Do you think this text message is mean? (Page 4)

Posted by tiziani

Posted by whatisthisallabout
Why there are so many people who cannot read but pass on judgement?

It's like when you ask someone "Is the chair red?", and people are like "Oh, you need to get a hair cut." "Oh, you need to wear a different dress." "Your hair is purple." "You need to begin to work out." "I am better than this so and so on here."

What is up with people?

😕

You're solid, no worries, don't get sidetracked.

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I try 😄

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Posted by Palerio
@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.

I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.

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Hmmmm, yeah it did. You seem to feel the need to text anything that pops into your head. That is annoying. If you have a good banter going with a SO, that's different than getting to know someone. Ease up on the endless texting of...well quite frankly irrelevant bs. Why did he need to know that you were going to the library and the pic to prove it? He didn't reply. Then you continue to text him about your thoughts about how things are going...So basically you were blowing up the man's phone and having a one sided conversation....if he hadn't sent you the text asking you to stop it's because he thought you would have kept going based on the fact that you kept texting him even when he wasn't replying. I'm not sure how you can't see that.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by whatisthisallabout

Posted by Palerio
@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.

I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.

Hmmmm, yeah it did. You seem to feel the need to text anything that pops into your head. That is annoying. If you have a good banter going with a SO, that's different than getting to know someone. Ease up on the endless texting of...well quite frankly irrelevant bs. Why did he need to know that you were going to the library and the pic to prove it? He didn't reply. Then you continue to text him about your thoughts about how things are going...So basically you were blowing up the man's phone and having a one sided conversation....if he hadn't sent you the text asking you to stop it's because he thought you would have kept going based on the fact that you kept texting him even when he wasn't replying. I'm not sure how you can't see that.

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I did not text him anything after the goodnight text. I didn't text anything the next day. I don't think I deserve a stop texting me unless I was still texting him, which I was not.

Posted by whatisthisallabout
I think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.

OMG, who told you this? Wut?

Posted by whatisthisallabout
Before the last 2 texts, I think I texted him similar stuff, things I was doing, pictures, videos, etc., and asked him to send me his picture and things he liked. I am not asking why here because it is very clear he's just not interested. I totally understand that sometimes feelings are just not reciprocated and I can understand it can be annoying to get these texts when you are not into the girl. I get that. Therefore, I was only upset because I thought the last text from him was mean.

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Actually, it can be annoying full stop. Whether you're into the person or not.

Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by whatisthisallabout
I think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.

OMG, who told you this? Wut?

Posted by whatisthisallabout
Before the last 2 texts, I think I texted him similar stuff, things I was doing, pictures, videos, etc., and asked him to send me his picture and things he liked. I am not asking why here because it is very clear he's just not interested. I totally understand that sometimes feelings are just not reciprocated and I can understand it can be annoying to get these texts when you are not into the girl. I get that. Therefore, I was only upset because I thought the last text from him was mean.

Actually, it can be annoying full stop. Whether you're into the person or not.

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You are wrong if you date a gemini. My gem ex wanted to hear from me every hour.

My gem ex thought I was kidnapped when I did not text him for like 3 hours.

I don't know about you people, but based on my own dating experience, Gemini, Leo, and Sag texted all day when we were dating. Some guys may not like to text, but others do. Is it really that surprising?

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Posted by Palerio
@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.

I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.

Hmmmm, yeah it did. You seem to feel the need to text anything that pops into your head. That is annoying. If you have a good banter going with a SO, that's different than getting to know someone. Ease up on the endless texting of...well quite frankly irrelevant bs. Why did he need to know that you were going to the library and the pic to prove it? He didn't reply. Then you continue to text him about your thoughts about how things are going...So basically you were blowing up the man's phone and having a one sided conversation....if he hadn't sent you the text asking you to stop it's because he thought you would have kept going based on the fact that you kept texting him even when he wasn't replying. I'm not sure how you can't see that.

I did not text him anything after the goodnight text. I didn't text anything the next day. I don't think I deserve a stop texting me unless I was still texting him, which I was not.

