@dannmann1992
11 Years
What Should My Next Move Be?
What Does Her Silence Mean After Your First Date
Her lack of contact may indicate she is unsure about the connection or needs more time to process. It does not necessarily mean rejection. Consider giving her space and reaching out gently to express your interest without pressure. Communication and patience are key in understanding her feelings and deciding your next move.
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What's you guys sun and mars sign?
Posted by astro_lady
What's you guys sun and mars sign?
My sun: Taurus
Mars: Pisces
Her sun:Leo
Mars:Taurus
She's not feeling you she would have contacted you straight away.
Posted by Shivz
She's not feeling you she would have contacted you straight away.
By saying she had a good time or something? What if she was waiting for me?
Yeh she would of said she enjoyed her time with you when you really like someone you tell them.
Posted by Koniucha
What does a hard time keeping her aroused mean?
I read that as she was dry as fuck and the sex was painful for her. Shocked that she hasn't called to gush over you Op 🙄
Posted by Koniucha
What does a hard time keeping her aroused mean?
She kept getting dry
Posted by Shivz
Yeh she would of said she enjoyed her time with you when you really like someone you tell them.
But couldn't it easily be said that the guy should say it?
Or is it because I set up the date she should have (if she wanted to) been the one to say it?
Well if you don't like someone the thing to do is blank them after so they get the message your not intrested. Why don't you message her so you know ?
Maybe shes got issues down there and she is nervous to contact you also...give her a message!
Posted by astro_lady
What's you guys sun and mars sign?My sun: Taurus
Mars: PiscesHer sun:Leo
Mars:Taurusclick to expand
Did you feed her first ? you have to feed them first. Did you shower her with complements?
Posted by Cricket808
I've been in a similar situation except it was the man who was having some problems. It was awkward at first but we got over it.
What happened there? If you don't mind me asking...
Posted by Koniucha
What does a hard time keeping her aroused mean?She kept getting dry
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What was your response to this? Did you just keep fucking? Were you wearing a condom?
yes feed first, haha lmao
spit on it, it will be okay to do that.
ATaurus in Mars isn't that picky too much when it comes to sex as long as it is sensual, and she is in comfortable setting....
Posted by dannmann1992
Okay I slept with a girl for the first time about a week ago. Without going into but so many details I guess I had a hard time keeping her aroused. After dropping her off the next day (a week ago) we haven't spoken.1.Okay so guys, is it just me or is it pretty demoralizing if you can't keep her aroused? Would you feel hesitant about reaching out to her after this (not keeping her aroused)?
2. Now ladies lol, after a guy sets up a nice date for you isn't it pretty common that, even though the guy should make first contact after, that you send a text or before you leave you say something along the lines of, "I had a nice time"?
3.The fact that I haven't heard from her should I take that as a sign?
So, you're one of those guys that doesn't call after a girl sleeps with you?
Loser.
Posted by Koniucha
What does a hard time keeping her aroused mean?She kept getting dry
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That could be nerves or hormones - get some lube.
Posted by dannmann1992
Now ladies lol, after a guy sets up a nice date for you isn't it pretty common that, even though the guy should make first contact after, that you send a text or before you leave you say something along the lines of, "I had a nice time"?
Did she tell you when you dropped her off that she had a good time and did she thank you for the date in person? If so, she already thanked you.
Now it is good manners to text right after to say thank you, but not everyone has good manners.
Besides, maybe the sex was her way of saying thank you. *shrugs*
Poor girl is probably sitting there wondering what she did wrong. She's probably cussing you for not calling after she gave you sex.
Some people don't get aroused by other's they need to allow themselves to.be aroused. Some just feel uncomfortable.
Did u go down on her? If not then u are selfish
Posted by exo
next time eat her pussy first. just a wee bit so she wants some more, then slide in the d.
haha thanks but I did eat the kitty lol
Posted by dannmann1992
Okay I slept with a girl for the first time about a week ago. Without going into but so many details I guess I had a hard time keeping her aroused. After dropping her off the next day (a week ago) we haven't spoken.1.Okay so guys, is it just me or is it pretty demoralizing if you can't keep her aroused? Would you feel hesitant about reaching out to her after this (not keeping her aroused)?
2. Now ladies lol, after a guy sets up a nice date for you isn't it pretty common that, even though the guy should make first contact after, that you send a text or before you leave you say something along the lines of, "I had a nice time"?
3.The fact that I haven't heard from her should I take that as a sign?
So, you're one of those guys that doesn't call after a girl sleeps with you?
Loser.
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Not trying to be I guess my issue is I do majority of the contacting...i asked her to spend vday with me back in Jan....cooked...rose petals everywhere.....just thought if she was interested she would've said something after the fact.
Posted by Vixen2
"I had a hard time keeping her aroused."What sign is she...
