@confusedaries7513
9 Years
Would problems arise if one person in the relationship does not drink alcohol?
Can a Relationship Thrive with One Person Not Drinking Alcohol
Relationships can succeed with one partner not drinking alcohol. Challenges may arise if lifestyles or social activities differ significantly, but open communication and mutual understanding often help maintain harmony and respect individual choices.
My partners father died of alcoholism but also had cancer. My partner had his bout of drinking too but before I met him. He rarely rarely touches it nowadays. I being Pisces adapted as necessary and hardly drink anymore because we do that kind of stuff! But I will have an occasional glass of wine with food. Just the one and he doesn't seem to mind that.
However, I do get the feeling that I would experience his very moody side if I went out with mates and got drunk. He would look down on that and I would feel his disapproval for sure.
My Aunt doesn't drink but my Uncle does.
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Ha. I'll let ya know. Been contemplating going dry for a while, but live where there's a huge drinking culture and my partner's a bartender. I don't foresee it going well. Totally doable!, but when and if I do, it's gonna be a huge adjustment.
Pisshead! 😛
Not forever! Just stop and see how long I can go before I truly miss it. Then have a think on *why* I miss it. Plus, I'm becoming a lady (shut up ?) of a certain age. Getting harder to justify drinking an entire day's calories in one sitting.
Why the question? Are you encountering this yourself?
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not quite but just curious to know 🙂
It would only be a problem depending on how central to life style the drinking is. If you cant go a week or two without drinking then it would cause problems.
Ha. I'll let ya know. Been contemplating going dry for a while, but live where there's a huge drinking culture and my partner's a bartender. I don't foresee it going well. Totally doable!, but when and if I do, it's gonna be a huge adjustment.
Pisshead! 😛
Not forever! Just stop and see how long I can go before I truly miss it. Then have a think on *why* I miss it. Plus, I'm becoming a lady (shut up ?) of a certain age. Getting harder to justify drinking an entire day's calories in one sitting.
Why the question? Are you encountering this yourself?
not quite but just curious to know 🙂
Then, as the one thinking of taking a break, I'd say it would only be a problem if I made it one. If I expected him to stop too or cater to me in some way. Which would be a very selfish request. I've got it way too good to cause tensions over something so trivial.
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well I would be the non-drinker in the equation. but i absolutely have no problem with people who do drink nor would i ever try to make them quit. but i have noticed that people who drink, engage in activities such as going out to a bar or a club and if you don't drink on events like this, you would be dissed by pretty much everyone🙂) so i wouldnt be able to join someone who is a drinker in those social events
It's possible, but not definite. Depends on how much the drinking partner actually drinks. Also depends on how understanding each person is of the other. As long as their is mutual respect and no issues, it's not a problem.
You can't just say, "drink" as a measurement across the board.
some people only drink a beer a day, while others drink a case of beer .. for example.
so, it's not simply to calculate this unless you specify the volume of alcohol consumed.
Say for example, your dilemma of the drinker wanting to go out with buds, and you're left out of the equation often .... well, if this person only drinks one glass of wine a day, or just a beer when he gets home, then he's likely not going to even want to go out to party like an animal. If you are talking about a person who wants to go out and get totally shit-faced often with friends ...... then of course, that's not going to work with any non-drinker because it's wreckless and irresponsible to a partner.
The key here is whether this person has respect for you, or not ... drinking isn't really the issue. If the partner doesn't have respect for you, he could be a non-drinker and still stay out all night and diss you sober.
the partner who does respect you can drink all the time and still make you a priority.
My Aries has stopped drinking, i'll let you know how it goes (I'm Scots/Irish-aint happening for me anytime soon)
Posted by confusedaries7513
I am just curious to know, would a couple in which one drinks and one doesn't, encounter any problems during the coarse of their relationship?does anyone happen to have any experiences of being in this kind of relationship? if so, how did it turn out?
I don't drink at all.
My Capricorn drinks socially on special occasions. The only time I saw him drink to the point of looking like he had something to drink was during his bestie Pisces birthday. Otherwise, he is very controlled and only has a couple of glasses or some beer.
He has those classic "that time I got drunk" stories of his past, and I only have a "that time I tried alcohol for the first time and felt tipsy" story.
