Posted by halalbaeIt doesn't matter now. It's in the past. I just felt put down or something and felt it was mean, but I guess it was a neutral response after all.Posted by whatisthisallaboutyeah he would probably think its an attempt to stay in contact with himPosted by halalbaeCould be the frequecy, could be the topic, or both. I have no idea. I did not ask him. I didn't think it's worth it to even ask for clarifications when someone asked me to stop texthing him.Posted by whatisthisallaboutwhat level of communication is this person talking about?
"There is no other way to say this: Please stop texting me. I cannot maintain this level of commnication. Take care of yourself dot dot dot"
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Posted by RozaeonWell, thanks. I think it is very clear that he asked me not to contact him.Posted by whatisthisallaboutOk ^^Posted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Based on what you're telling me, i don't think that's mean either, it's quite clear and polite.
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Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
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Posted by tizianiI think that's why I thought it was mean because I only say "please stop texting me" in the middle of a fight. If I am not interested, I usually just ghost people or I'd say "I met someone else. Good luck to you." or "There's someone else I am interested in and I want to see how it goes with this person first. Good luck." or "This is not working out. Good luck." I don't think I have ever ever ever ask people not to text me when it is not during a fight. I don't know.Posted by whatisthisallaboutThat sounds self involved. Think about how the other person must have felt to have to send that text and it'd be easier to move past it, I'm guessing.Posted by KoniuchaaThanks! At the moment I thought it was mean so it bothered me. I guess it was because he asked me not to do something and I don't like it when people tell me what I can do or what I cannot do. But I guess people don't feel that way when they read it. I think it'd be much better if it was "this is not working for me. good luck".Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps. Anyways it wasn't mean. Quite nice actually, which I believe a few people had statedPosted by KoniuchaaI know. What is interesting on here, though, is that I was Not asking a *why* question (e.g. why did he say this?), but a yes/no question (Is it mean?), but many people's replies are about why I got the message instead of whether the message was mean. Don't you think it is very irontic that people try to say it is ridiculous that I didn't get the message (which I did, so I am Not asking what it means) while they are the ones who did not even get what I was asking on here in the first place?Posted by whatisthisallaboutI think people doing things differently should be a given. In every aspect of lifePosted by PalerioHmmm, ok. I guess people do things differently. I personally just block people when I am done. I just think it is redundant to have to say it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou wouldn't have gotten the message "I don't ever want to hear from you again" had he not plainly texted you so.Posted by PalerioWell, that is not logical at all. Cuz the last thing I texted him was the day before to just say good night and I did Not text him ANYTHING the next day, but then in the afternoon I got that text. I do not see why he has to text me back AT ALL after 14 hours. If it were you, then why would you even feel the need to text someone back the next afternoon who had ALREADY stopped texting you 14 hours ago just to tell the person to stop texting you? I think it is totally not logical. So why would you choose to text the person back At All instead of just keeping your silence? Wouldn't it be EASIER that way? (I mean, after 14 hours of silence, the other person should aready be expecting to not get a response anyways. Why bogther?)Posted by whatisthisallabout'cause you begged him for a sound rejection. He gave it to you hence.Posted by PalerioIf so, why doesn't he just ghost me? I think I agree with some of the people on here who said they'd rather be ghosted 😄Posted by whatisthisallaboutHe thinks you're a psycho.
"There is no other way to say this: Please stop texting me. I cannot maintain this level of commnication. Take care of yourself dot dot dot"
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutSorry, girlfriend, he's not a Taurean (John); they are sooooooooooooooo sweet, I'm sure when that day comes that he doesn't want anything to do w/me he'll just IGNORE my texts/calls, etc.Posted by EvatheDivaIt is not about what he wants me to do, but the langague. I think it is more pollite to say "This is not working for me. Good luck." if he really felt he had to say something. I thought it was mean and unncessary for him to text me back after 14 hours to just tell me to stop texting when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. Anyways, I thought he was being mean to text that to me.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIt's like asking, "Does it REALLY mean what I read on my Mickey D's coffee cup?" CAUTION -- HOT!Posted by justagirlI was not asking what the meaning of the message is.
Stop texting him.
Wtf how can that not be clear to you?
