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Posted by HeartofIcePosted by nikkistar
This is the most convoluted thread ever.
First OP flakes a bunch with this guy. Then sits there and waits as more days pass before contacting him. Then makes a faux paus by accidentally looking like a gold digger with her "if you pay" joke.
All simultaneously putting more value into herself and demanding certain behavior from a guy who she hasnt met and has put minimal effort into. But still subconsciously exhibiting the belief that her value should be categorically exaggerated to a disproportionate high value for the situation at hand.
In none of the events leading up to this current update, have you shown anything that can be seen as adding value for him to want to even contemplate even meeting you or continuing anything with you. So to get annoyed at the very thought of him communicating with other women while you sat waiting for him to talk for 9 days and stalked his coming and goings online, is delusional entitlement.
Damn, you did not come to play today either, Nikki 😂click to expand
She's fudging nuts. Easily offended. Demanding. Obsessive qualities. Over valuation of herself. Hypocritical. Awkward communication skills. Etc...
😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬
I mean....Eeeeeeee
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by nikkistarPosted by HeartofIcePosted by nikkistar
This is the most convoluted thread ever.
First OP flakes a bunch with this guy. Then sits there and waits as more days pass before contacting him. Then makes a faux paus by accidentally looking like a gold digger with her "if you pay" joke.
All simultaneously putting more value into herself and demanding certain behavior from a guy who she hasnt met and has put minimal effort into. But still subconsciously exhibiting the belief that her value should be categorically exaggerated to a disproportionate high value for the situation at hand.
In none of the events leading up to this current update, have you shown anything that can be seen as adding value for him to want to even contemplate even meeting you or continuing anything with you. So to get annoyed at the very thought of him communicating with other women while you sat waiting for him to talk for 9 days and stalked his coming and goings online, is delusional entitlement.
Damn, you did not come to play today either, Nikki 😂
She's fudging nuts. Easily offended. Demanding. Obsessive qualities. Over valuation of herself. Hypocritical. Awkward communication skills. Etc...
😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬
I mean....Eeeeeeee
This is so relatable for me though. I'm just glad I can finally see how ridiculous I've been in these situations lmao 💀click to expand
Pretty sure all of us go through that phase. Lol including me. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Posted by dilettante
i am genuinely curious as to why you would block him, if he was talking to someone else?
why block? i really wanna know.
so many people these days block people & i dont really understand why
Because if he's talking to someone else then in my opinion his focus and interest is on someone else so therefore which obviously it wasnt all this time. So I'll just let him go. I don't keep contacts in my list who I don't speak to they're usually blocked. This is a recent thing for me I havnt done it for long
Having said all that, he told me after I blocked him the first time and came back that he knew things wouldnt work with us and didn't even save my number lol. Although he didn't tell me that straight away maybe after a few weeks where I missed his calls and we didn't get to speak.
Posted by Mactavish_RPosted by emeraldgem
Why do I feel that's @Gemitati ??click to expand
who the hell is that
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
plus the scorp moon is making her obsessive.
she is scorpin’ out rn
What are your Moon, Venus and Mars placements?
... i wonder if it’s a leo venus...
maybe libra cuz she’s so passive
Also I was asking for your placements, lol.click to expand
id have to do the birth chart stuff again lol to know all that
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
and how long have yall been talking? 2 months?
i say cut your losses
But I think, you know, say if they lived far away from each other then it would be more difficult to actually meet up IRL...
that’s true.
i just re read the first page of this thread... i gather they’ve been chatting for 2ish months. later, she says that she blocked him for a month.
soooo... they’ve really only been texting for a month?
Really? That's not in the OP, is it? I reread the OP but didn't find anything like that...click to expand
no not a month it's been since May I'd say. Early may
Posted by nikkistar
This is the most convoluted thread ever.
First OP flakes a bunch with this guy. Then sits there and waits as more days pass before contacting him. Then makes a faux paus by accidentally looking like a gold digger with her "if you pay" joke.
All simultaneously putting more value into herself and demanding certain behavior from a guy who she hasnt met and has put minimal effort into. But still subconsciously exhibiting the belief that her value should be categorically exaggerated to a disproportionate high value for the situation at hand.
In none of the events leading up to this current update, have you shown anything that can be seen as adding value for him to want to even contemplate even meeting you or continuing anything with you. So to get annoyed at the very thought of him communicating with other women while you sat waiting for him to talk for 9 days and stalked his coming and goings online, is delusional entitlement.
I didn't say I was annoyed but anyway if he wants to talk to other people thats absolutely fine. All i said was if he wasnt right now that maybe I could correct this situation as I know I havnt been the best in terms of effort etc. Obviously if he's not going to be bothered now then it's also fine.
And All the "negatives" you stated are maybe coming across now becsuse i feel like I could lose this person. But all these months I was living my life carefree and actually fine with doing my own thing and perhaps took him for granted a little
Posted by dilettantePosted by nikkistar
you sat waiting for him to talk for 9 days and stalked his coming and goings online
oh shit, right, 9 days of silence.
that makes the total amount of communication like 2.5-3ish weeks lolclick to expand
no a lot longer than that. About nearly 3 to 4 months
Posted by nikkistarPosted by dilettantePosted by nikkistar
you sat waiting for him to talk for 9 days and stalked his coming and goings online
oh shit, right, 9 days of silence.
that makes the total amount of communication like 2.5-3ish weeks lol
Exactly. So her weird subconscious demands on how he should and shouldn't act, is just offputting to most normal people's sensibilities.
I'd run for the hills.click to expand
Well actually before you put it all on me. He was quite demanding of me before. And how i should act and shouldn't act. Kept threatening to cut ties if I didn't call him or message enough. Was kinda pushy. Whereas usually I like to go with the flow not be put under pressure to call and message more, I would just do it when I feel like.
At the same time though I guess it was the fact he's in law enforcement keep me there longer than I would normally be😂
Posted by nikkistarPosted by HeartofIcePosted by nikkistarPosted by HeartofIcePosted by nikkistar
This is the most convoluted thread ever.
First OP flakes a bunch with this guy. Then sits there and waits as more days pass before contacting him. Then makes a faux paus by accidentally looking like a gold digger with her "if you pay" joke.
