I fucked up a bit

I told a my ex I deserved someone better because I fell too quick for his potential because I really wanted him to be the one, and blocked him after

But I didn’t take into consideration that we split for

Him to find himself and I over analyze the situation and got upset and paranoid and cut all possibilities to get back in the future?

How might he be feeling? Is there a chance he doesn’t hate me for life—? He’s Taurus and I’m libra and I think our speed difference played a roll here

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

What reason did you give him? He’s not psychic so will not know the reasons you’ve said in your post.

I told him he didn’t love me in the first place if he had no problem letting me go and that his problems were bigger than his love for me and I was a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he had no interest in checking on me over a month.. that I deserved someone who had the patience and emotional maturity to solve problems together...

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

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ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

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I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

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I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

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i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

click to expand

I’m gonna do both.. I learn from everything and this is no exception. But I do hope he finds himself gets well and wants a new start in the future

Thank u for ur time Jeane appreciate it

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

What do you have that is so special that you think he has to ‘level up’ to meet you?

Why should he contact you after you dumped him and accused him of not loving you? Men can’t win on this front because if a man tries to stay in touch a woman could say he’s harassing her.

He might not hate you but I imagine he will feel down about it. ‘Getting better’ probably means getting over the heartbreak and forgetting you.

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Because I’ve came a longgggg way and I’m ina. Better place than he is.. he was bringing me down when I was trying to help him out and HE broke up with me to take time for himself but he left the door open and kept my hopes up and then he didn’t checked on me over a month...

so he dumped me in the first place the breakup was because of him and he knows who I am and what I give and how I love.. he told me I’m unforgettable but he forgot about me for a month so I was doubting his feelings in the first place

Don’t get me wrong but I was heartbroken and he wasn’t.. he was focusing on himself and taking time off and the thought of never being in his arms again was sinking deeper every day he didn’t get in touch with me.

We had a connection.. but if he didn’t love himself I don’t think he loved me

I do wish him well

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

What do you have that is so special that you think he has to ‘level up’ to meet you?

Why should he contact you after you dumped him and accused him of not loving you? Men can’t win on this front because if a man tries to stay in touch a woman could say he’s harassing her.

He might not hate you but I imagine he will feel down about it. ‘Getting better’ probably means getting over the heartbreak and forgetting you.

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Because I’ve came a longgggg way and I’m ina. Better place than he is.. he was bringing me down when I was trying to help him out and HE broke up with me to take time for himself but he left the door open and kept my hopes up and then he didn’t checked on me over a month...

so he dumped me in the first place the breakup was because of him and he knows who I am and what I give and how I love.. he told me I’m unforgettable but he forgot about me for a month so I was doubting his feelings in the first place

Don’t get me wrong but I was heartbroken and he wasn’t.. he was focusing on himself and taking time off and the thought of never being in his arms again was sinking deeper every day he didn’t get in touch with me.

We had a connection.. but if he didn’t love himself I don’t think he loved me

I do wish him well

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

What do you have that is so special that you think he has to ‘level up’ to meet you?

Why should he contact you after you dumped him and accused him of not loving you? Men can’t win on this front because if a man tries to stay in touch a woman could say he’s harassing her.

He might not hate you but I imagine he will feel down about it. ‘Getting better’ probably means getting over the heartbreak and forgetting you.

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Because I’ve came a longgggg way and I’m ina. Better place than he is.. he was bringing me down when I was trying to help him out and HE broke up with me to take time for himself but he left the door open and kept my hopes up and then he didn’t checked on me over a month...

so he dumped me in the first place the breakup was because of him and he knows who I am and what I give and how I love.. he told me I’m unforgettable but he forgot about me for a month so I was doubting his feelings in the first place

Don’t get me wrong but I was heartbroken and he wasn’t.. he was focusing on himself and taking time off and the thought of never being in his arms again was sinking deeper every day he didn’t get in touch with me.

We had a connection.. but if he didn’t love himself I don’t think he loved me

I do wish him well

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

I’m gonna do both.. I learn from everything and this is no exception. But I do hope he finds himself gets well and wants a new start in the future

Thank u for ur time Jeane appreciate it

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good luck. i think there is a lot of stop - start in the early stage of a taurus libra combo. i know there was in my relationship.

the best words of advice i can give you is if you promise to do better then do better. from what i learnt many of the early problems were my doing. i had to grow to make the relationship work. it wasn't always comfortable but if i said i wasn't going to repeat patterns which caused the problems then i stayed true to my word.

if you want to make it work, what do you have to do? how you have you so far contributed to its current place in the ditch and what are you going to do to make sure it doesn't happen again? good relationships don't just happen. there needs to be intentional behaviours that you must adopt and practise to give it the best shot.

can i suggest as a start, don't ever block him again. problems will never be addressed if you refuse to listen and talk.

