How Has Your Ex Attempted To Return? (Page 2)

Posted by LadyNeptune
Virgo used to call and send text every month for almost 2 years after I ended it.

Usually they were super passive aggressive. Like "it's my birthday so that's why I'm calling and leaving you this message. Wish you would pick up cause this rejection hurts, especially on today of all days."

Funny dude.

Sounds like there's a lot of Virgos, Leos, and Cancers not getting the hint. The Aqua exes want to remain friends while the other air exes just want to have sex. The Aries exes seem to get upset, leave, then come back.

Posted by RooSagicorn
What I find interesting is it doesn’t necessarily matter whether you broke up with them or they broke up with you, the guy will still come back. Mine was 50/50 on what I listed earlier.

That's typically because guys are more persistent. While everyone takes rejection to heart, we're taught as little boys that rejection/adversity in life doesn't matter as long as we try hard enough. Phrases like, "Try Harder" or "Walk it off" or "If at first you don't succeed, try try again" come to mind.

That being said though, the same can be said for women. Women will often come back when they did the dumping as long as the guy doesn't chase them (which many guys fail to realize). If a woman was dumped, they'll obsess over it if they don't know why the breakup happened. Likewise if a woman feels that the breakup occurred because she did something wrong, she'll generally try to come back.

Posted by Ellygant
Pre-Ex-Scorp I’d never had anyone try to come back around. Since him every single person I’ve dated or talked to has come back around at least once. I honestly couldn’t tell you what they did/said exactly. A few I was nice to if we ended on respectful terms. If they ghosted or were rude I didn’t bother too much.

Out of the three I was in love with though, I remember.

Long term Scorp Ex: this is a little different because we never completely lose contact, though he was never looking to reconcile. I’d want to but he’d always say now wasn’t the right time or he wasn’t sure. But he’d always keep in touch. Recently he asked me to dinner though and I could tell he changed and wanted to get back together. We had dinner and a lovely time but I waited for him to bring it up and he didn’t. Finally I did. Was honest that our time had passed. We still catch up every so often. But never see each other.

Scorp Fling: First person I dated right after my ex. I was enamoured by the dude and crazy about him. He invited me over to talk and hang out. He tried to get back together but in my mind I wanted him to prove a lot and he thought I’d fall back into him like I always did. I didn’t so when I was cold and sarcastic our time together he withdrew lol. Started dating a close friend of mine after that and that was that lol.

Crab Ex: We were so on/off so I don’t count anything the first 8 months. Finally I told him I’d let go. Didn’t talk or see him for a few months, thought I never would again. He asked to go for a friendly drink. We went out, it was magical. He disappeared again shortly after lol. I expect the same again in a few months. He’s the only one I’m not sure what I’d do tho.

I never completely turn people away though. Only two people I’ve completely ignored. I’ve had enough awful dramatic break ups in the past that if I can generate some sort of kindness and friendliness with people I like to. Especially the three I’ve loved. If they needed something I’d probably always be there to at least listen. Loyalty to shared love, even if it’s past it’s expiration date.

I'm kind of the same way at this point. After the first few dramatic breakups, I got tired of the drama. Now I just let people go and leave the door open for those who didn't do anything terribly egregious.

Posted by sierra_
lol yeah he made another fb account to reach out to me

then when he found out my boyfriend would be in Singapore for 3 months

he started to "bump into me by chance"

What was the exes sign?

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Yeah. He wanted to fuck.

I said no.

He disappeared.

What was his sign?

Libra. "Oh, I wanna get back in touch and hang out!" We hang out, he tried to start something, I said no. Mysteriously, he ended up suddenly "too busy" to continue hanging out like he said he wanted to do. Funny how that works.

