@jebrooks1988
11 Years
Sexual Chemistry
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
For me it's not awkward unless the guy makes it awkward. I can have sex and keep it moving very easily. All that cuddling and shit isn't necessary.
That's how I feel as well lol; no need to blur the lines. My friends said when a guy does those things ^^ he's interested but I'm not sure I quite agree.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
Posted by jebrooks1988
Posted by xXxAliciaXxX
For me it's not awkward unless the guy makes it awkward. I can have sex and keep it moving very easily. All that cuddling and shit isn't necessary.
That's how I feel as well lol; no need to blur the lines. My friends said when a guy does those things ^^ he's interested but I'm not sure I quite agree.
Nah that's not true. There are some guys who simply love affection and will do that with all of his one night stands. It's not a clear indication that he's interested. Now if he calls to talk to you when he doesn't want and wants to spend time with you where it doesn't involve having sex, then yeah he's interested.
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Oh yea I definitely agree. I think what they meant was that he's still interested afterwards (you know how some men just completely withdraw afterwards) if he was already putting in the effort before hand. I hope that made sense lol.
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Posted by Taureye
For me, chemistry leads to sexual chemistry. If that chemistry is off....bye
So like in my post if that chemistry, sexual or other wise, you wouldn't be mushy with that person after the deed is done?
Posted by Taureye
For me, chemistry leads to sexual chemistry. If that chemistry is off....bye
I agree. Chemistry and passion are key
Posted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Some people have better chemistry outside of the bedroom than in it
Posted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Well what if you thought it was there until you slept with them?
Sex isn't awkward, you're doing it wrong.
Posted by jebrooks1988
Posted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Well what if you thought it was there until you slept with them?click to expand
That indeed happens
Posted by capricornmoon
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
Well because you don't know this person sexually. Personally, I think it takes quite some time to really know a person in the bedroom.
Posted by DMV
Posted by jebrooks1988
Posted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Well what if you thought it was there until you slept with them?
That indeed happens
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Since that happens that leads me to question IF it is off would you still want to be mushy afterwards? Do the cuddling, forehead kisses, etc.? May be because I'm not the warmest person but for me I don't think I could go out of my way to do those things right after sex if I felt the chemistry was off.
Posted by Taureye
Posted by Astrobyn
Sex isn't awkward, you're doing it wrong.
Too many holes!!! THERES TOO MANY HOLES!!!
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Ok see, taureye just made it awkward don't sleep with him.
Posted by jebrooks1988
Posted by DMV
Posted by jebrooks1988
Posted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Well what if you thought it was there until you slept with them?
That indeed happens
Since that happens that leads me to question IF it is off would you still want to be mushy afterwards? Do the cuddling, forehead kisses, etc.? May be because I'm not the warmest person but for me I don't think I could go out of my way to do those things right after sex if I felt the chemistry was off.
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Oooh no. I pretend i have tons of shit to do and leave as quickly as possible
Posted by Taureye
Posted by Astrobyn
Sex isn't awkward, you're doing it wrong.
Too many holes!!! THERES TOO MANY HOLES!!!
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Yeah 2 holes on the guy and 3 on the girl
Posted by capricornmoon
Posted by jebrooks1988
Posted by capricornmoon
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
Well because you don't know this person sexually. Personally, I think it takes quite some time to really know a person in the bedroom.
So then it's Awkward in your mind. And you're running with those awkward mental emotions when you
Finally get intimate with them. Two people whose energy are in sync will never feel awkward.click to expand
May be awkward isn't the correct word but may be a little nerve-wracking.
I feel like guys take the lead after sex alot.
If im feeling them, i dont initiate the cuddling.
I need that reassurance first.
Posted by DMV
I feel like guys take the lead after sex alot.If im feeling them, i dont initiate the cuddling.
I need that reassurance first.
Same here. See this is where my over thinking kicks in lol but what if he's just kissing and cuddling afterwards just to be nice because he thought the sex was bad and didn't want to hurt your feelings?
Posted by capricornmoon
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
hey baby
i'll mix my chemicals with yours
if chemistry is off from the beginning or it dies ....it's a no go any further. I would be kidding myself and it would be gross for us both.
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Posted by HouseCleaning
Posted by capricornmoon
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
hey baby
i'll mix my chemicals with yours
..just don't give me any STDs.
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likewise
Posted by sagiluv
for me. There must be a strong chemistry to sleep together. Otherwise there's no sex !
There is no anything really without it.
Forget sex ..there is no anything without the mutual ..thing...the thingy.....
Sex is just an act that supposedly could bond you two together. Some people it takes 2 days and some take 6 months just to have sex and by then you know you have chemistry already...some do it the same day and date and then go there own ways there's no chemistry there so why stick around.
Their own ways after and if they really are interested they keep communication flowing.
No chemistry then it would be just friends..
Sex minus chemistry is kinda hot, has a kinky feel to it.
Sex with chemistry, too many feelz -_-
Posted by capricornmoon
Posted by HouseCleaning
Posted by capricornmoon
Posted by HouseCleaning
Posted by capricornmoon
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
hey baby
i'll mix my chemicals with yours
..just don't give me any STDs.
likewise
Yea right.,I'm cleaner than a virgin.,
46 yr old men with cooties however......click to expand
don't forget the broke and toothless part
I hate you ..for no reason....deal
Posted by SuperMercurial
If for some reason, mid sex I realize I'm not feeling it, I'll just dxp until its over. Probably talk shit about the person. Libra mars.
MG I am having sex right now! >>>Almost.....well my hand is involved.
@Busyeyes88- What is chemistry to you? what is that makes you think this is the one? I think every ones chemistry levels are different?
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I know the first time you sleep with someone things can get pretty awkward but if you feel like the sexual chemistry, or just chemistry period, is off would you still want to cuddle with them, kiss their forehead, etc.?