For The Fellas...Love Her (Page 2)

Posted by Sneaky

I don't have the responsibility or the burden of changing his opinion, but I do have both the burden and responsibility to declare and stand by ny own opinion, which I do. And I never said I was enlightened, im in an endless pursuit of it. What I dis say is that he isn't, and and he seems to be okay with that, which gets no respect from me.

Hope you better understand my opinion, girl.

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So, AFTER you said the first thing, you had to stick by what you said. Or, you have the responsibility to voice your opinion?I can't see how either of that is mature, though. We know what your opinion is. Constantly backing yourself up just looks stubborn and desperate unless you truly have something new to add. Or, if you enjoy defending yourself (and btw, isn't defending seen as an outlet for insecurities around these parts?), then that would make you less desperate, but still equally as stubborn. Since you're on your quest to enlightenment or whatever, maybe you should consider that. You can lose yourself or path and think you're furthering your goal, but if it seems you're going astray to other people, it's usually a sign that you need to reconsider what you're doing. So, also, since you are not enlightened, you have no respect for yourself? That's basically what you said...you have no respect for those who are not enlightened, and therefore, who make comments based on immature thoughts. However, you need to consider it is not your duty to further anyone's enlightenment, nor are they wrong for not pursuing it. Not everyone holds value or importance in that, and you should respect their decisions and not view them as less, or you as better. You are not higher because of what you do.

I know who he was, Scorched, but the only time I paid attention to him, or remember his from, are his posts involving collecting data or doing little quizzes, etc. Not much personal. I MIGHT remember him going off on someone on a thread dedicated to him...or him leaving the boards? But, I don't remember well enough.

Posted by Mr. Defense
That dude is some pussy whipped loser waiting to happen. All the romantic lovey dovey bullshit, women can listen to that shit all day. At the end of the day women don't respect it. Look at who women fall in love with. It isn't some romantic dude who does everything she says.

No, it's a asshole who disrespects her & treats her like shit. Yeah, that's what a stupid woman would rather have because guess what, she's a dick whipped loser already happening. GTFOH...I appreciate & RESPECT that romantic "lovey dovey" bullshit you speak of when it's sincere. It's sweet to get a "I was just thinking of you" call/text, "I miss you", keeps his word, doesn't play games, makes an effort, is there when you need him...you know, a REAL MAN.

And where in this paragraph

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I know how we are guys. But we shouldn't live in fear of giving our hearts to a woman. I say this...love her. I know you want to jump in front of a bus in order to save her life, but the true sacrifice comes from the day to day ways of showing her you're there and you care. Calling her or texting her to get her day started. Helping her with the kids. When she tells you her mind and how she feels...she's not complaining, she's showing you that she trusts you and that is sacred. Support her dreams, share her nightmares and calm her when she has them. She doesn't want the world...she wants YOU. They need the reassurance that we're there. In time...you will heal her heart and she will heal yours. So, love her whoever she is.

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Did he mention a romantic dude who does everything a woman says?

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I know how we are guys. But we shouldn't live in fear of giving our hearts to a woman. I say this...love her. I know you want to jump in front of a bus in order to save her life, but the true sacrifice comes from the day to day ways of showing her you're there and you care. Calling her or texting her to get her day started. Helping her with the kids. When she tells you her mind and how she feels...she's not complaining, she's showing you that she trusts you and that is sacred. Support her dreams, share her nightmares and calm her when she has them. She doesn't want the world...she wants YOU. They need the reassurance that we're there. In time...you will heal her heart and she will heal yours. So, love her whoever she is.

That was just lovely. 🙂

Posted by Mr. Defense
People come on the internet and say anything, so what you guys are talking about really doesn't matter. I know how women behave in real life, and I know what they respect and don't. Some guy talking a bunch of lovey dovey bullshit is stuff they don't respond to. Oh they'll think it's nice and they'll think it's cool. They just don't take a guy who says such nonsense seriously. There is only one thing women in the real world respond to, that's status and money. Amazing you get on the internet, all all of the sudden women don't care about money. You come on the internet and say that shit because you don't want to make yourself look cheap. But we all know what you women are really chasing in real life. you just come on the internet with your "money doesn't matter, it's all about love" bullshit, becasue you're basically trying to save face. I don't listen to this load of shit for a second.