Cap ex fwb did the same thing. I'd told him to go fuck himself with his psycho shit. We made amends down the road, but he was just looking to get laid. He was perma banned from my life at that point. Haven't heard from him since. He still tries that same shit with a mutual friend and she lolz every time he does it. It's been like 8 years too haha.

lol libras and caps.. i don't think they know when to quit

mine were libra sun-cap moon and libra sun-taurus moon

and a cap sun-taurus moon

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They are a bit more persistent. Libra because they can seriously change their minds and Caps because they are SO diligent and patient, that rejection doesn't necessarily deter them.

Posted by Sofia87
Leo, scorpio & Gemini

In a subtle or obvious way?

Posted by questionoflustquestionoftrust
Calling from different numbers and showing up at my job.

Ugh.

What sign?

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Yeah. He wanted to fuck.

I said no.

He disappeared.

What was his sign?

Libra. "Oh, I wanna get back in touch and hang out!" We hang out, he tried to start something, I said no. Mysteriously, he ended up suddenly "too busy" to continue hanging out like he said he wanted to do. Funny how that works.

Cap ex fwb did the same thing. I'd told him to go fuck himself with his psycho shit. We made amends down the road, but he was just looking to get laid. He was perma banned from my life at that point. Haven't heard from him since. He still tries that same shit with a mutual friend and she lolz every time he does it. It's been like 8 years too haha.

lol libras and caps.. i don't think they know when to quit

mine were libra sun-cap moon and libra sun-taurus moon

and a cap sun-taurus moon

They are a bit more persistent. Libra because they can seriously change their minds and Caps because they are SO diligent and patient, that rejection doesn't necessarily deter them.

even when we were together, i've noticed that even when i tell libras "no".. they treat it as a "maybe"

like it's always negotiable and they always have a chance

they said libras aren't "passionate" but i think they're really very persistent

especially when they have an earth moon like a cap moon or a taurus moon

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I love Libras, but they do not like closed doors (even if they were the ones to close them). I watched one of my good friends ping pong between two girls. When I asked him what was going on, he couldn't really explain it. The logic was his alone. He was also oddly territorial of both women.

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Posted by gyrados
Can I make clarification to people who have Cap ex? Okay....

WE NEVER COMEBACK! We just miss the memory, not you! It just nostalgic.

Lol not true with my boyfriend. He said he tried to prove to himself he didn’t want me... and it didn’t work. But an issue was resolved too. He didn’t know that til he came back!

And you believe that? Capricorn are not stupid. You're the main actress of his memory, And he will do anything to make sure you will play the role AGAIN!

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I've definitely seen Caps go back. I was oddly on the receiving end once.

Posted by HopelessRomantic2017
I'm not calling Aqua. She was stupid to break up with me for no real reasons. She doesn't want a nice guy in her life that treats her well and potentially was doing things that she might interpret as rushing things. I think this is better to have than no guy or to be in a relationship with an abusive guys which she's done in the past.

Based on what you've said, she left because you were "too nice". My guess is you werefar too available for the Aqua woman. Aquas value freedom/space and can be easily smothered by emotions. That's not to say that they can't get attached to someone, but it takes a while (probably a lot longer than they let on initially).

Notice how when you backed off and then reconnected, she was open to it. She has enough time and space to miss you. The only issue was that she wasn't the one who came back to you, even though she's the one who ended things. She should have been the one to suggest gettin back together, that way you would have known she was ready.

Instead she realized the reasons she broke things off before were still problems for her. I imagine that she made up her mind at that point. Then again given enough time and emotional growth she may still return. The best thing you can do for the both of you is to leave her be and move on with your life.

Posted by NemDeux
personally i find it pathetic behaviour to intrude on an ex or any person who cut ties with me. really; like being an obnoxious asshole is going to improve what?

people who cannot deal with rejection; and go overboard need mental help.

Agreed if someone states they want space, want out, express that it just isn't working for them or what not, I leave them alone. I have been on the opposite side and it drives me nuts that I am not respected. So, folks in my life need to be sure that if they want it over, that is what they really want. It's typcally not about pride or being stubborn, I truly respect the other that much, I won't cross that line. That's with anyone not just a partner.

