My Venus in Scorpio EX is stalking me...

Sag girl with Scorpio venus. We were like soulmates and had a lot of fun. Then she broke it up 5 months ago. She said she doesn't trust me (she has trust issues with men due to past scars, she has big walls). I never talked with her again.

The next days she viewed the 2 stories I uploaded on Instagram. I was hurting so I removed her from my followers and I stopped following her on IG. A few days later I set my profile public so she and everyone can see.

I started travelling the world and living life to the fullest. And ofc posting amazing pics on IG.

She never again was on the my stories' viewers list. *BUT* then I started to add my stories to Highlights.

Highlights stories older than 24h you can't see who viewed them, BUT if the story is both on HL + regular profile story (the first 24 h), then you can know who views them those 24h.

So I tried this. I uploaded some of the new stories to both my profile + Highlights. Then I watched the viewers... and my ex gf was there!

This happened the first time I tried. 2 months after the breakup. The very first time I did this "trick", she fell for it and she was there on my viewers (probably thinking I won't know - because she clicked HLs instead of my stories. She never has watched regular stories these months)

I tried again 2 weeks later and she again watched my HL story in the first hours I shared it.

This happened 4 times. 4 "traps" I set (one every month), 4 times she is stalking my IG Highlights. 4 out of 4. Probably she does this *every single day*.

I mean Eg: If she only watched my HLs once every 15-30 days, it would be very difficult to exactly watch my story on the first 24 hours, so she would not appear on my viewers list... But she is there falling for it all these months...

The 5th time was 2 weeks ago. I uploaded a story, then HighLighted it, then 2-3h later that same evening, she was there watching it, stalking my IG again... All of this, 5 months after she broke it...

What do you think? Is Venus Scorpio a stalker? Do you have hard time letting go? Is she just curious or could this be obsessed stalking *every-single-day*? Is she having second thoughts but hurt/proud? Will Sagittarius sun/Scorpio venus come back?

What is your experience with this?

Venus in Scorpio stalking?

Surely not

😃🥴🤡

Posted by MyStarsShine

Venus in Scorpio stalking?

Surely not

😃🥴🤡

Why do that?

Doors is open for the future? Otherwise you just keep the wounds open and don't walk towards the future... 🙄

Any advice?

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Venus in Scorpio stalking?

Surely not

😃🥴🤡

Why do that?

Doors is open for the future? Otherwise you just keep the wounds open and don't walk towards the future... 🙄

Any advice?

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Pluto ruled Scorpio finds it very hard to let go....

Well all I got to contribute to this is at least your sag sun Scorpio Venus ex stalking you on a social media platform whereas mines used to stalk me everywhere I go long before Instagram existed. If it bothers you that bad just delete altogether. I bet that'll put an end to things.

How long did you date for? Anyway I think it’s stupid they call this sort of thing stalking. It’s more like paying attention, curiosity. I personally as a Sag but not a Scorpio venus would never go back, or even say a word. Pay attention yes. And this amount of time is nothing when I cared for someone 😂😂 Feels like you are playing games though.. just to see if she will look.

I'm jealous.

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I'm jealous.

Why ?

You’re setting up traps for her to watch your stories and she’s the stalker? You opened up your page AFTER you took her off your friends list just so she could still have access to you as well 😏🤣🤣🤣

Why not just contact her? 🙄

I check in on anyone that I have loved.

The fact that she didn’t watch your stories and only checked them when she thought you wouldn’t know makes it seem like she misses you but for whatever reason doesn’t want to bother you with it. -Probably her pride.

If you miss her then hit her up and start talking to her again.

It’s pretty easy to fix. Instead of this trap game that no one wins.

You checking on what she’s checking on that your checking is a game that will get you no where pretty fast.

" I set my profile public so she and everyone can see [...]. 4 "traps" I set (one every month), 4 times she is stalking my IG Highlights. [...] The 5th time was 2 weeks ago. [...] What do you think? Is Venus Scorpio a stalker?"

LMAO

I think you, Scorpio Mars, are a bit obsessed and prone to stalking. You set 5 "traps" for her, after all! Do you consider everyone watching your IG as a stalker?! 😄 What she does doesn't have to mean a thing, apart from curiosity and habit.

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I'm jealous.

Why ?

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If she broke it off and is checking for signs that you miss her THAT is a rare occasion.

Sag women keep a tight reign on giving any notion that they haven't moved on.

But the again it is venus retrograde so anything is possible.

