Is anyone ever happily married?

Behind closed doors, are people happy or is it just a show? What do you think... does the good part die after a while or can people actually keep it forever? Are the ones that last because of loyalty over happiness?

Posted by AnotherTaurusGuyReturns

I suppose you will never really know because you can’t be sure what happens behind closed doors.

That's true. I guess no one knows except for the couple and maybe their children

Posted by Ellygant

You can never know every nuance between a couple. However I have been deeply appreciative that I am friends with a few people who entrusted to me more honesty than most about their marriages.

From my understanding, there were always times of deep unhappiness and disconnection in every one of them. Each couple chose to learn more about who they are as a couple and individually from those phases though. They could have chosen to walk away and learn other things. I’m pretty sure for at least one of them I thought they should too at one point. But again, the whole not knowing thing what’s behind closed doors, they chose to stay and the difference with each other and their individual selves is amazing.

So I definitely think it’s possible. But it’s not always going to be what you think or hope, but I see that as a beautiful thing.

Half end in divorce and some are cheating or unhappy but stay together, so the chance of being happily married seems out of reach for most people. Seems like shitty odds.

Definitely worth trying...just so you can answer your own question.

I’ve not seen totally happy marriages. Unless people are in denial.

Yes

I know a sag and libra couple

They are so happy, I don’t know how, they are just happy.

I think couples who settle for someone they are really not compatible with, but have a strong sexual relationship are the ones who don’t last. Also, those who believe that the other person’s job is to make them happy will not last. Plus, the fairytale people, oh man, they’d definitely have a hard time with a long lasting relationship.😂😂

But yes, my friend’s grandparents look happy! Super cute Sag and Libra couple. Still together after almost a lifetime together. I asked her how they made it, she said: “He lets me be who I am and I let him be who he is. We loved each other for who we are. And he makes me laugh.” He chimed in and said, “She let me eat sweets.” 😂😂😂

They are pretty funny together.



They seem to cope well with things going on around them too though. Learn to cope with the ups and downs of life and find someone who does also? 🤔 Maybe that’s it?

I think it’s hard to say cuz sometimes one person is happy but the other is not. That’s why a lot of guys are in shock when their girl decides to leave them. I only know the guys’ perspective cuz I met a lot of guys through online dating, and all of the divorced ones told me that they were happily married (from their point of view but blindsided obviously) and was shocked when their wife filed a divorce. No one I met told me they saw it coming. No one.

Posted by Elissar18

Behind closed doors, are people happy or is it just a show? What do you think... does the good part die after a while or can people actually keep it forever? Are the ones that last because of loyalty over happiness?

Every relationship is different. I think a marriage, absent any kind of abuse, addiction, and adultery, could be happy until the end. If the couple is committed to one another and legitimately loves one another. And if they do their best to treat each other with respect and kindness. Does this mean there will never be disagreements, tensions, arguments, shouting, or hurt feelings? No. Life would be really sweet if that were the case, but as we're all human beings who make mistakes and frankly SUCK sometimes...