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Okay, fair enough. You don't feel you "deserve" a stop texting me reply. It doesn't change the fact that you did get one. From what I am reading in this thread, it sounds like you are the common denominator though. Meaning, this is your pattern to address. So you can stay stuck on what you think you deserve or don't deserve or you can move past that point and figure out what you can stop doing to get text messages like that. Perhaps choose men that enjoy endless text about nothing, maybe stop sending texts about nothing, maybe start a blog where you can post pics and your thoughts about your day. There are a lot of choices to choose from...making a thread about what you deserve and don't isn't the best one though.

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Posted by Palerio
@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.

I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.

As of now, what you're visualising it's just the tip of the iceberg. Try to focus more on what happened before your last 2 texts.

I think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.

That's not true for me, but those are your values.

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Right? *like*

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Posted by Palerio
@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.

I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.

Hmmmm, yeah it did. You seem to feel the need to text anything that pops into your head. That is annoying. If you have a good banter going with a SO, that's different than getting to know someone. Ease up on the endless texting of...well quite frankly irrelevant bs. Why did he need to know that you were going to the library and the pic to prove it? He didn't reply. Then you continue to text him about your thoughts about how things are going...So basically you were blowing up the man's phone and having a one sided conversation....if he hadn't sent you the text asking you to stop it's because he thought you would have kept going based on the fact that you kept texting him even when he wasn't replying. I'm not sure how you can't see that.

I did not text him anything after the goodnight text. I didn't text anything the next day. I don't think I deserve a stop texting me unless I was still texting him, which I was not.

Okay, fair enough. You don't feel you "deserve" a stop texting me reply. It doesn't change the fact that you did get one. From what I am reading in this thread, it sounds like you are the common denominator though. Meaning, this is your pattern to address. So you can stay stuck on what you think you deserve or don't deserve or you can move past that point and figure out what you can stop doing to get text messages like that. Perhaps choose men that enjoy endless text about nothing, maybe stop sending texts about nothing, maybe start a blog where you can post pics and your thoughts about your day. There are a lot of choices to choose from...making a thread about what you deserve and don't isn't the best one though.

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I think I already addressed that. Some guys like it, some don't. So this thread was not about *why* I got this message, it was about it if was *mean*. I didn't think I deserve to get a mean text message, but if it was just a direct message, then it is fine.

I don't understand why people keep going into circles.

If a guy doesn't like to hear from me, he is not into me. That's my experience. If your guy is into you, but doens't like to hear from you--I don't know what kind of relationship is that.

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Posted by whatisthisallabout
I don't know about you people, but based on my own dating experience, Gemini, Leo, and Sag texted all day when we were dating. Some guys may not like to text, but others do. Is it really that surprising?

Maybe you should start a movement cuz needy bytches don't get it

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Who are you? Go suck your scorpio's dick.

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Posted by PhoenixRising
Oh Jesus, lol. 15 pages deep for a simply question? This thread clearly went left...

Exactly. I do not understand why people blew such a simple question out of portion on here 😕

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Now that I am actually on page 15 😆, it appears some were trying to simply help you break this loop you seem to be in. I haven't read your other threads, so I'm not sure if its based on other relationship issues you've had, but that is what I took from some of the comments.

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Posted by PhoenixRising
Oh Jesus, lol. 15 pages deep for a simply question? This thread clearly went left...

Exactly. I do not understand why people blew such a simple question out of portion on here 😕

Now that I am actually on page 15 😆, it appears some were trying to simply help you break this loop you seem to be in. I haven't read your other threads, so I'm not sure if its based on other relationship issues you've had, but that is what I took from some of the comments.

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Obviously, people just cannot resist providing unsolicited advice.

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Posted by whatisthisallabout
I don't know about you people, but based on my own dating experience, Gemini, Leo, and Sag texted all day when we were dating. Some guys may not like to text, but others do. Is it really that surprising?

Maybe you should start a movement cuz needy bytches don't get it

Who are you? Go suck your scorpio's dick.