All simultaneously putting more value into herself and demanding certain behavior from a guy who she hasnt met and has put minimal effort into. But still subconsciously exhibiting the belief that her value should be categorically exaggerated to a disproportionate high value for the situation at hand.
In none of the events leading up to this current update, have you shown anything that can be seen as adding value for him to want to even contemplate even meeting you or continuing anything with you. So to get annoyed at the very thought of him communicating with other women while you sat waiting for him to talk for 9 days and stalked his coming and goings online, is delusional entitlement.
Damn, you did not come to play today either, Nikki 😂
She's fudging nuts. Easily offended. Demanding. Obsessive qualities. Over valuation of herself. Hypocritical. Awkward communication skills. Etc...
😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬😬
I mean....Eeeeeeee
This is so relatable for me though. I'm just glad I can finally see how ridiculous I've been in these situations lmao 💀
Pretty sure all of us go through that phase. Lol including me. 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣click to expand
I would rather be able to speak freely on here without judgement. But clearly I said too much 😐. Also it is my lack of "obsession" which got me to this place in the first place. If I was then maybe me and him would have had a better connection or relationship by now obviously it's because I let him do all the work whilst I was unsure of him, this is why im here now and I lost a good potential
Posted by Mactavish_RPosted by Lacey90Posted by Mactavish_RPosted by emeraldgem
Why do I feel that's @Gemitati ??
who the hell is that
The Gemini queen of Dxp.click to expand
oh lol. Well this is my first time here so have noòoo idea
Posted by Mactavish_RPosted by emeraldgem
Why do I feel that's @Gemitati ??click to expand
You are at least a whole year late!
No booze in my life no more...because I don’t need it. Life turned 180 degree and it’ll be a year on October 3rd.
But nice gif...thanks 😂
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
and how long have yall been talking? 2 months?
i say cut your losses
But I think, you know, say if they lived far away from each other then it would be more difficult to actually meet up IRL...
that’s true.
i just re read the first page of this thread... i gather they’ve been chatting for 2ish months. later, she says that she blocked him for a month.
soooo... they’ve really only been texting for a month?
Really? That's not in the OP, is it? I reread the OP but didn't find anything like that...
no not a month it's been since May I'd say. Early may
Can you just lay out a time line for when you guys started talking, when y'all stopped (I don't care about why), and when you guys started again? This is getting confusing. Also, how far away do you guys live from each other? Where are you and where is he?click to expand
ok early may we started talking...then i blocked him for a couple weeks. So if say end of May or beginning of June started talking again and we live one hour away from each other. Same city
Posted by Lacey90Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Lacey90Posted by LadyNeptune
He asked you to call him. Why wait 5-6 days.
He has a stressful job, doubt he’s looking for more game play in his relationship. Some aren’t attracted to the head fuck.
Just call!
so true. About his job. At the beginning he used to be quite blunt and rude lol which is why i was unsure about him. Bt he did mention he does not have time to pussy foot around. But I just thought well great way of making me feel comfortable lol
Getting comfortable is the death of romance.
So did you call yet?
I've heard of that but what does it mean lool. I didn't call yet I know I'm terrible. But since neither of us had contact for nine days I thought let me see how he is with me when I do contact him. I mean he was responsive but Then ended it abruptly when I tried to continue the conversation by as king what happened on his holiday.click to expand
He’s not a big texter. I feel like most dudes aren’t.
Just call him already!
Who cares about 9 days. This could be your future baby daddy and your worried about counting days instead. Omg wish I could reach through this screen and shake some sense into you 😅😂
He asked you to call.
Just call.
And then at some point in the convo be like, I’m shit at being the initiator. Next time you call me 😏
When your grandkids ask him how you two met a million years from now he’ll tell the story of the most epic game of phone tag known to humankind lol
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Lacey90Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Lacey90Posted by LadyNeptune
He asked you to call him. Why wait 5-6 days.
He has a stressful job, doubt he’s looking for more game play in his relationship. Some aren’t attracted to the head fuck.
Just call!
so true. About his job. At the beginning he used to be quite blunt and rude lol which is why i was unsure about him. Bt he did mention he does not have time to pussy foot around. But I just thought well great way of making me feel comfortable lol
Getting comfortable is the death of romance.
So did you call yet?
I've heard of that but what does it mean lool. I didn't call yet I know I'm terrible. But since neither of us had contact for nine days I thought let me see how he is with me when I do contact him. I mean he was responsive but Then ended it abruptly when I tried to continue the conversation by as king what happened on his holiday.
He’s not a big texter. I feel like most dudes aren’t.
Just call him already!
Who cares about 9 days. This could be your future baby daddy and your worried about counting days instead. Omg wish I could reach through this screen and shake some sense into you 😅😂
He asked you to call.
Just call.
And then at some point in the convo be like, I’m shit at being the initiator. Next time you call me 😏
When your grandkids ask him how you two met a million years from now he’ll tell the story of the most epic game of phone tag known to humankind lolclick to expand
LOOOL you're so cool, just my kinda person lol 😂🤣😅😀😋😆 oh and your doggies cute.
Haha I kind agree with u lol I need to get my act together 😅 he probably has zero idea about how I'm thinking right now or feeling. Guaranteed he's like this girl doesn't give a crap lol
Just one point though lately he's been online a lot lol even when I'm online so he must b somewhat able to text. 😋 or maybe he's what's app calling someone 😮
But I will force myself to call lol😅 and loool at the epic game of phonetag😆
Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Lacey90Posted by LadyNeptunePosted by Lacey90Posted by LadyNeptune
He asked you to call him. Why wait 5-6 days.
He has a stressful job, doubt he’s looking for more game play in his relationship. Some aren’t attracted to the head fuck.
Just call!
so true. About his job. At the beginning he used to be quite blunt and rude lol which is why i was unsure about him. Bt he did mention he does not have time to pussy foot around. But I just thought well great way of making me feel comfortable lol
Getting comfortable is the death of romance.
So did you call yet?