Lmao
I was asking if it sounds mean. Do you think it is mean? 😄
DUH!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
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Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
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Posted by tizianiI see. Thanks for the insight.Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou've said you don't get these kind of text messages often if at all. It's not your problem imo. He's literally telling you what he cannot do.Posted by tizianiI think that's why I thought it was mean because I only say "please stop texting me" in the middle of a fight. If I am not interested, I usually just ghost people or I'd say "I met someone else. Good luck to you." or "There's someone else I am interested in and I want to see how it goes with this person first. Good luck." or "This is not working out. Good luck." I don't think I have ever ever ever ask people not to text me when it is not during a fight. I don't know.Posted by whatisthisallaboutThat sounds self involved. Think about how the other person must have felt to have to send that text and it'd be easier to move past it, I'm guessing.Posted by KoniuchaaThanks! At the moment I thought it was mean so it bothered me. I guess it was because he asked me not to do something and I don't like it when people tell me what I can do or what I cannot do. But I guess people don't feel that way when they read it. I think it'd be much better if it was "this is not working for me. good luck".Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps. Anyways it wasn't mean. Quite nice actually, which I believe a few people had statedPosted by KoniuchaaI know. What is interesting on here, though, is that I was Not asking a *why* question (e.g. why did he say this?), but a yes/no question (Is it mean?), but many people's replies are about why I got the message instead of whether the message was mean. Don't you think it is very irontic that people try to say it is ridiculous that I didn't get the message (which I did, so I am Not asking what it means) while they are the ones who did not even get what I was asking on here in the first place?Posted by whatisthisallaboutI think people doing things differently should be a given. In every aspect of lifePosted by PalerioHmmm, ok. I guess people do things differently. I personally just block people when I am done. I just think it is redundant to have to say it.Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou wouldn't have gotten the message "I don't ever want to hear from you again" had he not plainly texted you so.Posted by PalerioWell, that is not logical at all. Cuz the last thing I texted him was the day before to just say good night and I did Not text him ANYTHING the next day, but then in the afternoon I got that text. I do not see why he has to text me back AT ALL after 14 hours. If it were you, then why would you even feel the need to text someone back the next afternoon who had ALREADY stopped texting you 14 hours ago just to tell the person to stop texting you? I think it is totally not logical. So why would you choose to text the person back At All instead of just keeping your silence? Wouldn't it be EASIER that way? (I mean, after 14 hours of silence, the other person should aready be expecting to not get a response anyways. Why bogther?)Posted by whatisthisallabout'cause you begged him for a sound rejection. He gave it to you hence.Posted by PalerioIf so, why doesn't he just ghost me? I think I agree with some of the people on here who said they'd rather be ghosted 😄Posted by whatisthisallaboutHe thinks you're a psycho.
"There is no other way to say this: Please stop texting me. I cannot maintain this level of commnication. Take care of yourself dot dot dot"
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Posted by EvatheDivaMaybe I should find myself a Taurus 😆Posted by whatisthisallaboutSorry, girlfriend, he's not a Taurean (John); they are sooooooooooooooo sweet, I'm sure when that day comes that he doesn't want anything to do w/me he'll just IGNORE my texts/calls, etc.Posted by EvatheDivaIt is not about what he wants me to do, but the langague. I think it is more pollite to say "This is not working for me. Good luck." if he really felt he had to say something. I thought it was mean and unncessary for him to text me back after 14 hours to just tell me to stop texting when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. Anyways, I thought he was being mean to text that to me.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIt's like asking, "Does it REALLY mean what I read on my Mickey D's coffee cup?" CAUTION -- HOT!Posted by justagirlI was not asking what the meaning of the message is.
Stop texting him.
Wtf how can that not be clear to you?