Was there palpable chemistry beforehand...
Without details...it's hard to gauge...could be nuancesӢprolonged sex...
Ӣnot enough foreplay
Ӣher own insecurities
Ӣsex acrobatics to frequently (position changes)
Ӣ basic first time awkwardness...
Ӣoverly wet sloppy oral or kissing
Ӣhygiene
Ӣdrilling her like a porn star ...It could just be anything...but I'm guessing just first time/new partner awkwardness and disappointment...
She's a Leo.
Posted by Vixen2
"I had a hard time keeping her aroused."What sign is she...
Was there palpable chemistry beforehand...
Without details...it's hard to gauge...could be nuancesӢprolonged sex...
Ӣnot enough foreplay
Ӣher own insecurities
Ӣsex acrobatics to frequently (position changes)
Ӣ basic first time awkwardness...
Ӣoverly wet sloppy oral or kissing
Ӣhygiene
Ӣdrilling her like a porn star ...It could just be anything...but I'm guessing just first time/new partner awkwardness and disappointment...
She's a Leo.
Hmmmm...
She would like to be pampered somewhat, plenty of attention and compliments but not false one... (incorporate that into foreplay if there is a next time or if you text her drop something complimentary, well thought out and meaningful)Do we know her venus?
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Venus is Cancer.
You should read tiziani s thread in the Power Room on bad sex.
Posted by Vixen2
"I had a hard time keeping her aroused."What sign is she...
Was there palpable chemistry beforehand...
Without details...it's hard to gauge...could be nuancesӢprolonged sex...
Ӣnot enough foreplay
Ӣher own insecurities
Ӣsex acrobatics to frequently (position changes)
Ӣ basic first time awkwardness...
Ӣoverly wet sloppy oral or kissing
Ӣhygiene
Ӣdrilling her like a porn star ...It could just be anything...but I'm guessing just first time/new partner awkwardness and disappointment...
She's a Leo.
Hmmmm...
She would like to be pampered somewhat, plenty of attention and compliments but not false one... (incorporate that into foreplay if there is a next time or if you text her drop something complimentary, well thought out and meaningful)Do we know her venus?
Venus is Cancer.
She's a nurturer...likes to feel needed...her mars?
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Taurus.
Well if she's a Leo she's probably pretty stubborn and thinks she should always be chased.
Posted by VenusStar
You should read tiziani s thread in the Power Room on bad sex.Yes...go to the powder room and read...
Find her mars....that's what she'll be attracted to in a man.click to expand
I hope he does because there is a lot useful information in there.
People with Mars in Pisces suck in bed.
You might as well just have female friends to talk to when you need it, and for sex ... masturbate
... because no chics are going to want to be with a lousy lover, and this Mars placement is indeed lousy
Posted by Vixen2
"I had a hard time keeping her aroused."What sign is she...
Was there palpable chemistry beforehand...
Without details...it's hard to gauge...could be nuancesӢprolonged sex...
Ӣnot enough foreplay
Ӣher own insecurities
Ӣsex acrobatics to frequently (position changes)
Ӣ basic first time awkwardness...
Ӣoverly wet sloppy oral or kissing
Ӣhygiene
Ӣdrilling her like a porn star ...It could just be anything...but I'm guessing just first time/new partner awkwardness and disappointment...
She's a Leo.
Hmmmm...
She would like to be pampered somewhat, plenty of attention and compliments but not false one... (incorporate that into foreplay if there is a next time or if you text her drop something complimentary, well thought out and meaningful)Do we know her venus?
Venus is Cancer.
She's a nurturer...likes to feel needed...her mars?
Taurus.
Wait...taurus mars is yours (stamina ! )
But that's hers as well? If that's the case she would be totally attracted to you...click to expand
Hmm interesting...could you tell me more about us? Now I'm super curious.
Me:
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Gemini
Venus: Pisces
Mars: Pisces
Her:
Sun: Leo
Moon: Scorpio
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Taurus
People with Mars in Pisces suck in bed.
You might as well just have female friends to talk to when you need it, and for sex ... masturbate
... because no chics are going to want to be with a lousy lover, and this Mars placement is indeed lousy
Haha...what about someone who a has a mars in Taurus? would you say they're lousy in bed?
Have you heard of lube before?
Eat each other out or something...
or ask the honest question "Is it me? Is it my face? what can I do to please you?"
Are you new to this?
Hmm interesting...could you tell me more about us? Now I'm super curious.