Id say more toying than returning, but...Cap, trying to add me on social media. Virgo, sending song lyrics. Aqua, a letter telling me he wanted to move abroad with me and a pic of a ring and cert that he wanted to marry me and had the ring (after getting his fiancee pregnant, that I never knew about LOL)

Posted by SentimentalCrabby
Virgo: Messaged me on messenger and wanted to talk, but I kept leaving him on read to the point that he kept contacting me again later on.

I finally responded, and he was begging me to talk to him, I didn't - and the fact he threaten me he was going to hurt himself if I don't. Fawk that, I told him, "go ahead"

Gemini: Message me one day while I was dating the Virgo one day, just to see how I was doing after he graduated from high school. I remember on the day of his graduation I texted him "congratulations!!"

Hoping that we are still friends. Turns out he didn't even have my number anymore and asked, "who's this?"

I told him who I was and didn't bother to text him afterwards.

By the time he reached me to ask how I was doing, I instantly said, "fuck off." He got butt-hurt when he found out I moved on.

Libra: Still in my life right now. Taking it slow 😣

Was the Libra and ex who came back?

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personally i find it pathetic behaviour to intrude on an ex or any person who cut ties with me. really; like being an obnoxious asshole is going to improve what?

people who cannot deal with rejection; and go overboard need mental help.

Agreed if someone states they want space, want out, express that it just isn't working for them or what not, I leave them alone. I have been on the opposite side and it drives me nuts that I am not respected. So, folks in my life need to be sure that if they want it over, that is what they really want. It's typcally not about pride or being stubborn, I truly respect the other that much, I won't cross that line. That's with anyone not just a partner.

i wonder if this contacting behaviour might be a passive/aggressive form of control?

at least in once case i am 100% sure of it. but that is a story for another day.

never met an aqua who behaved like this anyway 🙂

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What do you mean? What i said or what others do? LOL

If me, then perhaps, i just don't force my will or my way or the highway on others, but maybe others see it as that. I take words for face value, maybe a bit too much lol But girl, if a man tells me to let him be or our relationship is over, i am going to do just that and move on.

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personally i find it pathetic behaviour to intrude on an ex or any person who cut ties with me. really; like being an obnoxious asshole is going to improve what?

people who cannot deal with rejection; and go overboard need mental help.

Agreed if someone states they want space, want out, express that it just isn't working for them or what not, I leave them alone. I have been on the opposite side and it drives me nuts that I am not respected. So, folks in my life need to be sure that if they want it over, that is what they really want. It's typcally not about pride or being stubborn, I truly respect the other that much, I won't cross that line. That's with anyone not just a partner.

i wonder if this contacting behaviour might be a passive/aggressive form of control?

at least in once case i am 100% sure of it. but that is a story for another day.

never met an aqua who behaved like this anyway 🙂

What do you mean? What i said or what others do? LOL

If me, then perhaps, i just don't force my will or my way or the highway on others, but maybe others see it as that. I take words for face value, maybe a bit too much lol But girl, if a man tells me to let him be or our relationship is over, i am going to do just that and move on.

lol i am sorry! of course i meant the ex´s who intrude and impose. NOT YOU lol!

i am glad to see that pride and dignity are not lost on aqua folks :*

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🤗 I just wasn't sure. I can see how I can seem cold and prideful lol

Aquas have pride in spades, sometimes too much.

Subtle at 1st although i know what his doing coz he keeps bringing up our past then a few chat and calls later he said outta the blue "i miss us,you know i will leave my wife just for you"

Hell no! I wont let him cheat on me the 2nd time around

His a Virgo

No offense but i havent met a virgo thats loyal both men and women

Everybody comes back, they do it, we do it, all of us

the question is: for what reason?

boredom?

sex?

ego-boost?

real love?

just imagine, how many times you yourself contacted a person (ex or nearly ex or fwb or anybody of interest or anybody who you didnt like but you knew they liked you) - what were the reasons? did you love them and wanted to get back together? or you were hung up on somebody else and wanted a distraction/to hear from somobody you know is at your feet whenever you call/ego boost/sex..... etc

the reasons you contacted your "ex", is the same reason, why the exes (the exes you regard important) is contacted you....

the difference is only is your perception: you loved or really liked the person, who is "trying to come back to your life", but how many times you did the same.... maybe this should be a new topic 🙂 like: why do you contact your exes? or your side men? or your side chicks?