Lmao
I was asking if it sounds mean. Do you think it is mean? 😄
DUH!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
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Love,
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Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutPros and Cons....can you stand for a Taurean man to "ignore you?". Not. You're sensitive to his text to ask yourself if it sounded "mean". Leave the Piscean, Saggy, and Scorpio women to deal with "Taurean" men 😉Posted by EvatheDivaMaybe I should find myself a Taurus 😆Posted by whatisthisallaboutSorry, girlfriend, he's not a Taurean (John); they are sooooooooooooooo sweet, I'm sure when that day comes that he doesn't want anything to do w/me he'll just IGNORE my texts/calls, etc.Posted by EvatheDivaIt is not about what he wants me to do, but the langague. I think it is more pollite to say "This is not working for me. Good luck." if he really felt he had to say something. I thought it was mean and unncessary for him to text me back after 14 hours to just tell me to stop texting when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. Anyways, I thought he was being mean to text that to me.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIt's like asking, "Does it REALLY mean what I read on my Mickey D's coffee cup?" CAUTION -- HOT!Posted by justagirlI was not asking what the meaning of the message is.
Stop texting him.
Wtf how can that not be clear to you?
Lmao
I was asking if it sounds mean. Do you think it is mean? 😄
DUH!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
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Posted by EvatheDivaI actually had 2 Taurus bfs in the past. I think the communication was good based on my standards. I mean, they were home buddies and liked routines. I almost always got a call at around the same time in the evening from them when we were together.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPros and Cons....can you stand for a Taurean man to "ignore you?". Not. You're sensitive to his text to ask yourself if it sounded "mean". Leave the Piscean, Saggy, and Scorpio women to deal with "Taurean" men 😉Posted by EvatheDivaMaybe I should find myself a Taurus 😆Posted by whatisthisallaboutSorry, girlfriend, he's not a Taurean (John); they are sooooooooooooooo sweet, I'm sure when that day comes that he doesn't want anything to do w/me he'll just IGNORE my texts/calls, etc.Posted by EvatheDivaIt is not about what he wants me to do, but the langague. I think it is more pollite to say "This is not working for me. Good luck." if he really felt he had to say something. I thought it was mean and unncessary for him to text me back after 14 hours to just tell me to stop texting when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. Anyways, I thought he was being mean to text that to me.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIt's like asking, "Does it REALLY mean what I read on my Mickey D's coffee cup?" CAUTION -- HOT!Posted by justagirlI was not asking what the meaning of the message is.
Stop texting him.
Wtf how can that not be clear to you?
Lmao
I was asking if it sounds mean. Do you think it is mean? 😄
DUH!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutHow did they break up w/you? Did they text as the guy did? Or did they speak to you face-to-face? Did y'all hold one another cry, and walk out the door? Did you remain friends? Did one or the other cheat?Posted by EvatheDivaI actually had 2 Taurus bfs in the past. I think the communication was good based on my standards. I mean, they were home buddies and liked routines. I almost always got a call at around the same time in the evening from them when we were together.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPros and Cons....can you stand for a Taurean man to "ignore you?". Not. You're sensitive to his text to ask yourself if it sounded "mean". Leave the Piscean, Saggy, and Scorpio women to deal with "Taurean" men 😉Posted by EvatheDivaMaybe I should find myself a Taurus 😆Posted by whatisthisallaboutSorry, girlfriend, he's not a Taurean (John); they are sooooooooooooooo sweet, I'm sure when that day comes that he doesn't want anything to do w/me he'll just IGNORE my texts/calls, etc.Posted by EvatheDivaIt is not about what he wants me to do, but the langague. I think it is more pollite to say "This is not working for me. Good luck." if he really felt he had to say something. I thought it was mean and unncessary for him to text me back after 14 hours to just tell me to stop texting when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. Anyways, I thought he was being mean to text that to me.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIt's like asking, "Does it REALLY mean what I read on my Mickey D's coffee cup?" CAUTION -- HOT!Posted by justagirlI was not asking what the meaning of the message is.
Stop texting him.
Wtf how can that not be clear to you?