Posted by tiziani

What makes you want to be with someone who you see as not right for you?

He’s right for me his current mindset isn’t

But I doubted/doubt his feeling. It’s hard for me to understand why he didn’t check on me in a month. If you love someone you want to know how they are I think

You want him to be emotionally mature, but he’s probably thinking the same thing about you.

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

I’m gonna do both.. I learn from everything and this is no exception. But I do hope he finds himself gets well and wants a new start in the future

Thank u for ur time Jeane appreciate it

good luck. i think there is a lot of stop - start in the early stage of a taurus libra combo. i know there was in my relationship.

the best words of advice i can give you is if you promise to do better then do better. from what i learnt many of the early problems were my doing. i had to grow to make the relationship work. it wasn't always comfortable but if i said i wasn't going to repeat patterns which caused the problems then i stayed true to my word.

if you want to make it work, what do you have to do? how you have you so far contributed to its current place in the ditch and what are you going to do to make sure it doesn't happen again? good relationships don't just happen. there needs to be intentional behaviours that you must adopt and practise to give it the best shot.

can i suggest as a start, don't ever block him again. problems will never be addressed if you refuse to listen and talk.

click to expand

I will be thinking about all of this for the next weeks.. i know my mistakes and I know what part my insecurities and trust issues played. I will keep them in mind and put an effort in not letting patters get in the way of my next relationships..

if he’s the right one for me one way or the other we will find each other again. And in case that happens I will make sure I’ve solved my issues.

Thanks a lot

Posted by BathHouseCulture

That quincunx AGAIN.

🥴

Explain urself pls

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

I’m gonna do both.. I learn from everything and this is no exception. But I do hope he finds himself gets well and wants a new start in the future

Thank u for ur time Jeane appreciate it

good luck. i think there is a lot of stop - start in the early stage of a taurus libra combo. i know there was in my relationship.

the best words of advice i can give you is if you promise to do better then do better. from what i learnt many of the early problems were my doing. i had to grow to make the relationship work. it wasn't always comfortable but if i said i wasn't going to repeat patterns which caused the problems then i stayed true to my word.

if you want to make it work, what do you have to do? how you have you so far contributed to its current place in the ditch and what are you going to do to make sure it doesn't happen again? good relationships don't just happen. there needs to be intentional behaviours that you must adopt and practise to give it the best shot.

can i suggest as a start, don't ever block him again. problems will never be addressed if you refuse to listen and talk.

I will be thinking about all of this for the next weeks.. i know my mistakes and I know what part my insecurities and trust issues played. I will keep them in mind and put an effort in not letting patters get in the way of my next relationships..

if he’s the right one for me one way or the other we will find each other again. And in case that happens I will make sure I’ve solved my issues.

Thanks a lot

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by the way, mine broke up with me too within the first 6 months. he wanted to have a break from us to sort out his problems. i reacted similarly to you but you know what dawned on me in the early hours one morning after fighting for 2 days straight? he is my friend and he was in trouble. relationships are at their core a friendship where the needs of each of the partner's is met. at his lowest point, he needed something from me and rather than shutting him out and shutting myself down, i realised that being a partner to him meant giving him what he needed from me even if it hurt. i put his needs above my own because i wanted to do everything in my power to support him.

if you go in with the mindset of what can i do to help? what does he need from me in this moment? how do i go about supporting him, then you are halfway there.

Posted by pinkbird03

You want him to be emotionally mature, but he’s probably thinking the same thing about you.