Pisces sun, Aries moon, Aqua Venus and Aries Mars man that I had remained friends with, but hadn't met in person post breakup, finally met with me again a few years ago. It was close to 13 years after the breakup.

His romantic feelings for me rekindled, he told me after we met. Before we met, I wondered if I would feel more than friendship for him again, but I didn't, and I told him. He expressed that even though it hurt that I didn't feel the same way, he appreciated that I was honest with him. He had been involved with a few women who were dishonest and cheated on him.

Posted by Aquarius3189
Subtle at 1st although i know what his doing coz he keeps bringing up our past then a few chat and calls later he said outta the blue "i miss us,you know i will leave my wife just for you"

Hell no! I wont let him cheat on me the 2nd time around

His a Virgo

No offense but i havent met a virgo thats loyal both men and women

Oh there are plenty of loyal Virgos, in fact their loyalty can be incredibly strong. You just have to find the ones who aren't playing games. If a person is married when they are talking to you, that's a big red flag.

Posted by Pandora101
Everybody comes back, they do it, we do it, all of us

the question is: for what reason?

boredom?

sex?

ego-boost?

real love?

just imagine, how many times you yourself contacted a person (ex or nearly ex or fwb or anybody of interest or anybody who you didnt like but you knew they liked you) - what were the reasons? did you love them and wanted to get back together? or you were hung up on somebody else and wanted a distraction/to hear from somobody you know is at your feet whenever you call/ego boost/sex..... etc

the reasons you contacted your "ex", is the same reason, why the exes (the exes you regard important) is contacted you....

the difference is only is your perception: you loved or really liked the person, who is "trying to come back to your life", but how many times you did the same.... maybe this should be a new topic 🙂 like: why do you contact your exes? or your side men? or your side chicks?

I've never really contacted an ex personally. If I initiated the breakup, I stick to my guns. If the other person initiated the breakup, I walk away and they generally chase me after that.

I think it's pretty clear why people contact their exes though. They have a general fear of being alone and unloved deep down, even if they don't want to admit it. Humans are social animals and are happiest when exposed to some form of companionship. Reaching out to exes, fwbs, or anyone else is usually done to fill in that gap. Sure in some cases it could be done out of love, but it's still driven by the desire to find companionship in some way.

Aqua and Cancer.

The Aqua was my first husband. The split was his idea, but then he tried to make me feel like shit when I actually left. He followed, trying to talk me into taking him back, but he didn’t really want me. He just didn’t want me to get away.

Ha. The Cancer and I were middle/HS sweethearts for four years and I only bring him up for how comical it was. I broke up with him and then went to spend a few weeks, in the summer, with my sister. She lived in Louisiana and us in Oklahoma. Sis and I drove to where we used to live, in Mississippi, to meet my mom. I was to meet her and my gran there, we were to drive to Alabama to see my other sister, and then we were driving back to Oklahoma.

Meet mom in MS, open the door to the car and who’s laying down, hiding in the back seat? Surprise! There’s the ex boyfriend. 🙄

She had no idea we’d broken it off and he saw it as an opportunity to spend one on one time with me, since we were forced to be in the same car. That leg of the trip lasted four days, which is ironic, cause that’s about as many words as I said to him. 😄

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Aqua and Cancer.

The Aqua was my first husband. The split was his idea, but then he tried to make me feel like shit when I actually left. He followed, trying to talk me into taking him back, but he didn’t really want me. He just didn’t want me to get away.

