Confusedandsad
@Confusedandsad
6 Years
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Sad. Don’t know what to do.
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Are you being stupid but justifying his nasty ass behavior? Of course you are! His drinking isn't your problem or your fault. In fact, I can guarantee you that his drinking was an issue BEFORE you two even met.
Stop trying to focus on the escorts and pics 🙄 They are the LEAST of your problems. Believe that.
When that loser dude of yours was GONE for them 5 days ya should have CHANGED the locks.
Good luck w this burden. You're gonna need it.
Stop trying to focus on the escorts and pics 🙄 They are the LEAST of your problems. Believe that.
When that loser dude of yours was GONE for them 5 days ya should have CHANGED the locks.
Good luck w this burden. You're gonna need it.
Do you use methamphetamine?
Posted by Phantom_Dangus
He is a complete and total douchebag. You're not hormonal. You're being abused by a controlling, alcoholic slut.
Say it! #truth!
Posted by but_didyoudie
you must have Neptune in the 5th.... anyway, keep him away from you.... let him f whom he wants....call the police if he comes anywhere near you. as for the baby.... i would move.... raise him alone...tell him the baby is dead. i know it sounds horrible but hey a BABY'S LIFE IS ON THE LINE NOW.
MOVE TO ANOTHER COUNTRY.
RESTART YOUR LIFE.
In agreement! Drastic situation calls for drastic measures ESPECIALLY when a baby is involved.
Posted by emeraldgem
@Confusedandsad - " He got furious and grabbed the phone from me. He took my phone and found nothing. He refused to give me my phone back and when I tried to get it he shoved me into the couch. He punched a hole into my wall. He told me I’m not allowed to ask him any questions about that week. He even told me he was going to have sex with somebody and send me a video of it. "
This is horrifying. Do you have family? Can you stay with them? I'm afraid of what he might do. This situation is beyond toxic and nothing you can fix. Just get yourself someplace safe and don't cave in to any of his begging and pleading. DO NOT see him alone. Cut off all contact. If he makes a move get a restraining order. This is some serious shit. Astrology has nothing to do with it.
In agreement! "Cut off all contact" ASAP.
Is he a Leo?
Put your baby 1st.
I've been in your situation. It took me a year to leave my abusive ex.
People can tell you to leave till you're blue in the face. But you're not going to end things unless you have an ultimatum thrown at you.
Mine was my ex boss. He pulled a gun on my ex when he was going to town on me and told me it was the job or him. I choose the job.
Get your priorities together.
Abuse escalates.
Put your baby 1st.
I've been in your situation. It took me a year to leave my abusive ex.
People can tell you to leave till you're blue in the face. But you're not going to end things unless you have an ultimatum thrown at you.
Mine was my ex boss. He pulled a gun on my ex when he was going to town on me and told me it was the job or him. I choose the job.
Get your priorities together.
Abuse escalates.
I just don't get why people allow their partners to abuse them.....that isn't love, but when a man says he is going to have sex with someone and send the video to you, well that takes the biscuit
Smh
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Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by sweetpea2977Posted by Phantom_Dangus
He is a complete and total douchebag. You're not hormonal. You're being abused by a controlling, alcoholic slut.
Say it! #truth!
I already regret saying it in such a brutal way. I'm sure OP loves him, sees good in him, and will have a hard time seeing what we see. Such a terrible situation.click to expand
I understand. I was kinda brutal too. I have an ex-hubby who wasn't drinking when we met but damn sure started a year or so into our marriage. It started from his childhood. Found out later. Nothing to do w me. But I suffered tremendously. Suffered emotionally, mentally AND PHYSICALLY. So, brutal or not, HONESTY is the best for her NO MATTER WHAT she "sees" 💜
so what's the sign and placements of this sewer rat?
Posted by Confusedandsad
He had a video of his friends girlfriend with underwear and a shirt on and the boyfriend smacking her ass. He also had a snapshot of 3 escorts phone numbers. He got furious and grabbed the phone from me. He took my phone and found nothing. He refused to give me my phone back and when I tried to get it he shoved me into the couch. He punched a hole into my wall. He told me I’m not allowed to ask him any questions about that week. He even told me he was going to have sex with somebody and send me a video of it.