He didn’t communicate properly. He didn’t explain what he was going though and I coundnt hold on longer. There’s a chance he didn’t even give a fuck when he saw my messages btw

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

Posted by LibraCancer05

Posted by jeane

i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

I’m gonna do both.. I learn from everything and this is no exception. But I do hope he finds himself gets well and wants a new start in the future

Thank u for ur time Jeane appreciate it

good luck. i think there is a lot of stop - start in the early stage of a taurus libra combo. i know there was in my relationship.

the best words of advice i can give you is if you promise to do better then do better. from what i learnt many of the early problems were my doing. i had to grow to make the relationship work. it wasn't always comfortable but if i said i wasn't going to repeat patterns which caused the problems then i stayed true to my word.

if you want to make it work, what do you have to do? how you have you so far contributed to its current place in the ditch and what are you going to do to make sure it doesn't happen again? good relationships don't just happen. there needs to be intentional behaviours that you must adopt and practise to give it the best shot.

can i suggest as a start, don't ever block him again. problems will never be addressed if you refuse to listen and talk.

I will be thinking about all of this for the next weeks.. i know my mistakes and I know what part my insecurities and trust issues played. I will keep them in mind and put an effort in not letting patters get in the way of my next relationships..

if he’s the right one for me one way or the other we will find each other again. And in case that happens I will make sure I’ve solved my issues.

Thanks a lot

by the way, mine broke up with me too within the first 6 months. he wanted to have a break from us to sort out his problems. i reacted similarly to you but you know what dawned on me in the early hours one morning after fighting for 2 days straight? he is my friend and he was in trouble. relationships are at their core a friendship where the needs of each of the partner's is met. at his lowest point, he needed something from me and rather than shutting him out and shutting myself down, i realised that being a partner to him meant giving him what he needed from me even if it hurt. i put his needs above my own because i wanted to do everything in my power to support him.

if you go in with the mindset of what can i do to help? what does he need from me in this moment? how do i go about supporting him, then you are halfway there.

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First of all I believe that right now space and time is the only thing in my power... I wanted to be there for him I made it clear but I felt stupid because he cut me off. He shut me down and didkt let me know even when things were going better... I wanted to be there for himm believe me... I will take my time and consider what you are telling me for the future 😞

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What makes you want to be with someone who you see as not right for you?

He’s right for me his current mindset isn’t

But I doubted/doubt his feeling. It’s hard for me to understand why he didn’t check on me in a month. If you love someone you want to know how they are I think

The reason he doesn't want to get in touch with you can be really simple. Like jeane said he might be feeling foolish.

I wouldn't want to spend my time with someone who's going to tell me how i do or don't feel. I'd just feel resentful.

You're better off not rationalising his feelings and accepting him as he is, otherwise that's energy taken away from taking care of your own.

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I didn’t tell him how he felt until this last message.. I never did I never judged I only supported Him and gave him the best

o think I sent that last message in a weak point for me trying to understand how he was feeling because I was drowning myself ,in a negative mindset that if he didn’t get in touch with me was because he didn’t care. And there’s still a chance he doesn’t

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You tell him you deserve someone better and then accuse him of never loving you because he’s working on himself?

You need to learn to control your words.

You can’t take that shit back.

Even if he’s working on himself if he really loved me he would have fucking checked on me once.

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You want him to be emotionally mature, but he’s probably thinking the same thing about you.

He didn’t communicate properly. He didn’t explain what he was going though and I coundnt hold on longer. There’s a chance he didn’t even give a fuck when he saw my messages btw

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Ok. But also consider your reactions and what could of led him to act the way he did.

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i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

I’m gonna do both.. I learn from everything and this is no exception. But I do hope he finds himself gets well and wants a new start in the future

Thank u for ur time Jeane appreciate it

good luck. i think there is a lot of stop - start in the early stage of a taurus libra combo. i know there was in my relationship.

the best words of advice i can give you is if you promise to do better then do better. from what i learnt many of the early problems were my doing. i had to grow to make the relationship work. it wasn't always comfortable but if i said i wasn't going to repeat patterns which caused the problems then i stayed true to my word.

if you want to make it work, what do you have to do? how you have you so far contributed to its current place in the ditch and what are you going to do to make sure it doesn't happen again? good relationships don't just happen. there needs to be intentional behaviours that you must adopt and practise to give it the best shot.

can i suggest as a start, don't ever block him again. problems will never be addressed if you refuse to listen and talk.

I will be thinking about all of this for the next weeks.. i know my mistakes and I know what part my insecurities and trust issues played. I will keep them in mind and put an effort in not letting patters get in the way of my next relationships..

if he’s the right one for me one way or the other we will find each other again. And in case that happens I will make sure I’ve solved my issues.