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Why not just contact her? 🙄

I check in on anyone that I have loved.

The fact that she didn’t watch your stories and only checked them when she thought you wouldn’t know makes it seem like she misses you but for whatever reason doesn’t want to bother you with it. -Probably her pride.

If you miss her then hit her up and start talking to her again.

It’s pretty easy to fix. Instead of this trap game that no one wins.

Yes, pride. Both.

Checking close to every day? 5 months?

Yes, I miss her so much.

How can you fix that she doesn't trust you? She has a problem with men (big old wounds). I'm very social but I am in love with her and love her as I have never loved anyone. I always been loyal and faithful with all my gfs but she has trust issues. I always was honest with her and no secrets but I'm Scorpio Mars too and have my wounds and it's not always easy for me to open up. 🤔🤷‍♂️

Thanks for the feedback! I appreciate it! 💯

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You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

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Why not just contact her? 🙄

I check in on anyone that I have loved.

The fact that she didn’t watch your stories and only checked them when she thought you wouldn’t know makes it seem like she misses you but for whatever reason doesn’t want to bother you with it. -Probably her pride.

If you miss her then hit her up and start talking to her again.

It’s pretty easy to fix. Instead of this trap game that no one wins.

Yes, pride. Both.

Checking close to every day? 5 months?

Yes, I miss her so much.

How can you fix that she doesn't trust you? She has a problem with men (big old wounds). I'm very social but I am in love with her and love her as I have never loved anyone. I always been loyal and faithful with all my gfs but she has trust issues. I always was honest with her and no secrets but I'm Scorpio Mars too and have my wounds and it's not always easy for me to open up. 🤔🤷‍♂️

Thanks for the feedback! I appreciate it! 💯

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Just contact her and tell her you miss her and love her- How is that not trusting?

She needs to work on her insecurities and not blame you for it- Be direct and tell her that. Her problems with men have nothing to do with you. Look at how her insecurities sabotaged the relationship already.

I think Sag is the one sign you can be open and direct with and they can handle the feedback very well. 5 months isn't long at all.

But hit her up and say hi and ask how she's been doing if you want things to start up again, she's been viewing your stories so she has to miss you still.

Sag will try again and again as long as the person they love comes back. She may have regretted her decision on the break up, but couldn't do much about it once she put it in motion.

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You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

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Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

"I started travelling the world and living life to the fullest. And ofc posting amazing pics on IG."

And where are you traveling to without taking her??!! 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭

SO MEAN! 🥺

My Scorpio ex never did anything despite all of his ♏ placements. He never loved me I guess 🤷‍♀️💔

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Why not just contact her? 🙄

I check in on anyone that I have loved.

The fact that she didn’t watch your stories and only checked them when she thought you wouldn’t know makes it seem like she misses you but for whatever reason doesn’t want to bother you with it. -Probably her pride.

If you miss her then hit her up and start talking to her again.

It’s pretty easy to fix. Instead of this trap game that no one wins.

Yes, pride. Both.

Checking close to every day? 5 months?

Yes, I miss her so much.

How can you fix that she doesn't trust you? She has a problem with men (big old wounds). I'm very social but I am in love with her and love her as I have never loved anyone. I always been loyal and faithful with all my gfs but she has trust issues. I always was honest with her and no secrets but I'm Scorpio Mars too and have my wounds and it's not always easy for me to open up. 🤔🤷‍♂️

Thanks for the feedback! I appreciate it! 💯

Vulnerability, NOT game playing is how to win her back. Swallow your pride and be vulnerable. She will never trust you as long as you keep these power struggles going, and you won’t win.

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Thanks for the insight. And I agree with VULNERABILITY.

I just did as she asked me for, when she broke up. She said to cut all contact. It hurt a lot. But I did.

Prior to this, I already spent 5-6 months (previous breakup) texting, trying to meet up, etc and she was avoiding me. Finally we came back for 2 months. She said she had met people but never found a connection like ours. Anyways, after reuniting, some days she was super happy, other days doubting. Until this breakup happened. Then I just stopped trying and tried to move on but I can't

You playing games too

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Posted by MyStarsShine

Venus in Scorpio stalking?

Surely not

😃🥴🤡

Why do that?

Doors is open for the future? Otherwise you just keep the wounds open and don't walk towards the future... 🙄

Any advice?

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No need to worry. She still obsessed and checking up on you is like reading the newspaper. It’s routine.