He's not an alcoholic so you should stop excusing his behavior based on that.
He pays for sex with escorts. He's a cheater who is using you for the free rent.
He's aggressive and violent towards you. Thats not because he's had a few beers.
Stop justifying his behavior because your gonna wake up one day in the future and find yourself justifying his violence and abuse towards your child.
Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by sweetpea2977Posted by Phantom_DangusPosted by sweetpea2977Posted by Phantom_Dangus
He is a complete and total douchebag. You're not hormonal. You're being abused by a controlling, alcoholic slut.
Say it! #truth!
I already regret saying it in such a brutal way. I'm sure OP loves him, sees good in him, and will have a hard time seeing what we see. Such a terrible situation.
I understand. I was kinda brutal too. I have an ex-hubby who wasn't drinking when we met but damn sure started a year or so into our marriage. It started from his childhood. Found out later. Nothing to do w me. But I suffered tremendously. Suffered emotionally, mentally AND PHYSICALLY. So, brutal or not, HONESTY is the best for her NO MATTER WHAT she "sees" 💜
Yeah, you're right. I'm so sorry you went through that. I don't know what it is about her post, but I fear it's going to get physical.click to expand
Thank you 💜 And yes, he will. He's already punching walls and shoving ☹️
I need liquor and a bunch of cigarettes now. Not sure if this post is real but I can’t deal with this story rn.
I did change the locks and he hasn’t been here. He’s actually living back at his moms house. He was a drinker before and I know that I made a ton of mistakes.
I’ve been thinking about getting an abortion but he keeps calling me a murderer when I bring it up.
blockquote> Posted by sweetpea2977
Are you being stupid but justifying his nasty ass behavior? Of course you are! His drinking isn't your problem or your fault. In fact, I can guarantee you that his drinking was an issue BEFORE you two even met.
Stop trying to focus on the escorts and pics 🙄 They are the LEAST of your problems. Believe that.
When that loser dude of yours was GONE for them 5 days ya should have CHANGED the locks.
Good luck w this burden. You're gonna need it.
I’ve been thinking about getting an abortion but he keeps calling me a murderer when I bring it up.
blockquote> Posted by sweetpea2977
Are you being stupid but justifying his nasty ass behavior? Of course you are! His drinking isn't your problem or your fault. In fact, I can guarantee you that his drinking was an issue BEFORE you two even met.
Stop trying to focus on the escorts and pics 🙄 They are the LEAST of your problems. Believe that.
When that loser dude of yours was GONE for them 5 days ya should have CHANGED the locks.
Good luck w this burden. You're gonna need it.
This is what gets me because he’s so apologetic and acting like he’s going to change. We didn’t have all bad times. Some were really good. I’m in a really dark place right now and I don’t know how to get out of it.
Posted by emeraldgem
@Confusedandsad - " He got furious and grabbed the phone from me. He took my phone and found nothing. He refused to give me my phone back and when I tried to get it he shoved me into the couch. He punched a hole into my wall. He told me I’m not allowed to ask him any questions about that week. He even told me he was going to have sex with somebody and send me a video of it. "
This is horrifying. Do you have family? Can you stay with them? I'm afraid of what he might do. This situation is beyond toxic and nothing you can fix. Just get yourself someplace safe and don't cave in to any of his begging and pleading. DO NOT see him alone. Cut off all contact. If he makes a move get a restraining order. This is some serious shit. Astrology has nothing to do with it.
He’s a Sagittarius. That’s why I posted this here. I never thought he would cheat on me. I know a lot of people are saying it’s the least of my worries but it hurts so bad that he did this.
Posted by DMV
Is he a Leo?
Put your baby 1st.
I've been in your situation. It took me a year to leave my abusive ex.
People can tell you to leave till you're blue in the face. But you're not going to end things unless you have an ultimatum thrown at you.
Mine was my ex boss. He pulled a gun on my ex when he was going to town on me and told me it was the job or him. I choose the job.
Get your priorities together.
Abuse escalates.