Thanks a lot

by the way, mine broke up with me too within the first 6 months. he wanted to have a break from us to sort out his problems. i reacted similarly to you but you know what dawned on me in the early hours one morning after fighting for 2 days straight? he is my friend and he was in trouble. relationships are at their core a friendship where the needs of each of the partner's is met. at his lowest point, he needed something from me and rather than shutting him out and shutting myself down, i realised that being a partner to him meant giving him what he needed from me even if it hurt. i put his needs above my own because i wanted to do everything in my power to support him.

if you go in with the mindset of what can i do to help? what does he need from me in this moment? how do i go about supporting him, then you are halfway there.

First of all I believe that right now space and time is the only thing in my power... I wanted to be there for him I made it clear but I felt stupid because he cut me off. He shut me down and didkt let me know even when things were going better... I wanted to be there for himm believe me... I will take my time and consider what you are telling me for the future 😞

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you were there for him by blocking him and breaking up with him? that's crazy talk.

you said you only supported him. well, you supported him until you stopped.

the thing is you're still talking about you! you're still hung up on he doesn't love me because he didn't think about how this is affecting me.

taurus can be really self absorbed at times. they aren't always aware and men deal with things differently than woman. they seek isolation. women don't. this is not about you. he's going to deal with it the way that is best for him and when he is better, he would have come back, appreciative that you gave him the space.

support would have been saying, i'm here for you when you need me and then leave him be. if you want to check up on him now and again do so but you don't say "you don't love me. i deserve better." to a friend who is going through a tough time.

like tiz and others have said, you have to accept the person that he is and if you can't do that then find someone else. you'll only end up resenting each other.

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If a relationship ends you don’t ‘check up’ on the other person. It’s not the way it usually happens.

sorry, i meant check up as in 'check in' ie to see how he is.

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i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

I’m gonna do both.. I learn from everything and this is no exception. But I do hope he finds himself gets well and wants a new start in the future

Thank u for ur time Jeane appreciate it

good luck. i think there is a lot of stop - start in the early stage of a taurus libra combo. i know there was in my relationship.

the best words of advice i can give you is if you promise to do better then do better. from what i learnt many of the early problems were my doing. i had to grow to make the relationship work. it wasn't always comfortable but if i said i wasn't going to repeat patterns which caused the problems then i stayed true to my word.

if you want to make it work, what do you have to do? how you have you so far contributed to its current place in the ditch and what are you going to do to make sure it doesn't happen again? good relationships don't just happen. there needs to be intentional behaviours that you must adopt and practise to give it the best shot.

can i suggest as a start, don't ever block him again. problems will never be addressed if you refuse to listen and talk.

I will be thinking about all of this for the next weeks.. i know my mistakes and I know what part my insecurities and trust issues played. I will keep them in mind and put an effort in not letting patters get in the way of my next relationships..

if he’s the right one for me one way or the other we will find each other again. And in case that happens I will make sure I’ve solved my issues.

Thanks a lot

by the way, mine broke up with me too within the first 6 months. he wanted to have a break from us to sort out his problems. i reacted similarly to you but you know what dawned on me in the early hours one morning after fighting for 2 days straight? he is my friend and he was in trouble. relationships are at their core a friendship where the needs of each of the partner's is met. at his lowest point, he needed something from me and rather than shutting him out and shutting myself down, i realised that being a partner to him meant giving him what he needed from me even if it hurt. i put his needs above my own because i wanted to do everything in my power to support him.

if you go in with the mindset of what can i do to help? what does he need from me in this moment? how do i go about supporting him, then you are halfway there.

First of all I believe that right now space and time is the only thing in my power... I wanted to be there for him I made it clear but I felt stupid because he cut me off. He shut me down and didkt let me know even when things were going better... I wanted to be there for himm believe me... I will take my time and consider what you are telling me for the future 😞

you were there for him by blocking him and breaking up with him? that's crazy talk.

you said you only supported him. well, you supported him until you stopped.

the thing is you're still talking about you! you're still hung up on he doesn't love me because he didn't think about how this is affecting me.

taurus can be really self absorbed at times. they aren't always aware and men deal with things differently than woman. they seek isolation. women don't. this is not about you. he's going to deal with it the way that is best for him and when he is better, he would have come back, appreciative that you gave him the space.

support would have been saying, i'm here for you when you need me and then leave him be. if you want to check up on him now and again do so but you don't say "you don't love me. i deserve better." to a friend who is going through a tough time.

like tiz and others have said, you have to accept the person that he is and if you can't do that then find someone else. you'll only end up resenting each other.