I've heard of that but what does it mean lool. I didn't call yet I know I'm terrible. But since neither of us had contact for nine days I thought let me see how he is with me when I do contact him. I mean he was responsive but Then ended it abruptly when I tried to continue the conversation by as king what happened on his holiday.
He’s not a big texter. I feel like most dudes aren’t.
Just call him already!
Who cares about 9 days. This could be your future baby daddy and your worried about counting days instead. Omg wish I could reach through this screen and shake some sense into you 😅😂
He asked you to call.
Just call.
And then at some point in the convo be like, I’m shit at being the initiator. Next time you call me 😏
When your grandkids ask him how you two met a million years from now he’ll tell the story of the most epic game of phone tag known to humankind lolclick to expand
LOOL you know what it's so funny u mentioned the baby daddy stuff because only a few weeks ago he was like (not that I'm old im in My.mid 20s )but he goes his mum had how many kids at my age lol and I should be thinking about the future etc. 😅
Well what I'm getting from the whole situation is that you simply don't want to meet. Be it your insecurities that he may not like you in real life or something else, I don't know. But I feel so strongly that you don't want to meet at this point and he sensed it. Him saying I don't want to be text buddies was a clear indication that he wanted to meet and you've been stringing him along for a whole summer, excuse me but why are you wasting his time? yes you are, don't try to convince me otherwise, why are you wasting his time? What kind of bs games are you playing? Alright let's say for whatever reason you can't meet right now, why not face time? why not video chat on messenger? skype? tons of other apps are offering the same comfort, what exactly do you want? The guy sounds absolutely sane and logical, he told you he doesn't have time for games and there you are still, playing same ol same ol . I say leave him alone, you clearly don't deserve him, he's been waiting for you for a whole summer and you are threatening to block if he talks to other women, like wtf, he'd be a fool if he's not dating someone already. Taking things slow I laughed, are you expecting him to text you for a year or two before meeting? OMG that's ridiculous
Posted by Lacey90Posted by Mactavish_RPosted by emeraldgem
Why do I feel that's @Gemitati ??
who the hell is thatclick to expand
All I know it’s not me...
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Just one point though lately he's been online a lot lol even when I'm online so he must b somewhat able to text. 😋 or maybe he's what's app calling someone 😮
people can be online whenever they want. & it is YOU who needs to start communicating. he asked YOU to communicate more then you didnt make that effort & let over a week go by.
and maybe he is whats app calling someone. maybe it’s his mom or friend or whoever else he wants to talk to bc maybe they actually communicate.
why do you keep asking us what to do & not making the phone call?
this thread is really beginning to agitate me.click to expand
Good! Blood flawing? Go out for drink...👌
Posted by dilettante
i dunno, dude said he didnt think yall were compatible & didnt even save your number.
then when we call you out, you tell us he’s actually “very demanding” & put pressure on you... yadda yadda. why would you even be interested in someone like that?
you said you blocked him for a month & now its “a couple weeks”.
none of this looks promising. to me, it clearly looks as if yall are not compatible.
No he never said we wernt compatible I think I may have told him once or twice we are really different and he seemed fine with it. Like for example I said he is disciplined and I'm the total opposite and he was trying to say tht he can also be no disciplined too lol. N I'm just thinking yh sure you're a cop.
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
i dunno, dude said he didnt think yall were compatible & didnt even save your number.
then when we call you out, you tell us he’s actually “very demanding” & put pressure on you... yadda yadda. why would you even be interested in someone like that?
you said you blocked him for a month & now its “a couple weeks”.
none of this looks promising. to me, it clearly looks as if yall are not compatible.
I don't think any of this will actually clear up unless they hash things out IRL and actually see how the other person thinks and acts. Miscommunications and misunderstandings can come up really easily if the relationship is strictly online.
Just meet up and see what happens. And if he's not willing to meet up then just cut your losses and move on, OP. And be more careful about how you conduct yourself moving forward.click to expand
Yeh I know.
Oh btw I did finally call. And guess what when I did it said he was on another call. And me being me was like it's maybe another female. But anyway he didn't pick up and texted "I'll call u back"... he called back 20 minutes later. I didn't pick up. I was busy at the shops..Then got home n just had to do other things. So I left it basically.
Then an hour later he messaged on WhatsApp and was like apologising for missing my call and asked if I was alright.
To which I replied "Yeh". And that was tht
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Just one point though lately he's been online a lot lol even when I'm online so he must b somewhat able to text. 😋 or maybe he's what's app calling someone 😮
people can be online whenever they want. & it is YOU who needs to start communicating. he asked YOU to communicate more then you didnt make that effort & let over a week go by.
and maybe he is whats app calling someone. maybe it’s his mom or friend or whoever else he wants to talk to bc maybe they actually communicate.
why do you keep asking us what to do & not making the phone call?
this thread is really beginning to agitate me.click to expand
Well I did communicate didn't I? Is messaging not communicating? My bad. I'm the one who initiated contact after the 9 day silence.
Well as mentioned in the previous post I did call today and he happened to be on another call. And he then messaged saying he will call me back. He then did after 20 minutes by which time I couldn't pick up. And then he followed up by messaging and saying he's sorry he missed my call and if I was ok
Posted by pisceanloves
Well what I'm getting from the whole situation is that you simply don't want to meet. Be it your insecurities that he may not like you in real life or something else, I don't know. But I feel so strongly that you don't want to meet at this point and he sensed it. Him saying I don't want to be text buddies was a clear indication that he wanted to meet and you've been stringing him along for a whole summer, excuse me but why are you wasting his time? yes you are, don't try to convince me otherwise, why are you wasting his time? What kind of bs games are you playing? Alright let's say for whatever reason you can't meet right now, why not face time? why not video chat on messenger? skype? tons of other apps are offering the same comfort, what exactly do you want? The guy sounds absolutely sane and logical, he told you he doesn't have time for games and there you are still, playing same ol same ol . I say leave him alone, you clearly don't deserve him, he's been waiting for you for a whole summer and you are threatening to block if he talks to other women, like wtf, he'd be a fool if he's not dating someone already. Taking things slow I laughed, are you expecting him to text you for a year or two before meeting? OMG that's ridiculous
Erm I'm the one who said we should meet. To which he said he will need to properly speak to me on the phone first before he does.