Posted by dilettantePosted by _Dazed
Do you use methamphetamine?
interesting... did you get tweaker vibes or what?click to expand
Well he calls her a tweaker.. I thought it was an odd thing to say too if she doesn’t.
Posted by dilettantePosted by _Dazed
Do you use methamphetamine?
interesting... did you get tweaker vibes or what?click to expand
She commented that he calls her that..
"I’ve tried to justify him calling me a cookiemonster, a tweeker ( I have no idea why he would call me this. I do really good at work and work hard and I like to keep my house clean. So whenever I would clean or move a picture or bring work home he called me a tweeker)."
It's not a common term used to insult someone.. unless of course, they are a known meth user imo
Posted by dilettantePosted by _DazedPosted by dilettantePosted by _Dazed
Do you use methamphetamine?
interesting... did you get tweaker vibes or what?
She commented that he calls her that..
"I’ve tried to justify him calling me a cookiemonster, a tweeker ( I have no idea why he would call me this. I do really good at work and work hard and I like to keep my house clean. So whenever I would clean or move a picture or bring work home he called me a tweeker)."
It's not a common term used to insult someone.. unless of course, they are a known meth user imo
aahhaaaa ok i missed that part.
OP does not vibe meth-y to me 🤷🏻♀️click to expand
I've known a few hardworking individuals in the community that use meth on the DL.
Posted by emeraldgem
@Gemitati - meth is a street drug. Speed.
Oh! THATS fuuucked up!
I have nothing to say.
What is the end of it? Someone going to die and someone going to jail? Any other outcome possible? 🤦♀️
done meth. I don’t judge people who have and better their life. His brother is addicted to meth and then I find out he’s did coke which he’s claiming he rarely does. I really don’t know why he’s called me a tweaker so much. He mentioned something before about how I had so much more than him and then didn’t finish his sentence. I don’t know why he says the things he does.
blockquote> Posted by _DazedPosted by dilettantePosted by _Dazed
Do you use methamphetamine?
interesting... did you get tweaker vibes or what?click to expand
She commented that he calls her that..
"I’ve tried to justify him calling me a cookiemonster, a tweeker ( I have no idea why he would call me this. I do really good at work and work hard and I like to keep my house clean. So whenever I would clean or move a picture or bring work home he called me a tweeker)."
It's not a common term used to insult someone.. unless of course, they are a known meth user imo
He’s a sag. Moon sign is a Taurus. I’m an Aries. I thought we were meant to be perfect for one another.
Posted by virgoOPPP
so what's the sign and placements of this sewer rat?
I have two brothers that live semi close to me. I bought some self help books hoping it would make me realize what he did is abusive. I don’t know what’s wrong with me that I can’t see what other people see.
blockquote> Posted by emeraldgem
I understand that you had your good times but this man is sick. My best friend had an alcoholic husband and I can't tell you the hell she went thru for YEARS. She did her best to shield her 2 little girls but it was bad. He would promise her he would stop but he never did. Can you go thru that? Put an innocent child thru that? You are suffering from abuse and can't think straight yourself which is why I asked if you had family nearby to support you right now.
blockquote> Posted by emeraldgem
I understand that you had your good times but this man is sick. My best friend had an alcoholic husband and I can't tell you the hell she went thru for YEARS. She did her best to shield her 2 little girls but it was bad. He would promise her he would stop but he never did. Can you go thru that? Put an innocent child thru that? You are suffering from abuse and can't think straight yourself which is why I asked if you had family nearby to support you right now.
Posted by Confusedandsad
He’s a sag. Moon sign is a Taurus. I’m an Aries. I thought we were meant to be perfect for one another.Posted by virgoOPPP
so what's the sign and placements of this sewer rat?click to expand
what's your moon?
What made you think he was a sag?
Posted by dilettante
i was gonna say, this dude sounds like a sag.
as someone, who consistently dates addicts, YOU need to be the one to set the boundary & not look back.
addicts have zero capacity to make boundaries for themselves. & it isn’t your responsibility to make those boundaries for him. he will always find a loophole to slip through the boundaries.
stick to your guns & leave him alone. you are not responsible for his addiction & he is not with it enough to help raise the child.
it will be hard but you have to put yourself, & child, first. it does get easier.
o.cafeastrology.com/synastry.php?index=73913016&index2=73632905
I did a prenatal birth chart. I named him dick... because I’m really sad and hurt. I don’t know what time either of us were born so the moon sign might be wrong. When I check different times for me it either says Capricorn or Aquarius.