Lmao
I was asking if it sounds mean. Do you think it is mean? 😄
DUH!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
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Posted by EvatheDivaBoth became long distance. I moved away from my 1st Taurus to go to college. I fell in love with a classmate so I had to break up with him. I did tell him about the guy. I guess it was emotional cheating, but I did not have sex with the new person before we broke up. I moved away from my 2nd Taurus because I got a job offer in another state. I felt either we had to get married or we had to break up--I know, not very rational. He did get me a ring, but I knew he was not ready to get married so we ended up breaking up. I returend the ring before I moved away and we never spoke since that day.Posted by whatisthisallaboutHow did they break up w/you? Did they text as the guy did? Or did they speak to you face-to-face? Did y'all hold one another cry, and walk out the door? Did you remain friends? Did one or the other cheat?Posted by EvatheDivaI actually had 2 Taurus bfs in the past. I think the communication was good based on my standards. I mean, they were home buddies and liked routines. I almost always got a call at around the same time in the evening from them when we were together.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPros and Cons....can you stand for a Taurean man to "ignore you?". Not. You're sensitive to his text to ask yourself if it sounded "mean". Leave the Piscean, Saggy, and Scorpio women to deal with "Taurean" men 😉Posted by EvatheDivaMaybe I should find myself a Taurus 😆Posted by whatisthisallaboutSorry, girlfriend, he's not a Taurean (John); they are sooooooooooooooo sweet, I'm sure when that day comes that he doesn't want anything to do w/me he'll just IGNORE my texts/calls, etc.Posted by EvatheDivaIt is not about what he wants me to do, but the langague. I think it is more pollite to say "This is not working for me. Good luck." if he really felt he had to say something. I thought it was mean and unncessary for him to text me back after 14 hours to just tell me to stop texting when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. Anyways, I thought he was being mean to text that to me.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIt's like asking, "Does it REALLY mean what I read on my Mickey D's coffee cup?" CAUTION -- HOT!Posted by justagirlI was not asking what the meaning of the message is.
Stop texting him.
Wtf how can that not be clear to you?
Lmao
I was asking if it sounds mean. Do you think it is mean? 😄
DUH!
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
Eva
🤗 cyber hugs!
Love,
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Posted by DistilledThis is very good advice. I felt stupid to pour my heart out indeed lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutI'm sorry you're hurt. I didn't read the whole thread. Thank you for sharing.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
It sounds like you barely know this guy- nor he you. I'll assume that it probably didn't even reach a physical level.
True Rapport cannot be forced.
I'll give you the next piece of advice because you genuinely seem to want to find something- regardless of what you did or didn't do- please know your own self as a person before you get into a relationship or even think about it.
World can be harsh and imagine how you'd feel if this dude just didn't answer.
Thank your lucky stars that he felt some humanity towards you.
Take it as a lesson if need be- when you text someone goodnight, leave it at that.
If someone not asking you where you are- don't give a play by play because you think they want it.
Stop assuming shit. We've all been there, including me.
Let it go in order to open up for next time.
There will be a next time. And it's hard- but imagine just being yourself!
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Posted by PalerioI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.
@whatisthisallabout
You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.
You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.
Posted by EvatheDivaSo sweet of you to have "returned" the ring (contemplation of marriage); most women won't...that's where Judge Judy comes into play.
Both became long distance. I moved away from my 1st Taurus to go to college. I fell in love with a classmate so I had to break up with him. I did tell him about the guy. I guess it was emotional cheating, but I did not have sex with the new person before we broke up. I moved away from my 2nd Taurus because I got a job offer in another state. I felt either we had to get married or we had to break up--I know, not very rational. He did get me a ring, but I knew he was not ready to get married so we ended up breaking up. I returend the ring before I moved away and we never spoke since that day.
Posted by DistilledThank you! 🙂Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf you weren't wanted at all he wouldn't have tried.Posted by DistilledThis is very good advice. I felt stupid to pour my heart out indeed lolPosted by whatisthisallaboutI'm sorry you're hurt. I didn't read the whole thread. Thank you for sharing.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
It sounds like you barely know this guy- nor he you. I'll assume that it probably didn't even reach a physical level.
True Rapport cannot be forced.
I'll give you the next piece of advice because you genuinely seem to want to find something- regardless of what you did or didn't do- please know your own self as a person before you get into a relationship or even think about it.
World can be harsh and imagine how you'd feel if this dude just didn't answer.
Thank your lucky stars that he felt some humanity towards you.
Take it as a lesson if need be- when you text someone goodnight, leave it at that.
If someone not asking you where you are- don't give a play by play because you think they want it.
Stop assuming shit. We've all been there, including me.
Let it go in order to open up for next time.
There will be a next time. And it's hard- but imagine just being yourself!