Me:
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Gemini
Venus: Pisces
Mars: PiscesHer:
Sun: Leo
Moon: Scorpio
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Taurusclick to expand
When Venus or Mars is in Taurus, the sexual nature involves all of the senses. Touch and smell are supremely important to these lovers. These are the most physical of sexual partners. No frills sex is quite fine, as long as the mood is right and there is plenty of physical contact. These lovers don't have a reputation for spontaneity or variety, but they are good at what they do nonetheless, simply because they are truly right there with you. Abstaining from sex is especially difficult for Taurus, so finding a regular sex partner is particularly important. Their sexual stamina during love-making is long-lasting and steady. Although generally patient, their style is natural and physical, and intellectualizing the sex act would only serve to baffle Taurus
When Venus or Mars is in Cancer, you'll get one of the most sensitive and sweet lovers. When they're not pouting, they are romantic and gooey with you. They are turned on by slave scenarios, and they may like it when you're a little mean and aggressive in bed, as long as they know you love them. Some of them are turned on by the idea of making a baby, and others just love the idea of being all yours in bed. They are known as the sign most attracted to breasts, and they generally like their men rather masculine and their women feminine, at least in fantasy. They don't always let you know what turns them on, and expect you to intuit their sexual needs. Their style in bed is protective and soothing.
I wasn't like, a fly on the wall of your lovemaking session but I will take a stab.
Start with a light meal, maybe some wine! If things progress nicely, be assertive in your desire for her, but stop shy of dominating. Start with a lotion massage. Show of hands, how many ViTs gonna not love a nice erotic massage? Give her the opportunity to reciprocate with some light petting, and give your feedback in sincere praise.
Don't worry about dryness, that's what astroglide is for.
She is probably just as embarrassed to be dry, especially if she was into it, so call her numbnuts.
Posted by aquasnoz
Have you heard of lube before?Eat each other out or something...
or ask the honest question "Is it me? Is it my face? what can I do to please you?"
Are you new to this?
Didn't have any and I did. That's how we started off (me going down) and I did for a while.
I suppose if the Mars in Pisces person hooked up with a really sexually aggressive female, very dominating ... then this would work out.
Pisces in Mars person is just like you are acting right now ...... they have no umph, no sexual drive that moves them into wanting to splash their partner with feelings of desire.
They're the ones who want to lay there, or want to sit by the phone and wait, they are the ones who don't initiate, at all.
They want sex, they're horny and have desires ... but, never lead in action.
Go find an S&M club, and wait quietly for someone to come own you ... you'd probably thrive in that.
You are way too focused on sex in the relationship.
Please tell me you haven't waited a week to contact her?
Posted by WateryGem
Please tell me you haven't waited a week to contact her?
Wait what I presumed he had tried to contact her first??DUDE!
Posted by aquasnoz
Have you heard of lube before?Eat each other out or something...
or ask the honest question "Is it me? Is it my face? what can I do to please you?"
Are you new to this?
Didn't have any and I did. That's how we started off (me going down) and I did for a while.
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Did she respond well to it? Was she physically turned on?
details details my friend!
Without the details all I'm imagining is you were eating and chewing her flaps (if she has those)
ANYWAY I suppose that's not really the issue anymore. You can either seduce her again, ask her exactly what happened because fucked if any of us know what happened or admit defeat that perhaps she doesn't quite like vanilla foreplay.
Posted by Vixen2
Mars in TAURUSMars in TAURUS
you like to be cuddled and caressed
Mars in Pisces people would do this, if they were told to ... but, it wouldn't dawn on them that to initiate this without the intention of sex, is what keeps this woman's interest
Posted by WateryGem
Please tell me you haven't waited a week to contact her?Wait what I presumed he had tried to contact her first??DUDE!
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If you read his post it doesn't sound like he has contacted her but actually thought he was supposed to get a "thumbs up" or a stamp of approval for his sexual deed. When really HE should do that, b/c what if she was feeling unsure of the entire situation b/c it might have been awkward. Most females want a guy to lead. I don't know if I have sex with someone for the 1st time if I'm going to tell them, "hey good job putting your penis inside of me". LOL I'm just not sure if I would.
Posted by aquasnoz
Have you heard of lube before?Eat each other out or something...
or ask the honest question "Is it me? Is it my face? what can I do to please you?"
Are you new to this?
Didn't have any and I did. That's how we started off (me going down) and I did for a while.
Did she respond well to it? Was she physically turned on?
details details my friend!
Without the details all I'm imagining is you were eating and chewing her flaps (if she has those)
ANYWAY I suppose that's not really the issue anymore. You can either seduce her again, ask her exactly what happened because fucked if any of us know what happened or admit defeat that perhaps she doesn't quite like vanilla foreplay.
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She was moaning but we tried a handful of times to have sex but she kept getting dry.
Posted by aquasnoz
Have you heard of lube before?Eat each other out or something...
or ask the honest question "Is it me? Is it my face? what can I do to please you?"
Are you new to this?
Didn't have any and I did. That's how we started off (me going down) and I did for a while.
Did she respond well to it? Was she physically turned on?
details details my friend!