I'm not playing games. As I said I know how guys are iv had some bad experiences before so I'm Taking my time. IF he wants an easy desperate woman who will be all over him in a flash then he's welcome to that. But I'm a genuine person who's had a rough past few years with other guys. So Excuse me if I don't want to be in that situation again and am taking my. Time. JEESE
OBVIOUSLY I'm not going to make him wait 2 years. Even I got to get on with things but Yeh I was just trying to suss him out so I'm not going to apologise for that.
And I did call him today nonetheless and he was already on the phone. So 🤷♀️. I'm nt threatening him that i will block am I. I will just go ahead and do it. I won't hold it against him but I'm not going to compete with any other womam. I'm me so. If he didnt thnk i was worth the trouble in the end then ciaooo.
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettantePosted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
i dunno, dude said he didnt think yall were compatible & didnt even save your number.
then when we call you out, you tell us he’s actually “very demanding” & put pressure on you... yadda yadda. why would you even be interested in someone like that?
you said you blocked him for a month & now its “a couple weeks”.
none of this looks promising. to me, it clearly looks as if yall are not compatible.
I don't think any of this will actually clear up unless they hash things out IRL and actually see how the other person thinks and acts. Miscommunications and misunderstandings can come up really easily if the relationship is strictly online.
Just meet up and see what happens. And if he's not willing to meet up then just cut your losses and move on, OP. And be more careful about how you conduct yourself moving forward.
they live in the same city & havent met after talking for awhile...
maybe he’s a catfish?
That's true. I somehow thought they might've lived far away from each other but since they don't, I don't know what's held either of them back from just taking the jump and meeting up.
He might think that she might be a catfish based off of her behavior patterns.click to expand
Yeh I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
"I was busy at the shops" "Got home and had to do other things so I left it"
HELLO —??
Don't you get it? You are playing extremely hard to get, I really want to know what makes you think you are PRICELESS and above everybody, please tell me?
The guy is a cop and has to take tons of calls during the day, duh he was busy, but you being you and super annoying decided it would be good to just ignore him, busy at shops yeah right 😄
HELLO —??
Don't you get it? You are playing extremely hard to get, I really want to know what makes you think you are PRICELESS and above everybody, please tell me?
The guy is a cop and has to take tons of calls during the day, duh he was busy, but you being you and super annoying decided it would be good to just ignore him, busy at shops yeah right 😄
is there a reason for lack of calls on your end? he works long hours too so your schedules might not align
but if it's purposely not picking up/calling.i think that if a girl didnt reciprocate any dude would stop trying
but if it's purposely not picking up/calling.i think that if a girl didnt reciprocate any dude would stop trying
Posted by pisceanloves
"I was busy at the shops" "Got home and had to do other things so I left it"
HELLO —??
Don't you get it? You are playing extremely hard to get, I really want to know what makes you think you are PRICELESS and above everybody, please tell me?
The guy is a cop and has to take tons of calls during the day, duh he was busy, but you being you and super annoying decided it would be good to just ignore him, busy at shops yeah right 😄
Erm if I thought that about my self i wouldn't have called in the first place lool. Like HELLO.
I know he's got a busy job. But I also know he wasnt working today so he doesn't take calls out of his shift as far as I know 😂.
Well my hands were full by the time he called back. I can't pick up when ive got tonnes of.shopping bags n shit
I think you are anxious about what he wants to say to you.
If you don't want to hear it, you don't want to hear it. You have no obligations whatsoever.
Trust your guts.
If you don't want to hear it, you don't want to hear it. You have no obligations whatsoever.
Trust your guts.
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
this post, for whatever reason, tells me a lot.
him asking to talk on the phone makes you think he thinks you are “the one”?
no girl, he just wants to see if the dynamic is good on the phone. if it is, then he’ll meet up.
i am really starting to wonder if your venus is in leo. you read as someone who thinks very highly of yourself. which is fine, until it gets to the point where you think everyone should cater you, regardless of the effort you give back. which is what this sounds like.
you cannot expect people to know what the hell is going on, or what you want, unless you communicate that. but i really do not think there is much stable grounding for a successful relationship.
it looks like i am not the only one, either.click to expand
Well your first line was a bit delusional of you. I never implied that i think he thinks I'm the one. Obviously. Can u please stop misunderstanding what I'm saying.
And WRONG my venus is in virgo. I can't stand Leo's. Only my lilith is Leo whatever that even means. YEH I do think highly of myself and like I said I've been in situations before where I've given a lot of my time and company to people only to have it thrown back in my facE. SO EXCUSE ME if I don't want to go there again .And what is wrong with a guy putting in some effort for once. There's way to many scenarios where the woman does it all for the man and the man just leaves in the end anyway. So seriously calm down.
I do get that i was a bit tough to get to know at the start. But i will try now
Posted by dilettantePosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
this post, for whatever reason, tells me a lot.
him asking to talk on the phone makes you think he thinks you are “the one”?
no girl, he just wants to see if the dynamic is good on the phone. if it is, then he’ll meet up.
i am really starting to wonder if your venus is in leo. you read as someone who thinks very highly of yourself. which is fine, until it gets to the point where you think everyone should cater you, regardless of the effort you give back. which is what this sounds like.
you cannot expect people to know what the hell is going on, or what you want, unless you communicate that. but i really do not think there is much stable grounding for a successful relationship.
it looks like i am not the only one, either.
lmao i misread that post...
he thought you were “one” - as in a catfish.
not “the one”
lmao my bad 🙈click to expand
hmmmm
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90he knew things wouldnt work with us and didn't even save my number
? which is it?
you said here, he told you he KNEW things wouldnt work out... ie. yall are incompatible.click to expand
i have a feeling it's not because he thinks we were incompatible. It's because of how blocked him initially and like the on and off behaviour I guess. So that is why he lost hope. I do feel bad when I think about it but at the same time I was just being me
Posted by leooox
is there a reason for lack of calls on your end? he works long hours too so your schedules might not align
but if it's purposely not picking up/calling.i think that if a girl didnt reciprocate any dude would stop trying
firstly im not really a phonecalll type of person. I.e there are some who all they ever do is call people and be on the phone 24/7. That is rarely me. So if I do actually make an effort to call the person is definitely special. I do resort to messsaging or I will just meet up face to face.
