Do you think the saying once a cheater always a cheater is valid?

Do you think the saying once a cheater always a cheater is valid, or do you think it's a circumstance to each individual relationship the 'cheater' has ?

I don't trust cheaters.

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
That kind of behavior is the type of behavior that's embedded into one's personality. People who don't like to take responsibility for their actions.



Cheaters have excuses for days as to why they did what they did and they are usually the first ones to go on about how their pasts don't define them. Red flag, run.

Trying to understand the guy I'm seeing. He stated that he cheated on his ex-wife when their relationship was in the process of ending. There's no justification for it, it's wrong in any and everything situation.... He's an Aquarius man, and they have a tendency to be distant sometimes... Trying to understand I guess. When he's distant my mind can't help but wonder if there's another woman. 99% of the time I trust him but that 1% ,when I remember he cheated on his ex-wife makes me wonder the possibilities

So my bff and I were talking about this topic last night. What about the cheaters that would go to like the happy ending places, or the ones that post explicit pics of their dick or whatever on sites like craigslist? Would they be considered in the label of "once a cheater always a cheater"?

for instance the man we were discussing had been doing and meeting women for happy endings since he was in his early 20's and kept doing it even after he was caught once and then kept going until after his wife left. The other guy was my bff's ex husband, actually and he had posted craiglist adds. So what do you categorize men that don't do the normal cheating?

Also, I know of a Pisces that cheated on her ex husband with two men. I don't think she would do that to her husband today, she seems quite happy and in love with him.

The Libra girl I know is engaged to her 3rd sons father but she did cheat on her 2nd husband, I don't think she would cheat, but I could be wrong. People do stupid shit all the time..

What about the people who have emotional affairs? Are they in this category too?

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Posted by Libralady1985

Posted by xXxQueenliciaXxX
That kind of behavior is the type of behavior that's embedded into one's personality. People who don't like to take responsibility for their actions.



Cheaters have excuses for days as to why they did what they did and they are usually the first ones to go on about how their pasts don't define them. Red flag, run.

Trying to understand the guy I'm seeing. He stated that he cheated on his ex-wife when their relationship was in the process of ending. There's no justification for it, it's wrong in any and everything situation.... He's an Aquarius man, and they have a tendency to be distant sometimes... Trying to understand I guess. When he's distant my mind can't help but wonder if there's another woman. 99% of the time I trust him but that 1% ,when I remember he cheated on his ex-wife makes me wonder the possibilities

Aqua men are notorious cheaters too.



There's no relationship without trust.

I think it's good that he was open about. That's a start in the right direction. If he was full of excuses as to why he did it.....red flag. But at the end of the day only you know what's good for you.



Trust your gut.

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My gut tells me I'm worried for nothing lol so I suppose that's good.... Although I think it's smart to consider the possibilities based on facts about the past. I'm a mix between an idealist and a cynic lol

I think most people cheat b/c they refuse to face the issues in their relationship, all marriages have hard times, it's then you see what people are made of.

In my opinion!!

No, it's much too reductive.

There are way too many variables involved.

My personal belief is that monogamy is a moral choice some stick to, but it isn't in an innate trait of the human race.

I think people are fallible and mistakes can happen. I know a multitude of people that cheated on their girlfriends/boyfriends once in their younger years, turn around to be something different. I have one particular friend, I know whom cheated on his girlfriend in his early 20s, become the most devoted person to his wife he met after that girl, and has been married 18 years. So I do believe that someone whom isn't a serial cheater, does have the ability to make the choice to become monogamous later in life.

Serial cheaters, that have spent their lifetime cheating on multiple partners, those I believe will never change.

I know people who have cheated once and haven't resorted to cheating again. So it is possible to change one's character. Likewise, I also know people who have cheated multiple times and will probably cheat again. Their "happiness" appears to be the only real factor they consider.

I myself would see any history of cheating as a red flag and more than likely a deal breaker. I would never cheat, nor do I have the capacity to cheat, so I simply don't understand it. How someone handles difficulties in relationships speaks to the strength (or weakness) of that person's character. I want to know whether or not the other person actually values honesty and loyalty.

Furthermore I would want to know that if the relationship ever hit a rough patch that the other person could maintain their resolve and integrity. No relationship is smooth 100% of the time, there will be problems. I wouldn't want to worry that my significant other will become unfaithful when our relationship is less than perfect.

Posted by WateryGem
I think most people cheat b/c they refuse to face the issues in their relationship, all marriages have hard times, it's then you see what people are made of.

In my opinion!!

Exactly

And do you really want to get involved with someone whose default mode is to cheat when things get rough? No matter how great it is at the beginning, eventually the honeymoon period ends.

Posted by Libralady1985
Do you think the saying once a cheater always a cheater is valid, or do you think it's a circumstance to each individual relationship the 'cheater' has ?

the second option.

Posted by Libralady1985
Do you think the saying once a cheater always a cheater is valid, or do you think it's a circumstance to each individual relationship the 'cheater' has ?

I think people dont change, well, a few do but only through great circumstance and effort. So I sort of generally believe once a ____ always a ____. If a person cheated once and has not cheated in like 10 years then I would believe they have changed. If not in like 5 years but they have on every relationship before then, then I'm more hard pressed to believe they've changed.

I cheated once with my first partner. Never did it again. I somehow still thought about it for a few years and kept on regretting it even though I wasn't really so love the ex I cheated on. I also talked to that ex and honestly just told her the truth about it. After that, I treated all my consecutive partners all the love I can give to them.

Maybe I needed to commit that one mistake to learn a lesson in life, though

Posted by juliettee
why is this forum so obsessed with cheating? i mean there are tons of other disgusting things your so can do to you. if the relationship is solid, the SO will tell you that he/she wants the diversity. cheating is so little town mentality. if a man cheats on me, i would know that it is my fault to some extent. so fuck that, be honest about yourself and worry about real problems.

Why is your partners cheating your fault to any extent?

Libra, when a man is in love with you he makes you feel so secure and so stable with his unwavering devotion that there is no room to doubt... Based off of your other threads his behavior towards you makes you feel unsure insecure and uncertain.

It's easier to blame ourselves for our insecurities then to face the hardcore facts: this man is not in love with you, and you are not the one for him

It's been a year he still has not officiated you as his girlfriend despite all of his fancy talk which Aquarius are known for - you're still feeling insecure uncertain & doubtful. Feelings which are foreign to women who are actually with men who are in love with them.

There is a YouTube video called "He treats you how he feels about you". In your other thread you said he blows hot and cold with you you don't know whether you're coming or going when he's online he disrespectfully ignores you I mean come on?

What do you mean is he going to cheat he is already cheating you out of a loving warm mutually satisfying relationship with someone who really gives a damn about you.