Once she gets obsessed with something/someone else, she’ll move on and you’ll be the only one left stalking

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Posted by saggurl88

Why not just contact her? 🙄

I check in on anyone that I have loved.

The fact that she didn’t watch your stories and only checked them when she thought you wouldn’t know makes it seem like she misses you but for whatever reason doesn’t want to bother you with it. -Probably her pride.

If you miss her then hit her up and start talking to her again.

It’s pretty easy to fix. Instead of this trap game that no one wins.

Yes, pride. Both.

Checking close to every day? 5 months?

Yes, I miss her so much.

How can you fix that she doesn't trust you? She has a problem with men (big old wounds). I'm very social but I am in love with her and love her as I have never loved anyone. I always been loyal and faithful with all my gfs but she has trust issues. I always was honest with her and no secrets but I'm Scorpio Mars too and have my wounds and it's not always easy for me to open up. 🤔🤷‍♂️

Thanks for the feedback! I appreciate it! 💯

Vulnerability, NOT game playing is how to win her back. Swallow your pride and be vulnerable. She will never trust you as long as you keep these power struggles going, and you won’t win.

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From what I gathered from the other Sagittarius/Gemini posts,

Gemini don’t like the direct approach.

They like to play with their food.

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You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

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Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

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Posted by saggurl88

Why not just contact her? 🙄

I check in on anyone that I have loved.

The fact that she didn’t watch your stories and only checked them when she thought you wouldn’t know makes it seem like she misses you but for whatever reason doesn’t want to bother you with it. -Probably her pride.

If you miss her then hit her up and start talking to her again.

It’s pretty easy to fix. Instead of this trap game that no one wins.

Yes, pride. Both.

Checking close to every day? 5 months?

Yes, I miss her so much.

How can you fix that she doesn't trust you? She has a problem with men (big old wounds). I'm very social but I am in love with her and love her as I have never loved anyone. I always been loyal and faithful with all my gfs but she has trust issues. I always was honest with her and no secrets but I'm Scorpio Mars too and have my wounds and it's not always easy for me to open up. 🤔🤷‍♂️

Thanks for the feedback! I appreciate it! 💯

Vulnerability, NOT game playing is how to win her back. Swallow your pride and be vulnerable. She will never trust you as long as you keep these power struggles going, and you won’t win.

Thanks for the insight. And I agree with VULNERABILITY.

I just did as she asked me for, when she broke up. She said to cut all contact. It hurt a lot. But I did.

Prior to this, I already spent 5-6 months (previous breakup) texting, trying to meet up, etc and she was avoiding me. Finally we came back for 2 months. She said she had met people but never found a connection like ours. Anyways, after reuniting, some days she was super happy, other days doubting. Until this breakup happened. Then I just stopped trying and tried to move on but I can't

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Seems like something else is interfering. You guys have broken up twice already? What is she doubting if you are being as loyal as you say? People don't have break ups for no reason.

You say both of you have walls up- Maybe it's time to be open and communicate and break some of them down.

It would clear up a lot of unsaid issues. You guys should have a sit down of some sort at air everything out and compromise and try to come to an understanding.

Communication, consistency, and compromise are great building blocks to have a healthy relationship.

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Posted by Krabss

You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

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Distance is a defense mechanism. And breaking up goes one of 2 ways.. you don’t care and you never talk again, pay attention etc. you move on. Or you have trouble letting go fully and you pay attention to what they are doing. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t do that.

I’m sorry that way of breaking up almost seems a cry for help. You never talked to her again, so seems she was right.

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Posted by saggurl88

Why not just contact her? 🙄

I check in on anyone that I have loved.

The fact that she didn’t watch your stories and only checked them when she thought you wouldn’t know makes it seem like she misses you but for whatever reason doesn’t want to bother you with it. -Probably her pride.

If you miss her then hit her up and start talking to her again.

It’s pretty easy to fix. Instead of this trap game that no one wins.

Yes, pride. Both.

Checking close to every day? 5 months?

Yes, I miss her so much.

How can you fix that she doesn't trust you? She has a problem with men (big old wounds). I'm very social but I am in love with her and love her as I have never loved anyone. I always been loyal and faithful with all my gfs but she has trust issues. I always was honest with her and no secrets but I'm Scorpio Mars too and have my wounds and it's not always easy for me to open up. 🤔🤷‍♂️

Thanks for the feedback! I appreciate it! 💯

Vulnerability, NOT game playing is how to win her back. Swallow your pride and be vulnerable. She will never trust you as long as you keep these power struggles going, and you won’t win.