Sometimes just genuinely am busy and can't pick up. And there was a point in time where i called him while he was on duty n he would tell me this.
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
this post, for whatever reason, tells me a lot.
him asking to talk on the phone makes you think he thinks you are “the one”?
no girl, he just wants to see if the dynamic is good on the phone. if it is, then he’ll meet up.
i am really starting to wonder if your venus is in leo. you read as someone who thinks very highly of yourself. which is fine, until it gets to the point where you think everyone should cater you, regardless of the effort you give back. which is what this sounds like.
you cannot expect people to know what the hell is going on, or what you want, unless you communicate that. but i really do not think there is much stable grounding for a successful relationship.
it looks like i am not the only one, either.
Well your first line was a bit delusional of you. I never implied that i think he thinks I'm the one. Obviously. Can u please stop misunderstanding what I'm saying.
And WRONG my venus is in virgo. I can't stand Leo's. Only my lilith is Leo whatever that even means. YEH I do think highly of myself and like I said I've been in situations before where I've given a lot of my time and company to people only to have it thrown back in my facE. SO EXCUSE ME if I don't want to go there again .And what is wrong with a guy putting in some effort for once. There's way to many scenarios where the woman does it all for the man and the man just leaves in the end anyway. So seriously calm down.
I do get that i was a bit tough to get to know at the start. But i will try now
ya i re read the post & corrected myself.
but uh
HE PUT IN EFFORT AND YOU DID NOT. it took you 9 days to even honor his request for a phone call.
i swear this is like talking to a brick wall.click to expand
for some reason it seems like a virgo thing, they got to analyze/question every little thing before being in a relationship, some people don't have the patience
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
this post, for whatever reason, tells me a lot.
him asking to talk on the phone makes you think he thinks you are “the one”?
no girl, he just wants to see if the dynamic is good on the phone. if it is, then he’ll meet up.
i am really starting to wonder if your venus is in leo. you read as someone who thinks very highly of yourself. which is fine, until it gets to the point where you think everyone should cater you, regardless of the effort you give back. which is what this sounds like.
you cannot expect people to know what the hell is going on, or what you want, unless you communicate that. but i really do not think there is much stable grounding for a successful relationship.
it looks like i am not the only one, either.
Well your first line was a bit delusional of you. I never implied that i think he thinks I'm the one. Obviously. Can u please stop misunderstanding what I'm saying.
And WRONG my venus is in virgo. I can't stand Leo's. Only my lilith is Leo whatever that even means. YEH I do think highly of myself and like I said I've been in situations before where I've given a lot of my time and company to people only to have it thrown back in my facE. SO EXCUSE ME if I don't want to go there again .And what is wrong with a guy putting in some effort for once. There's way to many scenarios where the woman does it all for the man and the man just leaves in the end anyway. So seriously calm down.
I do get that i was a bit tough to get to know at the start. But i will try now
ya i re read the post & corrected myself.
but uh
HE PUT IN EFFORT AND YOU DID NOT. it took you 9 days to even honor his request for a phone call.
i swear this is like talking to a brick wall.click to expand
Look I get it. But im sure he wasnt waiting in those 9 days for a calll lol. It was just tht particular night he said if i was free then he will call me
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90he knew things wouldnt work with us and didn't even save my number
? which is it?
you said here, he told you he KNEW things wouldnt work out... ie. yall are incompatible.
i have a feeling it's not because he thinks we were incompatible. It's because of how blocked him initially and like the on and off behaviour I guess. So that is why he lost hope. I do feel bad when I think about it but at the same time I was just being me
lol ok
who’s the delusional one here?
if he doesn’t like the way you react to things & being “on and off” is just you being you, & he tells you he thinks it wont work out then it is a sign of incompatibility. you dont tell people you really like “this is gonna work”.
ultimately, you are gonna do whatever you want. if yall continue to get to know each other, i have a feeling this won’t be the last time some drama happens.click to expand
Well yeh you're probably right.
And no i don't think I'm delusional. I've recognised the behaviours on myself which are probably not the best etc..
Posted by leoooxPosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
this post, for whatever reason, tells me a lot.
him asking to talk on the phone makes you think he thinks you are “the one”?
no girl, he just wants to see if the dynamic is good on the phone. if it is, then he’ll meet up.
i am really starting to wonder if your venus is in leo. you read as someone who thinks very highly of yourself. which is fine, until it gets to the point where you think everyone should cater you, regardless of the effort you give back. which is what this sounds like.
you cannot expect people to know what the hell is going on, or what you want, unless you communicate that. but i really do not think there is much stable grounding for a successful relationship.
it looks like i am not the only one, either.
Well your first line was a bit delusional of you. I never implied that i think he thinks I'm the one. Obviously. Can u please stop misunderstanding what I'm saying.
And WRONG my venus is in virgo. I can't stand Leo's. Only my lilith is Leo whatever that even means. YEH I do think highly of myself and like I said I've been in situations before where I've given a lot of my time and company to people only to have it thrown back in my facE. SO EXCUSE ME if I don't want to go there again .And what is wrong with a guy putting in some effort for once. There's way to many scenarios where the woman does it all for the man and the man just leaves in the end anyway. So seriously calm down.
I do get that i was a bit tough to get to know at the start. But i will try now
ya i re read the post & corrected myself.
but uh
HE PUT IN EFFORT AND YOU DID NOT. it took you 9 days to even honor his request for a phone call.
i swear this is like talking to a brick wall.
for some reason it seems like a virgo thing, they got to analyze/question every little thing before being in a relationship, some people don't have the patienceclick to expand
I admit I am like this. But the those people who just jump headfirst into something, doesn't necessarily work out either. Finishes as quick as it started
Posted by dilettante
virgo’s on dxp often say that if a virgo is blowing hot & cold/ on & off, it’s bc they arent that interested.
maybe you just are not that interested but like the attention. which is totally fine but call a spade, a spade & be real.