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I get your point... I can only talk about me and I said what I said because I felt he was moving on without me. He didn’t tell me he finally got a job he didn’t tell me he was going to Asia. He broke up with me he pushed me away and I thought he was moving on without me. I felt that if I would have been the right person for him we would still be together and he would be getting better next to me. He broke up with me a bit over a month ago. In good terms I told him to count on me. No word in a month until I text him and I find out he’s actually doing well.

He didn’t care. If he did care he would have checked on me once or shared the good news.

I accepted and loving him for who he is... don’t get me wrong... he had to fix himself and he would have even realized that if it wasn’t for me and my mindset and what I have been though. Bad timing I guess... but there a chance he didn’t care after I sent that message

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i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

I get u... I type to fast and leave away part of the message...

I told him I felt he didn’t love me because he had no problem letting go, he didn’t think what we had was worth staying for because his problems were bigger than his love for me and I am a fool trying to convince myself he could be the one when he didn’t have any interest in checking on me in a month..

I said it because I checked on him and he told me he was doing better and he was going to Asia for a month and I got upset because I felt he was feeling better and moving on without me. A friend of mine told me he might not have texted me because it was hard for him as well anddddd now there’s nothing I can do

I shouldn’t be looking for insight on he’s feelings in a forum tho :l

ok. i get it. i doubt very much that he hates you. if anything he is probably feeling sad and perhaps a little foolish.

do you want him back?

I’d love to.. but I know he doesn’t have the right mindset to be with me.. He has to get rid of his traumas and leave behind people’s expectatiosn and opinions and find himself..

I feel that after that message and blocking him he’s not gonna come back to me even if he gets well and levels up to meet me

i suspect you are probably right. to be fair, i wouldn't meet up with you either.

at this stage, i see you've got two options. either be prepared for some serious grovelling and hope he might want to wipe the slate clean to start slowly (very slowly) trying to rebuild what you had or chalk it up to a learning experience.

I’m gonna do both.. I learn from everything and this is no exception. But I do hope he finds himself gets well and wants a new start in the future

Thank u for ur time Jeane appreciate it

good luck. i think there is a lot of stop - start in the early stage of a taurus libra combo. i know there was in my relationship.

the best words of advice i can give you is if you promise to do better then do better. from what i learnt many of the early problems were my doing. i had to grow to make the relationship work. it wasn't always comfortable but if i said i wasn't going to repeat patterns which caused the problems then i stayed true to my word.

if you want to make it work, what do you have to do? how you have you so far contributed to its current place in the ditch and what are you going to do to make sure it doesn't happen again? good relationships don't just happen. there needs to be intentional behaviours that you must adopt and practise to give it the best shot.

can i suggest as a start, don't ever block him again. problems will never be addressed if you refuse to listen and talk.

I will be thinking about all of this for the next weeks.. i know my mistakes and I know what part my insecurities and trust issues played. I will keep them in mind and put an effort in not letting patters get in the way of my next relationships..

if he’s the right one for me one way or the other we will find each other again. And in case that happens I will make sure I’ve solved my issues.

Thanks a lot

by the way, mine broke up with me too within the first 6 months. he wanted to have a break from us to sort out his problems. i reacted similarly to you but you know what dawned on me in the early hours one morning after fighting for 2 days straight? he is my friend and he was in trouble. relationships are at their core a friendship where the needs of each of the partner's is met. at his lowest point, he needed something from me and rather than shutting him out and shutting myself down, i realised that being a partner to him meant giving him what he needed from me even if it hurt. i put his needs above my own because i wanted to do everything in my power to support him.

if you go in with the mindset of what can i do to help? what does he need from me in this moment? how do i go about supporting him, then you are halfway there.