From what I gathered from the other Sagittarius/Gemini posts,

Gemini don’t like the direct approach.

They like to play with their food.

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Most Gemini men have to be taught to be direct, otherwise they will do this and you will get no where with them.

The more direct and firm you are with them, the more they realize they need to be this way as well and they will adapt and do it.

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Posted by Krabss

You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

Distance is a defense mechanism. And breaking up goes one of 2 ways.. you don’t care and you never talk again, pay attention etc. you move on. Or you have trouble letting go fully and you pay attention to what they are doing. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t do that.

I’m sorry that way of breaking up almost seems a cry for help. You never talked to her again, so seems she was right.

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Lol when people say it's over, it's over. If she has problem letting go its easy: COMMUNICATION. Say "hey I miss you, how are you? can we talk things?"

I already was persistant for 5/6 months before breaking up this time. And she literally said the last time: "let's cut all Contact". I was hurt af. And I just stopped running behind her.

Your posts seem like you judging me like a bad guy and she poor needs help and I don't care. But I am just respecting her wishes and protecting my heart. I already gave 100% to come back once and she broke my heart again. Sorry but if she wants me, she knows what to do. She knows my feelings, she knows I wanted her and fought for her for 5-6 months to be dumped again

LOL I was 5/6 months texting her (before this breakup), calling, trying to meet her, ignored, etc while she was meeting new guys. And I am the "passive" and indirect Gemini. She: watches IG, "misses me" and does nothing but is the "direct" Saggitarius.

LoL. Can't make this stuff up

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Posted by Krabss

You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

Distance is a defense mechanism. And breaking up goes one of 2 ways.. you don’t care and you never talk again, pay attention etc. you move on. Or you have trouble letting go fully and you pay attention to what they are doing. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t do that.

I’m sorry that way of breaking up almost seems a cry for help. You never talked to her again, so seems she was right.

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In fact, a few days ago I ate my pride and wished her a Happy Birthday and said hope everything is going well

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You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

Distance is a defense mechanism. And breaking up goes one of 2 ways.. you don’t care and you never talk again, pay attention etc. you move on. Or you have trouble letting go fully and you pay attention to what they are doing. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t do that.

I’m sorry that way of breaking up almost seems a cry for help. You never talked to her again, so seems she was right.

In fact, a few days ago I ate my pride and wished her a Happy Birthday and said hope everything is going well

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Did she message back?

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You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

Distance is a defense mechanism. And breaking up goes one of 2 ways.. you don’t care and you never talk again, pay attention etc. you move on. Or you have trouble letting go fully and you pay attention to what they are doing. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t do that.

I’m sorry that way of breaking up almost seems a cry for help. You never talked to her again, so seems she was right.

In fact, a few days ago I ate my pride and wished her a Happy Birthday and said hope everything is going well

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Just saying that it seems like you were done. Not sure about her. But, look that got more information from you about the situation lol

I’m not judging just noticing & pointing out a couple things. I guess it isn’t never communicated anything after all. Seems perhaps a heart to heart discussion might be a good idea, to resolve whatever needs to be resolved. You’re a Gemini? So communication would be far more important to you then her I’m guessing. Sometimes we have to put ourselves in the others shoes to understand what’s happening. That’s really more of what my point was. Also, We always have the option to block someone that we need to go away. I had to do that recently with someone who wouldn’t let things die 3 years later. It’s up to you on how you want to handle.

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You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

Distance is a defense mechanism. And breaking up goes one of 2 ways.. you don’t care and you never talk again, pay attention etc. you move on. Or you have trouble letting go fully and you pay attention to what they are doing. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t do that.

I’m sorry that way of breaking up almost seems a cry for help. You never talked to her again, so seems she was right.

In fact, a few days ago I ate my pride and wished her a Happy Birthday and said hope everything is going well

Did she message back?

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Yes, she said: Thank you very much, Crixus, what a surprise! All great yeees, I hope you are also happy! Kiss

Don't listen to these sag women they give bad advice to Gemini men just look at their post history.

Send the sag a dick pick and tell that ho when she grows some ovaries that dick will be their for her.

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Venus in Scorpio stalking?

Surely not

😃🥴🤡

Don't lie.

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I was being sarcastic 😃

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Don't listen to these sag women they give bad advice to Gemini men just look at their post history.

Send the sag a dick pick and tell that ho when she grows some ovaries that dick will be their for her.

🙄

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Not even following you in her car or keying yours. Shit story 3/10.