Posted by virgoOPPPPosted by Confusedandsad
He’s a sag. Moon sign is a Taurus. I’m an Aries. I thought we were meant to be perfect for one another.Posted by virgoOPPP
so what's the sign and placements of this sewer rat?
what's your moon?click to expand
I know I’m in a really bad place. I never let men treat me like this before. I hate myself for even still being upset and not moving on.
done meth in my life. Like I said in my other post I don’t judge people have a past but I’ve never done this drug and I truly have no idea why he called me this. He stopped after I told him it bothers me. Not after calling me it a few times more.
blockquote> Posted by dilettantePosted by _DazedPosted by dilettantePosted by _DazedPosted by dilettantePosted by _Dazed
Do you use methamphetamine?
interesting... did you get tweaker vibes or what?
She commented that he calls her that..
"I’ve tried to justify him calling me a cookiemonster, a tweeker ( I have no idea why he would call me this. I do really good at work and work hard and I like to keep my house clean. So whenever I would clean or move a picture or bring work home he called me a tweeker)."
It's not a common term used to insult someone.. unless of course, they are a known meth user imo
aahhaaaa ok i missed that part.
OP does not vibe meth-y to me 🤷🏻♀️
I've known a few hardworking individuals in the community that use meth on the DL.click to expand
same. i know a lot of med students who tweak so they can get through their intense rotations. but i can always tell. even in our text exchanges, there is always a vibe i can sense.
i dunno, maybe OP is a tweaker & i just can’t vibe it rn.
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Posted by dilettantePosted by Confusedandsad
I’ve never done meth in my life. Like I said in my other post I don’t judge people have a past but I’ve never done this drug and I truly have no idea why he called me this. He stopped after I told him it bothers me. Not after calling me it a few times more.
blockquote> Posted by dilettantePosted by _DazedPosted by dilettantePosted by _DazedPosted by dilettantePosted by _Dazed
Do you use methamphetamine?
interesting... did you get tweaker vibes or what?
She commented that he calls her that..
"I’ve tried to justify him calling me a cookiemonster, a tweeker ( I have no idea why he would call me this. I do really good at work and work hard and I like to keep my house clean. So whenever I would clean or move a picture or bring work home he called me a tweeker)."
It's not a common term used to insult someone.. unless of course, they are a known meth user imo
aahhaaaa ok i missed that part.
OP does not vibe meth-y to me 🤷🏻♀️
I've known a few hardworking individuals in the community that use meth on the DL.
same. i know a lot of med students who tweak so they can get through their intense rotations. but i can always tell. even in our text exchanges, there is always a vibe i can sense.
i dunno, maybe OP is a tweaker & i just can’t vibe it rn.
i dunno why i got a sag vibe... maybe bc he does whatever he wants, willy nilly & doesnt think about the consequences.
i am an advocate for drug use, via harm reduction. i don’t think there is anything wrong with it, if the user is being responsible to themselves, and others. we are all addicted to something.
i have actually heard people use “tweaker” as insult toward others who weren’t actually meth users. it was usually directed at someone who had nervous, anxious energy that manifested in skiddish, or “jumpy” behavior.
did you share with us, your sign? i may have overlooked it.click to expand
I don’t know why my messages aren’t loading right. I’m an Aries.
Get him gone. This will only end in tears.
I know in my head what he did was so wrong. And everybody says to not focus on the escorts because there’s bigger issues. It’s all I can think about though. That he would go to that extent.
He sent me fruit at work today and a teddy bear. What makes somebody be so mean sometimes and then so incredibly mean? I don’t get it.
He sent me fruit at work today and a teddy bear. What makes somebody be so mean sometimes and then so incredibly mean? I don’t get it.
Posted by Confusedandsad
I know in my head what he did was so wrong. And everybody says to not focus on the escorts because there’s bigger issues. It’s all I can think about though. That he would go to that extent.
