stillstillwater
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Is it really love?
People love themselves most of all in the west. We are raised on that consumerist-brand-yourself-on-social-media diet.
Love is subjective and means different things to people regardless of where they live. But there is dating culture and how the general culture feels about dating, romance, sex etc.
In the US especially in the younger generations, there's not a rush to get married anymore, it's not a major cultural issue. So people take their time and hookup culture is big. Personally I like that people are going slower, I think it leads to a lasting relationship, if that's what the couple(s) want.
I live in a state that is a mix of liberal progressive and conservative. You drive to one of the major college cities and it'll be how you described but in the smaller more rural areas people will ask if you're married before your even 21!
In the US especially in the younger generations, there's not a rush to get married anymore, it's not a major cultural issue. So people take their time and hookup culture is big. Personally I like that people are going slower, I think it leads to a lasting relationship, if that's what the couple(s) want.
I live in a state that is a mix of liberal progressive and conservative. You drive to one of the major college cities and it'll be how you described but in the smaller more rural areas people will ask if you're married before your even 21!
someone posted this a little while ago. it is long but incredibly fascinating about love and living in romanticism.
Does anybody really believe there is an answer to a question that people trying to find since the world turns...
Posted by BathHouseCulturePosted by LadyNeptune
People love themselves most of all in the west. We are raised on that consumerist-brand-yourself-on-social-media diet.
That corporate vector love.
I don’t get it.click to expand
So we will be all about material things aka a good little consumer. Buy more.
Its all about the money.
Posted by Gemitati
Does anybody really believe there is an answer to a question that people trying to find since the world turns...
not asking what love is. Asking different culture's take on it.
I can clearly tell you that in N. America it's taken very seriously and people try to avoid saying it for as long as possible. Love even at times is looked at as a weakness aka the player mentality.
Posted by jeane
someone posted this a little while ago. it is long but incredibly fascinating about love and living in romanticism.
I haven't seen that video but you mentioning romanticism, reminds me of the impact of how it's reflected in a culture especially within it's media. Really good and interesting point.
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Does anybody really believe there is an answer to a question that people trying to find since the world turns...
not asking what love is. Asking different culture's take on it.
I can clearly tell you that in N. America it's taken very seriously and people try to avoid saying it for as long as possible. Love even at times is looked as at weakness aka the player mentality.click to expand
I don’t wait. I say it as soon I am feeling like saying it...
Posted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Does anybody really believe there is an answer to a question that people trying to find since the world turns...
not asking what love is. Asking different culture's take on it.
I can clearly tell you that in N. America it's taken very seriously and people try to avoid saying it for as long as possible. Love even at times is looked as at weakness aka the player mentality.
I don’t wait. I say it as soon I am feeling like saying it...click to expand
That's beautiful 🙂
Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Does anybody really believe there is an answer to a question that people trying to find since the world turns...
not asking what love is. Asking different culture's take on it.
I can clearly tell you that in N. America it's taken very seriously and people try to avoid saying it for as long as possible. Love even at times is looked as at weakness aka the player mentality.
I don’t wait. I say it as soon I am feeling like saying it...
That's beautiful 🙂click to expand
I am just always warn that it’s not ‘we need to her married...I love you!
It’s I love you for the person you are...’ when it’ll be ‘I love you marry me...he will KNOW!’
other things, is being able to put aside your own selfish wants & needs, and instead put someone else's needs & wants first - even if it hurts you.Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Does anybody really believe there is an answer to a question that people trying to find since the world turns...
not asking what love is. Asking different culture's take on it.
I can clearly tell you that in N. America it's taken very seriously and people try to avoid saying it for as long as possible. Love even at times is looked as at weakness aka the player mentality.
I don’t wait. I say it as soon I am feeling like saying it...
That's beautiful 🙂click to expand
Yeah and how has it worked out for her so far? Being a booty call for sidepiece after sidepiece, while her oaf of a cucked hubby is scratching his bawlz on the couch.
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Love, among other things, is being able to put aside your own selfish wants & needs, and instead put someone else's needs & wants first - even if it hurts you.Posted by stillstillwaterPosted by GemitatiPosted by stillstillwaterPosted by Gemitati
Does anybody really believe there is an answer to a question that people trying to find since the world turns...
not asking what love is. Asking different culture's take on it.
I can clearly tell you that in N. America it's taken very seriously and people try to avoid saying it for as long as possible. Love even at times is looked as at weakness aka the player mentality.
I don’t wait. I say it as soon I am feeling like saying it...
That's beautiful 🙂
Yeah and how has it worked out for her so far? Being a booty call for sidepiece after sidepiece, while her oaf of a cucked hubby is scratching his bawlz on the couch.click to expand
ayy i'm just responding at face value...not taking into account any context. I think it's nice when people embrace it.
I don't think love is cultural. I think it's individual. Marriage isn't always love. Sometimes it's arranged, for money, a ticket out of a bad home, convenience or like a business deal. Love is something that develops over time and it isn't real until you see the worst of each other and lay out your secrets and really know each other. Anything less than that is fake because the person doesn't love you, they just love who you're pretending to be. I think a lot of people scam someone into loving them by pretending and faking an entire relationship. Then when the mask falls off, and they end up divorced.
I think love is often confused for caring for someone and wanting them in your life because you fear failure or being alone or because people don't think they can find someone better so they settle for bad relationships. If it's real, it mutual and not what you hope it could be or how it was. You love for how it is, unconditionally without wanting anything to change. I think the use of the word is mostly empty and just because people say it, doesn't mean they actually mean it.
I think love is often confused for caring for someone and wanting them in your life because you fear failure or being alone or because people don't think they can find someone better so they settle for bad relationships. If it's real, it mutual and not what you hope it could be or how it was. You love for how it is, unconditionally without wanting anything to change. I think the use of the word is mostly empty and just because people say it, doesn't mean they actually mean it.
Posted by stillstillwater
So I've been thinking about this.... what different cultures consider Love. For example North American culture is pretty much set up against love and it takes a lot for people to consider themselves in love. There are tons of other words people use before using the "L" word: obsessed, infatuated, sprung, connection, chemistry etc.
However, there are other cultures that are open to love right away, may be even sometimes too quick such as Asian and Middle Eastern cultures.
I'm starting to be bothered how in N. America it takes so long and so much introspection for one to consider themselves in love like love is a chain that if you utter it then cannot be undone. I mean there is such thing as falling in and out of love but sometimes here it's taken too seriously to the point that it becomes crippling to people: paralysis by analysis.
Thoughts? What part of the world are you from and how do people view love in your community?
To me, love is action. What that love do?
I'm not down wit sadness and pain... uh-uh... wherher parents, children, friends, or lovers.
I observe in community that most associate love with pain, anguish, confusion, humiliation or mild suffering.
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