Branh, guess what? I passed!! The first one!

Posted by DMV
i think that BS is a good guy. i wouldnt call him a whimp. overly romantic, yes IMO. my romantic yearnings arent inline with his.

tbh, i wouldnt give him the time of day. not his fault, but im attracted to a different type of men. less expressive of his romantic yearnings. still has them, but keeps it mum. id probably run the other way from all the mushiness of it all.

but i know a few of my girlfriends who would eat that shit up all day long.

You'll rather have guys treat you like a blow up doll eh? 😛

To VB, Sweethearts, Scenic, Jynja, Ligeia, Ultra79, Scorched, Real Talk, Ellesque, and a host of others who had positive responses to my post, thank you for your kind words and support. I have achieved my ultimate purpose, which was to bring us together and at least get some of us talking in a positive manner and hopefully begin the healing process. Despite what happened, no one got blocked an the thread wasn't shut down lol!

Be easy peeps!

Btw, its ironic I was arguing on this thread while listening to a lecture on Tort Reform in class lol...how ironic indeed. 😛

OMG, BS74! You can' take anything Branh says seriously. He's been at this for years- it's his schtick! A parody of himself. Please don't be offended by that clown, he's harmless.

Posted by Sneaky
Lol. Not picking a fight with anyone, just wanted people to realise that not a single guy supported whats his face's sentiment. I think that speaks volumes.

Speak for yourself Sneaky.
There were only two of you who entered the thread.
Still waiting for the other males to chime in.

Posted by Sneaky
Lol. Not picking a fight with anyone, just wanted people to realise that not a single guy supported whats his face's sentiment. I think that speaks volumes.

Here's the thing though Sneaky...I didn't ask them to. Doesn't mean that that they do or don't. But here the thing though, once again you point to your own shortcomings by implying that because the response was overwhelmingly females that somehow its lesser. Thus, displaying your attitude towards women and proving what some of them have said about you. So like I said before...keep digging.

Posted by ScorpSuperior
OMG, BS74! You can' take anything Branh says seriously. He's been at this for years- it's his schtick! A parody of himself. Please don't be offended by that clown, he's harmless.

Lol, I'm not SS. I actually found his responses quite humorous. He reminds me of a Virgo friend I have who talked all that shit until a strong woman came along. Now he doesn't and they're married.

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
I know how we are guys. But we shouldn't live in fear of giving our hearts to a woman. I say this...love her. I know you want to jump in front of a bus in order to save her life, but the true sacrifice comes from the day to day ways of showing her you're there and you care. Calling her or texting her to get her day started. Helping her with the kids. When she tells you her mind and how she feels...she's not complaining, she's showing you that she trusts you and that is sacred. Support her dreams, share her nightmares and calm her when she has them. She doesn't want the world...she wants YOU. They need the reassurance that we're there. In time...you will heal her heart and she will heal yours. So, love her whoever she is.

So true. So hard to do. But when you can, the easier it is to be a real man.

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So true Dazed. Thanks!

Posted by oldskoolflavor
let's be honest ..
it takes some big balls to post sthg like this, especially if you are dead serious

BUT there's this contrast between what women say they're attracted to (considerate behavior) and what many of them respond to (unusual/confusing behaviour, a hard one to tame etc) .. at least the ones who are 29-30 & under

also .. whether the challenge is healthy or not doesn't seem to matter to them

so yeah .. no husband-like treatment from this libra .. over my dead body

LOL .. who am I kidding ?
it's not like a normal woman would want me anyway :/

Lol OldSkool. You know as soon as the right one comes along , we drop the "over my dead body" lol.

Btw,

Jynja, I had a feeling you'd choose tigers 😉

Personally, I'm caught between having one and letting them remain free to be what they are.

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Posted by Jynja
Sneaky, the new thing I'm learning is that you seem to have a brash with older men.