During special occasions, everyone else is drinking besides me, so there is that feeling of pain of being left out, and it's so palpable to me. For example, during Christmas, all were toasting and pouring each other drinks and I actually felt really sad about not being included because no one thought to pour me anything.
I brought it up to my Sea-Goat later and he apologized and said he'd keep that in mind. Our simple solution? We bring sparkling cider to occasions and he makes sure I get a wine glass with my non-alcoholic drink in it so that I can join in toasts and clink my glass, too. ☺️ We never have any left over because other people want to drink my cider. Drinking alcohol, like eating animal products, is a powerful element to interacting with others. To not engage in either is really to stand on your own. My Sea-Goat isn't quite on my level regarding animal-based products (he is a pescetarian), but since he knows exactly where I am coming from, and he supports my decision 100% , he is able to chime in and give input when people question me so that I don't feel alone. The same with drinking. He will declare that I don't drink like it's not a big deal and he makes sure I have my special drink and, if we go someplace where there is an open bar, he will order for me - asking for non-alcoholic versions of things.
Had I not communicated how much it bothered me to be left out, I am sure it would have grown to be a problem. So my advice is - talk about your feelings (if it's not you, then the person should talk about his or her feelings.) The Better Half will do what they can to make you feel loved because one who loves you never wants you to feel abandoned or left out.
Haha, I have never quite felt "left out" before as an adult than that moment when everyone was pouring each other a drink and I had nothing. The twist? My Sea-Goat's family owns a brewery!
Posted by confusedaries7513
I am just curious to know, would a couple in which one drinks and one doesn't, encounter any problems during the coarse of their relationship?does anyone happen to have any experiences of being in this kind of relationship? if so, how did it turn out?
I don't drink at all.
My Capricorn drinks socially on special occasions. The only time I saw him drink to the point of looking like he had something to drink was during his bestie Pisces birthday. Otherwise, he is very controlled and only has a couple of glasses or some beer.
He has those classic "that time I got drunk" stories of his past, and I only have a "that time I tried alcohol for the first time and felt tipsy" story.
During special occasions, everyone else is drinking besides me, so there is that feeling of pain of being left out, and it's so palpable to me. For example, during Christmas, all were toasting and pouring each other drinks and I actually felt really sad about not being included because no one thought to pour me anything.
I brought it up to my Sea-Goat later and he apologized and said he'd keep that in mind. Our simple solution? We bring sparkling cider to occasions and he makes sure I get a wine glass with my non-alcoholic drink in it so that I can join in toasts and clink my glass, too. ☺️ We never have any left over because other people want to drink my cider. Drinking alcohol, like eating animal products, is a powerful element to interacting with others. To not engage in either is really to stand on your own. My Sea-Goat isn't quite on my level regarding animal-based products (he is a pescetarian), but since he knows exactly where I am coming from, and he supports my decision 100% , he is able to chime in and give input when people question me so that I don't feel alone. The same with drinking. He will declare that I don't drink like it's not a big deal and he makes sure I have my special drink and, if we go someplace where there is an open bar, he will order for me - asking for non-alcoholic versions of things.
Had I not communicated how much it bothered me to be left out, I am sure it would have grown to be a problem. So my advice is - talk about your feelings (if it's not you, then the person should talk about his or her feelings.) The Better Half will do what they can to make you feel loved because one who loves you never wants you to feel abandoned or left out.
Haha, I have never quite felt "left out" before as an adult than that moment when everyone was pouring each other a drink and I had nothing. The twist? My Sea-Goat's family owns a brewery!
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was a delight to hear your story 🙂 thanks so much for that answer. hope everything keeps going well with you and your Sea-Goat 😛
Ha. I'll let ya know. Been contemplating going dry for a while, but live where there's a huge drinking culture and my partner's a bartender. I don't foresee it going well. Totally doable!, but when and if I do, it's gonna be a huge adjustment.
Pisshead! 😛
Not forever! Just stop and see how long I can go before I truly miss it. Then have a think on *why* I miss it. Plus, I'm becoming a lady (shut up ?) of a certain age. Getting harder to justify drinking an entire day's calories in one sitting.