Lol, different cities. A bit difficult with distance. Bet you have some cool stories! 😉

The only stalker here is you…

The only one that can’t let go is you…

So much effort for such a little result!

If you want her back, man up, if not move on!

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Don't listen to these sag women they give bad advice to Gemini men just look at their post history.

Send the sag a dick pick and tell that ho when she grows some ovaries that dick will be their for her.

He hasn’t got the balls to send a stock dick pic, let alone his own

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You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

Distance is a defense mechanism. And breaking up goes one of 2 ways.. you don’t care and you never talk again, pay attention etc. you move on. Or you have trouble letting go fully and you pay attention to what they are doing. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t do that.

I’m sorry that way of breaking up almost seems a cry for help. You never talked to her again, so seems she was right.

In fact, a few days ago I ate my pride and wished her a Happy Birthday and said hope everything is going well

Did she message back?

Yes, she said: Thank you very much, Crixus, what a surprise! All great yeees, I hope you are also happy! Kiss

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You should’ve said no I’m not happy, I’m miserable with out you. Bring that ass over here and stop playing with me 😏😄🤪

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Posted by Krabss

You actually sound stalkerish. She is just watching what is public.

When I fall in love I am obsessed, true. But every time I say bye to a girl, even with doubts or the door half open, I very rarely look or watch their social media for curiosity or care or whatever... And if I do, it's once in a blue moon

Well that doesn’t seem like you care if you can just turn that off, in a black & white way.

If someone doesn’t trust, then you have to earn it. I’m wondering what happened in the relationship.. it’s not always about their past but perhaps the present triggering the past. That's a big on/off switch when you’ve actually cared about/loved someone. That behavior does not seem like you cared. She seems like she cared, she’s paying attention.

Watching photos is caring? Sorry, I don't usually do that with ex lovers. I had to stop because otherwise I can't move on. But don't get me wrong. The things that count, If she had any real problem I would do anything to help

The day she left me she said she had recently realized how her old wound (many years before meeting me) had affected her so much, a lot more than what she thought.

She is so distant with men, even her dad (almost non existant relationship)

Distance is a defense mechanism. And breaking up goes one of 2 ways.. you don’t care and you never talk again, pay attention etc. you move on. Or you have trouble letting go fully and you pay attention to what they are doing. If you didn’t care, you wouldn’t do that.

I’m sorry that way of breaking up almost seems a cry for help. You never talked to her again, so seems she was right.

In fact, a few days ago I ate my pride and wished her a Happy Birthday and said hope everything is going well

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Whoa! Did it hurt?

Poor thing. Urgent care is open till 9

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Don't listen to these sag women they give bad advice to Gemini men just look at their post history.

Send the sag a dick pick and tell that ho when she grows some ovaries that dick will be their for her.

This is why you’re jealous that she’s stalking him and a Sag didn’t stalk you 😂😂😂

You as a virgo wouldn’t even take your own advice 🙄

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Don't listen to these sag women they give bad advice to Gemini men just look at their post history.

Send the sag a dick pick and tell that ho when she grows some ovaries that dick will be their for her.

This is why you’re jealous that she’s stalking him and a Sag didn’t stalk you 😂😂😂

You as a virgo wouldn’t even take your own advice 🙄

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You underestimate my leo venus need to pat my ego!

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Don't listen to these sag women they give bad advice to Gemini men just look at their post history.

Send the sag a dick pick and tell that ho when she grows some ovaries that dick will be their for her.

This is why you’re jealous that she’s stalking him and a Sag didn’t stalk you 😂😂😂

You as a virgo wouldn’t even take your own advice 🙄

You underestimate my leo venus need to pat my ego!

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I'd pat it all day and then your sun will still be dissatisfied that I didn't worship the ground you walk on and take sips of your bath water! 😆

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Don't listen to these sag women they give bad advice to Gemini men just look at their post history.

Send the sag a dick pick and tell that ho when she grows some ovaries that dick will be their for her.

This is why you’re jealous that she’s stalking him and a Sag didn’t stalk you 😂😂😂

You as a virgo wouldn’t even take your own advice 🙄

You underestimate my leo venus need to pat my ego!

I'd pat it all day and then your sun will still be dissatisfied that I didn't worship the ground you walk on and take sips of your bath water! 😆

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My sun has NEVER been that full of myself. I resent that speculative comment!

Sounds more like your leo mars. Mmhmm

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Don't listen to these sag women they give bad advice to Gemini men just look at their post history.

