falling in love slowly vs instantly

i feel there is more security in the slow love because that is when you are comfortable being boring with each other, there is no trying to impress but just liking each others company. instant love i think can pass instantly to someone else. there are more chances of feeling insecure not knowing how long it will last. but to fall in love slowly the problem is at first you will not know that this can turn into love, and so you end up thinking the fast love is real and end up in a heart break. after all the fast loves are gone what remains is slow permanent love i guess. haha i don't know what i am saying, but just that it feels nice when someone gives you that comfortable feeling time after time and you can just be yourself in front of them.

Im a fan of instant love. Love at first sight. Intensity at first sight. Obsession at first sight. Possession at first sight.

I cant grown on love. I require passion, intensity day 1

sometimes love can happen overtime when you get used to the person

Posted by DMV
Im a fan of instant love. Love at first sight. Intensity at first sight. Obsession at first sight. Possession at first sight.

I cant grown on love. I require passion, intensity day 1

but how long can this intensity last?

Posted by irreconcilabledifferences
i get more ridiculous over time

you get to my apartment and see a portrait of myself

then you find out i wake up to the top gun anthem or the lion king soundtrack

it's all downhill from the first night

but if you give it time it might become go uphill slowly..

Posted by Interesting

Posted by DMV
Im a fan of instant love. Love at first sight. Intensity at first sight. Obsession at first sight. Possession at first sight.

I cant grown on love. I require passion, intensity day 1

Well it does no good. It gets deadly and ugly. It never lasts.. No matter how much we girls may want it too.. There is always something to destruct it.

Life hates love.

True love makes you suffer.

It's not meant to be..



😢

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true love is the boring love

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by irreconcilabledifferences
i get more ridiculous over time

you get to my apartment and see a portrait of myself

then you find out i wake up to the top gun anthem or the lion king soundtrack

it's all downhill from the first night

but if you give it time it might become go uphill slowly..

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might go uphill slowly..*

Posted by Shadowcat
What is love?

it's a pain in the heart haha

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Posted by puhleeze

Posted by Shadowcat
What is love?

it's a pain in the heart haha

Are you water dominant?

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no i guess more earth and fire. hardly any water

Posted by Interesting

Posted by DMV
Im a fan of instant love. Love at first sight. Intensity at first sight. Obsession at first sight. Possession at first sight.

I cant grown on love. I require passion, intensity day 1

Well it does no good. It gets deadly and ugly. It never lasts.. No matter how much we girls may want it too.. There is always something to destruct it.

Life hates love.

True love makes you suffer.

It's not meant to be..



😢

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Dont think like that.

Love does exist.

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by DMV
Im a fan of instant love. Love at first sight. Intensity at first sight. Obsession at first sight. Possession at first sight.

I cant grown on love. I require passion, intensity day 1

but how long can this intensity last?

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Omg forever....

My last sag, passion intensity great sex friendship for over 8 years and we coulda kept going.

Posted by DMV

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by DMV
Im a fan of instant love. Love at first sight. Intensity at first sight. Obsession at first sight. Possession at first sight.

I cant grown on love. I require passion, intensity day 1

but how long can this intensity last?

Omg forever....

My last sag, passion intensity great sex friendship for over 8 years and we coulda kept going.

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kudos to you guys

Posted by irreconcilabledifferences

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by irreconcilabledifferences
i get more ridiculous over time

you get to my apartment and see a portrait of myself

then you find out i wake up to the top gun anthem or the lion king soundtrack

it's all downhill from the first night

but if you give it time it might become go uphill slowly..

no no nothing like that for me

after the first 6 months that's how it's gonna be for the test ofnour lives #stagnantlife

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#stagnantlife ftw

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by DMV

Posted by puhleeze

Posted by DMV
Im a fan of instant love. Love at first sight. Intensity at first sight. Obsession at first sight. Possession at first sight.

I cant grown on love. I require passion, intensity day 1

but how long can this intensity last?

Omg forever....

My last sag, passion intensity great sex friendship for over 8 years and we coulda kept going.

kudos to you guys

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#shade

Dont get down on yourself. There's a dude out there who will build a stable love with you over time.

I just need my Love is synonymous with obsession. Mutual day 1 obsession is a wet dream.

I need both. Crazy passion in the beginning then on/off throughout the relationship. It can never just go dead, I couldn't stay happy that way. I know it can't stay that way , the boring parts are ok, real relationships need that & thrive on that.. Love is very real, whether it's fall in love right away or take your time type love or something nicely in between. As long as it's not on some psycho shit LOL

It actually sounds like you just want consistency OP.

After years of falling in love instantly, disappointment from unrealistic expectations, my Scorp moon tripping me up so I fall face down in pursuit of a delusion - I'd go for slow love the next time around. Life is too short to continue making mistakes that may end up hurting both parties involved.

Posted by DMV
It actually sounds like you just want consistency OP.

guess you are right. when i see someone show interest one day and then be indifferent the next, my heart sinks. because yesterday it was happy, today it is sad, i can't handle that, i want the same consistent feeling everyday. i want to not worry that today if i look dull that will change his mind. i want to feel the same interest consistently.

Posted by Impulsv
OP description of falling in love slowly felt that way instantly for me

you mean the comfort vibe? you felt that from the start?

I think love is entirely a delusion, sex is meant for reproduction, which means kids will love their parents and vice versa, the age difference makes it a huge deal, the love is unconditional.

Compared to that, l think it's very hard for two parents to love eachother, actually impossible...

Posted by irreconcilabledifferences
i get more ridiculous over time

you get to my apartment and see a portrait of myself

then you find out i wake up to the top gun anthem or the lion king soundtrack

it's all downhill from the first night

What does this even mean ?....

Posted by 2Moon

Posted by puhleeze
i feel there is more security in the slow love because that is when you are comfortable being boring with each other, there is no trying to impress but just liking each others company. instant love i think can pass instantly to someone else. there are more chances of feeling insecure not knowing how long it will last. but to fall in love slowly the problem is at first you will not know that this can turn into love, and so you end up thinking the fast love is real and end up in a heart break. after all the fast loves are gone what remains is slow permanent love i guess. haha i don't know what i am saying, but just that it feels nice when someone gives you that comfortable feeling time after time and you can just be yourself in front of them.

I understand what you are saying.

this is interesting, please continue... ^^

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i don't know what else to say except maybe that it takes time to realize the slow love, since the person is always around and consistent maybe you don't initially feel the attraction or the emotions, but slowly when the person has seen you during your high and low and still stayed the same with you, day in and day out, you start valuing their company and start feeling emotions that you never felt before for them. the routine, plain days with them give you more comfort than the flirty days with someone else.