He sent me fruit at work today and a teddy bear. What makes somebody be so mean sometimes and then so incredibly mean? I don’t get it.
You should focus on ALL of it.
He's prolly brought these escorts back to your home and fucked them in your bed.
Posted by ImpulsvPosted by Confusedandsad
I know in my head what he did was so wrong. And everybody says to not focus on the escorts because there’s bigger issues. It’s all I can think about though. That he would go to that extent.
He sent me fruit at work today and a teddy bear. What makes somebody be so mean sometimes and then so incredibly mean? I don’t get it.
That issue is as valid as the drug . Alcoholic, violence and your reasons are as valid.
Why that is the cycle of abuse
The honeymoon phaseclick to expand
Yup
I forgot to add that when I texted and called the escorts, two of them were actually really nice and sent me the messages he sent to them. They confirmed he didn’t see them. He gave the name of his hotel in the text and he promised he didn’t actually stay in the hotel. I called and got confirmation he was there. God I sound so crazy detective. I did find out a lot though.
I actually changed the locks 2 days after he left and that’s why he said he “tried” to cheat on me. But the escorts picture that she sent to me confirmed he texted her before I told him I had the locks changed. Plus the time he texted her I was on the phone with him and he knew I was at doctors appointment and asked to pick up a shirt. Didn’t even offer to go to the appointment with me. Now he’s so upset I don’t want him to go to any.
I know some people are against abortions but... would you guys get one if you were in this situation?
blockquote> Posted by sweetpea2977
Are you being stupid but justifying his nasty ass behavior? Of course you are! His drinking isn't your problem or your fault. In fact, I can guarantee you that his drinking was an issue BEFORE you two even met.
Stop trying to focus on the escorts and pics 🙄 They are the LEAST of your problems. Believe that.
When that loser dude of yours was GONE for them 5 days ya should have CHANGED the locks.
Good luck w this burden. You're gonna need it.
I know some people are against abortions but... would you guys get one if you were in this situation?
blockquote> Posted by sweetpea2977
Are you being stupid but justifying his nasty ass behavior? Of course you are! His drinking isn't your problem or your fault. In fact, I can guarantee you that his drinking was an issue BEFORE you two even met.
Stop trying to focus on the escorts and pics 🙄 They are the LEAST of your problems. Believe that.
When that loser dude of yours was GONE for them 5 days ya should have CHANGED the locks.
Good luck w this burden. You're gonna need it.
Crazy that I texted the escorts? If that’s what you meant, I get it. I’ve been going through a lot and he wouldn’t give me the truth about anything. The more digging I did, the more I found out.
Posted by emeraldgem
Please know that what you just said sounds completely crazy
I tried to give him the respect and tell him I was considering abortion and he told me he was going to blast me on Facebook. He changed my name to murderer in his phone and said he would resent me forever.
I don’t feel good about having to make this decision at all. He just doesn’t get it. He goes from being nice and then cruel. Ill admit though, I’m not being the nicest to him either.
I don’t feel good about having to make this decision at all. He just doesn’t get it. He goes from being nice and then cruel. Ill admit though, I’m not being the nicest to him either.
I know.. I keep thinking of the future and how he is now.
I’ve been reading, why does he do that. It’s a book about abusive men. It’s says in there that alcohol doesn’t make you abusive. It makes me think he would continue his behavior if I did go through with this pregnancy.
I’ve been reading, why does he do that. It’s a book about abusive men. It’s says in there that alcohol doesn’t make you abusive. It makes me think he would continue his behavior if I did go through with this pregnancy.
I know I get it. I never really considered myself pro life but it’s different now that I’m the one that has to make the decision.
Why would you even risk getting pregnant with a man you haven’t even been with very long...........
Now u gotta deal with the consequences. Man up. You have no other choice.
Now u gotta deal with the consequences. Man up. You have no other choice.
Posted by Confusedandsad
I actually changed the locks 2 days after he left and that’s why he said he “tried” to cheat on me. But the escorts picture that she sent to me confirmed he texted her before I told him I had the locks changed. Plus the time he texted her I was on the phone with him and he knew I was at doctors appointment and asked to pick up a shirt. Didn’t even offer to go to the appointment with me. Now he’s so upset I don’t want him to go to any.