🙂
I guess if someone is really interested, he'd be the one asking this type of things and I didn't have to volunteer the information. It worked in my favor in the past when the guy felt the same, but I guess this time it turned out to be an epic fall because it's not reciprocated.
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You have value- find it. We all make mistakes, please don't be so hard on yourself!
You're not alone.
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Posted by EvatheDivaI think this is the phase where you talk to your Taurean. We've spoken. He told me what he wants and vice versa. We have similarities and when he came over to see me on Saturday (no sex) I ACTUALLY got "dizzy" (we were kissing). I told him so. He asked, "Why" "I don't know, I just feel dizzy" 😉
Haha. Well, I am just way too serious when it comes to the matter of heart. Based on my experience, I feel Taurus are also serious people, so they can understand when I tell them I want and need things to be super stable. I think my bf at the time understood why I wanted to get married. Even though he was not ready, he was able to relate and did not think I was crazy LOL
Posted by whatisthisallaboutAs of now, what you're visualising it's just the tip of the iceberg. Try to focus more on what happened before your last 2 texts.Posted by PalerioI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.
@whatisthisallabout
You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.
You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.
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Posted by whatisthisallaboutHow many unanswered texts went by, how many polite, I'm busy's, did you receieve.Posted by PalerioI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.
@whatisthisallabout
You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.
You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.
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Posted by PalerioI think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day. Before the last 2 texts, I think I texted him similar stuff, things I was doing, pictures, videos, etc., and asked him to send me his picture and things he liked. I am not asking why here because it is very clear he's just not interested. I totally understand that sometimes feelings are just not reciprocated and I can understand it can be annoying to get these texts when you are not into the girl. I get that. Therefore, I was only upset because I thought the last text from him was mean.Posted by whatisthisallaboutAs of now, what you're visualising it's just the tip of the iceberg. Try to focus more on what happened before your last 2 texts.Posted by PalerioI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.
@whatisthisallabout
You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.
You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.
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Posted by justagirlHe never texted me he was busy. He was still responding to my text during the day--the day before I got the "please stop texting me". I think you are making assumptions here.Posted by whatisthisallaboutHow many unanswered texts went by, how many polite, I'm busy's, did you receieve.Posted by PalerioI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.
@whatisthisallabout
You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.
You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.
No I don't need answers. I said that as a point. This guy reached his end because you didnt listen to him trying to tell you to stop blowing up his phone. Lol
You tend to make threads like this about guys and texting and not understanding what the meaning or intent was behind them. You have a pattern, The Gemini, the Pisces etc. this issue is not them. It's you.
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Posted by tizianiAre you saying you don't want to hear from the girl you are interested in? That's bizzare.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by PalerioI think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.Posted by whatisthisallaboutAs of now, what you're visualising it's just the tip of the iceberg. Try to focus more on what happened before your last 2 texts.Posted by PalerioI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.
@whatisthisallabout
You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.
You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.
That's not true for me, but those are your values.
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Posted by tizianiI see. Yes, he and I probably don't share the same values. That's why when I got the message I thought it was mean but he probably just said it as is.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI wasn't trying to open it up to a question of whether he's interested or not but just pointing out that you're assuming he shares your values and you might be able to move past it if you just broke free of that.Posted by tizianiAre you saying you don't want to hear from the girl you are interested in? That's bizzare.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by PalerioI think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.Posted by whatisthisallaboutAs of now, what you're visualising it's just the tip of the iceberg. Try to focus more on what happened before your last 2 texts.Posted by PalerioI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.
@whatisthisallabout
You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.
You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.
That's not true for me, but those are your values.
I think he's just not interested.click to expand
Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.click to expand
Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.click to expand
Posted by NevermoreI do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.
But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.click to expand
were you making an assumption that he was interested ?
I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.
Posted by NevermoreAnd guess what? Many people text all day long just like many people post on here all day long. It is annoying that you talk as if you are better than others. Are you, really?Posted by whatisthisallaboutI gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.
But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.click to expand
Posted by tctaI was not sure so that's why I tried to make small talks and tell him what I think. Are you asking a real question or are you being a retard too?were you making an assumption that he was interested ?
I do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.
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Posted by NevermoreYou said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).Posted by NevermoreI do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.