Nothing BSoul has said here is foreign or dissimilar to your own outspoken ideals so this whole fight seems "unnatural" to me. Unless what I'm learning is true.

Anyway, BSoul74, I told you about my cat, will you tell me about yours? Your draw to Tigers?

You're right. Old men full of ego and no wisdom piss me the fuck off.

I don't think my opinions about romance are different of what you know of me, except now you probably
have a better idea of my absolute rejection of what I called "the princess experience", which this guy's attitude promotes.

The personal attacks on him were inspired by the ego and arrogance that he held with pride about that princess experience. The combination pissed me the fuck off.

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If that's the case Sneaky...then you also speak with that same ego and arrogance as if your ideas are also truth. Like it said, a clear example of hypocrisy.

You push your ideas as fact including your thoughts of me. Hypocrisy

Hey ninja!

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Posted by DMV
i think that BS is a good guy. i wouldnt call him a whimp. overly romantic, yes IMO. my romantic yearnings arent inline with his.

tbh, i wouldnt give him the time of day. not his fault, but im attracted to a different type of men. less expressive of his romantic yearnings. still has them, but keeps it mum. id probably run the other way from all the mushiness of it all.

but i know a few of my girlfriends who would eat that shit up all day long.

You'll rather have guys treat you like a blow up doll eh? 😛

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showing affection during sex is more of a natural to me than showing it outside of sex. it is absorbed naturally and easily. if his way of showing love is to hog tie me and shove a sock down my throat while he's hitting it from the back..so be it.

lovey dovey men get no respect from me. its a sign of weakness.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I know how we are guys. But we shouldn't live in fear of giving our hearts to a woman. I say this...love her. I know you want to jump in front of a bus in order to save her life, but the true sacrifice comes from the day to day ways of showing her you're there and you care. Calling her or texting her to get her day started. Helping her with the kids. When she tells you her mind and how she feels...she's not complaining, she's showing you that she trusts you and that is sacred. Support her dreams, share her nightmares and calm her when she has them. She doesn't want the world...she wants YOU. They need the reassurance that we're there. In time...you will heal her heart and she will heal yours. So, love her whoever she is.

Posted by oldskoolflavor
let's be honest ..
it takes some big balls to post sthg like this, especially if you are dead serious

BUT there's this contrast between what women say they're attracted to (considerate behavior) and what many of them respond to (unusual/confusing behaviour, a hard one to tame etc) .. at least the ones who are 29-30 & under

also .. whether the challenge is healthy or not doesn't seem to matter to them

so yeah .. no husband-like treatment from this libra .. over my dead body

LOL .. who am I kidding ?
it's not like a normal woman would want me anyway :/

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There's ATTRACTING, and there's KEEPING, and I think you are both right.
A man who treats his partner in the way BS74 describes is going to keep her in the long run, but you have to build up to that, you have to attract her first, and you also have to find one who is worth the treatment that is described. You will meet many people and very few will be worth the trouble. Recognize it and get rid of them.
You know, I was married for 13 years, many of my friends got married the same time as me, some didn't last as long as we did, and some are still going.
The ones who are still together, the men paint their daughter's toenails and fingernails, they stay with the kids and take them out and let mom sleep in, they take their wives on dates in which they call her and ask her for a date, etc. They are real men, they are not gay or wimpy, they simply love the women they are with and want to keep them.

^^^nailed it CapGirl!

Really nice message beautifulsoul.

Funny you say that. By merely posting in it you bumped it back to the top.

Durhey.

Posted by everevolvingepithet
Jeez, what's crackalaking today, Sadsack? Are you ever cheerful?

Do not steal my word. Crack-a-lacking? Give that back, sir.

Branh only knows what I taught him about jazz. Yes, big band is right. Count Basie, Artie Shaw, that sort of stuff...

Posted by venusianbull
Funny you say that. By merely posting in it you bumped it back to the top.

Durhey.

LOL

Posted by venusianbull
Funny you say that. By merely posting in it you bumped it back to the top.

Durhey.

VB!!!! What's cooking?

Posted by coldwater
Really nice message beautifulsoul.