Well I'm not those virgos. And there are a lot of other contributions in my birth chart. I think I'm a fifth house Capricorn which is related to relationships and stuff. According to my friend
Posted by dilettantePosted by leoooxPosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
this post, for whatever reason, tells me a lot.
him asking to talk on the phone makes you think he thinks you are “the one”?
no girl, he just wants to see if the dynamic is good on the phone. if it is, then he’ll meet up.
i am really starting to wonder if your venus is in leo. you read as someone who thinks very highly of yourself. which is fine, until it gets to the point where you think everyone should cater you, regardless of the effort you give back. which is what this sounds like.
you cannot expect people to know what the hell is going on, or what you want, unless you communicate that. but i really do not think there is much stable grounding for a successful relationship.
it looks like i am not the only one, either.
Well your first line was a bit delusional of you. I never implied that i think he thinks I'm the one. Obviously. Can u please stop misunderstanding what I'm saying.
And WRONG my venus is in virgo. I can't stand Leo's. Only my lilith is Leo whatever that even means. YEH I do think highly of myself and like I said I've been in situations before where I've given a lot of my time and company to people only to have it thrown back in my facE. SO EXCUSE ME if I don't want to go there again .And what is wrong with a guy putting in some effort for once. There's way to many scenarios where the woman does it all for the man and the man just leaves in the end anyway. So seriously calm down.
I do get that i was a bit tough to get to know at the start. But i will try now
ya i re read the post & corrected myself.
but uh
HE PUT IN EFFORT AND YOU DID NOT. it took you 9 days to even honor his request for a phone call.
i swear this is like talking to a brick wall.
for some reason it seems like a virgo thing, they got to analyze/question every little thing before being in a relationship, some people don't have the patience
ya totally. i was dating a virgo for 8 months & he had a similar thing to OP.
always made other people do the work so he didnt have to. it was really annoying.click to expand
he wasnt being a virgo he was just being a typical man.
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90he knew things wouldnt work with us and didn't even save my number
? which is it?
you said here, he told you he KNEW things wouldnt work out... ie. yall are incompatible.
i have a feeling it's not because he thinks we were incompatible. It's because of how blocked him initially and like the on and off behaviour I guess. So that is why he lost hope. I do feel bad when I think about it but at the same time I was just being me
lol ok
who’s the delusional one here?
if he doesn’t like the way you react to things & being “on and off” is just you being you, & he tells you he thinks it wont work out then it is a sign of incompatibility. you dont tell people you really like “this is gonna work”.
ultimately, you are gonna do whatever you want. if yall continue to get to know each other, i have a feeling this won’t be the last time some drama happens.
Well yeh you're probably right.
And no i don't think I'm delusional. I've recognised the behaviours on myself which are probably not the best etc..
all i am ultimately trying to say is... dont waste your time on someone who isn’t flowing easily with you. it is rarely ever worth it. there are plenty of other people out there who will respect the way you do things & don’t mind the long game.
this is too much drama for not knowing each other that long & it shouldn’t be like that. courting is supposed to be fun & exciting, not emotionally punishing.
but you are a scorpio moon so LOL
😂click to expand
believe it or not I do agree with everything u have said even though at times u been quite blunt lol.
I don't normally get like this with guys I havnt known that long. I don't know what it is with him. Maybe he reminds me of a certain person in my past. And that connection had many many peaks and troughs.
Posted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
this post, for whatever reason, tells me a lot.
him asking to talk on the phone makes you think he thinks you are “the one”?
no girl, he just wants to see if the dynamic is good on the phone. if it is, then he’ll meet up.
i am really starting to wonder if your venus is in leo. you read as someone who thinks very highly of yourself. which is fine, until it gets to the point where you think everyone should cater you, regardless of the effort you give back. which is what this sounds like.
you cannot expect people to know what the hell is going on, or what you want, unless you communicate that. but i really do not think there is much stable grounding for a successful relationship.
it looks like i am not the only one, either.
Well your first line was a bit delusional of you. I never implied that i think he thinks I'm the one. Obviously. Can u please stop misunderstanding what I'm saying.
And WRONG my venus is in virgo. I can't stand Leo's. Only my lilith is Leo whatever that even means. YEH I do think highly of myself and like I said I've been in situations before where I've given a lot of my time and company to people only to have it thrown back in my facE. SO EXCUSE ME if I don't want to go there again .And what is wrong with a guy putting in some effort for once. There's way to many scenarios where the woman does it all for the man and the man just leaves in the end anyway. So seriously calm down.
I do get that i was a bit tough to get to know at the start. But i will try now
ya i re read the post & corrected myself.
but uh
HE PUT IN EFFORT AND YOU DID NOT. it took you 9 days to even honor his request for a phone call.
i swear this is like talking to a brick wall.
for some reason it seems like a virgo thing, they got to analyze/question every little thing before being in a relationship, some people don't have the patience
I admit I am like this. But the those people who just jump headfirst into something, doesn't necessarily work out either. Finishes as quick as it startedclick to expand
yeah i understand that, it might be a good idea to be cautious before falling too deeply/ then to give it all like that. but like i said some people don't have the patience and it comes off as if you're not interested or playing hard to get. i has virgo placements too so yeah
Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90he knew things wouldnt work with us and didn't even save my number
? which is it?
you said here, he told you he KNEW things wouldnt work out... ie. yall are incompatible.
i have a feeling it's not because he thinks we were incompatible. It's because of how blocked him initially and like the on and off behaviour I guess. So that is why he lost hope. I do feel bad when I think about it but at the same time I was just being me
lol ok
who’s the delusional one here?
if he doesn’t like the way you react to things & being “on and off” is just you being you, & he tells you he thinks it wont work out then it is a sign of incompatibility. you dont tell people you really like “this is gonna work”.
ultimately, you are gonna do whatever you want. if yall continue to get to know each other, i have a feeling this won’t be the last time some drama happens.
Well yeh you're probably right.
