Phases of a relationship

What would you say the phases of a LONG term relationship would be? And I'm talking like longer than a year, maybe even longer than two.

I'm pretty curious..!

Posted by Canbullrius
Consistency and respect.

Those are good answers.

But I mean, the phases as in.

1. The chase

2. Honeymoon

3. Comfort

4. Blinds taken off

5. Irritation

6. Acceptance OR break up

7. And if there was acceptance, you love the person youre ACTUALLY with

8. Transcends into unconditional love

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Posted by Canbullrius
Consistency and respect.

Those are good answers.

But I mean, the phases as in.

1. The chase

2. Honeymoon

3. Comfort

4. Blinds taken off

5. Irritation

6. Acceptance OR break up

7. And if there was acceptance, you love the person youre ACTUALLY with

8. Transcends into unconditional love

I fall in love with a womans flaws though this is a Cancerian thing.

But being a communicative crab with air in my chart i'm good at talking to my lady too but being passive and soft with it instead of domineering.

Also will listen to what she says about me.

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Lol I've got one of those. My bfs a cancer with a Libra moon. Good dose of water and air.

Posted by clippityclop
What would you say the phases of a LONG term relationship would be? And I'm talking like longer than a year, maybe even longer than two.

I'm pretty curious..!

Have you got the 7 year itch in your relationship?

Posted by tiziani
I'd say first 3 months is pure mutual chase/seduction, being infatuated and putting on the impression of who you'd like to see yourself as being in front of your love interest.

3-6 months is when the masks start to slip on both sides and you get to know more of the well-rounded person (well, pray they are well-rounded).

6 months to 1 year is adjusting to that and the loss of sex from intial spark. Rebuilding that spark even stronger.

1 year mark is usually when it dawns on both people they can accept anything from one another, or they can't. They are either in or out.

I've been told 7 years is significant. I wouldn't know first-hand. Anything between 1-7 years seems incredibly subjective and very unique to the two people inside that relationship. Which is why I try to stay away from giving any opinion on anyone involved in that stage, from the outside.

Hmm. Seven years.. I wonder how that's significant. What have you been told about seven years by people?

@clippityclop if you know couples who have been together and have pasted the 7 year stage.

Ask them how that particular year went. Most will if honest tell you it was probably one of the most testing. The theory is if you can make it past 7 years, you probably good to go :-)

I have seen this with friends who have been together long and are now married.

My relationship with my ex fiancé and I made it to 7.3 years.

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Posted by clippityclop
What would you say the phases of a LONG term relationship would be? And I'm talking like longer than a year, maybe even longer than two.

I'm pretty curious..!

Have you got the 7 year itch in your relationship?

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Nahh. I've been with my guy for two years now. I have noticed some changes, though. We're a lot more comfortable than we used to be with one another. I'm worried we'll lose the spark if we just say/do whatever we want around eachother. It's like at that weird brotherly sisterly stage where you do everything in front of one another haha.

Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
@clippityclop if you know couples who have been together and have pasted the 7 year stage.

Ask them how that particular year went. Most will if honest tell you it was probably one of the most testing. The theory is if you can make it past 7 years, you probably good to go :-)

I have seen this with friends who have been together long and are now married.

My relationship with my ex fiancé and I made it to 7.3 years.

I have an ex of seven years. We didn't make it lol but it's for the best. Really truly.

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Posted by Queenofthepheasantfairies
@clippityclop if you know couples who have been together and have pasted the 7 year stage.

Ask them how that particular year went. Most will if honest tell you it was probably one of the most testing. The theory is if you can make it past 7 years, you probably good to go :-)

I have seen this with friends who have been together long and are now married.

My relationship with my ex fiancé and I made it to 7.3 years.

I have an ex of seven years. We didn't make it lol but it's for the best. Really truly.

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Weird how its one of those make or break milestones

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Posted by tiziani
I'd say first 3 months is pure mutual chase/seduction, being infatuated and putting on the impression of who you'd like to see yourself as being in front of your love interest.

3-6 months is when the masks start to slip on both sides and you get to know more of the well-rounded person (well, pray they are well-rounded).

6 months to 1 year is adjusting to that and the loss of sex from intial spark. Rebuilding that spark even stronger.

1 year mark is usually when it dawns on both people they can accept anything from one another, or they can't. They are either in or out.

I've been told 7 years is significant. I wouldn't know first-hand. Anything between 1-7 years seems incredibly subjective and very unique to the two people inside that relationship. Which is why I try to stay away from giving any opinion on anyone involved in that stage, from the outside.

Hmm. Seven years.. I wonder how that's significant. What have you been told about seven years by people?

The 7 year itch, as mentioned above. I was warned about it from my godmother - in the middle of a wedding where she spoke a little too loudly, more than she intended to lol

That is meant to be the phase where you just get tired of the relationship and want a change.



And hey, every 7 years every cell in our body has been switched out and replaced for a new one. We're anatomically a completely different person, so it makes sense in many ways.

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I had no idea that we change anatomically every seven years. I will have to look into that. But it would make sense that who you were seven years ago, is not the same person you are today.

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Posted by clippityclop
What would you say the phases of a LONG term relationship would be? And I'm talking like longer than a year, maybe even longer than two.

I'm pretty curious..!

Have you got the 7 year itch in your relationship?

Nahh. I've been with my guy for two years now. I have noticed some changes, though. We're a lot more comfortable than we used to be with one another. I'm worried we'll lose the spark if we just say/do whatever we want around eachother. It's like at that weird brotherly sisterly stage where you do everything in front of one another haha.