Without the details all I'm imagining is you were eating and chewing her flaps (if she has those)
ANYWAY I suppose that's not really the issue anymore. You can either seduce her again, ask her exactly what happened because fucked if any of us know what happened or admit defeat that perhaps she doesn't quite like vanilla foreplay.
She was moaning but we tried a handful of times to have sex but she kept getting dry.
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Not all girls can sustain it so it'll also depend on how long you're going at it. Longer isn't always necessarily better because you run into these problems.
But that's a good sign though. Buy some lube next time or you know just take intervals and enjoy a blowjob.
Posted by WateryGem
Please tell me you haven't waited a week to contact her?Wait what I presumed he had tried to contact her first??DUDE!
If you read his post it doesn't sound like he has contacted her but actually thought he was supposed to get a "thumbs up" or a stamp of approval for his sexual deed. When really HE should do that, b/c what if she was feeling unsure of the entire situation b/c it might have been awkward. Most females want a guy to lead. I don't know if I have sex with someone for the 1st time if I'm going to tell them, "hey good job putting your penis inside of me". LOL I'm just not sure if I would.
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Haha. Unfortunately this is partly true. I set this stuff up for vday, then the whole sex mishap, and when I dropped her off I expected her to say something like "Hey had a good time", "Thanks again for last night" because any time I've had a date and I'm dropping a girl off or walking her to her car I usually get that or even after we've left I'll get that text saying these things. This time nothing. Not a peep. Pecked and left.
"She was moaning but we tried a handful of times to have sex but she kept getting dry."
I feel you're probably over thinking this, women have this happen all the time. How long did the sex last? She might have not had enough water, was she drinking alcohol before? Maybe, she felt embarrassed b/c she kept getting dry, maybe, she wanted to please you and kept feeling she wasn't doing a good job. There's so many scenarios, you just need to reach out and try again.
The more you have sex with a person, the more comfortable you get.
Posted by WateryGem
Please tell me you haven't waited a week to contact her?Wait what I presumed he had tried to contact her first??DUDE!
If you read his post it doesn't sound like he has contacted her but actually thought he was supposed to get a "thumbs up" or a stamp of approval for his sexual deed. When really HE should do that, b/c what if she was feeling unsure of the entire situation b/c it might have been awkward. Most females want a guy to lead. I don't know if I have sex with someone for the 1st time if I'm going to tell them, "hey good job putting your penis inside of me". LOL I'm just not sure if I would.
Haha. Unfortunately this is partly true. I set this stuff up for vday, then the whole sex mishap, and when I dropped her off I expected her to say something like "Hey had a good time", "Thanks again for last night" because any time I've had a date and I'm dropping a girl off or walking her to her car I usually get that or even after we've left I'll get that text saying these things. This time nothing. Not a peep. Pecked and left.
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LOL Well, reach out and find out!! Take the lead and tell her that YOU had a great time and that you weren't sure if she did.
I just saw she is a Leo Sun, Mars Taurus, what's her Moon and Venus, Mercury?
Mercury uote>Posted by WateryGem
I just saw she is a Leo Sun, Mars Taurus, what's her Moon and Venus, Mercury?
Me:
Sun: Taurus
Moon: Gemini
Venus: Pisces
Mars: Pisces
Her:
Sun: Leo
Moon: Scorpio
Venus: Cancer
Mars: Taurus
Mercury: Virgo
Posted by WateryGem
Please tell me you haven't waited a week to contact her?Wait what I presumed he had tried to contact her first??DUDE!
If you read his post it doesn't sound like he has contacted her but actually thought he was supposed to get a "thumbs up" or a stamp of approval for his sexual deed. When really HE should do that, b/c what if she was feeling unsure of the entire situation b/c it might have been awkward. Most females want a guy to lead. I don't know if I have sex with someone for the 1st time if I'm going to tell them, "hey good job putting your penis inside of me". LOL I'm just not sure if I would.
Haha. Unfortunately this is partly true. I set this stuff up for vday, then the whole sex mishap, and when I dropped her off I expected her to say something like "Hey had a good time", "Thanks again for last night" because any time I've had a date and I'm dropping a girl off or walking her to her car I usually get that or even after we've left I'll get that text saying these things. This time nothing. Not a peep. Pecked and left.
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Okay I slept with a girl for the first time about a week ago. Without going into but so many details I guess I had a hard time keeping her aroused. After dropping her off the next day (a week ago) we haven't spoken.
1.Okay so guys, is it just me or is it pretty demoralizing if you can't keep her aroused? Would you feel hesitant about reaching out to her after this (not keeping her aroused)?
2. Now ladies lol, after a guy sets up a nice date for you isn't it pretty common that, even though the guy should make first contact after, that you send a text or before you leave you say something along the lines of, "I had a nice time"?
3.The fact that I haven't heard from her should I take that as a sign?