But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.click to expand
Posted by NevermoreSee? That's what I was talking about. You talk as if you are better than others. I don't see you being any better than DJ or the other exmaples. I don't see why you have the need to compare youself to them.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf that's so, then I'll be arrogant jerk on this website and I'll be like DJ, Terramine and other douchebags. But nah, I'm direct and straightforward of what I observed and noticed something of what you can't see (or pretending to be in denial).Posted by NevermoreAnd guess what? Many people text all day long just like many people post on here all day long. It is annoying that you talk as if you are better than others. Are you, really?Posted by whatisthisallaboutI gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.
But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.click to expand
Posted by NevermoreI don't see it as an *error*. It is YOUR judgment and I don't need that.Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou felt judged of the word "error" because you assumed that I'm making fun of you, is that correct? It's never about to make fun of you of your lacks. It's about to make for yourself better to be clear of those kind of message. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time of that guy to figures out or keep it continuously on.Posted by NevermoreYou said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).Posted by NevermoreI do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.
But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.click to expand
Posted by NemDeuxThank you! I appreciate that you read and answered my question 🙂
message is on point; and imo not mean. feels like he wanted to be very clear; nothing else.
Posted by NevermoreWhether something is an *error* is a judgement. Whether you are better than DJ or not is a judgement. When you compare youself to others, it is a judgement.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIn other words, you're only reading with the tone of the voice aka the emotional reading, hence you assumed me as "being better than others" part instead reading in the rational way. Is that correct?Posted by NevermoreI don't see it as an *error*. It is YOUR judgment and I don't need that.Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou felt judged of the word "error" because you assumed that I'm making fun of you, is that correct? It's never about to make fun of you of your lacks. It's about to make for yourself better to be clear of those kind of message. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time of that guy to figures out or keep it continuously on.Posted by NevermoreYou said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).Posted by NevermoreI do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.
But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.
I knew the mesaage that I got *means* to get lost. I was just wondering about the TONE of the voice. I do not see a need to make myself *better* based on your standard. Is there anything in my op asking about how to improve myself? No. I was just asking a straightfoward question to find out if I got a mean-sprited message.
You didn't like the tone of mine and suddenly felt judgement because after I pointed out.click to expand
Posted by NevermoreYou compare yourself to DJ and said you are better than him 😄Posted by whatisthisallaboutIn other words, you're only reading with the tone of the voice aka the emotional reading, hence you assumed me as "being better than others" part instead reading in the rational way. Is that correct?Posted by NevermoreI don't see it as an *error*. It is YOUR judgment and I don't need that.Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou felt judged of the word "error" because you assumed that I'm making fun of you, is that correct? It's never about to make fun of you of your lacks. It's about to make for yourself better to be clear of those kind of message. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time of that guy to figures out or keep it continuously on.Posted by NevermoreYou said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).Posted by NevermoreI do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.
But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.
I knew the mesaage that I got *means* to get lost. I was just wondering about the TONE of the voice. I do not see a need to make myself *better* based on your standard. Is there anything in my op asking about how to improve myself? No. I was just asking a straightfoward question to find out if I got a mean-sprited message.