I know some people are against abortions but... would you guys get one if you were in this situation?
blockquote> Posted by sweetpea2977
Are you being stupid but justifying his nasty ass behavior? Of course you are! His drinking isn't your problem or your fault. In fact, I can guarantee you that his drinking was an issue BEFORE you two even met.
Stop trying to focus on the escorts and pics 🙄 They are the LEAST of your problems. Believe that.
When that loser dude of yours was GONE for them 5 days ya should have CHANGED the locks.
Good luck w this burden. You're gonna need it.
Again, the escorts aren't the problem. His character and his demons are. Truth be told, he's a coward. He's unwilling to fight his alcoholic and anger issues WHILE verbally emotionally and physically being abusive. Get out while you can. Please. Please. We all go through hurt when dealing with loved ones. You will get through it,, if you make the decision to.
I'm one of those "against abortion" but I sympathize with you. I personally wouldn't choose to have one. I'd simply accept the responsibility of creating a child and taking care of him or her. That's me. You can CHOOSE to keep your baby and NEVER allow the baby to be in the life of the destructive father. Or you can choose to have the baby, take the loser for child support AND seek monitored visitations only where it'll be a public place (or court). If you want your baby, keep your baby. NOTHING wrong w that REGARDLESS of the situation. Be encouraged.
Posted by Confusedandsad
I tried to give him the respect and tell him I was considering abortion and he told me he was going to blast me on Facebook. He changed my name to murderer in his phone and said he would resent me forever.
I don’t feel good about having to make this decision at all. He just doesn’t get it. He goes from being nice and then cruel. Ill admit though, I’m not being the nicest to him either.
He is using the kid as a tool to further control you. He doesn't care about the life of the child. Know how I know that?
exhibit a
Posted by Confusedandsad
he knew I was at doctors appointment and asked to pick up a shirt. Didn’t even offer to go to the appointment with me.click to expand
y hard for me to do it. I’ve walked out of the abortion clinic twice and each time I regretted walking out. I feel inside it’s the right choice to have the abortion but what I’m going to feel after doing it scares me.
Posted by sweetpea2977Posted by Confusedandsad
I actually changed the locks 2 days after he left and that’s why he said he “tried” to cheat on me. But the escorts picture that she sent to me confirmed he texted her before I told him I had the locks changed. Plus the time he texted her I was on the phone with him and he knew I was at doctors appointment and asked to pick up a shirt. Didn’t even offer to go to the appointment with me. Now he’s so upset I don’t want him to go to any.
I know some people are against abortions but... would you guys get one if you were in this situation?
blockquote> Posted by sweetpea2977
Are you being stupid but justifying his nasty ass behavior? Of course you are! His drinking isn't your problem or your fault. In fact, I can guarantee you that his drinking was an issue BEFORE you two even met.
Stop trying to focus on the escorts and pics 🙄 They are the LEAST of your problems. Believe that.
When that loser dude of yours was GONE for them 5 days ya should have CHANGED the locks.
Good luck w this burden. You're gonna need it.
Again, the escorts aren't the problem. His character and his demons are. Truth be told, he's a coward. He's unwilling to fight his alcoholic and anger issues WHILE verbally emotionally and physically being abusive. Get out while you can. Please. Please. We all go through hurt when dealing with loved ones. You will get through it,, if you make the decision to.
I'm one of those "against abortion" but I sympathize with you. I personally wouldn't choose to have one. I'd simply accept the responsibility of creating a child and taking care of him or her. That's me. You can CHOOSE to keep your baby and NEVER allow the baby to be in the life of the destructive father. Or you can choose to have the baby, take the loser for child support AND seek monitored visitations only where it'll be a public place (or court). If you want your baby, keep your baby. NOTHING wrong w that REGARDLESS of the situation. Be encouraged.click to expand
Reading this comment about being an Aries helped a little. I’m usually a lot stronger then this.
