I refuse to....

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GemJenn
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Fall into a routine again, did that with my ex and it sucked....

I need spontaneity, I don't want you to ask I want you to take, life doesn't have to be all planned, think with your heart not your head sometimes, don't take me for granted, stay up all night and call in the next day once in awhile and above all never mistake my kindness for weakness cause its not I am a pleaser, I want to make you feel special....

Random thoughts for tonight....who's up and mind wandering?
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But how do you stop yourself when I believe it is an inbuilt thing...from the moment you were born to this world your mother set your example and most of us were taught to look after your man first...how many of us will go without to make sure everyone else is fed fully. When you shop, you buy the ice cream flavours that they want before the one that you want 9 times out of 10. Putting others first is what we are taught and it's a hard habit to break when we want to give, that's how we show our love...I think we are our own worst enemy!
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GemJenn
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Posted by sweethearts
But how do you stop yourself when I believe it is an inbuilt thing...from the moment you were born to this world your mother set your example and most of us were taught to look after your man first...how many of us will go without to make sure everyone else is fed fully. When you shop, you buy the ice cream flavours that they want before the one that you want 9 times out of 10. Putting others first is what we are taught and it's a hard habit to break when we want to give, that's how we show our love...I think we are our own worst enemy!



Agreed. But how do you walk that thin line to make sure it's not perceived as a weakness?
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Posted by GemJenn
Stoic,

You know me I talk to myself and sometimes answer myself....does that make me insane? _—Ummm never mind don't answer that lol How have you been doing??

Rather more work than play, I'm afraid, but well enough. Thank you for asking. Hadn't seen you around for a while, so when I saw your name on the front page I just thought I'd say hi 🙂

It could be argued that does technically meet the definition of insanity, but I think it sounds more delusional than anything else. Remember, the only normal people are the ones you don't know that well 😛
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GemJenn
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Delusional? Lol that could very well be true....like I said I wish I could turn off the constant chatter in my head, to be the type of person that simply can go to bed at night and not analyze things to death!! That would be great in my current relationship where I always wonder were I stand!! Ok I told you I was gonna get his chart but I don't have birth time VIRGOKING pulled it up and it's posted under the Virgo board in thread I posted to him. I want to hear your take on how we match up...your VERY detailed on that stuff and I like it!!