You didn't like the tone of mine and suddenly felt judgement because after I pointed out.click to expand
Posted by whatisthisallabout
"There is no other way to say this: Please stop texting me. I cannot maintain this
Posted by NevermoreWhen you consider something an error, it is your judgement. I am done talking to you because I think it is just as good as talking to a wall. Read your own post that you mentioend DJ.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhere do I say that I'm better than him? Where do I say I'm better than anyone else? Why would you think that error is a judgement even though it's not?Posted by NevermoreYou compare yourself to DJ and said you are better than him 😄Posted by whatisthisallaboutIn other words, you're only reading with the tone of the voice aka the emotional reading, hence you assumed me as "being better than others" part instead reading in the rational way. Is that correct?Posted by NevermoreI don't see it as an *error*. It is YOUR judgment and I don't need that.Posted by whatisthisallaboutYou felt judged of the word "error" because you assumed that I'm making fun of you, is that correct? It's never about to make fun of you of your lacks. It's about to make for yourself better to be clear of those kind of message. Otherwise, you'll be wasting your time of that guy to figures out or keep it continuously on.Posted by NevermoreYou said "Now you realized of your error part". Wtf is that? I consider the word erorr judgemental. I don't think I did anything wrong. I just felt I got a mean text message and I wanted to know if it sounded mean to others. There are guys out there who like girls being direct and speaking of their mind. I am NOT gonna change myself to impress a guy.Posted by whatisthisallaboutIf I was assuming of you, I would've pointed out in very judgmental way (like, I was wondering if this is a troll thread with those naive playing going on). But instead I asked after observing all of your respond of something you're lacking with (like that you have difficulties to understand the communications). In which that angers your part and felt judgmental because that's what you are assuming (while I'm not).Posted by NevermoreI do not understand why there are so many judgemetal people on here. I asked a question on here because I was not sure if it'd sound mean to other people and I wanted to understand. I do not appreciate you make all kinds of assumptions of me. peace.Posted by whatisthisallaboutI gave you the advice to make you realized for your error part to make it better. Unless all of this is validations in which that's why you posted of this?Posted by NevermoreWhy do you think I posted the message on here?Posted by whatisthisallaboutPerhaps it's about time to learn those two of someone else languages to be clear for yourself a lot better.Posted by NevermoreSome people, yes.Posted by whatisthisallaboutDo you have a trouble or struggle to understanding of someones communications & values?Posted by KoniuchaaWell, that's why I posted the message on here so people can tell me if he was mean, and I am glad to find out that it was not the case.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWell, you certainly can't expect that everyone will respond to you in the way that you think is correct. That is unreasonable. Now if he was being a jerk and abusive with his language, then that is something to be concerned with.Posted by DistilledI texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.Posted by whatisthisallaboutWhat did you say?Posted by DistilledWell, the main point was not why.Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by RozaeonI got the text message 14 hours later, after the last message I sent him. Therefore, I thought he was just being mean to have to ask me to stop texting him when I already stopped texting him 14 hours ago. I felt he could've just continuted his silence. Anyways, I am glad to learn that most people don't think it is mean so I don't need to continue thinking he was being mean spirited.
I don't understand the purpose of this thread
Maybe he woke up 14 hours later and read all the texts.
Who cares why. He wants them to stop.
He's not telling you what to do- he's telling you what not to do. Meaning the ship has sailed. There literally is nothing you can do.
I just thought it was a mean message to tell me what not to do. I have never got a message like that. I thought normally people'd just say "This is not working out. Best luck to you" or something along the lines.
I don't think I said anything offensive that deserves a "please stop texting me"... anyhow, I realized that most people don't think "please stop texting me" is mean.
But this guy was pretty polite and seems you are having an issue because he didn't do it the way you want.
But serious note, putting here doesn't do anything. Now you realized of your error part to work on yourself atleast to learn the boundaries and communications.
I knew the mesaage that I got *means* to get lost. I was just wondering about the TONE of the voice. I do not see a need to make myself *better* based on your standard. Is there anything in my op asking about how to improve myself? No. I was just asking a straightfoward question to find out if I got a mean-sprited message.
You didn't like the tone of mine and suddenly felt judgement because after I pointed out.
Clearly you're reading to deep of my part and perhaps I do understand why that guy you're talking to doesn't want to talk to you anymore
.
In which now things shines from you of your miscommunication.click to expand
Posted by PhoenixRisingThat is good to know. I am glad I didn't say anything mean back.Posted by whatisthisallabout
"There is no other way to say this: Please stop texting me. I cannot maintain this
Mean? Well, he/she did say "please"..... It's direct and to the point. I wouldn't say its mean.click to expand
Posted by PhoenixRisingExactly. I do not understand why people blew such a simple question out of portion on here 😕
Oh Jesus, lol. 15 pages deep for a simply question? This thread clearly went left...
Posted by tiziani
The take care of yourself is unnecessary but the rest is ok.
Posted by whatisthisallaboutPosted by justagirlDo you think in this context, "take care of yourself" really means "take care of yourself", or it actually means "mind your own business"— 😕Posted by jeaneAnd a Take care of yourself.
i don't think it is mean. i mean, it even had a "please" in it.click to expand
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