Why the question? Are you encountering this yourself?
not quite but just curious to know 🙂
Then, as the one thinking of taking a break, I'd say it would only be a problem if I made it one. If I expected him to stop too or cater to me in some way. Which would be a very selfish request. I've got it way too good to cause tensions over something so trivial.
well I would be the non-drinker in the equation. but i absolutely have no problem with people who do drink nor would i ever try to make them quit. but i have noticed that people who drink, engage in activities such as going out to a bar or a club and if you don't drink on events like this, you would be dissed by pretty much everyone🙂) so i wouldnt be able to join someone who is a drinker in those social events
Thankfully there are a ton of people who only drink socially or don't drink at all. Agreed it would be hard to date someone whose idea of a good time is frequenting bars, which is why it'd be such an adjustment for me. Because we've made the majority of our date nights involve alcohol (drink pairing meals, back bar music shows, cocktail classes, pub quizzes), I'd have to adjust to being in those settings, but not partaking myself.
Have a girl friend who quit, for health reasons, last year. She and her hubs were always life of the party people and they still are, despite her being sober. If they can do it, so can we. You? If you're not going to these places and doing these things to begin with, you're much more likely to meet people who feel the same way you do. You'll be fine. 🙂
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that is very true thank you for your insight on the matter 🙂
Posted by confusedaries7513
I am just curious to know, would a couple in which one drinks and one doesn't, encounter any problems during the coarse of their relationship?does anyone happen to have any experiences of being in this kind of relationship? if so, how did it turn out?
I don't drink at all.
My Capricorn drinks socially on special occasions. The only time I saw him drink to the point of looking like he had something to drink was during his bestie Pisces birthday. Otherwise, he is very controlled and only has a couple of glasses or some beer.
He has those classic "that time I got drunk" stories of his past, and I only have a "that time I tried alcohol for the first time and felt tipsy" story.
During special occasions, everyone else is drinking besides me, so there is that feeling of pain of being left out, and it's so palpable to me. For example, during Christmas, all were toasting and pouring each other drinks and I actually felt really sad about not being included because no one thought to pour me anything.
I brought it up to my Sea-Goat later and he apologized and said he'd keep that in mind. Our simple solution? We bring sparkling cider to occasions and he makes sure I get a wine glass with my non-alcoholic drink in it so that I can join in toasts and clink my glass, too. ☺️ We never have any left over because other people want to drink my cider. Drinking alcohol, like eating animal products, is a powerful element to interacting with others. To not engage in either is really to stand on your own. My Sea-Goat isn't quite on my level regarding animal-based products (he is a pescetarian), but since he knows exactly where I am coming from, and he supports my decision 100% , he is able to chime in and give input when people question me so that I don't feel alone. The same with drinking. He will declare that I don't drink like it's not a big deal and he makes sure I have my special drink and, if we go someplace where there is an open bar, he will order for me - asking for non-alcoholic versions of things.
Had I not communicated how much it bothered me to be left out, I am sure it would have grown to be a problem. So my advice is - talk about your feelings (if it's not you, then the person should talk about his or her feelings.) The Better Half will do what they can to make you feel loved because one who loves you never wants you to feel abandoned or left out.
Haha, I have never quite felt "left out" before as an adult than that moment when everyone was pouring each other a drink and I had nothing. The twist? My Sea-Goat's family owns a brewery!
was a delight to hear your story 🙂 thanks so much for that answer. hope everything keeps going well with you and your Sea-Goat 😛
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Thank you! And many positive reverberations to you and your life. ??❤?
I don't drink. I have probably drank 8-9 times in my entire life. I may have a few drinks every 3-4 years.
I have never had issues with a significant other that drinks (not alcoholic), and no issues have ever risen from my lack of partaking in libation.
This is a respect issue. Ive been in this before and zero issue, as long as both parties respect each others choices.
It's rare that I drink, and when I do it's usually 1 glass of wine at most. I don't think I've ever been involved with someone who drank as little as I do, and I've never been involved with an alcoholic either. It's never been a problem.
damn woman! where is my beer!
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damn woman! where is my beer!
Oh hush now. You have had enough.
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I am just curious to know, would a couple in which one drinks and one doesn't, encounter any problems during the coarse of their relationship?
does anyone happen to have any experiences of being in this kind of relationship? if so, how did it turn out?