I was giving you props you emotional retard

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Said a Cancer 😆

Posted by tiziani

Posted by whatisthisallabout
If a guy doesn't like to hear from me, he is not into me. That's my experience. If your guy is into you, but doens't like to hear from you--I don't know what kind of relationship is that.

There's no relation there for me between the two. You're seeing a link between being into someone and wanting to hear from them that just isn't there for me, based on my experience.

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Yea, that's something I do not get. Maybe it is a Libra thing to not wanting to hear from someone you like.

Also, even if just trying to get to know people, just look at how many guys whine about sending out 50 texts a day only got 1 reply.

My leo ex and gem ex alway gave me crap if they didn't hear from me.

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Posted by Palerio
@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.

I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.

Hmmmm, yeah it did. You seem to feel the need to text anything that pops into your head. That is annoying. If you have a good banter going with a SO, that's different than getting to know someone. Ease up on the endless texting of...well quite frankly irrelevant bs. Why did he need to know that you were going to the library and the pic to prove it? He didn't reply. Then you continue to text him about your thoughts about how things are going...So basically you were blowing up the man's phone and having a one sided conversation....if he hadn't sent you the text asking you to stop it's because he thought you would have kept going based on the fact that you kept texting him even when he wasn't replying. I'm not sure how you can't see that.

I did not text him anything after the goodnight text.

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Understood. However, he didn't know that it would stop given your behaviour up to the last text. You need to look beyond your own perspective....my unsolicited advice.

I get it, you don't care about the why, you just want to know the what (e.g. was it mean).... you already figured it out---or so you think. He just wasn't interested. But here's the thing, it seemed like he was interested initially. You stated he was responding to you...so that suggest interest to me. However, something changed. That is what some folks are trying to help you understand so perhaps you won't keep losing men a long the way.

If there are typos in my post deal with it....

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Posted by whatisthisallabout
I don't understand why people keep going into circles.

Half of it is people probably thought you were asking what the text 'means' not if it 'was mean' if they read the title breezily.

Other half are people that are irked by your personal approach to communication and think they are helping by advising you to be different.

Idk. I thought it was a simple thing.

I had a guy I dated for months send me snaps and chats every single day even though I ignored him for months at a time. He never got on my nerves really. Except when I was stressed about other stuff. But that wasn't ever his fault. I never really thought to tell him to leave me alone cause I didn't really care.

I get anxious on occasion over dating as well, so I understand your sensitivity OP, since I can be overreactive myself. ??‍♀️ I say don't worry about it too much.

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Thanks. I think you are similar to people I know in real life. I get snapchats from my scorpio guy friend every single day as well and I am not annoyed. If I am busy, I just ignore him. I really don't understand why it is such a big deal to people as if there's only 1 approach to texting. People seem to have a hard time not going off on a tangent ??‍♀️

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Posted by PhoenixRising

Posted by whatisthisallabout
I think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.

OMG, who told you this? Wut?

Posted by whatisthisallabout
Before the last 2 texts, I think I texted him similar stuff, things I was doing, pictures, videos, etc., and asked him to send me his picture and things he liked. I am not asking why here because it is very clear he's just not interested. I totally understand that sometimes feelings are just not reciprocated and I can understand it can be annoying to get these texts when you are not into the girl. I get that. Therefore, I was only upset because I thought the last text from him was mean.

Actually, it can be annoying full stop. Whether you're into the person or not.

You are wrong if you date a gemini. My gem ex wanted to hear from me every hour.

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Okay....and you think dating one Gemini mean all men like this approach? That is basically what you're doing here. Applying your experienced with you gem ex to this guy. Didn't apply did it.

Also, my ex Gem would counter that argument.

I don't understand how come this thread has 17 pages. Am I being mean? ?

Posted by whatisthisallabout
I don't understand why people keep going into circles.

It's called catching up. What you wrote on page 1 isn't what was shared on page 15, 16, 17 etc....I apologize if you already addressed things I pointed out/asked about.

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Posted by Palerio
@whatisthisallabout

You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.

I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.