Send the sag a dick pick and tell that ho when she grows some ovaries that dick will be their for her.

This is why you’re jealous that she’s stalking him and a Sag didn’t stalk you 😂😂😂

You as a virgo wouldn’t even take your own advice 🙄

You underestimate my leo venus need to pat my ego!

I'd pat it all day and then your sun will still be dissatisfied that I didn't worship the ground you walk on and take sips of your bath water! 😆

My sun has NEVER been that full of myself. I resent that speculative comment!

Sounds more like your leo mars. Mmhmm

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There can only be ONE who is worshipped!!! 😛



BOW DOWN!

@saggurl88 along as whips and chains are included.

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@saggurl88 along as whips and chains are included.

Hahahaha!

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Sag girl with Scorpio venus. We were like soulmates and had a lot of fun. Then she broke it up 5 months ago. She said she doesn't trust me (she has trust issues with men due to past scars, she has big walls). I never talked with her again.

The next days she viewed the 2 stories I uploaded on Instagram. I was hurting so I removed her from my followers and I stopped following her on IG. A few days later I set my profile public so she and everyone can see.

I started travelling the world and living life to the fullest. And ofc posting amazing pics on IG.

She never again was on the my stories' viewers list. *BUT* then I started to add my stories to Highlights.

Highlights stories older than 24h you can't see who viewed them, BUT if the story is both on HL + regular profile story (the first 24 h), then you can know who views them those 24h.

So I tried this. I uploaded some of the new stories to both my profile + Highlights. Then I watched the viewers... and my ex gf was there!

This happened the first time I tried. 2 months after the breakup. The very first time I did this "trick", she fell for it and she was there on my viewers (probably thinking I won't know - because she clicked HLs instead of my stories. She never has watched regular stories these months)

I tried again 2 weeks later and she again watched my HL story in the first hours I shared it.

This happened 4 times. 4 "traps" I set (one every month), 4 times she is stalking my IG Highlights. 4 out of 4. Probably she does this *every single day*.

I mean Eg: If she only watched my HLs once every 15-30 days, it would be very difficult to exactly watch my story on the first 24 hours, so she would not appear on my viewers list... But she is there falling for it all these months...

The 5th time was 2 weeks ago. I uploaded a story, then HighLighted it, then 2-3h later that same evening, she was there watching it, stalking my IG again... All of this, 5 months after she broke it...

What do you think? Is Venus Scorpio a stalker? Do you have hard time letting go? Is she just curious or could this be obsessed stalking *every-single-day*? Is she having second thoughts but hurt/proud? Will Sagittarius sun/Scorpio venus come back?

What is your experience with this?

My kids dad is a sag with scorpio venus. I would be happy you got away because her obsessive story viewing is just the tip of the toxic ice burg. In a relationship she will probably with hold sex from you for a few years because she is worried your sleeping with someone else...even if you lived together and saw each other every waking moment. I wasted years with My kids dad wondering why he didnt trust me. His answer? "My exes hurt me"

Not my problem. Dude with held sex for 2 mf years.

I have a friend who just divorced his sag sun scorpio venus ex. She did the same thing. Manipulation and abuse in ways like this.

At the end of the day it will.be your fault.

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Woah. I am sorry to hear that, it must be so painful. You there giving your best and the other party not trusting you due to their past - or someone bad. Something you have nothing to to with. Something you are innocent for. But you pay. Totally not fair. A punishment you don't deserve. Sad.

But withholding sex from you?? What's the point? Toxic manipulation... 🙈

Some people are broken and just can't love. Even if they want to. And it is not your fault and it doesn't matter what you do, you can't repare them. Maybe only therapy and loooong time.

It looks like the avoidant love-attachment style .

Their insecurities are their own problem, not yours. Being tested continuously is tiresome. And you feel impotency.

Tbh yes, she withheld many things like introducing family, friends, saying ILY, inviting me to her place, etc Many times I felt she was with the "brakes" on and I could feel internal fights head vs heart, etc.

Thanks for sharing and I hope you are happy now!

You call this a stalker lol

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You call this a stalker lol

Well, I bet there are some crazos out there, definitely.

But after 5+ months and being there "secretly" watching –I would say Every. Single. Day (or too much coincidence)– when we are not IG friends anymore (so you have to manually search me)... Yes, it's a bit stalkerish.

And she is the dumper, which makes it weirder.

Plus, we live veryyy far apart now. So car/etc stalking is not an option. She would need a long plane