Thank you Love 🙂

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Posted by DMV
i think that BS is a good guy. i wouldnt call him a whimp. overly romantic, yes IMO. my romantic yearnings arent inline with his.

tbh, i wouldnt give him the time of day. not his fault, but im attracted to a different type of men. less expressive of his romantic yearnings. still has them, but keeps it mum. id probably run the other way from all the mushiness of it all.

but i know a few of my girlfriends who would eat that shit up all day long.

You'll rather have guys treat you like a blow up doll eh? 😛

showing affection during sex is more of a natural to me than showing it outside of sex. it is absorbed naturally and easily. if his way of showing love is to hog tie me and shove a sock down my throat while he's hitting it from the back..so be it.

lovey dovey men get no respect from me. its a sign of weakness.

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Blah, blah, blah...

Weakness? Lol, coming from YOU though, I see why. I really understand some guys shit on certain broads...fine example.

*why

Posted by venusianbull
Funny you say that. By merely posting in it you bumped it back to the top.

Durhey.

Lmao...

^ hehe.

Hiya Beautiful. 🙂 Just a relaxed morning of coffee, oatmeal ( son requested ), and funny radio here. School and work in a bit. What's going on in your world?

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Posted by DMV
i think that BS is a good guy. i wouldnt call him a whimp. overly romantic, yes IMO. my romantic yearnings arent inline with his.

tbh, i wouldnt give him the time of day. not his fault, but im attracted to a different type of men. less expressive of his romantic yearnings. still has them, but keeps it mum. id probably run the other way from all the mushiness of it all.

but i know a few of my girlfriends who would eat that shit up all day long.

You'll rather have guys treat you like a blow up doll eh? 😛

showing affection during sex is more of a natural to me than showing it outside of sex. it is absorbed naturally and easily. if his way of showing love is to hog tie me and shove a sock down my throat while he's hitting it from the back..so be it.

lovey dovey men get no respect from me. its a sign of weakness.

Blah, blah, blah...

Weakness? Lol, coming from YOU though, I see why. I really understand some guys shit on certain broads...fine example.

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i can only go off from my life. weak/sappy guys get no respect. i walk all over them

Honestly curious here. If that is the case, why Pisces? I'd think that mindset would injure the recipient over time.

Posted by venusianbull
Honestly curious here. If that is the case, why Pisces? I'd think that mindset would injure the recipient over time.

Nothing much here VB. Had a light breakfast this morning. As for my life...school and work.

That is an interesting question you asked her...a bit rhetorical maybe as the answer is obvious.

Posted by beautifulsoul74
I know how we are guys. But we shouldn't live in fear of giving our hearts to a woman. I say this...love her. I know you want to jump in front of a bus in order to save her life, but the true sacrifice comes from the day to day ways of showing her you're there and you care. Calling her or texting her to get her day started. Helping her with the kids. When she tells you her mind and how she feels...she's not complaining, she's showing you that she trusts you and that is sacred. Support her dreams, share her nightmares and calm her when she has them. She doesn't want the world...she wants YOU. They need the reassurance that we're there. In time...you will heal her heart and she will heal yours. So, love her whoever she is.

Ima be honest. I used to think like this until I found out....90% of the females in this world aren't even worth jumping in front of a bus for.

Posting shit like this just makes undeserving bitches more self entitled.

Dear females,

The world don't owe you nothing.

Posted by venusianbull
Honestly curious here. If that is the case, why Pisces? I'd think that mindset would injure the recipient over time.

i think this is for me 🙂

not all pisces are openly weak and sappy. yes theyre a water sign, but with enough other masculine planets they know when to bring it out and when to scale it back.

How well I know it DMV, my father is a Fish. They don't come much more grunty/gun toting/he-man than my Pa.

But I like rhetorical Beautiful. Makes me smile.

Posted by Markell
Dear everyone,

The world don't owe you nothing.

Fixed.

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Posted by Mr. Defense

Probably because I don't have anyone, and this time of year makes me depressed. And I won't have anyone for a long time, since I have major trust issues, and I don't let people get close to me.

Posted by Mr. Defense
You sound sooooo gay.