Hmmmm, yeah it did. You seem to feel the need to text anything that pops into your head. That is annoying. If you have a good banter going with a SO, that's different than getting to know someone. Ease up on the endless texting of...well quite frankly irrelevant bs. Why did he need to know that you were going to the library and the pic to prove it? He didn't reply. Then you continue to text him about your thoughts about how things are going...So basically you were blowing up the man's phone and having a one sided conversation....if he hadn't sent you the text asking you to stop it's because he thought you would have kept going based on the fact that you kept texting him even when he wasn't replying. I'm not sure how you can't see that.

I did not text him anything after the goodnight text.

Understood. However, he didn't know that it would stop given your behaviour up to the last text. You need to look beyond your own perspective....my unsolicited advice.

I get it, you don't care about the why, you just want to know the what (e.g. was it mean).... you already figured it out---or so you think. He just wasn't interested. But here's the thing, it seemed like he was interested initially. You stated he was responding to you...so that suggest interest to me. However, something changed. That is what some folks are trying to help you understand so perhaps you won't keep losing men a long the way.

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I don't think it is a good match if a guy gets upset because I text him about my day. I do not understand why I need to change myself to keep some guy interested while there are plenty of other guys who actaully like to text? I think it is flawed thinking. It is manipulation if I act differently to get someone. No, thanks.

I started this thread because I was upset about the text and wanted to know if I overracted.

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Posted by tiziani

Posted by whatisthisallabout
If a guy doesn't like to hear from me, he is not into me. That's my experience. If your guy is into you, but doens't like to hear from you--I don't know what kind of relationship is that.

There's no relation there for me between the two. You're seeing a link between being into someone and wanting to hear from them that just isn't there for me, based on my experience.

Yea, that's something I do not get. Maybe it is a Libra thing to not wanting to hear from someone you like.

Also, even if just trying to get to know people, just look at how many guys whine about sending out 50 texts a day only got 1 reply.

My leo ex and gem ex alway gave me crap if they didn't hear from me.

"not wanting to hear from someone you like"

That's the link you're making but I don't have a better way to explain it.

I've not said I want to or don't want to hear from someone I like. There's just no link between the two.

Some days I have days where I want to talk other days I want us to share time that doesn't involve talking (and definitely not texting). I've learned to play it by ear and it works better for me being with someone who's intuitive about the kind of day we're both having, also.

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That is the point. I don't want to be walking on the egg shells. If I feel like to share something, I share it. Why do I want someone who I can only text him a certain time of the day or at a certain frequency? Why do I want someone who I can only text him a certain things? No thanks.

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Posted by whatisthisallabout
I think the thing is he's just not interested. If you were interested in a girl, you'd feel happy to hear from her, even if she just texted you what happened during her day.

OMG, who told you this? Wut?

Posted by whatisthisallabout
Before the last 2 texts, I think I texted him similar stuff, things I was doing, pictures, videos, etc., and asked him to send me his picture and things he liked. I am not asking why here because it is very clear he's just not interested. I totally understand that sometimes feelings are just not reciprocated and I can understand it can be annoying to get these texts when you are not into the girl. I get that. Therefore, I was only upset because I thought the last text from him was mean.

Actually, it can be annoying full stop. Whether you're into the person or not.

You are wrong if you date a gemini. My gem ex wanted to hear from me every hour.

Okay....and you think dating one Gemini mean all men like this approach? That is basically what you're doing here. Applying your experienced with you gem ex to this guy. Didn't apply did it.

Also, my ex Gem would counter that argument.

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Well, how many Gemini's have you dated? I dated more than 1 just FYI.

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I don't understand how come this thread has 17 pages. Am I being mean? ?

Because people cannot read the question.

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Posted by PhoenixRising
Oh Jesus, lol. 15 pages deep for a simply question? This thread clearly went left...

Exactly. I do not understand why people blew such a simple question out of portion on here 😕

Now that I am actually on page 15 😆, it appears some were trying to simply help you break this loop you seem to be in. I haven't read your other threads, so I'm not sure if its based on other relationship issues you've had, but that is what I took from some of the comments.