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otherwise know as the walking in while you shitting on the toilet stage... LOL

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@clippityclop if you know couples who have been together and have pasted the 7 year stage.

Ask them how that particular year went. Most will if honest tell you it was probably one of the most testing. The theory is if you can make it past 7 years, you probably good to go :-)

I have seen this with friends who have been together long and are now married.

My relationship with my ex fiancé and I made it to 7.3 years.

I have an ex of seven years. We didn't make it lol but it's for the best. Really truly.

Weird how its one of those make or break milestones

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Yeah really. I wonder what it feels like to be on the other side! 😉

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Posted by clippityclop
What would you say the phases of a LONG term relationship would be? And I'm talking like longer than a year, maybe even longer than two.

I'm pretty curious..!

Have you got the 7 year itch in your relationship?

Nahh. I've been with my guy for two years now. I have noticed some changes, though. We're a lot more comfortable than we used to be with one another. I'm worried we'll lose the spark if we just say/do whatever we want around eachother. It's like at that weird brotherly sisterly stage where you do everything in front of one another haha.

otherwise know as the walking in while you shitting on the toilet stage... LOL

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Haha not quite!! But has happened. We don't make a habit of that one lol.

Ahhhh man. Anyways. Whatre your views on relationship phases?

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Posted by clippityclop
What would you say the phases of a LONG term relationship would be? And I'm talking like longer than a year, maybe even longer than two.

I'm pretty curious..!

Have you got the 7 year itch in your relationship?

Nahh. I've been with my guy for two years now. I have noticed some changes, though. We're a lot more comfortable than we used to be with one another. I'm worried we'll lose the spark if we just say/do whatever we want around eachother. It's like at that weird brotherly sisterly stage where you do everything in front of one another haha.

otherwise know as the walking in while you shitting on the toilet stage... LOL

Haha not quite!! But has happened. We don't make a habit of that one lol.

Ahhhh man. Anyways. Whatre your views on relationship phases?

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I think Tiz pretty much covered my views on it to a T.

I know what you going through, that we so comfortable stage. It's hard to get out of it. I think and depending on how "romantic" you are, there are many ways to bring back that spice in a relationship.

Personally I am very open minded so I always try keep that spark alive. It's important to grow together but you also need to do things apart. I don't know if you are living together? if you are, go have a girls weekend, let him have a boys weekend. You need to miss one another, there is no better feeling than "absence makes the heart grow fonder"

Send him a sexy text of what exactly you plan to do to him when you see him next. Leave naughty notes in his bag, cupboard, what ever tickles your fancy.

As odd as it may sound, if you don't cook together, when you are together... do it.

Have random date nights... don't wait for Valentines etc to show how much you love them, do it randomly, out of the blue.

I don't know how comfortable you are with your sexuality, but I can promise you now, if you knock on their door wearing nothing but sex appeal. No SO is going to pass that up!

I mean I can go on and on, but sometimes these things are easier said than done.

You just got to stoke the fires to get those sparks raging again :-)

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Posted by tiziani
There are a lot of weird patterns about 7 years that have been culturally embedded from religion.

That's super interesting. I'm just about to approach my 7th year of suffering and the suffering slowly seems to be going away. lol.

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Oh noooo.

Well that's bitter sweet

I like the comfortable stage. It's a time to exhale. There's no pretense anymore or days spent worrying that you said or did something stupid enough to end it. There's the security in knowing that things are going to be worked out and that you love and are loved in complete honesty.

As for the spark, well I think you have feel sexy to be sexy. Make yourself feel good and the rest will follow.

Don't mind me guys I'm just sitting in the corner swirling a brandy and puffing on a cigar

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Posted by clippityclop
What would you say the phases of a LONG term relationship would be? And I'm talking like longer than a year, maybe even longer than two.

I'm pretty curious..!

Have you got the 7 year itch in your relationship?

Nahh. I've been with my guy for two years now. I have noticed some changes, though. We're a lot more comfortable than we used to be with one another. I'm worried we'll lose the spark if we just say/do whatever we want around eachother. It's like at that weird brotherly sisterly stage where you do everything in front of one another haha.

That sounds really sweet actually. I think being comfortable is a good sign, you can really get to know more about each other. It's like a best-friend thing, that's what I aspire to have. As long as you still do the stuff you did in the beginning that you enjoyed together I can't see it going downhill.

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Thankyou. It is really sweet. We don't really fight or anything either. It's all very calm.

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Posted by tiziani
There are a lot of weird patterns about 7 years that have been culturally embedded from religion.

That's super interesting. I'm just about to approach my 7th year of suffering and the suffering slowly seems to be going away. lol.

Oh noooo.

Well that's bitter sweet

I guess. lol.

Maybe it's that Jupiter in Libra transit.

I have Jupiter in Libra 😈

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Take advantage of this time!!!

Posted by andstill
2 months chase

2 months vanish

2 months explain and win back

6th month honeymoon phase

7th month tears because you're bored

8th month treat them like shit so they break up with you

9th month they're still there so push their sexual boundaries

10th month shit she's still here might as well put a eing on it

6 months of bliss

15th month she breaks up with you

takes her 3 months to move out

18th month you are pretty much single

2 weeks later ask for closure coz horny

then more closure the following week

then you join dxp

Are we speaking from personal experience? It sounds too specific lol