Posted by Mr. Defense
That dude is some pussy whipped loser waiting to happen. All the romantic lovey dovey bullshit, women can listen to that shit all day. At the end of the day women don't respect it. Look at who women fall in love with. It isn't some romantic dude who does everything she says.

I think this is just a simple case of jealousy... and lack of self confidence. Most likely TDS.

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That is my assessment as well. The lack of confidence is at the center of his line of thinking...that in order to get women you have to have status and money. You and I both know that isn't the case as there are countless examples of the other extreme being true. Ironically, in both extremes, lack of confidence is at the center. Thanks for your comments and insight.

Posted by venusianbull
But I like rhetorical Beautiful. Makes me smile.

I do too lol. I does serve a purpose 😉

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Posted by beautifulsoul74
I know how we are guys. But we shouldn't live in fear of giving our hearts to a woman. I say this...love her. I know you want to jump in front of a bus in order to save her life, but the true sacrifice comes from the day to day ways of showing her you're there and you care. Calling her or texting her to get her day started. Helping her with the kids. When she tells you her mind and how she feels...she's not complaining, she's showing you that she trusts you and that is sacred. Support her dreams, share her nightmares and calm her when she has them. She doesn't want the world...she wants YOU. They need the reassurance that we're there. In time...you will heal her heart and she will heal yours. So, love her whoever she is.

Ima be honest. I used to think like this until I found out....90% of the females in this world aren't even worth jumping in front of a bus for.

Posting shit like this just makes undeserving bitches more self entitled.

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Lets go with another example shall we. So you're lying in the hospital with a disease that has devasted your heart. You need a transplant to save your life. The doctors have a heart to give you but because you're black, a male, you're American, or whatever silly reason they think you are undeserving of that heart and basically say..."it sucks to be you right now." You say, but I do this and that. The doctors say we've watched you and on this day you cussed this woman out, and on this day you helped and old woman cross the street but then you turned around and did this.

Point is, you aren't in a position to say who's deserving and who's not. Just as you'd want that doctor to give you the heart, don't you think that a woman wants someone to do right by her? Instead of retreating to the same default position that we do...lead...by example. If she doesn't respect it or accept it, you can always leave. But sitting here generalizing women speaks more to who you are than what is true. If anything, you demonstrated how someone can change you for the worse. You don't know what they deserve or if they're self entitled. Get a clue.

Posted by harry99
I love you Beautifulsoul74 you're the kind of man we need more of .....aloooot more of. If I'd met a guy like you first
instead of all the losers I did meet I probably wouldn't be giving up on guys at this point. 🙂 Remember never let those
who do nothing for you affect you and take up your time.

Harry! What's up? Hope all is well. Thank you! Don't bet upset about your past relationships. Just learn the lessons and move forward. You'll meet that nice guy you want. Make sure you treat him right when you do. Love you too! 🙂

Thank you ninja 🙂

Look, y'all may not believe this but I know a thing or two about making sacrifices and offering my heart and soul to somebody (Pisces venus, Scorpio moon). Just because I'm highly suspicious of women doesn't mean I will be a jerk to them. All I'm saying is no woman deserves an automatic free ticket to my heart. She need to prove to me first that she is worthy of the level of devotion I know I'm capable of just like I need to prove to her that I'm worthy of being their man. If you been though the same ridiculous shit I been through you'd be more than a little cautious too but I've defnitely wised up from my past experiences...

Posted by Markell
Look, y'all may not believe this but I know a thing or two about making sacrifices and offering my heart and soul to somebody (Pisces venus, Scorpio moon). Just because I'm highly suspicious of women doesn't mean I will be a jerk to them. All I'm saying is no woman deserves an automatic free ticket to my heart. She need to prove to me first that she is worthy of the level of devotion I know I'm capable of just like I need to prove to her that I'm worthy of being their man. If you been though the same ridiculous shit I been through you'd be more than a little cautious too but I've defnitely wised up from my past experiences...

I believe it.

I think both men and woman are afraid of love. And I think it's cause there are not good enough role models in this dark dark world.