Obviously, people just cannot resist providing unsolicited advice.

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Lol. I'm beginning to see a theme here.

Fair enough. I'll bow out now....

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Posted by carrazeda
I don't understand how come this thread has 17 pages. Am I being mean? ?

Because people cannot read the question.

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I don't understand why you asked the question in the first place. And a week after. And why you are still entertaining this thread. Just go out and have a drink with friends. Cry with them if you need to. But leave this thread and move on, you're digging your own hole.

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Posted by carrazeda
I don't understand how come this thread has 17 pages. Am I being mean? ?

Because people cannot read the question.

I don't understand why you asked the question in the first place. And a week after. And why you are still entertaining this thread. Just go out and have a drink with friends. Cry with them if you need to. But leave this thread and move on, you're digging your own hole.

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I started this thread because I thought the message was mean and had been comtemplating if I should say something. I decided to post it on here to see what people have to say instead of texting the guy to tell him he's mean. Simple as that.

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If a guy doesn't like to hear from me, he is not into me. That's my experience. If your guy is into you, but doens't like to hear from you--I don't know what kind of relationship is that.

There's no relation there for me between the two. You're seeing a link between being into someone and wanting to hear from them that just isn't there for me, based on my experience.

Yea, that's something I do not get. Maybe it is a Libra thing to not wanting to hear from someone you like.

Also, even if just trying to get to know people, just look at how many guys whine about sending out 50 texts a day only got 1 reply.

My leo ex and gem ex alway gave me crap if they didn't hear from me.

"not wanting to hear from someone you like"

That's the link you're making but I don't have a better way to explain it.

I've not said I want to or don't want to hear from someone I like. There's just no link between the two.

Some days I have days where I want to talk other days I want us to share time that doesn't involve talking (and definitely not texting). I've learned to play it by ear and it works better for me being with someone who's intuitive about the kind of day we're both having, also.

That is the point. I don't want to be walking on the egg shells. If I feel like to share something, I share it. Why do I want someone who I can only text him a certain time of the day or at a certain frequency? Why do I want someone who I can only text him a certain things? No thanks.

And that makes sense to me, too, but that's a different topic. Walking on eggshells is not the same as finding out common values.

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If you never know if you will get a noraml reponse or a F off from the person you text, you'd feel you are walking on eggshells.

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Posted by whatisthisallabout
If a guy doesn't like to hear from me, he is not into me. That's my experience. If your guy is into you, but doens't like to hear from you--I don't know what kind of relationship is that.

There's no relation there for me between the two. You're seeing a link between being into someone and wanting to hear from them that just isn't there for me, based on my experience.

Yea, that's something I do not get. Maybe it is a Libra thing to not wanting to hear from someone you like.

Also, even if just trying to get to know people, just look at how many guys whine about sending out 50 texts a day only got 1 reply.

My leo ex and gem ex alway gave me crap if they didn't hear from me.

"not wanting to hear from someone you like"

That's the link you're making but I don't have a better way to explain it.

I've not said I want to or don't want to hear from someone I like. There's just no link between the two.

Some days I have days where I want to talk other days I want us to share time that doesn't involve talking (and definitely not texting). I've learned to play it by ear and it works better for me being with someone who's intuitive about the kind of day we're both having, also.

That is the point. I don't want to be walking on the egg shells. If I feel like to share something, I share it. Why do I want someone who I can only text him a certain time of the day or at a certain frequency? Why do I want someone who I can only text him a certain things? No thanks.

And that makes sense to me, too, but that's a different topic. Walking on eggshells is not the same as finding out common values.

If you never know if you will get a noraml reponse or a F off from the person you text, you'd feel you are walking on eggshells.

That's how you feel so fair play, but from what you've shared, to me he sent a direct and normal response. It's not like you can say you were left in the dark about how he feels. Anyway I feel like I'm repeating myself so gonna have to check out, too.

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I don't think we get each other anyways. I did NOT say I was in the dark btw so I am NOT asking the why question.