Posted by Sailor_Mars
If you have the strenght keep the baby, abort him. You are an Aries goddamn...you've got this
yeah he sounds like an abusive and an awful person. it would be best to leave this relationship or you might end up being unhappy for the rest of your life. pregnancy is when abusers show their true face, and they are more likely to act more abusively. as for the baby it is entirely up to you, if you do decide to keep it..pls do not to let others guilt you into keeping the baby
i've been in an abusive relationship and i only realized it when i left, looking back at it now. there's no justification for his behaviour, being in a relationship really shouldn't feel this bad
i've been in an abusive relationship and i only realized it when i left, looking back at it now. there's no justification for his behaviour, being in a relationship really shouldn't feel this bad
I know that I regret every time I walked out of the clinic and I know that I regret being pregnant right now. I know that I also feel guilty for being regretful of it. It’s all of these thoughts I can’t get ahold of...
Posted by emeraldgem
What will you regret more?
That’s kind of how I feel. He was abusive before but I feel like it got worse after we found out.
Posted by leooox
yeah he sounds like an abusive and an awful person. it would be best to leave this relationship or you might end up being unhappy for the rest of your life. pregnancy is when abusers show their true face, and they are more likely to act more abusively. as for the baby it is entirely up to you, if you do decide to keep it..pls do not to let others guilt you into keeping the baby
i've been in an abusive relationship and i only realized it when i left, looking back at it now. there's no justification for his behaviour, being in a relationship really shouldn't feel this bad
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This was a good read for me. What say you? This is taken from 'a new mode', one of my free subscriptions delivered to my inbox. The only one I don't agree with is #3. Shaving legs or failing to "workout" has never doomed or saved a relationship lol Bu
Could anyone tell me what they think about this synastry chart? It is mine with the Virgos. My planets are on the outside of course. I'm just curious.
https://i.imgur.com/mqon06h.jpg
Mine is only one:
She MUST have a nice booty, otherwise nothing, nada!!
Can it ever change? Do you stay or go? Do you stay when everything else is perfect? Such a difficult situation. Any thoughts or similar situations? X
Who else has NOTICED.....
that there's been a FLOOD of "I'm so confused" posts on these threads lately? 😒 Seems like these days body language / what is ACTUALLY BEING DONE, or NOT DONE AT ALL is quickly overlooked/ignored (AS IF words are more important
after a disagreement...
Is it passive aggressive ?
I mean what is the point you’re trying to make ?
I've known this guy a couple months or so now. At the start he was very interested, he was basically initiating most contact. I was not very forthcoming myself however, not on purpose but it's just at the start when I'm getting to know someone I'm careful
Hey everyone,
some information about me:
-sun in gemini
-moon in tarus
-rising in taurus
-mercury in cancer
-venus in gemini
-mars in gemini
The rest of my chart is on my profile:)
So I've noticed its kinda hard for me to love someone, I'm always crush
Does anyone have any ideas on how to help someone feel more comfortable on being open with others? The person I'm thinking of hides a lot of things ....stuff isn't private....it's secretive and has been hard on relationships past and present.
Do women get what they want through crying (either manipulative crying or just crying because sad) ? Do men do whatever they can to stop a woman from crying or does it simply not matter to you unless they matter to you. discuss
What does this mean? Well ya know I get it if you met somewhere & became friends, then later decided to go for it.
But what if you meet someone you might be interested in. How does this work then? Do you ever show affection? Or this really code fo
Legally you can get married as soon as the next day after getting a divorce. Altho I'm not sure how that would work in Fl since there is a 3 day waiting period after you get your marriage license. Anyway, anyone know anyone who has gotten married right
So last week, I experienced my first orgasm via kissing 😘
Today, I experienced multiple orgasms from my love sucking my nipples ☺️
This week I noticed something about my body. The left side (left breast, left side of my neck, and pelvic area where my l
how they thought the pairing of Aidan and Carrie is a good thing? and over 2 seasons...
I mean, who would choose Aidan, if not desperate? he was boring af
(PS. Carrie is a selfish character, I dont like her, but to suggest she should go with Aidan just
Hi
I've been living with my boyfriend for almost a year. He's an amazing man. He's very different than most men because he helps a lot. He cleans, washes his own clothes, acts like a gentleman. Plus he's very attractive.
Sounds like the perfect man right?
