Sex frequency

I have been with my boyfriend for a year now, we went through some issues a few months back but now we are closer, more comfortable and in tune with each other, more in love...

The thing is sex frequency has gone down, I know at the beginning you cannot get your hands off each other and then the honeymoon period ends and things calm down; but I want to know your opinion on this, it almost feels that now that we are emotionally closer sex is not a priority anymore.

Opinions??

I am guessing, a Virgo?

I really wanted to say Capricorn but I don't want the Cap Police after me LOL

What do you say Starlover?

If you are living together, yes, this is common.

Posted by Scorpiorabbit
Wait until you've been together for 16 years...all you do is oral sex.

And by oral sex I mean you guys just TALK ABOUT having sex.

J/K

Sounds normal to me.

Good one 😛

Virgo!!!! NO WAY!! After my own hellish experience with one I stay away.

He is a Cancer and no we don't live together yet but see each other at least 5 times a week, we now have sex usually 3 out of the 5 times we see each other...

Before it was at least twice a day, I am not complaining I am just curious

I have been with my Libra for almost 10 years...sexual chemistry is one of the main things that has kept us together this long. Our Venuses are square, and so are our Moons.

When we don't live together, we do it all the time, several times a day.
When we live together... it's like every other day or sometimes only once a week...depends on our schedules.

I think living together just lessens the sense of urgency.
Like, "oh, you'll be here tomorrow night...I'm tired, I just want to go to bed."

It's natural. I wouldn't take it personally, or try to read too far into it

🙂

Right now we are long distance while I finish school, so I only see him like once a month.

I know when I move back it's gonna go right back to a couple times a week. :/
Pisses me off a little...but it shouldn't be much of an adjustment since that is what it is now, not seeing each other.

Posted by Scorpiorabbit
I will say this...frequency has gone down.

But quality keeps increasing.

this!

Posted by xdimplez
SR your post made me giggle!

Lol if ever I end up living together with an SO going forward,I am going to make him sign a contract that states that sex should be religiously practiced on the daily.

Hahaha!

Worshipers are expected to leave their clothes at the door. Rituals at the Temple of Dimplez begin promptly and there is NO LEAVING EARLY! Services are expected to occur several times daily.

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Posted by caliberquick
im convinced relationships have an expiration date..

How do couples make it 75 years then die? It happens and they are in love.

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By being consumed by each other, making the each other #1 in their lives, and holding on to that moment.

OR just two people utterly terrified of being alone.

Either or!

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Posted by xxoommmxxoo

Posted by caliberquick
im convinced relationships have an expiration date..

How do couples make it 75 years then die? It happens and they are in love.

because they usually haven't experienced other people?

call me fucked up but, for me sex is VERY closely related to how i think a guy feels in a committed relationship.. and no, i'm not one of those crazy bitches who falls for everyone they sleep with.

if there's no sex or desire, i stop loving. just how i function, and i'm sure there are others out there like that. i still say, the kind of relationship that lasts 75 years in pure bliss without regret is very rare..

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You're not fucked up, fwiw, just think you may be reading into things too much.

Not targeting you/calling you out...your opinion is yours...I just always wondered about this, maybe you can help me understand...

There are others who claim the same thing & I have always found it to be a contradiction.
You relate sex and love so closely - as to claim you cannot love without sex, yet at the same time you say you don't get attached easily through sex either.

?

Yeah, I can kind of see what you mean.

I used to feel that way too honestly...I was really distraught at first when me and my Libra we weren't having sex everyday. I thought it meant he wasn't into me as much anymore. But since we have been long distance for a couple years now, I've realized that it has nothing to do with it. (Not to mention, lots of reassurance from him, as it is something I immediately wanted to discuss)

I mean, I still get the sense he wants to "ravage" me when we do do it.
Less frequency does not equal less passion, by any means - although it might seem like it from the outside.

I relate it to cheesecake, kind of like Poisson mentioned....
I am really fucking passionate about cheesecake. I want to eat it all the time...but I don't.
But all good things are best in moderation. Doesn't mean I don't want it any less!

Posted by Scorpiorabbit
Wait until you've been together for 16 years...all you do is oral sex.

And by oral sex I mean you guys just TALK ABOUT having sex.

J/K

Sounds normal to me.

lmaoooo

Posted by Poisson
LOL @ cheesecake analogy. There's plain cheesecake, still delicious! And then there's marble mocha cheesecake... *salivates*

don't talk dirty to me!!

It is a problem, especially if you are feeling it. If it makes you feel undesired sexually or inadequate, then address it with him. But don't just ignore it, it'll only get worse... for you.

HOW MUCH AND HOW OFFTEN WOULD HAVE A LOT TO DO WITH HOW MANY PARTNERS YOU HAVE
LETS SAY ONE PARTNER THEN ONCE IN THE MORNING
A NOONER
ONCE IN THE EVENING
AT BED TIME
AND ONCE IN THE MIDDLE OF THE NIGHT
YOU HAVE TO UNDERSTAND AT 46 I HAVE SLOWED DOWN.

ONCE A WEEK?
ARE YOU SHITTING ME.

He's a wannabe aqua 😛

NO I AM NOT A ONCE A MONTH AQUA
I AM A CAPRICORN
YOU KNOW THERE ARE CAPRICORNS AND WOMEN WHO WISH THEY WERE WITH A CAPRICORN.

NA NA NA NAH

3 times per day religiously

and if he can't for whatever reason

there is always a few I can call on

(??; bhahah no

baby fucker