And no i don't think I'm delusional. I've recognised the behaviours on myself which are probably not the best etc..
all i am ultimately trying to say is... dont waste your time on someone who isn’t flowing easily with you. it is rarely ever worth it. there are plenty of other people out there who will respect the way you do things & don’t mind the long game.
this is too much drama for not knowing each other that long & it shouldn’t be like that. courting is supposed to be fun & exciting, not emotionally punishing.
but you are a scorpio moon so LOL
😂click to expand
Sometimes I wish I didn't have those intense scorpio emotions. I would rather just not feel anything.
I wish I was just as aloof inside as I come across on the outside lol. I'm pretty sure that guy thinks I don't care at all still. Little does he know.
Posted by leoooxPosted by Lacey90Posted by leoooxPosted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90Posted by dilettantePosted by Lacey90I think he may have thought I was one. Which is why he was like I won't meet u before talking to you properly on the phone.
this post, for whatever reason, tells me a lot.
him asking to talk on the phone makes you think he thinks you are “the one”?
no girl, he just wants to see if the dynamic is good on the phone. if it is, then he’ll meet up.
i am really starting to wonder if your venus is in leo. you read as someone who thinks very highly of yourself. which is fine, until it gets to the point where you think everyone should cater you, regardless of the effort you give back. which is what this sounds like.
you cannot expect people to know what the hell is going on, or what you want, unless you communicate that. but i really do not think there is much stable grounding for a successful relationship.
it looks like i am not the only one, either.
Well your first line was a bit delusional of you. I never implied that i think he thinks I'm the one. Obviously. Can u please stop misunderstanding what I'm saying.
And WRONG my venus is in virgo. I can't stand Leo's. Only my lilith is Leo whatever that even means. YEH I do think highly of myself and like I said I've been in situations before where I've given a lot of my time and company to people only to have it thrown back in my facE. SO EXCUSE ME if I don't want to go there again .And what is wrong with a guy putting in some effort for once. There's way to many scenarios where the woman does it all for the man and the man just leaves in the end anyway. So seriously calm down.
I do get that i was a bit tough to get to know at the start. But i will try now
ya i re read the post & corrected myself.
but uh
HE PUT IN EFFORT AND YOU DID NOT. it took you 9 days to even honor his request for a phone call.
i swear this is like talking to a brick wall.
for some reason it seems like a virgo thing, they got to analyze/question every little thing before being in a relationship, some people don't have the patience
I admit I am like this. But the those people who just jump headfirst into something, doesn't necessarily work out either. Finishes as quick as it started
yeah i understand that, it might be a good idea to be cautious before falling too deeply/ then to give it all like that. but like i said some people don't have the patience and it comes off as if you're not interested or playing hard to get. i has virgo placements too so yeahclick to expand
it couldn't be further from the truth though.
I think what it is is that he put a lot of effort in over the summer period and he did put up with me for.some time so now i feel like if I lose that i may have lost out on something good. Which makes me.feel terrible
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
i dunno, dude said he didnt think yall were compatible & didnt even save your number.
then when we call you out, you tell us he’s actually “very demanding” & put pressure on you... yadda yadda. why would you even be interested in someone like that?
you said you blocked him for a month & now its “a couple weeks”.
none of this looks promising. to me, it clearly looks as if yall are not compatible.
I don't think any of this will actually clear up unless they hash things out IRL and actually see how the other person thinks and acts. Miscommunications and misunderstandings can come up really easily if the relationship is strictly online.
Just meet up and see what happens. And if he's not willing to meet up then just cut your losses and move on, OP. And be more careful about how you conduct yourself moving forward.
Yeh I know.
Oh btw I did finally call. And guess what when I did it said he was on another call. And me being me was like it's maybe another female. But anyway he didn't pick up and texted "I'll call u back"... he called back 20 minutes later. I didn't pick up. I was busy at the shops..Then got home n just had to do other things. So I left it basically.
Then an hour later he messaged on WhatsApp and was like apologising for missing my call and asked if I was alright.
To which I replied "Yeh". And that was tht
Girl you haven't picked up a single phone call from this dude. It's not hard. At this point nobody cares what you think he was doing while he was on his own phone call and nobody cares that you got busy. This bullshit has been going on for way too long. He's been making 95% of the effort and you've done next to nothing to encourage him that you're actually serious about him. I don't know what else to tell you. Put your ego away and just call him. Stop fucking around with him.click to expand
LOOOL well this isn't like you lol. You're running out of patience
I'll call him tomorrow it's too late in the night now. Happyyyyy
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
there is so much mish mashed info here.
one post says 2 months theyve been talking. another post says they didnt talk for a month.
one post says he knew they werent compatible. the next post says he never said that.
she says she has been communicating but the whole basis of this thread is about how she isnt communicating.
i dunno... this isnt adding up.
+1click to expand
Well I can't remember everything. I may get some times wrong. But I also think you guys are confused too at what I said
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
i dunno, dude said he didnt think yall were compatible & didnt even save your number.
then when we call you out, you tell us he’s actually “very demanding” & put pressure on you... yadda yadda. why would you even be interested in someone like that?
you said you blocked him for a month & now its “a couple weeks”.
none of this looks promising. to me, it clearly looks as if yall are not compatible.
I don't think any of this will actually clear up unless they hash things out IRL and actually see how the other person thinks and acts. Miscommunications and misunderstandings can come up really easily if the relationship is strictly online.
Just meet up and see what happens. And if he's not willing to meet up then just cut your losses and move on, OP. And be more careful about how you conduct yourself moving forward.
Yeh I know.
Oh btw I did finally call. And guess what when I did it said he was on another call. And me being me was like it's maybe another female. But anyway he didn't pick up and texted "I'll call u back"... he called back 20 minutes later. I didn't pick up. I was busy at the shops..Then got home n just had to do other things. So I left it basically.
Then an hour later he messaged on WhatsApp and was like apologising for missing my call and asked if I was alright.
To which I replied "Yeh". And that was tht
Girl you haven't picked up a single phone call from this dude. It's not hard. At this point nobody cares what you think he was doing while he was on his own phone call and nobody cares that you got busy. This bullshit has been going on for way too long. He's been making 95% of the effort and you've done next to nothing to encourage him that you're actually serious about him. I don't know what else to tell you. Put your ego away and just call him. Stop fucking around with him.