He wants you to be his, but you're welcome to sleep with other men/women (as long as you are safe)...
What is your response?
When you seriously dating somebody what do you like to be called when he is talking to others about you? Lady friend? Girlfriend? Is there a difference?
I used to hate grown up men to be called boyfriend...I am passed that.
Though I can’t find acceptabl
Yesterday, I experienced several orgasms while kissing my love. It was such a beautiful experience. (First time through kisses) I read about this happening as one of the dozen ways a woman can orgasm.
Who else has had orgasms from Kissing?
do you think it is normal to have a hard trusting people in general as an adult?
I’ve been training for a few weeks at a new job. My trainer has been passive aggressive/ lazy bish that literally doesn’t want to teach me anything. Culturally I’m taught that I should give a gift at the end of a teacher/student relationship. But my ego o
I realized he had an alcohol problem half way in. I could never understand why he would get so angry over little things. It was like a completely different person. He’s thrown hangers, clothes a book and an empty bottle at me. I’ve always tried to justify these things by saying the liquor bottle was plastic, the book he threw next to me. I’ve tried to justify him calling me a bitch, a tweeker ( I have no idea why he would call me this. I do really good at work and work hard and I like to keep my house clean. So whenever I would clean or move a picture or bring work home he called me a tweeker).
I do feel like an idiot because he low keyed moved in without us ever talking about it. We discussed it but it was never set it stone. He never offered to pay anything until I found out I was pregnant 2 months ago. Anytime I wanted to spend the night alone he would flip so I just stopped saying it. I think I become codependent. My self esteem felt so weak after all of the names and yelling.
I don’t think I was perfect at all. I’m trying to explain this in a way so it’s not all blamed on him. I just don’t remember doing anything to deserve these things.
So he promised he would stop drinking. He claims he went 2 weeks and then went to a friends house. I had him take a breathalyzer. Maybe it was wrong but I needed to know because of the monster hes capable of turning into when he is drinking. He lied over and over again even after failing. Then finally admitted it the next day while at a friends house drinking. He apologized and said he went 2 weeks already and didn’t want to give up having a couple of beers with friends. And I understood this. I was so conflicted. His dad is an alcoholic and I just didnt know what or how to react.
He decided to not come back for a week. Everyday he told me he didn’t want to see me, that I all I do is bitch. He said horrible things. He wouldn’t answer his phone and would only text. So fast forward a whole week. He decides he wants to come back. He told me the whole week he was depressed thinking of me and at his friends house. He let me see his phone. He didn’t think I would look in his pictures but I did. He had a video of his friends girlfriend with underwear and a shirt on and the boyfriend smacking her ass. He also had a snapshot of 3 escorts phone numbers. He got furious and grabbed the phone from me. He took my phone and found nothing. He refused to give me my phone back and when I tried to get it he shoved me into the couch. He punched a hole into my wall. He told me I’m not allowed to ask him any questions about that week. He even told me he was going to have sex with somebody and send me a video of it.
I can’t even describe how completely broken I was. It was almost debilitating. He left. Apologized and then literally 2 hours later texted me asking if he can f*ck. I was so confused. This isn’t the person I fell in love with.
I ended up writing him a closure letter and ending it. He never thought I would do that. I always accepted it for some reason. He promised his friend sent him the pictures of the escorts. He sent me his call logs and he’s the one that called atleast 5 different ones. One in particular he exchanged 10 different calls too. He initially called at 2 am and she called back at 8 am and numerous calls were made. The last of which he called 3 times 40 minutes after their last conversation. He promised he didn’t see her and said he cussed her out. He told me he would have seen her but she thought he was a cop. He said he ignored me all week because he was doing cocaine and hanging out with losers that he’ll never hang out with again. He said he couldn’t answer his phone because he told me so many lies he didn’t know what to say.
He’s begging for me to take him back. Why I am I justifying his behavior. I feel like I’m holding on to what I thought this was. I tried to call the escort but she’s not answering. Not to be mean but I just want to know. If he never saw her why are there so many calls?
Am I being stupid right now for trying to justify any of his behavior?
I know I wasn’t perfect. I was hormonal and trying to get over the names he’s called me.