First of all I believe that right now space and time is the only thing in my power... I wanted to be there for him I made it clear but I felt stupid because he cut me off. He shut me down and didkt let me know even when things were going better... I wanted to be there for himm believe me... I will take my time and consider what you are telling me for the future 😞

you were there for him by blocking him and breaking up with him? that's crazy talk.

you said you only supported him. well, you supported him until you stopped.

the thing is you're still talking about you! you're still hung up on he doesn't love me because he didn't think about how this is affecting me.

taurus can be really self absorbed at times. they aren't always aware and men deal with things differently than woman. they seek isolation. women don't. this is not about you. he's going to deal with it the way that is best for him and when he is better, he would have come back, appreciative that you gave him the space.

support would have been saying, i'm here for you when you need me and then leave him be. if you want to check up on him now and again do so but you don't say "you don't love me. i deserve better." to a friend who is going through a tough time.

like tiz and others have said, you have to accept the person that he is and if you can't do that then find someone else. you'll only end up resenting each other.

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Thanks for the input But my trust issues play a role here. I didn’t trust he was going to come back to me and the fact that he didn’t get in touch with me once in he whole month and he didn’t mentioned us led me to think he wasn’t interested in me. I was ther for him and I felt like a fool because he didn’t even share the good things. He’s not a friend he had my heart and I felt I was waisting it on somebody who was far from loving me back

If he moved continents and started a new job there during the last month, he is now in a different world, where you are merely a pleasant memory.

I get that you are angry, because he moved on, while you still believed to be in a relationship . What did you expect from him.....a LDR? They are difficult and rarely work out. Be realistic, because Taurus often are.

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I get your point... I can only talk about me and I said what I said because I felt he was moving on without me. He didn’t tell me he finally got a job he didn’t tell me he was going to Asia. He broke up with me he pushed me away and I thought he was moving on without me. I felt that if I would have been the right person for him we would still be together and he would be getting better next to me. He broke up with me a bit over a month ago. In good terms I told him to count on me. No word in a month until I text him and I find out he’s actually doing well.

He didn’t care. If he did care he would have checked on me once or shared the good news.

I accepted and loving him for who he is... don’t get me wrong... he had to fix himself and he would have even realized that if it wasn’t for me and my mindset and what I have been though. Bad timing I guess... but there a chance he didn’t care after I sent that message

so you didn't break up with him?

you don't know he didn't care. you assume that.

I think he will forgive you for lashing out, since he sees you are in pain. If in doubt, you can always unblock him. And move on, like he did.

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If he moved continents and started a new job there during the last month, he is now in a different world, where you are merely a pleasant memory.

I get that you are angry, because he moved on, while you still believed to be in a relationship . What did you expect from him.....a LDR? They are difficult and rarely work out. Be realistic, because Taurus often are.

He’s in Asia for a month finding himself and starting a job in th city where we both live in March. Good news he didn’t share with me... but I am probably just a memory indeed and he moved on and didn’t told me

I knew we were on a break but if you care about the other person and you are the one who asked for time apart I believe if he cared he should have checked on me

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I get your point... I can only talk about me and I said what I said because I felt he was moving on without me. He didn’t tell me he finally got a job he didn’t tell me he was going to Asia. He broke up with me he pushed me away and I thought he was moving on without me. I felt that if I would have been the right person for him we would still be together and he would be getting better next to me. He broke up with me a bit over a month ago. In good terms I told him to count on me. No word in a month until I text him and I find out he’s actually doing well.

He didn’t care. If he did care he would have checked on me once or shared the good news.

I accepted and loving him for who he is... don’t get me wrong... he had to fix himself and he would have even realized that if it wasn’t for me and my mindset and what I have been though. Bad timing I guess... but there a chance he didn’t care after I sent that message

so you didn't break up with him?

you don't know he didn't care. you assume that.

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He broke things off and he showed he didn’t care

Otherwise he would have called or texted once during Christmas and New Years.. there was time just lack of interest from his side

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Thanks for the input But my trust issues play a role here. I didn’t trust he was going to come back to me and the fact that he didn’t get in touch with me once in he whole month and he didn’t mentioned us led me to think he wasn’t interested in me. I was ther for him and I felt like a fool because he didn’t even share the good things. He’s not a friend he had my heart and I felt I was waisting it on somebody who was far from loving me back

ok. i didn't realise you guys weren't friends. i don't know how that works then. i can't imagine being in a relationship with someone who isn't my friend.

i suppose if you weren't friends, he broke up with you and there hasn't been any contact since then, then there really isn't much for you to cling to.

sounds like this might be dead in the water.

