Hmmmm..... let's see how this one pans out..... (Page 2)

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wishing you both the best of luck. Fingers crossed for you both. 🙂

Awww. 🙂 Thank you little_sparrow. 🙂

Posted by venusianbull
We should be doing this over a lovely shrimp salad and a glass of white wine. Could compare notes, bwahahahaa, they'd never know! 😛

Ah... that would be so nice!

Yes it would be, but I insist we do it down in your neck of the woods Lady. 🙂 MUCH better seafood closer to the waters edge.

WHOA, was that some Tau food 'ho coming out or WHAT? LOL

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Posted by venusianbull
Yes it would be, but I insist we do it down in your neck of the woods Lady. 🙂 MUCH better seafood closer to the waters edge.

surf and turf,it's a beautiful thing.

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Unfortunately, the oil is headed our way, Im afraid it will be a bit nasty.

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Yes it would be, but I insist we do it down in your neck of the woods Lady. 🙂 MUCH better seafood closer to the waters edge.

surf and turf,it's a beautiful thing.

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LOL Love that. And it hit me with the goofy stick. Coupled with your Sun and Moon Bella for one, and my Sun and Venus for another.

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Yes it would be, but I insist we do it down in your neck of the woods Lady. 🙂 MUCH better seafood closer to the waters edge.

surf and turf,it's a beautiful thing.

Unfortunately, the oil is headed our way, Im afraid it will be a bit nasty.

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Feck, forgot about that damned oil spill. Ahhhhh well, I'll cook. 😄

Alright ladies, how does a wild rice salad sound? Wild rice, turkey breast, cranberries tossed in a lovely red wine vinaigrette. A few glazed walnuts on the side. You realize we must behave so we can have dessert with zero guilt. It's a must for these types of conversations.

this whole thread has made me sick, I would like to hear the blokes side of all this.

I'll tell him, he's having a hot bath presently. Best of luck on getting him on a message board though. 😛

Posted by venusianbull
Alright ladies, how does a wild rice salad sound? Wild rice, turkey breast, cranberries tossed in a lovely red wine vinaigrette. A few glazed walnuts on the side. You realize we must behave so we can have dessert with zero guilt. It's a must for these types of conversations.

MMMMM!!!! Yummy Yum Yum!!! Count me in!

Posted by james tate
this whole thread has made me sick, I would like to hear the blokes side of all this.

See what happens when you continually run off and leave me! How's a girl supposed to be fulfilled while you are off galavanting around the globe? And still I find time to love you. *sigh*

Whoohooo! Lunch date. 🙂 ^^ LOLOL The heart can hold more than one.

Keep it up L.L. and I will have to lick you all over.

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Keep it up L.L. and I will have to lick you all over.

Well...... "it cant lick itself" you know.

*patiently awaiting Tates return*

You bet Mr. Nice. 🙂 How does roast chicken sound luv? With whatever fixings please you.

*head in open fridge* I also have a bit of apple pie left, would you like that as well?

All part of the service offered at Chez VB. Satisfaction guaranteed. 🙂

That is my eldest daughter. She'll be 20 in February. 🙂

LOL Oh gracious, no. Why would I be offended? We're dark and light she and I. My hair is dark, eyes hazel, obviously she's blonde and blue eyed.

She's a lovely girl, she makes her Momma very proud. 🙂

Yes, and the first, and some of me at school dances and so on. 🙂

Obviously the school dances were some time ago, but not the others. I was hiding behind my 'grandson' at Thanksgiving. 🙂

And relax Mr. Nice. LOL I didn't think you were creepily posting pics.

I run from cameras as well. Hence the puppy, or the blur usually. I tend to have radar when a camera is in sight, and I take off like the wind. Or I make a face. "There! You like that shot of me d'ya? It's a real KEEPER." 😛

The first I took of myself as a rolling index of my weight loss. The difference is startling. In a good way.

You know, I do realize the very real danger in that. And also wonder from time to time if I'm talking to a real person or even if the gender is accurate. ( i.e., supposed young woman is really hairy 60 year old nude man in basement of mothers house...) But on the whole, most people I've met online are who they say they are. And if one person said one thing out of line, they'd come down. I put them up for a thread on posting pics and haven't taken them down yet.

Have a good afternoon Mr. Nice. 🙂

damn Mr. Nice is being Nice to VB could there be something going on here?

Its hard not to be nice to VB!!! She is lovely!

He thinks I'm a sweetie pie...cos I am. 🙂

Awwww *dragging toe in sand*. Thank you Lady. 🙂

TRUE VERY TRUE

*blush*

As long as you can accept him as he is right now, meaning you wouldn't change a thing then everything should flow well. The moment you try to define things, put a label on it, get a definitive answer to what the relationship consist of that's when things turn for the worst...that's when things get complicated..You seem to understand that which is a good start...It doesn't matter what he is b/c we don't have to date him, as long as your happy, content and confident that you can handle the hard stuff that's all that really matters...Good luck

Thank you Tiki for the kind words. You are absolutely right too. The funny thing is, what brought it into perspective for me a little bit was something that my Mom said to me. She asked me.....

"Do you really want a commitment to someone that is 400 miles away? I mean, why do you feel like you need it if you are getting everything you need from him without the words? Why not just let it flow and live your life. Things will fall out where they should in time." My answer to her was.... "No, I don't and you are absolutely right."

I thought about it and I realized that I never even asked him for one. Im not even sure how any of this ever even surfaced. It was all his doing regarding the relationship discussions. HE brought it up EVERY time it was brought up (obviously his insecurities about comittment). I even called him out on it and he agreed that it was by his own doing that any relationship discussion was brought to the forefront. When I flew out to California in April, I didnt text him for that entire weekend and he got very upset over it and later apologized because we werent obligated to one another and it wasnt his business. I let it go and didnt make a big deal over it. I didnt understand why because we had not even met yet.

I recently explained to him that I was totally comfortable with my life and the way things were going. He admitted to me that we ACT as if we are dating but he doesnt want any expectations right now so I asked him this "Do you have a problem with the amount of time we talk or the fact that we make ourselves accountable to one another?" and he said "No, not at all" then I asked "Does it bother you that we ACT as if we are dating even though officially we are not?" and he answered "No, it doesn't." So I said "Then why are we having this discussion at all? What's the problem here? I don't like putting a label on anything that we are doing.... we are 400 miles apart and we both have our lives to live, so shut the fuck up about it and lets just move on." He laughed and said ok!

So that's what we are doing. I may even go out on a date this week with another guy. Im living my life and if its meant to be it will work out. Simple enough! Its actually kinda nice to have the emotional support from someone stable without losing the freedom of doing as I please. Win-win for now but Im sure in time things may change. But, Im gonna let it flow.