urself is knowing what to deal with and what not to deal with to walk away. Im a fighter

Good, I'm glad to hear that 🙂