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You're asking yourself the wrong question. You keep wondering whether or not the text you've received was mean... while what you should ponder about is: how the hell did I manage to annoy a guy to such an extent that he felt compelled to reject me 4 times in a single text to make his point come across.

You know the answer, you can't be that clueless.

I texted him to tell him that I was going to the library to get some work done and sent him a picture of the library. Just some small talks. I didn't get a response. Then, before bed, I texted him good night with some thoughts of how I felt things were going with him and that I understood if he was busy, or he was just not in the mood to talk. I really think everything I said to him did not deserve a "please stop texting me." I really felt if he was not interested, he could just say that he's not in the same place.

Hmmmm, yeah it did. You seem to feel the need to text anything that pops into your head. That is annoying. If you have a good banter going with a SO, that's different than getting to know someone. Ease up on the endless texting of...well quite frankly irrelevant bs. Why did he need to know that you were going to the library and the pic to prove it? He didn't reply. Then you continue to text him about your thoughts about how things are going...So basically you were blowing up the man's phone and having a one sided conversation....if he hadn't sent you the text asking you to stop it's because he thought you would have kept going based on the fact that you kept texting him even when he wasn't replying. I'm not sure how you can't see that.

I did not text him anything after the goodnight text. I didn't text anything the next day. I don't think I deserve a stop texting me unless I was still texting him, which I was not.

Okay, fair enough. You don't feel you "deserve" a stop texting me reply. It doesn't change the fact that you did get one. From what I am reading in this thread, it sounds like you are the common denominator though. Meaning, this is your pattern to address. So you can stay stuck on what you think you deserve or don't deserve or you can move past that point and figure out what you can stop doing to get text messages like that. Perhaps choose men that enjoy endless text about nothing, maybe stop sending texts about nothing, maybe start a blog where you can post pics and your thoughts about your day. There are a lot of choices to choose from...making a thread about what you deserve and don't isn't the best one though.

I think I already addressed that. Some guys like it, some don't. So this thread was not about *why* I got this message, it was about it if was *mean*. I didn't think I deserve to get a mean text message, but if it was just a direct message, then it is fine.

Yeah well we told you that it wasn't mean and then we moved on to other parts of your post

That is also something you cannot control when you post on a public forum

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That is true. I am just amazed by how everyone thinks they know the guy and tries to tell me what I should've done differently to make him happy. I think it is fascinating that everyone reads this thread as "Help, why did this man leave me? How could I have done differently to keep him?"

Projection, maybe?

It is interesting that those who say I over-analyze the situation are also the same ones who over-analyze my thread and my question 😄

Projection. Projection. Projection.

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I don't understand how come this thread has 17 pages. Am I being mean? ?

Because people cannot read the question.

I don't understand why you asked the question in the first place. And a week after. And why you are still entertaining this thread. Just go out and have a drink with friends. Cry with them if you need to. But leave this thread and move on, you're digging your own hole.

I started this thread because I thought the message was mean and had been comtemplating if I should say something. I decided to post it on here to see what people have to say instead of texting the guy to tell him he's mean. Simple as that.

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It doesn't matter if it's mean. To me it looks mean. But only you can tell, no one else will ever understand the background to it fully. If you think you should say something, if that what you had with this person meant something to you, then go for it. But what you really need is to terminate this loophole. Honestly, I left home early today and around 5 or 6am this thread was on. It's nearly midnight here and you're still responding to messages. Just go away. Live on. I know it's easier said than done when you're looping, but you have to break the circle. Go out and have a beer. Please don't respond to my message.

So what does it say when someone forces their projection onto an online stranger? 😄

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So what does it say when someone forces their projection onto an online stranger? 😄

Idk, maybe you can tell us what it's all about

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I am sure some smartass people on here will answer that one for ya. They've been on here ALL DAY 😉

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I don't understand why people keep going into circles.

Half of it is people probably thought you were asking what the text 'means' not if it 'was mean' if they read the title breezily.

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Exactly why my first response was worded the way it was.