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Thanks for the input But my trust issues play a role here. I didn’t trust he was going to come back to me and the fact that he didn’t get in touch with me once in he whole month and he didn’t mentioned us led me to think he wasn’t interested in me. I was ther for him and I felt like a fool because he didn’t even share the good things. He’s not a friend he had my heart and I felt I was waisting it on somebody who was far from loving me back

ok. i didn't realise you guys weren't friends. i don't know how that works then. i can't imagine being in a relationship with someone who isn't my friend.

i suppose if you weren't friends, he broke up with you and there hasn't been any contact since then, then there really isn't much for you to cling to.

sounds like this might be dead in the water.

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During the relationship of course we were friends.. but I can’t stay friends with someone I was in love with and broke things off...

but I’ve figured out that no reason to stay is a reason to leave...

dead in the water indeed

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i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

How is stroke going? Lol

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If he moved continents and started a new job there during the last month, he is now in a different world, where you are merely a pleasant memory.

I get that you are angry, because he moved on, while you still believed to be in a relationship . What did you expect from him.....a LDR? They are difficult and rarely work out. Be realistic, because Taurus often are.

He’s in Asia for a month finding himself and starting a job in th city where we both live in March. Good news he didn’t share with me... but I am probably just a memory indeed and he moved on and didn’t told me

I knew we were on a break but if you care about the other person and you are the one who asked for time apart I believe if he cared he should have checked on me

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I see...

Did you know that is good to keep "no contact" for at least a month if you are on a "relationship break"? It allows couples to see if they miss each other...if there is more than sexual attraction to their relationship. If they are patient and trust each other....

Anyway, I would unblock him after a month or so, just so you don't check your phone constantly for his texts. Take care of yourself. Imagine yourself starting afresh, without him in your life. Do things you enjoy, spend time with friends.

When he returns from Asia, he may or may try to meet up with you. I had a couple of Tauruses chasing me, and they were both extremely resilient and persistent, I'm warning you :-). If you want to give him a second chance, you two need to have a face to face talk, and see how you take it from there.

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i think i'm having a stroke because none of your post made any sense to me.

How is stroke going? Lol

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it's ongoing.

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If he moved continents and started a new job there during the last month, he is now in a different world, where you are merely a pleasant memory.

I get that you are angry, because he moved on, while you still believed to be in a relationship . What did you expect from him.....a LDR? They are difficult and rarely work out. Be realistic, because Taurus often are.

He’s in Asia for a month finding himself and starting a job in th city where we both live in March. Good news he didn’t share with me... but I am probably just a memory indeed and he moved on and didn’t told me

I knew we were on a break but if you care about the other person and you are the one who asked for time apart I believe if he cared he should have checked on me

I see...

Did you know that is good to keep "no contact" for at least a month if you are on a "relationship break"? It allows couples to see if they miss each other...if there is more than sexual attraction to their relationship. If they are patient and trust each other....

Anyway, I would unblock him after a month or so, just so you don't check your phone constantly for his texts. Take care of yourself. Imagine yourself starting afresh, without him in your life. Do things you enjoy, spend time with friends.

When he returns from Asia, he may or may try to meet up with you. I had a couple of Tauruses chasing me, and they were both extremely resilient and persistent, I'm warning you :-). If you want to give him a second chance, you two need to have a face to face talk, and see how you take it from there.

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Thank you for taking your time... I didn’t know no.. but I have quite some trust issues and the fact that he didn’t share the good news and I had to check on him led me to think he didn’t care and I was being played... and because of the pain I failed to see his perspective when I’m quite empathic... there’s a chance he didn’t care about me/us and that message..

I’m taking your advice.. I’m in my home country away from him spending time with my family and old friends taking care of myself working out, reading etc... I’m restarting my life again..

I hope he understands where that message was coming from and doesn’t hate me

"I hope he understands where that message was coming from and doesn’t hate me"

I'm sure he does! It was a very emotional message, and we are emotional because we care....

Taurus is a fixed, resilient sign. I also did mean things to them...once I publically humiliated one of them, in a lecture theatre, in front of our colleagues, tearing up the letter he gave me, rejecting the flowers, and snapping at him....and it was him who apologised, poor soul. A few months later he tried again...and again....but always gentle and polite. I smile when I remember him!

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You want him to be emotionally mature, but he’s probably thinking the same thing about you.

I get your point... I should have explained him that part better. I was willing to talk though problems but he pushed me away and he didn’t have any interest in solving anything with me... otherwise he would have been in touch with me...

I held on as long as I could... but no reason to stay is a reason to leave