I know the first time you sleep with someone things can get pretty awkward but if you feel like the sexual chemistry, or just chemistry period, is off would you still want to cuddle with them, kiss their forehead, etc.?
Sexual Chemistry
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXThat's how I feel as well lol; no need to blur the lines. My friends said when a guy does those things ^^ he's interested but I'm not sure I quite agree.
For me it's not awkward unless the guy makes it awkward. I can have sex and keep it moving very easily. All that cuddling and shit isn't necessary.
Posted by xXxAliciaXxXOh yea I definitely agree. I think what they meant was that he's still interested afterwards (you know how some men just completely withdraw afterwards) if he was already putting in the effort before hand. I hope that made sense lol.Posted by jebrooks1988Nah that's not true. There are some guys who simply love affection and will do that with all of his one night stands. It's not a clear indication that he's interested. Now if he calls to talk to you when he doesn't want and wants to spend time with you where it doesn't involve having sex, then yeah he's interested.Posted by xXxAliciaXxXThat's how I feel as well lol; no need to blur the lines. My friends said when a guy does those things ^^ he's interested but I'm not sure I quite agree.
For me it's not awkward unless the guy makes it awkward. I can have sex and keep it moving very easily. All that cuddling and shit isn't necessary.click to expand
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Posted by TaureyeSo like in my post if that chemistry, sexual or other wise, you wouldn't be mushy with that person after the deed is done?
For me, chemistry leads to sexual chemistry. If that chemistry is off....bye
Posted by TaureyeI agree. Chemistry and passion are key
For me, chemistry leads to sexual chemistry. If that chemistry is off....bye
Posted by CoucouSome people have better chemistry outside of the bedroom than in it
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Posted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Well what if you thought it was there until you slept with them?
Sex isn't awkward, you're doing it wrong.
Posted by jebrooks1988That indeed happensPosted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Well what if you thought it was there until you slept with them?click to expand
Posted by capricornmoonWell because you don't know this person sexually. Personally, I think it takes quite some time to really know a person in the bedroom.
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
Posted by DMVSince that happens that leads me to question IF it is off would you still want to be mushy afterwards? Do the cuddling, forehead kisses, etc.? May be because I'm not the warmest person but for me I don't think I could go out of my way to do those things right after sex if I felt the chemistry was off.Posted by jebrooks1988That indeed happensPosted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Well what if you thought it was there until you slept with them?click to expand
Posted by TaureyePosted by AstrobynToo many holes!!! THERES TOO MANY HOLES!!!
Sex isn't awkward, you're doing it wrong.click to expand
Ok see, taureye just made it awkward don't sleep with him.
Posted by jebrooks1988Oooh no. I pretend i have tons of shit to do and leave as quickly as possiblePosted by DMVSince that happens that leads me to question IF it is off would you still want to be mushy afterwards? Do the cuddling, forehead kisses, etc.? May be because I'm not the warmest person but for me I don't think I could go out of my way to do those things right after sex if I felt the chemistry was off.Posted by jebrooks1988That indeed happensPosted by Coucou
If the chemistry is off... why sleep with them in the first place?
Well what if you thought it was there until you slept with them?click to expand
Posted by TaureyeYeah 2 holes on the guy and 3 on the girlPosted by AstrobynToo many holes!!! THERES TOO MANY HOLES!!!
Sex isn't awkward, you're doing it wrong.click to expand
Posted by capricornmoonMay be awkward isn't the correct word but may be a little nerve-wracking.Posted by jebrooks1988So then it's Awkward in your mind. And you're running with those awkward mental emotions when youPosted by capricornmoonWell because you don't know this person sexually. Personally, I think it takes quite some time to really know a person in the bedroom.
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
Finally get intimate with them. Two people whose energy are in sync will never feel awkward.click to expand
I feel like guys take the lead after sex alot.
If im feeling them, i dont initiate the cuddling.
I need that reassurance first.
If im feeling them, i dont initiate the cuddling.
I need that reassurance first.
Posted by DMVSame here. See this is where my over thinking kicks in lol but what if he's just kissing and cuddling afterwards just to be nice because he thought the sex was bad and didn't want to hurt your feelings?
I feel like guys take the lead after sex alot.
If im feeling them, i dont initiate the cuddling.
I need that reassurance first.
Posted by capricornmoonhey baby
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
i'll mix my chemicals with yours
if chemistry is off from the beginning or it dies ....it's a no go any further. I would be kidding myself and it would be gross for us both.
Posted by capricornmoonlikewisePosted by HouseCleaning..just don't give me any STDs.Posted by capricornmoonhey baby
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
i'll mix my chemicals with yoursclick to expand
Posted by sagiluvThere is no anything really without it.
for me. There must be a strong chemistry to sleep together. Otherwise there's no sex !
Forget sex ..there is no anything without the mutual ..thing...the thingy.....
Sex is just an act that supposedly could bond you two together. Some people it takes 2 days and some take 6 months just to have sex and by then you know you have chemistry already...some do it the same day and date and then go there own ways there's no chemistry there so why stick around.
Their own ways after and if they really are interested they keep communication flowing.
No chemistry then it would be just friends..
Sex minus chemistry is kinda hot, has a kinky feel to it.
Sex with chemistry, too many feelz -_-
Sex with chemistry, too many feelz -_-
Posted by capricornmoondon't forget the broke and toothless partPosted by HouseCleaningYea right.,I'm cleaner than a virgin.,Posted by capricornmoonlikewisePosted by HouseCleaning..just don't give me any STDs.Posted by capricornmoonhey baby
Things shouldn't be awkward in the first place if the chemistry comes natural and mutual
i'll mix my chemicals with yours
46 yr old men with cooties however......click to expand
I hate you ..for no reason....deal
Posted by SuperMercurialMG I am having sex right now! >>>Almost.....well my hand is involved.
If for some reason, mid sex I realize I'm not feeling it, I'll just dxp until its over. Probably talk shit about the person. Libra mars.
@Busyeyes88- What is chemistry to you? what is that makes you think this is the one? I think every ones chemistry levels are different?
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