LOOOL well this isn't like you lol. You're running out of patience
I'll call him tomorrow it's too late in the night now. Happyyyyy
You have to keep in mind that as someone else said in this thread, his job requires him to take a lot of phone calls. So especially because this is the case, it's really very unlikely he would purposely not pick up your phone call, and especially not if he's already in the middle of a phone call anyway. And it's not reasonable to assume that it's automatically anorher girl that he's talking to. I think you're getting really overly stressed for nothing, especially seeing that you're pessimistic about the whole thing. He even texted you after his call was done to ask you if you were okay. What more do you want?
You need to relax, not jump to conclusions, not assume the worst of this guy, and be considerate of his job, his time, his whatever. Everyone has had completely ass experiences in the dating world but that's no excuse to make the other person do so much of the work and be inconsiderate of the fact that they have their own lives to live too and assume that they're just throwing you away. If you keep assuming that despite their constant efforts to show you that they're genuinely interested in you and taking you seriously, they're going to think you're crazy and jaded and have crazy insecurities that you need to get over.click to expand
I know but obviously he doesn't know my innermost thoughts which is what I'm telling u guys. He won't ever find out this stuff that I'm thinking lol. He will just be like oh ok she didn't pick up but won't think anything of it or know about all those other things
Anyway iv dealt with an actual narcissist before this so u can imagine how it was then. That person wss constantly in and out of my life. And giving mixed signals 24/7 as a form of control. That can mess up even the strongest of people
Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by Lacey90Posted by HeartofIcePosted by dilettante
i dunno, dude said he didnt think yall were compatible & didnt even save your number.
then when we call you out, you tell us he’s actually “very demanding” & put pressure on you... yadda yadda. why would you even be interested in someone like that?
you said you blocked him for a month & now its “a couple weeks”.
none of this looks promising. to me, it clearly looks as if yall are not compatible.
I don't think any of this will actually clear up unless they hash things out IRL and actually see how the other person thinks and acts. Miscommunications and misunderstandings can come up really easily if the relationship is strictly online.
Just meet up and see what happens. And if he's not willing to meet up then just cut your losses and move on, OP. And be more careful about how you conduct yourself moving forward.
Yeh I know.
Oh btw I did finally call. And guess what when I did it said he was on another call. And me being me was like it's maybe another female. But anyway he didn't pick up and texted "I'll call u back"... he called back 20 minutes later. I didn't pick up. I was busy at the shops..Then got home n just had to do other things. So I left it basically.
Then an hour later he messaged on WhatsApp and was like apologising for missing my call and asked if I was alright.
To which I replied "Yeh". And that was tht
Girl you haven't picked up a single phone call from this dude. It's not hard. At this point nobody cares what you think he was doing while he was on his own phone call and nobody cares that you got busy. This bullshit has been going on for way too long. He's been making 95% of the effort and you've done next to nothing to encourage him that you're actually serious about him. I don't know what else to tell you. Put your ego away and just call him. Stop fucking around with him.
LOOOL well this isn't like you lol. You're running out of patience
I'll call him tomorrow it's too late in the night now. Happyyyyy
You have to keep in mind that as someone else said in this thread, his job requires him to take a lot of phone calls. So especially because this is the case, it's really very unlikely he would purposely not pick up your phone call, and especially not if he's already in the middle of a phone call anyway. And it's not reasonable to assume that it's automatically anorher girl that he's talking to. I think you're getting really overly stressed for nothing, especially seeing that you're pessimistic about the whole thing. He even texted you after his call was done to ask you if you were okay. What more do you want?
You need to relax, not jump to conclusions, not assume the worst of this guy, and be considerate of his job, his time, his whatever. Everyone has had completely ass experiences in the dating world but that's no excuse to make the other person do so much of the work and be inconsiderate of the fact that they have their own lives to live too and assume that they're just throwing you away. If you keep assuming that despite their constant efforts to show you that they're genuinely interested in you and taking you seriously, they're going to think you're crazy and jaded and have crazy insecurities that you need to get over.
I know but obviously he doesn't know my innermost thoughts which is what I'm telling u guys. He won't ever find out this stuff that I'm thinking lol. He will just be like oh ok she didn't pick up but won't think anything of it or know about all those other things
Anyway iv dealt with an actual narcissist before this so u can imagine how it was then. That person wss constantly in and out of my life. And giving mixed signals 24/7 as a form of control. That can mess up even the strongest of people
Do you actually think that given your past behavior, this dude is just gonna shrug off the fact that you haven't picked up a single one of his phone calls?
I get that you're hella jaded because you've dealt with shitty people in romantic relationships but that's something you should clear up independently because nobody is going to want to date someone as jaded, selfish, unreasonable, or entitled, as you. So go fix it before you ruin your next try at a relationship.click to expand
Alright chill man.
No need to go that deep. Perhaps try some empathy instead.
But I guess.when you put it like that it does sound bad. I.e the fact he's gonna b like she hadn't picked.up any of my calls.
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Posted by leooox
" One example was I told him to call me a shortened version of my full name, basically a nickname and I told him all my friends call me tht. I just said it in to b friendly and he comes out with I don't know u like that to call u by that. I was thinkiing really how rude. He's meant to be trying to impress me not disrespect me lol. Anyway I ended up blocking him for a few weeks and he was constantly calling and messaging asking why I did that so I came back a few weeks later out of the blue and he asked me again why I did tht I told him why and he's like I don't have time for your pettiness."
it does seem like you are playing games with him, if you do decide to contact him again.then the ball is in his court. even if you are together afterwards, doing this n the future and salvaging a healthy relationship is just nearly impossible. there is a lot of entitlement there, assuming you want to pursue a relationship with this guy. or do you just really enjoy his attention?
Great. If u guys think it seems that way then he definitely will too. 😪.
No despite what everyone thinks it's not his attention I'm after only. I mean I do get a lot of attention from other guys aswell I wouldn't say in pursuing a relationship. As that is never a good idea in the first place. But I do want to properly get to know him. Im starting to feel a lot of guilt now. For the lack of contact with him and how he kept trying different way to get me to call him and open up to him
I can’t believe this stupid post got this many comments. Like what is so interesting about the question? She met him online for two months and they never met. Case closed..?
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