Ha. The Cancer and I were middle/HS sweethearts for four years and I only bring him up for how comical it was. I broke up with him and then went to spend a few weeks, in the summer, with my sister. She lived in Louisiana and us in Oklahoma. Sis and I drove to where we used to live, in Mississippi, to meet my mom. I was to meet her and my gran there, we were to drive to Alabama to see my other sister, and then we were driving back to Oklahoma.

Meet mom in MS, open the door to the car and who’s laying down, hiding in the back seat? Surprise! There’s the ex boyfriend. 🙄

She had no idea we’d broken it off and he saw it as an opportunity to spend one on one time with me, since we were forced to be in the same car. That leg of the trip lasted four days, which is ironic, cause that’s about as many words as I said to him. 😄

That's insane!

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Posted by Aquarius3189
Subtle at 1st although i know what his doing coz he keeps bringing up our past then a few chat and calls later he said outta the blue "i miss us,you know i will leave my wife just for you"

Hell no! I wont let him cheat on me the 2nd time around

His a Virgo

No offense but i havent met a virgo thats loyal both men and women

Oh there are plenty of loyal Virgos, in fact their loyalty can be incredibly strong. You just have to find the ones who aren't playing games. If a person is married when they are talking to you, that's a big red flag.

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yep thats why i've run so far away i dont even chat him anymore,i have met loyal virgo moons but virgo suns? I havent for 29 yrs,and they are like bees in my life lol

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Aqua and Cancer.

The Aqua was my first husband. The split was his idea, but then he tried to make me feel like shit when I actually left. He followed, trying to talk me into taking him back, but he didn’t really want me. He just didn’t want me to get away.

Ha. The Cancer and I were middle/HS sweethearts for four years and I only bring him up for how comical it was. I broke up with him and then went to spend a few weeks, in the summer, with my sister. She lived in Louisiana and us in Oklahoma. Sis and I drove to where we used to live, in Mississippi, to meet my mom. I was to meet her and my gran there, we were to drive to Alabama to see my other sister, and then we were driving back to Oklahoma.

Meet mom in MS, open the door to the car and who’s laying down, hiding in the back seat? Surprise! There’s the ex boyfriend. 🙄

She had no idea we’d broken it off and he saw it as an opportunity to spend one on one time with me, since we were forced to be in the same car. That leg of the trip lasted four days, which is ironic, cause that’s about as many words as I said to him. 😄

That's insane!

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Welcome to the mind of a 16/17yo, male Cancer. 😆

My one experience of an ex trying to return was with a Sag. It had been a 8 years long relationship which had ended on grounds that he wanted marriage and kids in the near future - and I did not. We were both about 28 at the time. Some 4 or 5 months after the breakup - and after I had moved out of the place we had shared - he contacted me and we went out and he kissed me and said he loved me and suggested we tried couple;s therapy because he really wanted us to work. I might have done so, except he qualified he was hoping the therapy would reveal what was wrong with me for not wanting children...

We dropped it then and there, though we did remain pretty good friends, until, about 2 years later, I got into a new relationship and he went all crazy jealous on me. He;s married now and we barely keep in touch.

The other noteworthy ex is a Libra who has never attempted to rekindle the romantic relationship, but has stuck with me through thick and thin and proved, time and time again, to be an excellent friend. The breakup had been my fault and he was actually the one who ended up suffering more, but even so, each and every time I needed a friend, he was there, no questions asked. I sometimes find myself wishing I could feel sexually attracted to him because I swear, that guy is a gem.

Huh, missed this topic the first time around.

The only other actual relationship was with my high-school sweets, the Leo. He broke it off with me randomly. We did the whole sleep together, stay 'friends' (aka fuck buddies lol) thing for maybe a month before I decided I didn't need to be wasting my time playing BS games with this dude. He attempted to get me back for at least 6 months, probably almost a year.

He would text me constantly. Flat-out ask me to take him back. He once wrote me a letter, called me incessantly to meet up so he could give it to me and then when I ignored him to hang out with family he came to my house and put it in the mail box and sped off.

Like dude, you broke up with me then when I decide to actually take it serious and move on you want me back? Boy bye 🖖