I Regret Being Judgmental..

When it comes to other singles hooking up with taken people. But only others hooking up with people who's partners/spouses who they dont know or are not friends with.

Getting older, I understand the appeal if you are just looking for a casual lay. Taken brings drama in terms of their partner/spouse finding out BUT in terms of them getting attached to you, it's somewhat less when compared to other singles.

Taken people can still get attached to people they are fooling around with dont get me wrong but as not as much as when it happens with other singles doing the FB thing.

It's hard finding single women out there who are strictly DTF. They are out there, but not a huge amount. Because either half of them were raised with conservative attitudes towards sex - (waiting until they find someone that is relationship material) or falling in love with someone solely off lust and sexual chemistry.

I want to be clear - I think it is fine with people that want to wait till they find someone that may be relationship material. Good for them.

I do take issue however, with people past their early 20's that still fall in love based off the fact that someone gave them an orgasm. That is immature, and sadly a lot of that is around.

But see right now for me, I dont have time nor am in a good situation personally or financially to have a relationship. All I can right now is FWB until I move in February of next year. So I have no issue if out of the blue, a girl that's taken wants to knock boots with me.

BUT.. that's only if I dont know the guy she is dating. If a guy was a friend I would tell her to get lost. But someone I dont know? Not my problem.

I mean hell, if I dated a girl that cheated on me with a stranger, I am not going to be mad at him since I dont know him. I would be mad at her

I do wish the dating scene for singles was easier in terms of doing fwb, but it is not. I'll never judge someone again thats single doing a fwb with someone taken provided they are not friends with or related to the spouse.

Anyone else come to that conclusion when looking for an fb situation?

No personally, I don't think I would feel safe with another women's significant other. Do you know how many crimes are committed because of such things? Sex is not worth that to me. People who do it are 100% risk takers in my opinion

@SAG888-

I totally respect that and dont blame you. For me if I am hooking up with a taken woman, I keep it to one time usually. And really feel them out to make sure they arent the type to fall in love based off sex.

If I am getting a bad vibe I dont even go through with it.

Otherwise I am very clear with them after the fact it is a one time thing.

I am not saying sexual chemistry isnt an attraction builder because it is. But to fall in love with someone solely on that with no mental connection? That's a teenager's mentality to me.

Maybe I got my mom's venus in virgo mentality where personality and character are essential traits for me to fall in love with someone.

Posted by slowdive80

@SAG888-

I totally respect that and dont blame you. For me if I am hooking up with a taken woman, I keep it to one time usually. And really feel them out to make sure they arent the type to fall in love based off sex.

If I am getting a bad vibe I dont even go through with it.

Otherwise I am very clear with them after the fact it is a one time thing.

I am not saying sexual chemistry isnt an attraction builder because it is. But to fall in love with someone solely on that with no mental connection? That's a teenager's mentality to me.

Maybe I got my mom's venus in virgo mentality where personality and character are essential traits for me to fall in love with someone.

famous last words, my friend 🙂

Posted by slowdive80

@SAG888-

I totally respect that and dont blame you. For me if I am hooking up with a taken woman, I keep it to one time usually. And really feel them out to make sure they arent the type to fall in love based off sex.

If I am getting a bad vibe I dont even go through with it.

Otherwise I am very clear with them after the fact it is a one time thing.

I am not saying sexual chemistry isnt an attraction builder because it is. But to fall in love with someone solely on that with no mental connection? That's a teenager's mentality to me.

Maybe I got my mom's venus in virgo mentality where personality and character are essential traits for me to fall in love with someone.

Like if you can help it if chemistry get you hard!

There's plenty of willing fwb situations out there. You don't have to get with someone else's woman to find that.

When does your jerry springer episode air?

It will probably be a Maury episode. But no, I am pretty discreet if I hook up with a taken person

I ask for email instead of phone number preferably work one.

And I use an email with a different name just to cover my tracks.

Plus I would never hookup where I or she live. Not happening, hotel all the way.

And if that is too weird for them, tough luck.

If I am going to hook up with someone taken whose significant other i dont know it is usally just one time.

You have to understand that where I live is nothing but college age girls. And the only ones down for just hooking up usually give themselves liquid courage to do so.

Sorry, but when someone is not 100% cognizant of what they are doing and then dealing with a potential rape accusation because of her having buyer's remorse is not my thing.

Never hooked up with a drunk girl even though I have had opportunities. Besides, someone that has to get drunk to have casual sex is a complete turn off for me.

I am trying to move out of the town I live so I have more opportunities to date at least late 20's to 30's.

I am focused on moving but if I meet an attractive girl who wants to hook up, I am not going to dismiss because she is taken.